Approached a lot. Still no result at all.

SinSlayer · 2012-11-18T18:16:59+00:00

Tell me about your approach (locations, situations, style, verbiage), what kind of girls are you approaching? How old are you? and pic?

SeductionNovice · 2012-11-18T19:40:51+00:00

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cma6250 · 2012-11-18T20:54:09+00:00

Approach 200 more.

korky1318 · 2012-11-18T19:13:22+00:00

This is either bullshit (200) or your game lacks something. Let's just pretend I'm a girl you see across the street as you get out of the grocery store. Blonde and cute, you'd definitely want my number. Game me.

2012-11-18T22:18:10+00:00

You need to supply more information. We can't magically divine your issues.

Give an example of an approach. Describe, in great detail, what goes on. What are you saying? How are you saying? etc. etc. etc.

Off the top of my head, it just sounds like you're caring way too much. In other words, you're a little desperate, and it comes across in the dozens of tiny ways humans non-verbally communicate. Girls can sense that shit from a mile away.

SeductionNovice · 2012-11-18T19:44:14+00:00

To the people claiming this is bullshit:

I'm currently curing of several disorders as panic disorder with agoraphobia, and severe social phobia (the kind of where you have a panic attack just talking to people).

I've put a lot of effort into approaching more than 200 girls, and fighting the biggest fears that were ruining my life (at some point, I could not get out from my house). It took me a lot of courage to do all this to get a better life AND to start having a normal dating life. I've done things that a lot of guys won't do in their entire life (facing your most frightening fears).

I just want to say that it hurts a little when I see people telling that my 200 approaches are just bullshit. Oh and I also want to say fuck you.

oliver_tate · 2012-11-18T20:28:03+00:00

Try recording yourself next time you go out approaching girls, maybe you'll realize some faults you're doing.

SwissPUA · 2012-11-18T18:51:17+00:00

200 approaches and no results?

Either bullshit or the worst case I've ever seen. If it is the latter, get a wingman or join a lair. They will tell you WHAT you are doing wrong.

WE CAN'T!

fcano92 · 2012-11-18T19:29:26+00:00

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reigorius · 2012-11-18T22:50:32+00:00

Dude, the help that is being offered here, is amazing. TAKE IT! Send detailed reports, provide pictures, sneak in a mike when you go out hunting during day time.

Don't feel offended by the doubt. Prove them wrong.

csixtay · 2012-11-18T23:08:47+00:00

First of all, I'll apologize for all the knee-jerk responses on this thread. It can be difficult to understand without seeing the whole picture. If you are still battling with social anxiety, ever considered just being candid?

While being confident during an approach is hands-down the most important factor to scoring further interaction, being candid is a not to shabby second.

Your social anxiety could mean that, while you feel your countenance exudes confidence, you consistently show tell-tale signs of...well...anxiety. Make no mistake, ladies pick up on this instantly.

Next time you approach a lady, lead with an apology for your social anxiety. It helps both of you account for a wide range of communication missteps, and also help you score sincerity points right off the bat. Offer your name before asking hers, and offer only observational complements to them (Ladies put effort into attracting guys too, showing them you notice is a much better form of flattery than Any reincarnation of 'I think you look pretty').

Above all, just make sure to go out and approach number 201.

2012-11-18T19:20:24+00:00

I'm surprised people here are telling you 200 should get you results. I've heard RSDTyler say 3 months worth of going out 7 days a week is nothing.

fashin_throwaway · 2012-11-19T00:44:24+00:00

Do you not see an improvement in yourself socially?

If you do, success. If you don't.. Something's not right. Plenty of guys didn't talk to a girl in 6 months.

Improving is success.

magicroot75 · 2012-11-19T19:15:08+00:00

Have you asked for numbers? Have you asked for dates? Don't expect girls to take any steps for you. Move with the assumption that every cell in their body is dying that you see through their neutrality and you ask them out. Or whatever other things you'd like to do.

TofuTofu · 2012-11-18T22:04:17+00:00

http://www.absoluteability.com/dating/15-things-that-make-men-suck-at-pickup/

^ Does any of that resonate with you?

Would it be possible for you to record some of your sets and post the audio here? And post some pics for critique?

2012-11-19T00:40:19+00:00

If you really want to get better at street approaches, go to daygame.com and get the Date Against the Machine videos. It costs $47 and takes about 2 hours to watch. If you really can't afford it PM me and I'll send it to you.

wtfOP · 2012-11-19T18:59:45+00:00

Colonel Sanders had to approach 1009 restaurants before someone would use his chicken recipe. Once he finally did, it birthed the fast-food mega-empire that is KFC. In China, it's even considered a high-end restaurant. All because Colonel Sanders kept approaching knowing he had a product that could be big.

When your approaches don't go well, adjust your angle and go again on the next girl, you'll hit it. Don't keep doing the same exact thing because clearly that isn't working.

kingsmuse · 2012-11-18T22:21:04+00:00

Hitting on strange woman on the street is objective evidence of a serious lack of game to begin with.

pickup_sticks · 2012-11-18T19:51:40+00:00

Why are you so focused on street approaches? Have you tried coffee shops?

I never do street approaches. The only ones I can think of are late weekend nights when drunk people are barhopping. Even then I don't really do direct approaches, just make observational comments to people walking by.

Title	Approached a lot. Still no result at all.
Author	SeductionNovice
Upvotes	18
Comments	45
Date	November 18, 2012 6:09 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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