Rejection still hurts...wtf?!

UnclePutin · 2018-06-05T22:52:45+00:00

Going to the gym hurts me too, but you won't see me bitch about that. Your pain is irrelevant because it is bound to happen. You're in pain because you tried to connect with a human being. You're in pain because you are a human being. There's nothing wrong with that.

boodie_1961 · 2018-06-05T22:52:59+00:00

It's a blow to one's ego and self esteem. It's like being discarded for not being good enough. Of course it hurts. It's normal. The therapy is to get rejected so many times that the brain gets used to this level of pain, until it becomes desensitized. Imagine getting up every morning and having a cold shower. The first 10 times it's horrible and the last thing you wanna do, then it becomes normal and it it does not kill you.

ethical_pa · 2018-06-06T01:12:50+00:00

SHE approached YOU about wanting to get together? What kind of networking event? Sounds to me like she was flirty with you because she wanted something from you.

Eskeeetiiit · 2018-06-06T03:32:24+00:00

Same thing happened to me a while ago, a random rejection hurt whereas countless others had not, I believe it was because I assumed I wouldn’t get rejected due to various reasons and asked as a courtesy assuming the answer was yes. It hurt because it came as a surprise and I was not mentally prepared for it

Edit: reading the other comments, no I don’t think rejection should be normalized as painful. You ask someone out and they say no, you should be able to move on with your life without feeling hurt, I have been rejected multiple times and felt no pain, some I was happy because I at least asked them out regardless of the outcome

masteryimain34 · 2018-06-06T04:55:29+00:00

Dude you didn’t get rejected! THAT IS A SHIT TEST. BRO WAKE UP. Google shit tests. She wants to see how strong you are. If you flounder and say oh okay. If so. She knows you’re not her type. If you hold strong and look her in the eyes and give a little laugh that lets her know that “Lol you wanted to meet up, an attractive guy like me who gets loads of girls, and say you only want to be friends? You’ve gotta try harder than that female” Dude rejection is a joke. Do you think genghis khan ever got rejected? ( not saying take over a country and kill millions of people) but realize Where you are. We are just animals. We have no idea how this universe works. For all we know we could possibly teleport by thinking about it. Wake up bro. Science hasn’t even touched the surface. The sun could kill us at any moment. Volcanos are going off all around us. There’s literally a ring of fire on our planet. Trump is our president. And you’re thinking about some retarded chick who tried to play with you??????? BRO THINK ABOUT THAT. There are people who were alive yesterday who will wake up without a heartbeat. They will just be corpses. Imagine a dead body infront of you. Now think about that silly girl. That is the world you live in. Who fucking cares.

Eagle-513 · 2018-06-06T01:49:46+00:00

Read Rational Male my friend

metaStatic · 2018-06-06T06:04:55+00:00

Sounds like a second date to me.

if you feel like she's trying to friendzone you make a point of saying the words "We should be friends" to her. Hot girls have the biggest egos, you think you feel bad hearing that shit? she's a hot girl, guys are supposed to want her.

And at the very least a female friend is a great resource for advice and conversation. Can't really practice banter with your guy friends.

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2018-06-06T08:47:52+00:00

"How do I not let this shit bother me?"

1) Scarcity mindset. fake it until you make it. If you were dating 15 women , or even 3 , how would you think this particular rejection would have had affected you ?

2) Perspective. see it as - your win , her loose.

3) Try again. but know that things would be way much easier if you let her invest the most. You might want to call and set up a next date. On the phone you can gauge her interest. Then you adapt from there : continue or move on.

random thoughts about rejection : you have to be willing to walk away anytime. remain lighthearted , funny , short , and amused.

Eskeeetiiit · 2018-06-07T14:10:14+00:00

Still expect to get a yes just don’t convince yourself too much, and eventually you’ll realize she’s not rejecting you and there are various other factors involved; I don’t know, just never expect a no

LimitedContributor · 2018-06-05T23:10:10+00:00

I hate it to. Rejection is the next thing to cruel.

The only possible hope of beating rejection, you two have to be the last two people surviving an apocalypse. That's the ONLY way otherwise its doomed.

Title	Rejection still hurts...wtf?!
Author	taco_smasher69
Upvotes	11
Comments	21
Date	June 5, 2018 10:23 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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