I started lurking and posting up replies on here about a week ago. I'm noticing the same things over and over in just a week and it's really starting to seep in that maybe there is a sad state of affairs in today's world that needs to be corrected. The overall deterrent I see on this board so far is a lack of self confidence. It's the inability for men to be men.

The big thing I see again and again is guys on here not owning themselves. That doesn't mean fake it until you make it. That doesn't mean growing a bigger set of balls. It's simple. It's realizing who you are as a MAN and owning that.

I'm a recently divorced man who has two kids, is balding and is overweight. Yet, I have women over at my place every other weekend when I don't have my kids. Am I saying I'm racking up 9s and 10s? No. But they aren't skanks either. Hell the last close I just had was last week when a Christian girl came to my place Sunday night immediately after she got out of church. For the last two years, I've been with 19 year old girls up to 47 year old women. I'm not trying to brag. That's not the point.

The point is, I own who I am. Sure, I'm a fat balding middle aged guy. But I shave my head everyday, where a goattee or a beard and rock a bad boy/biker look. I've written two books and prior to getting laid off a year ago had a successful career for 15 years. I was a paratrooper in the US Army, I've climbed 10,000 foot mountains and rode bulls in West Texas.

Right now, I'm back in the gym and I plan on upping my game. I'm tired of the average and going for more. But I see so many on here who have a tough time with even average.

The reason is simple. I see too many guys on here not owning themselves. They aren't saying, hey, I'm a worthy guy because damn it I'm good at X.

Quit watching the damn TV and looking at magazines thinking women want you to look like celebrity X. Quit whining about what you aren't. Start looking at who you are. You're a nerd? Cool. There's a lot of nerdy girls out there ready to get in your pants. Your skinny? Guess what, chicks like skinny guys. Good friend of mine won a sexy man competition faced off against a muscled dude. Chicks were screaming their heads off for my skinny ass friend. You're overweight? Get in the gym, but in the meantime, own it. And if your really wanting to get some there's a lot of damn cute curvy and BBW chicks out there. Yes, I admit I've hit a few. I don't give a damn. I know from seeing these PUA type boards there's a little competition thing it seems that hey you need to constantly be going for 10s. Blah blah blah. Fuck that. Only game I play is did I get laid? And did I have fun?

I'm not here trying to say this is how to pick up better women and improve your game. I'm still learning that myself. But I am on here saying getting laid is... Well, it'.s pretty damn easy. I see too many posts from guys who are just on eggshells and stumbling and bumbling.

I use to be that guy. Up until I went into the army. But now that I'm older age plays a part as well. The older you get the less you give a fuck. And that's a major part to it.

Guys. Give less of a fuck. Own yourself.

It will fall into place.