RFC: REALLY Frustrated Chump seeks help from you all!

ImKumarYo · 2011-05-26T13:35:27+00:00

You need to get it out of your head that you are disadvantaged in the South. Regardless of whether it is actually true or not, all this bullshit you're saying makes it true in your head and your head is what's most important in the game. Focus on getting as many girls as possible in the South and IF its easier elsewhere, you'll have sick game. But worrying about it just leads to whiny threads like this.

You definitely have AA under control which is awesome, that's the first step. Just keep work on conversing with people and reading stuff here. I was going through the same issues last summer where I could open anything but hook nothing. It's a problem that requires experience and time. You'll get more comfortable and funnier in set, show more confidence and eventually girls will see it. Then you see it in yourself, then they see it even more and eventually you're a fucking boss with women.

So yeah, stop complaining about your location unless you're going to do something about it and read the sidebar and keep talking to as many girls as you have been (great job with that btw, my friend)

ben72227 · 2011-05-26T17:42:24+00:00

To be really frank, if you were to approach me, I would turn you down because you dress like a tool.

Backwards cap, chain, gross 'nascar' sunglasses, and what looks like some sort of god awful affliction/EdHardy shirt. A plain t-shirt, a polo, a button down, anything could be better than that shirt.

I'm not trying to be mean, but when I go out with my friends, this is the type of shit we'd avoid. And I'm guessing you want to change that.

Dorman010 · 2011-05-26T13:20:22+00:00

Okay, you've pretty much got your AA under control. That's already a great start.

You need to understand the four levels a PUA's conversation with a target goes through:

Open
Attract
Comfort
Seduce/close

Which one of those do you think is currently your sticking point? Do you receive IOI's from the women? Do you ask for their number and get rejected, or do you not even ask for it? We need a bit more of an understanding of what you're doing (rather than a picture of yourself) in order to give you advice.

dongdongdong · 2011-05-26T13:51:41+00:00

I would say that the most important thing is to differentiate yourself from other Asians, to prevent yourself being 'typecast' into a certain 'Asian type'.

Right now, I see you as a very 'gangster' Asian that I would expect to roll with a pack of Asian bros and be heavily tattooed.

My two cents, but I would say ditching the chain, ditching the sunglasses, and getting some plain coloured T-shirts, or perhaps some from Abercrombie (bitches dig that and you know it), while go a long wy to improving your image.

watEvery1_isThinking · 2011-05-26T15:24:44+00:00

First of all girls are girls. No, first is that you are improving yourself and putting effort towards your goal, that doesn't make you a chump, that makes you AWESOME. PERIOD. So you have gotten into conversations, and HAVE gotten facebook invites. That's not bad, if you have some solid attraction, you are in a good spot. First, make your facebook presence, awesome, travel if you can, do fun things, post solid gold on there. Doing things with girls is also good (doesn't have to be or even should be douchy I'm in a club with 3 girls on each side type pics). Also lookup some text game, then you can flirt to keep the conversation interesting and work in DHVs in your facebook chats. A little of this and you can meet up on a date, and from there you can do all sorts of great stuff.

Look up: Mr M's guide to attraction Brad P's perfect date book Mehow's Book Magic Bullets ( kind of abstract I think )

This is the fun part! Only move if you want to live somewhere else, or if you're logistics are bad, (or if you really want to take things up a notch by getting to a major city) but you can get girls in your home town, I guarantee it.

RogueDawg · 2011-05-26T17:45:06+00:00

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misarei · 2011-05-26T20:58:25+00:00

Another thing as well, there's nothing more attractive than a man "rocking his own swag" and I actually went out with a Vietnamese guy because I absolutely loved his attitude and the way he dressed once in a while, but he also had a thing for somme necklace. I was totally into him, but couldn't get over the fact that it was so" gay like" to have one. Since he wasn't the only one I was seeing, I moved on to someone I didn't have anything neg about. But justsayin is absolutely right. Clothing means a lot! Doesn't matter how sweet the guy is, first glance attraction is vital.

RogueDawg · 2011-05-26T14:36:36+00:00

I appreciate everyone for giving me their 2 cents!

lilninjalee · 2011-05-26T18:22:08+00:00

I went from afc to ninja mainly because of my mentality. Tell women what you want. "I want to take you out" commands and recommendations work too, "you should give me your number" act like you are doing her a favor. Act like a boss.

misarei · 2011-05-26T20:45:14+00:00

I need to be honest, the location difference is COMPLETELY TRUE. But it doesn't mean you have to leave your home to meet some radom girl is souther california. Your bound to find some one. Act like an alpha and psyche yourself out. Plenty of woman are attracted to asian men. Keep your head up OP.

Baghdadification · 2011-05-26T21:05:13+00:00

I don't mean to be mean or anything, but the picture you posted is anything but "pretty damn good" looking. Backwards hat with hair popping out, glasses, no smile, chain that's over your shirt and the shirt has some weird ass patters on it...

Wear a real shirt, loos the hat and fix your hair and smile.

RogueDawg · 2011-05-27T13:52:52+00:00

A lot of people are telling you to change what you wear. I disagree with that. I think more important than what you wear is how your behavior is in your cloth. Clothes definitely do not make the man, but it'll help. But even if your clothes completely change, what ultimately will make or break you is still your behavior and the impression you leave. You could have the nicest clothes in the world, but no girl will ever get with you because of the clothes that you have. Maybe they'll be more inclined to give you more of a chance at most. It doesn't sound like you're not getting a chance at all.

If you're out bringing life and party and enjoyment and fun, no girls will give two shits about the clothes you have on because what you're doing, is providing value. You're showing them a good time and they will respond to that. What it sounds like is that you're not doing that. Remember, you're effectively approaching strangers, so it takes a bit more work to get them comfortable or attracted to you. In my opinion, that's where your real challenge is. Consider how you're interacting with them (do you act like strangers or friend?). Consider the conversations you're having (are they pithy or are they building a connection or purposes?). Consider your own behavior (do you look like you're nervous or needy? are you walking around like someone who's out having a good time or someone who has some secondary purpose, i.e. you're trying to fuck?).

Here's my really really simple advice. Smile, touch, and talk like you have something to say. From there, you should find parts of your interactions that are flawed (write these interactions up because it lets you think about what you're missing out on -- especially ones that don't go so well), and pin point things you want to improve.

Good luck and feel free to message me.

Title	RFC: REALLY Frustrated Chump seeks help from you all!
Author	RogueDawg
Upvotes	7
Comments	50
Date	May 26, 2011 1:06 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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