[Rant + Request for help] Women drive me crazy, here's why.

puntingbaxter · 2013-07-02T18:33:26+00:00

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puntingbaxter · 2013-07-02T19:29:42+00:00

Have you opened a 1000 sets?

It sounds you hit some adversity but are unwilling to battle through it.

Don't give up so quickly.

asad16 · 2013-07-02T22:58:24+00:00

do not be jealous of other people's success, but be motivated by them. that's the difference between a man, and a boy

frankdux9 · 2013-07-03T06:15:40+00:00

Honestly, there are heaps of issues just from this short post I can see.

You say you don't care about women, but then you get angry about not getting them and seeing "ugly" guys with them. This is a bit of denial if you ask me. I think you care about women far more than you realize.

Second, If you only have an opener and then run out of things to say are you really an interesting person? When you are talking with your guy friends are you the kind of person who has a lot to say and can carry a conversation for a long time. If you are, then it is just an issue with talking to women. If you are not, then you need to become more interesting.

Stop using canned openers, they suck. Just say hello, and go from there. Last, from your writing, you sound like a bit of a Bro to me. Stop putting on a front, be a man not a Bro.

pua_throwaw · 2013-07-02T23:48:14+00:00

If you really do have everything other than your "game" handled you should really be glad you're in that position. You need to accept that pickup is a numbers game to an extent, but by approaching a lot you slowly turn the odds to your favor (Tyler has a recent video about it) and that you need to open more than just the sets you like to gain as much reference experience (Julien often talks about this).

You're right about a lot of pickup stuff being contradictory and no one is necessarily wrong, but it's just that we are all different individuals and different stuff works for us. Also all women are different and during an approach there might be a bunch of random factors that you can't control.

If you just keep approaching and spend at least some amount of time thinking about what you're doing wrong (like this thread suggests you do) you should auto correct eventually.

MarsayMarsac · 2013-07-03T12:42:30+00:00

maybe you should record a video or an audio of yourself picking up girls. Sometimes we have unconscious habits that we are not aware of, and those habits/body gestures/voice might drive girls away. In our minds we are all confident and super alpha, but the reality might be that some of us mumble and have a weak voice or something like that. So, record yourself and examine that; might find something interesting about yourself.

itsmevichet · 2013-07-03T15:44:33+00:00

I had a perfect relationship for 2 years and suddenly I got dumped for no reason at all.

I guess it wasn't perfect for her.

which one do I believe? Both? None of em?

I'm sorry, I didn't realize that all of this stuff was supposed to be easy, and that at the end of the rainbow there's a pot of gold and a bunch of mufuckin' centaurs jousting for your amusement.

Come on, man. I understand your frustration, but you're coming into this thinking that it's all supposed to be easy.

Look, you have a lot of good things going for you. But, you have a bad attitude about the whole thing. I dunno if it was your breakup or whatever, but you're lugging a fuck ton of baggage that covers up all the good things you have.

And the problem is not that I am needy because I don't care about having a woman really

I call bullshit. If you reaaaally didn't care, you wouldn't be here.

Everyone has to take the advice here and try it all. Not once. Not ten times. Hundreds, thousands, before they fall on the style of game that best expresses who they are and what they want.

The goal isn't to get ALL women. You think that's possible with all the other guys just as awesome as you out there? Let's get back down to earth, bud.

Just get better with women over time, every day. Getting closer to your potential is something you can handle.

What pisses me off most is that there are some ugly guys that have a girlfriend I can only dream

That's because you think a man's worth is in his looks. That man who is living the life you are jealous about? He's worked on his game, I fuckin' guarantee it. He paid a price you aren't willing to pay yet. He did his 1000 approaches, or became really well known and awesome at what he does.

If you wanna be like him, you gotta pony up.

This isn't the place for me to sugarcoat it. I've listened to your frustrations, and they're the same as the other 130k people who have come here for advice.

The solution is the same for all of them. Get your life right. Get your mind right. Become someone worth fucking/dating/whatever. Go out and meet shit tons of women, and stop thinking like they owe you something because you did some stuff to make yourself happy.

Title	[Rant + Request for help] Women drive me crazy, here's why.
Author	oinkd
Upvotes	8
Comments	33
Date	July 2, 2013 6:10 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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