TLDR: Qualification is the difference between the girl believing she's going home with man slut vs going home with a player with high standards.

All regular font text below will be information I pull from Magic Bullets and a couple articles around the web. In italics will be my thoughts on the subject and how it applies to my game.

A major sticking point I’ve identified in my game recently has been the “Qualification” stage. I believe it’s been the major reason I’ve been blown out of sets when girls throw shit tests at me about why I’m talking to them specifically.

The following post is simply a summary of my thoughts on qualification from materials I’ll be reviewing. I’ll be testing out what I discuss here this weekend with the SF Bay Lair guys and will post results after. Honestly, this post is more for myself than anyone else but I thought some of you might have good feedback for me and others might have questions or draw inspiration from it.

Qualification in a sentence: Qualification is the stage in which you "become" attracted to the specific girl.

I’m taking this more to mean “the stage where you make the girl feel like you are interested in her for more than just her physical attractiveness”

  • I would think if things are going well you’d already have shown intent with kino by this point so to me this stage more sounds like making her feel like she’s not just any other girl rather than actually showing interest for the first time. Thoughts?*

From Magic Bullets: “You may need to prompt her that she still has to win your interest (even though you’ve already flirted with her), and may even have to help her. And you must do this while making the conversation feel “natural”.

FUCK. Seriously though, I NEVER do this. Every time I even think about qualifying I drop the subject if the girl doesn’t bite on my first attempt. I guess I never wanted to blow myself out by being pushy in an “Hey, impress me!” sort of way. Recent inner game changes should make this transition very, very easy as I’ve developed a real nice ego. Still though, I may have to think about it in set for quite awhile before I integrate it naturally.

Reasons to Qualify

Show you’re attracted to more than her looks. Ultimately women find your pursuit validating for their physical beauty but boring otherwise. Most women enjoy working for your attention (if you attracted properly) You want her to realize that even though you were initially interested for approaching, she ultimately earned it. If she looks back on it and realizes she had it all along it makes you a lot less attractive. Finally, qualification solidifies her attraction to you. She’s investing more into the relationship to earn you and hence values you more

Find non-physical attractive characteristics for qualification

Examples: music, career or career goals and hobbies

  • The above examples are given for you to ask if you don’t really care about the girl and just want to sleep with her. Those are easy questions to ask and you can compliment her or make her feel she earned with just about any response. Just don’t make it to easy.*

The following are just my thoughts on the issue: the best way to go here, like in almost all cases, is to be honest. Figure out what you want in a woman and qualify her on that. Personally, I care a lot about drive, that a girl is in control of her life and making things happen to get what she wants. It’s when I can make a genuine connection with a girl about her life goals (and it turns me on lol), that’s when all this seduction stuff is truly no longer an act or routine.

Help her qualify herself

After deciding what you want to qualify girls on, it’s time to set them up to A) believe they have those traits and B) get them to tell you. You want to bring up topics that will allow a woman to express her individuality. Example topics include travel, career, education, hobbies, pets and cooking.

Make sure not to do any qualifying like a job interview. Bring up topics both as statements and questions. “I love to travel” or “Do you like to travel?/Where have you been?” Vary it up.

Fun qualifiers – What if questions: “If you could be any celebrity, who would you be?” Can be asked about anything and is much more fun than just talking about it.

These fun qualifiers are much more my style. I’ll probably come up with a couple ridiculous ones to ask girls but not so much so that they lose their purpose.

Reward girls for making you more interested

GENUINE compliments. Get caught faking this and you’ll blow yourself out every time, at least in my experience. I didn’t really realize it until here but I’ve girls go from hot to cold over a compliment they don’t take to be real (obvious sarcasm is an exception). I think I’m good at genuine compliments but my timing on them has no rhyme or reason. Until now ;-)

You should also reward her for trying (again, genuine effort) to qualify herself even if she fails, especially if you decide to really challenge her on something. never thought about this before, no idea if I do it in set or not

Qualify her on multiple topics (3 different ones suggested to make the girl feel she’s earned you).

What proper qualification should look like [ideally but still a loose guideline]

In conversation you deliver qualifier

Girl responds

Conversation on topic occurs, you’ll still be able to DHV at this point

Compliment girl on topic (successfully qualify)

Pull back (optional and covered next)

New topic

New qualifier

Pull backs

A pull back is a playful kid like comments that can be delivered with qualifiers. The idea is to cut the compliment you’re giving her off so that it’s still there, but downplayed. Some girls will get self conscious and awkward from too many compliments. You want to provide a reason that is true but cannot be taken seriously as a reason for you not to sleep with her. Examples: “Too bad you come to [name venue you’re both in]”, “Too bad you’re a [astrological sign]

Pull backs fit perfectly into my game as I’m a bit of a smartass in set. Goes perfectly with the cocky frame I set and will make it feel a lot more natural to me. I think I’ll also pick it up more quickly this way as I already use lines like this in set but I don’t time them, which makes them useless

And that’s it, theoretically you’re in to the Comfort stage now.

Final thoughts

This next week I’ll be out 3 nights and hopefully focusing specifically on this at least 2 of those. Last week I worked on going direct with opening and coming in with a ton of confidence I’m pretty sure I can get enough attraction to take conversation immediately toward qualification. I definitely need to come up with some funny qualifiers though.