So I'm new to this site (Male 26) and am learning that I'm just another AFC that needs some help with getting the women I want.

So here's my most recent FR of a girl I was incredibly attracted to, and thought was very attracted to me, and then one day she just flipped the switch and went into LJBF mode. I know some of the things I did wrong, but I'm still somewhat confused, so any advice or things I could read would be helpful.

Met this girl after a Friday baseball game about a month ago. I was introduced to her via a mutual female friend. We met up at a bar after game and got to talking, hit it off pretty well. Our friend said to me "She's very into this package (me)" So I'm feeling it, qualified her, got her number at the end of the night, and invited the 2 girls to come to a BBQ I was hosting on Sunday. I shot a text the next day just saying "It was great meeting you last night, get ready to lose at Beirut at the BBQ tomorrow"

So the girls get to my BBQ and most of my friends were already there, we were having a great time. I played some Beirut with the girl, was chatting with her. There's some seductive eyes going between us and eventually we end up making out by the end of the night. She tells me she wants a date, I tell her I'll see when I'm free and give her a call.

I called her, we set up a date for that Thursday, and there were a few texts back and forth during the week. We meet up for margaritas, convo was good, lots in common, feeling the attraction and some comfort. We end up going out dancing after and sure enough some making out on the dance floor.

She was away for the weekend, but was sending me some flirty texts saying she'd rather be with my a$$ right now, etc... She got back into town that Sunday and invited me to go on her roommates boat. I told her I couldn't and was hanging out with family, which I was. I suggested she come over for pizza and watch a movie on Monday. She's down, we watch a little romantic comedy, some more making out, and the sexual touching escalates.

Last time we hung out with things going well was that Thursday. Went to an outdoor concert in our town. She was introducing me to her friends at the concert...as her "BF". I gave her a look like woah take it easy, its only 2 weeks into this. But we were walking around, holding hands, a good kiss good night, and then I was going away for the weekend.

Here's where the light switch turned off.

A few texts back and forth while I was away. That Sunday while I'm in the airport waiting to board my flight, she texts "lets grab dinner this week, maybe somewhere on the water" I text her that i'm down and I'll call her after work the next day. I call, we talk, recap our weekend and then the part of the convo to make plans comes up. BOOM switch was off, I get the response "This week is really busy for me, I have a lot of work and plans going on" Ok so convo ended there, no plans made. I shoot her a text the next day just to see if she'd be down to go to the beach sometime over the weekend. I get another aloof response "I can't really think about the weekend now, go ahead and make plans" So I respond "I understand I get weeks like that at work as well, let me know how the week shapes up for you"

A couple texts back and forth the next few days, told her we were taking my buddy's boat out that weekend and she's welcome to join, then radio silence. Didn't hear from her for 3 days and got a text mid weekend. "Hey there, Sorry I've been MIA, lost my phone, anyways we need to catch up, talked to 'mutual friend' she said you're all going to such and such a bar, maybe I will see you" She never made it out.

The next day I was talking to the mutual friend, she mentioned to me that she didn't think she was feeling it anymore, that she gets claustrophobic... when the week before she told me that she has never seen this girl more excited about a guy since she's known her. Text from the girl that evening, "Hey lets meet up at the concert on thursday, or maybe I can do wednesday, or how about tomorrow?"

We end up meeting on wednesday for a bite to eat. Normal convo, she's showing me videos on her phone, but I was expecting the LJBF convo to come at some point just based on what Mutual Friend said 2 days earlier. Sure enough I get "We really took this too fast, I've never so comfortable with someone so quickly before. Last time at the concert it felt like we were bf/gf (reminder she was introducing me as bf) and I didn't really see my friends, that's just not me. I think we need to be friends first and see where this goes."

Well that's that, I've had that convo before, and I know there is slim to no chance of salvaging this. At the conccert the next day, she ran into my best friend (I saw her in the distance but chose not to go up to her), she told my friend to have me text her, I didn't, I chose radio silence. The next evening I get a text from her "Heyo, what are you up to tonight." Told her I had dinner and drinks with a friend and was just getting home. The next day I was out with a buddy who is a PUA and told him the story. He said take a gamble, there's nothing to lose now... just text her a smiley face... lets her know you are thinking of her, but its on her to decide to start a convo. Sure enough she starts talking, and my buddy is helping me craft some blatantly flirty messages just to tease her a bit. She said she'll let me know if she'll be out later that night.

Radio silence again for a week. I was out with mutual friend this past weekend, ended up sending this girl a drunk text, told her to come to a BBQ the next day, she is away for the week though.

Thats where I am. Things I know I did wrong, hung out with her way too much in the first couple weeks, made myself too available for her, complemented her too much and showed my hand that I was into her. But she was doing the same damn thing, especially the whole introducing me as BF just planted it in my head that this is a girl that moves quickly...I was wrong. I think this girl scared herself out of the relationship, but I definitely didn't do my part to play the game, be elusive, and have any kind of mystery about me. I just don't understand how from one night she's texting me to grab dinner to the next night she is suddenly avoiding me. WTF happened?

Help me out guys, let me know what went wrong, what can I do better for the next girl I have some interest in.