So, here's the story.

Last week I went on a 1st date with a girl. We went to a cool rooftop for a coffee. We talked, we got to know each other well, or fairly well, for a first date.

After the coffee, we went on a walk around the city. The date went pretty well, in my opinion. No awkward silences, I let her do most of the talking. Of course, I added stuff and shared stuff about me as well, but I wanted to know HER better.

At the end of the date, we went to a park and sat on a bench. We talked for a bit more. I was trying to escalate from the beginning of the date, but as I'm fairly new to this dating stuff, I realize could've done better.

In fact, while we were sitting on the bench, I was pretty much "over her", with my arm around her. When I decided it was time to go in for the kiss, or at least try, her brother called her and she said she had to go. Bummer, but it's ok I guess.

We had a good time. After the date, I told her "Was really nice being with you. Did you get home safe? aha" and she said "Me too! Thank you for day! Yes I got home safe aha. I'm available next week, so we can meet up again when you want!".

Now, I took this as a good sign. It had to be, right? So we texted a bit more, and we setup a second date for this week, which she agreed.

We texted a bit in between the first date and the second date, but I didn't over text her. I tried to show value and be "mysterious" with my texts. I didn't want to come off as needy and desperate.

So the night before the date, she tells me she can't go because she has to stay on college.

I texted her "Sure no problem, we'll arrange another day to go! :)". She tells me "Sure, and sorry!"

Now, I haven't texted her for 3 days, and the 1-itis feeling is hitting me really hard. I really want to be with her again, but I don't want to sound needy. The thing is, I don't know if the flake was a test or a genuine one. This is because I asked a friend who knows her and he told me that he wasn't 100% sure if she stayed in college late or not. I don't know if this was a test or a genuine flake, and that's what's fucking me really hard.

I really don't fucking get it and I don't know what to do. She deliberately tells me that she's free and that we can hang out when I want, but then she does this? If I had 100% that it was a genuine flake, I would be fine. The thing is: I don't know if it was. I don't know if this is a test.

This 1-itis feeling is fucking terrible. I realize I'm way overly invested in her, although I haven't showed that to her. Days are fucking awful and I can't get anything done because I can't stop thinking about her.

What the fuck do I do? Should I text her? I think ignoring her and wait for her to initiate contact would be the best thing to do, but I'm not sure if she'll ever do that. She never initiated contact, but every time I talked to her, she is always happy to talk back.

Should I text her? Keeping ignoring her and wait for her to contact me? I hate this fucking feeling. I can't understand this.

I know I may be over thinking this, but please, Seddit, help a brother out. What do I do?