Rejection

jackzander · 2025-12-09T23:13:52+00:00

Did you forget to finish your post or

OpinionThink481 · 2025-12-09T23:41:48+00:00

This is extremely dumb. Everything thats worth something in life requires to take risks. And that requires you to make peace with something that is ultimately inevitable, rejection.

You will get rejected many times in life, there is no way to be infallible where everything goes according to your plan. Where you get told yes every single time. It’s just not possible.

Rejection hurts because you’ve learned to fear it and sisnt learn to manage it. You learned that rejection is shameful fue to social conditioning, and as such your focus growing up was on avoiding the rejection no matter what.

This mindset only led to guys missing out on opportunities, hesitating before taking action, and losing before they even try aimoly because they rejected themselves first.

You don’t need to pay anything to anyone to understand the importance of learning how to deal with rejection so it doesn’t stop you from going for what you want and ao that it stops affecting you.

It’s building resilience which is crucial because when you learn resilience to handle rejection and setbacks with grace and without your self- esteem dropping you can pretty much face any challenge without fear simply because you have managed finally to not act butthurt about it, and not question your worth as a person which is the most freeing thing ever.

This ironically makes it more likely you will have more frequent successes simoly because success is more likely to happen the more you try and the less scared you are about consequences.

Lastly, stop making ad hominem fallacies as an argument Advice doesn’t stop being being valid just because someone giving it makes a living from it.

This is just stupid it’s someone saying well “it’s better to be confident with women than insecure”, and you wrote a post saying, well the person who is saying that is charging money for other services, therefore being confident is not good advice.

Like what? What kind of shit logic is that.

water_reducer · 2025-12-10T11:19:31+00:00

lol not the answer that this sub wanted to hear but not far from the truth either. puas will tell you to embrace rejection because they get rejected constantly lmao. they also compare it to sales all the time. it is somewhat similar to sales tbh, and it is more of a game of sales than it is a game of actual skill like chess or tennis🎾

In sales, if you get better at certain ways of communicating you can increase your sales performance by a certain percentage and those numbers add up over time, however you can still run into a bad month where the new guy will outperform you. Which is something that could never happen in a game of actual skill, an all star pro athlete will never have a month where he gets outshined by some random guy off the street.

When it comes to pickup though, it is even worse than sales tbh. If there was a spectrum between let’s say random chance to pure skill, you might frame it as something like a dice roll - sales - sports. Between those three things pua is somewhere in between the dice roll and sales, while puas pretend that it is a sport.

A pro pua will absolutely get outshined and outperform by some random guy off of the street who has no idea about game. Think about that, there are guys who dedicate their lives to pua and do it 7 days a week, who teach it and charge thousands of dollars for boot camps. And yet those guys are getting dunked on by some random guy with a tinder account who swipes between wipes when he’s taking a shit.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-12-10T03:34:43+00:00

You'll build experience through rejections. It may also help with conflict resolution. Don't take them personally and wish each woman well afterwards. Take the high road and move on without sulking about it.

Western_Cake5482 · 2025-12-10T07:55:16+00:00

Oh my, posting some idea about rejection and it gets rejected.

Interviewpalm · 2025-12-10T08:15:08+00:00

the alternative is to never appraoch though. I'll take the pain and decreasing confidence over time lol (hopefully with the occasional win when I open a girl who tihnks i'm handsome)

But I must admit, after much researach, I do agree that we've been lied too about how we can make her attracted with the various technuiqes that are taught (pushpull etc)

jackthehat6 · 2025-12-10T08:27:37+00:00

Any games, tricks, techniques, methods or whatever don't work. sexual connections aren't a shallow concept or a video game to decode. you can't force a woman to act in a certain way with surface actions, texts or words

Even 'puspull' lines/teasing ???!!!!! :)

BurnItDownSR · 2025-12-10T09:29:51+00:00

Tell me you're a keyboard warrior without telling me you're a keyboard warrior.

Have you even seen a woman IRL besides your mom in the past year?

InvestigatorFull1364 · 2025-12-12T07:28:43+00:00

What you call rejection usually manifests as AA.

Here are the mechanics of AA: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/05/02/approach-anxiety-is-a-feature-not-a-bug/

And here is the whole interplay of rejection and why most online advice is BS: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/08/23/the-initial-stop/

Matter_Still · 2025-12-10T03:52:25+00:00

Like the founders of a certain religion, Erik Markovik and those who followed him, created a disease and then claimed to have found its cure. With respect to religion, it was original sin; the cure was being saved.PUA hucksters, as if they have looked at a blood sample, determine you have a deficiency "of game".

Nonsense.

For hundreds of years, men approached women, courted them, dated, and bedded them.How many of the world's 1.2 billion married men knew a damned thing about "daygame", calibration, or "Kino"?

None of my married friends did. Their opener was almost universally limited to "Do you wanna dance?"--even if they moved like a three-legged sloth.

If you hold an opinion like this, there are two other afflictions you have: you're a simp, suffering from "oneitis", or "beta".

Give them credit. There seems to be no shortage of guys willing to spend thousands to escape their loneliness or fear of dying unloved and a virgin.

thequarrymen58 · 2025-12-09T23:52:33+00:00

It's easier to do pay than to accept the truth....the only thing that matter is looks.

Title	Rejection
Author	bafun13
Upvotes	3
Comments	43
Date	December 9, 2025 10:50 PM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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