Rejected at party

Chasin1337 · 2024-06-02T15:13:43+00:00

Maybe they saw that you were approaching every girl so they got turned off by that. Especially in a party environment it is really easily noticable what you are doing and what your intentions are.

MachoMoustache · 2024-06-02T15:18:14+00:00

In my opinion you should stop trying to run away from your feelings and instead feel them more (you feel hurt? Okay, try to feel more hurt. It weirdly helps). Non-resistance, non-attachment and non-judgement are the pillars of being present in the moment and I think it’s good way for you to come out of this experience stronger. Good luck!

Conjoined_Triangles · 2024-06-02T15:21:41+00:00

This is something that just happens. Approaches have no filter for if they're taken, not attracted to you, would be attracted but not the right setting for them, etc. I've been having a streak of approaching girls I'm attracted to and getting blown out on the open but at the same time having girls I'm not interested in at all give me indicators of interest.

The answer is to detach any expectations of outcome and enjoy the process whether you did well or not. You had successful approaches, you can reflect on what you did well and need to improve on but at the same time be happy you stuck to it. The last thing you want to do is make the process boring because then you start to hate it.

Ok_Leek9471 · 2024-06-02T15:15:44+00:00

How do you felt inside when you approached those girls who rejected you? As a rule of thumb: if you are on party and most people are not strangers to each other, they feel quite safe and relaxed. I guess something in your vibe that made them reject you. Neediness? Anyway, more info needed.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-06-02T16:14:47+00:00

If you were attractive and confident you would not be rejected or if you were rejected you would not be crawling to reddit for head pets.

Now go on a diet, lift weight and get your shit together so when 100 women reject you you would just laugh

spacemangoes · 2024-06-02T16:48:49+00:00

Every dog has its day. You are not the chosen dog that day. Keep grinding and try again.

Go_Brr · 2024-06-02T15:52:23+00:00

I consider myself attractive

I dont understand why ppl self proclaim this

being good looking is subjective and being good looking isnt the thing thats going to work. (even good looking men fumble and fuck it up with bad game or using a wrong approach)

glad u got some confidence - u realise not everyone is going to find you attractive?

the only bit of information you gave is that you consider ur self good looking and confused why these women didnt - maybe this ego was displayed in ur attitude or ur approach?

and again youve had some succesfull approachs but you havnt spoke or dived into what made them succesful? youre focused on the rejection and it almost comes across as if you are confused why these women didnt want a good looking man as such as yourself

Defiant-Past6997 · 2024-06-02T17:00:06+00:00

it's a numbers game. Just gotta keep approaching until you find the girls that want you (you'll know when you've found them as everything will feel quite effortless in terms of the conversation and stuff. She'll be trying more than you! )

Dandys3107 · 2024-06-02T15:23:54+00:00

Maybe don't think of approaching these girls just to pick them up, but make some casual interactions, laugh together, flirt, banter, and check how they react when you get closer to each other.

cemj86 · 2024-06-03T04:18:42+00:00

Congratulations keep it up.

SnooSketches7890 · 2024-06-03T15:24:23+00:00

Did you make it appear as if you weren’t hitting on them? Did you have a solid opener.

Or did you just ask the generic how’s it going, what do you do questions?

SaaSWriters · 2024-06-04T00:44:33+00:00

You lack confidence. If you were confident, you’d brush it off. You’d then keep approaching women in the same place or other places. Admit it, and you’ll be one step closer to attracting the women you want.

DaygameCode · 2024-06-02T16:14:36+00:00

In order to find out what went wrong you begin by analysing your body language, your posture, where your hands were, your style, the first phrases you said to start the conversation, the tone in which you said it, your actual reputation within the party.

Note that you can’t just say “my tone was good or decent” or my style was great”, or “I did not say anything wrong or weird” because that would be like saying “i made no mistakes”. Same as “my reputation was good” like what do you think it was good, maybe you think it’s good and it actually was not as soon as you start describing it

You need to be self critical and look for what could have been improved, rather than simply saying that in your opinion you were fine.

You need to be specific my how you were dressing, you need to specify the actual words you used, and be specific about everything be specific.

Self-reflection is an important skill that you need to develop for seduction, because you can’t just sit down and say “i don’t know what happened at all” and then expect others to make guesses.

You need to go through detail about some of those interactions and describe them with maximum attention to detail. Every word, every look, every gesture and micro gesture you perceived, even the generic talk must be broken down phrase by phrase.

MoonXuu · 2024-06-02T18:38:11+00:00

Don’t blatantly go for multiple girls they no like that

epimpstyle · 2024-06-02T15:32:10+00:00

I don't know what you said if they rejected you right away, but if they didn't make the conversation easy, then I can say that it's a problem with YOU, because you started a conversation, so you have to talk and talk until they get "hooked" on the conversation or get them to say something back to you (in this way it will be easy to continue). It is like trying to sell something, you are the one who is going to advertise the product and not expect people to ask questions about your product.

appolonysian · 2024-06-02T17:12:20+00:00

Don’t approach them with the goal being a number or sex. Approach with the goal of an engaging conversation. If you have that, chances of everything else happening go up; but if you go in with anything else in mind they can generally sense it and get turned off.

Open situationally and ask her about herself. Gauge her receptiveness to you by the depth of her answers and whether or not she asks any back. Assuming she’s not giving one word answers, weave in stories about yourself that are relevant and cast you in a good light.

The common thread between all the guys I know who are good with women is the fact that they go in without a plan or thinking much about a goal whatsoever. The way they can engage directly and without anxiety is a breath of fresh air for women who are otherwise bombarded by nervous guys trying to “nice” their way into some ass.

Misterthickthick · 2024-06-02T18:15:26+00:00

You have to not give a fuck, I understand that’s easier said then done but it will help you get to your goal tremendously

No-Preference8767 · 2024-06-02T16:09:28+00:00

I would focus on body language/ vibe. Imo

I have huge body language issues because of anxiety. the difference is night and day when I'm calm vs when I'm on edge.

punktfan · 2024-06-02T16:10:42+00:00

You didn't tell us anything about your game.

Title	Rejected at party
Author	SirBoulot
Upvotes	19
Comments	26
Date	June 2, 2024 3:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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