Seddit, how far have you come from how you started out? Have you found a big difference in how successful you've been? What's been key?

MothershipConnection · 2010-03-26T23:02:12+00:00

Let's see. Prior: Dry spell that went 2 years at a time. Easily got jealous of friend's relationships and hookups. Could barely even talk to girls, the body language of a sheep. Hardly much of a social life, mostly a hanger on to what others did. Easily overshadowed by my peers around me. Typical meek programming geek. Just an overall air of desperation.

Current: A hookup pretty much every weekend I've gone out recently. Now quite happy for friends and their relations. Treated like a respectable human being, the body language of a lion. Enough people trying to pull me in all directions to hang out that I'm seriously going to need to cut it down to just the good ones. Still occasional trouble talking to the ladies. Life is generally good.

The difference? Honestly, mostly a huge improvement in inner game. I still poke around here and other seduction sites for ideas and improvement on the verbal side, which I still consider very mediocre, but I've bridged enough gap with the other stuff that it doesn't matter all nearly as much and I get much more leeway for my mistakes. I started taking care of myself better and things started to fall into place. Got over a pretty mad depressive period and got myself some clarity on the career-side. Started taking my music and creative side much more seriously, started or involved in various groups, hung out with people who'd help me advance this, and used music as a goal and escape. Started giving a shit about the way I dress and overall appearance (went from this to this) to the point where random people on the street will compliment me on what I'm wearing. And most importantly, stood up straight, took some responsibility, and stopped worrying about the consequences every little thing.

So things aren't perfect, I'm not the guy who'd ask how to do a perfect cold approach, or have crazy stories about sneaking one chick out to get another one in or crazy orgies or anything (though I have some stories), nor have I found that one single person I could seriously commit to, but things are looking much brighter and I no longer fear women or the mating game in general. That's on the up and up from not even that long ago.

mynewname · 2010-03-27T12:48:56+00:00

Major points where game has helped me:

1) not being so serious around girls 2) conversation topics to address to people not at my intellectual level (easier to connect with all kinds of people now, thanks to this) 3) much lower tolerance for female BS and tests

NeonCactus · 2010-03-27T15:27:00+00:00

Realizing why I failed and accepting it.

serpix · 2010-03-28T20:39:41+00:00

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