Should I give up, Seddit?

Neuronless · 2012-06-25T09:58:19+00:00

I think you should keep trying, but exercise on EVERYONE. Your problem seems to be the fear of a conversation. Talk to people in waiting rooms, talk to the cashier, talk to your neighbour, talk to yourself, make eye contact, smile, nod, etc...

Your confidence will grow as you learn to get people genuinely interested in what you say. Be it girls, men, old people, childs...

Also a small note: when you talk with a girl, don't think about what you want from her. Be *outcome independent. This term is often used in this subreddit, and is very important (if not vital) because it will release you of a lot of stress. You don't go and talk to a girl to get her number. You go and to talk a girl because you want to know her. You want her to know you. You want to have fun.

Note that this isn't absolute truth, but it applies in your situation.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-06-25T15:37:00+00:00

Yes. Give up. Give up all hope of ever getting a girl to like you. Then keep talking to girls without expecting them to like you. You may find the freedom of zero expectations to be quite refreshing. It is only when we have given up everything that we are free to do anything.

FMDub · 2012-06-25T12:00:37+00:00

You know what I do when I'm having a bad day at work and I just can't fucking stand doing my job any more?

I put as much goddamn effort as I can into it. I sac up, go into man-mode, and destroy the world. Courage wolf would have a brain aneurism if he saw the way I act. Fuck the world, fuck everyone who thinks you're messing up, put forth max effort. Feeling down? Turn it up a notch.

And then I feel better. And then I do better. And then my day is better.

Fuck yeah.

iceazn187 · 2012-06-25T16:04:11+00:00

I think rather than concentrating on trying to get with a girl, concentrate on yourself and how you can make your life as fun and interesting as you can, for yourself.

Once you go out and feel great about YOURSELF, you can be natural and confident around women who sense an air of interest and confidence around you

Title	Should I give up, Seddit?
Author	SeductionNovice
Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	June 25, 2012 9:45 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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