Seddit, I can't get laid...

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-07-01T04:13:31+00:00

I can only guess what you're doing wrong. But if I had to guess, I would say you're focused on the goal rather than enjoying the process. If you're not having fun dating these few women, they will sense it and you won't get far.

But keep going out there. And don't believe the successful FRs came out of nowhere. They all had dozens of failures before they wrote one boastful FR.

Learnshit · 2013-07-01T04:20:43+00:00

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puntingbaxter · 2013-07-01T19:32:29+00:00

60 approaches in 6 months... 10 approaches a month: you need to approach more
40 numbers means absolutely nothing, since it only led to 5 dates: you need to concentrate more on seducing before you get the number. From this it seems you are doing more comfort building than seducing.

bmduffy · 2013-07-01T18:27:41+00:00

Make your intentions very clear from the beginning. It is going to feel awkward at first, but just go at it. It can be big or little. When approaching, there is a big difference in:

That dress looks good on you.

and

You look really sexy in that dress. I couldn't take my eyes off you.

The first compliment, while flattering, is something that she could hear from anyone. Her mom, her girlfriends, her gay best friend. You don't want to be any of those things.

The second compliment is more sexualized. You view her not only as beautiful, but someone who is sexy as well.

Even small things like this can make a difference. And you will notice, if you really pay attention to your dialogue, there are many different vocal forks in the road that you can take the path of having this woman in your bed that night or having this woman thinking that you are going to be her new best friend.

puaCurveBall · 2013-07-01T19:25:17+00:00

On the 5 dates, where does it break down? Why don't you end up having sex?

new_player · 2013-07-02T05:13:43+00:00

I have a friend who is pretty awesome at approaching girls and striking up conversation about whatever. He gets numbers. He goes on 'dates', and they never, ever lead anywhere. I've observed his interactions personally, and what he's doing wrong is that he never steers the conversation towards a sexual nature. He never makes his intentions about wanting more than just conversation clear. From the get go it's about interesting conversational topics, but it's always only that. It's like if you attended some lecture for one of your favorite topics. It doesn't mean you're going to sleep with the lecturer. It means you're just interested in the discussion. I've tried to tell him this but he won't listen, and yet it's the number one thing that would change his entire interaction.

slcjosh · 2013-07-01T17:39:58+00:00

My best guess would be that you are not being forward enough to establish a sexual interaction. You have to frame it, make it sexual, take control. As soon i have recently learned to lose the nice guy vibe, my life changed.

JPA9919 · 2013-07-02T14:48:27+00:00

my success rate is about 7 out of 500 you need to be doing 60 approaches PER DAY if you want success

latinspice · 2013-07-02T14:49:52+00:00

Put away nice boy, grab her ass(of course when escalating), turn her on!

2013-07-02T17:08:16+00:00

How old are you?

readonlyuser · 2013-07-04T05:56:48+00:00

This is easy. Your numbers are useless. Work on attraction and rapport, or both. Then the numbers you get will be solid. Also, you need to approach WAAAAAAYYY more before you earn the right to complain about results. Your sample size is miniature.

legendd · 2013-07-01T23:06:00+00:00

but I've slept with 0 of them.

Do you have decent logistics? If not do you know how to frame it so that you are able to invite yourself to her place? Your game is solid but you need the logistics to close the deal

Charlie_KA · 2013-07-02T05:17:33+00:00

Three thoughts . . .

1) 5 for 40 in actually seeing someone is low. You are either not having really great interactions which make them want to come see you or you are having trouble setting up the day 2. My bet is the former. Total stab in the dark, but I'm guessing you're not getting her attracted enough which is largely a function of your energy. Smile big, gesticulate, touch, and speak loudly.

2) 0 for 5 in girls you met during the day is low (assuming you like them). These are girls you presumably spoke to with a lot of confidence. I can only go off the limited information I have, but my guess is you aren't being physical enough. IF a girl comes out after she meets you during the day she sees something she likes. Assume attraction. Start with a big hug. Keep your hands on her throughout the date

3) Speaking of which, what are these dates? If they are anything like the dates you see in movies (dinner, etc) you're doing them wrong. Don't do dinner. Do something fun that puts you in close contact. Salsa dancing is a great idea.

Dae4 · 2013-07-01T08:32:41+00:00

Whats your ethnicity and height?

sondemagnus · 2013-07-01T17:52:42+00:00

Why only 5 dates in six months?

Title	Seddit, I can't get laid...
Author	WSQSU
Upvotes	10
Comments	27
Date	July 1, 2013 3:40 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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