Socializing is boring

D1rkMcg1rth · 2018-11-15T02:50:53+00:00

I understand where your coming from man. I think you need a new perspective on what it means to be human. When I was reading nietzsche a while back I became somewhat of a nihilst which seems to be what your suffering from. We are social beings and while im primarily an introvert myself, the energy you get from real conversation is hard to match. As to the objectivism of girls, try to treat them like you would want your daughter to be treated. Find some purpose in life and quit judging yourself and others.

ThePromiscuousMormon · 2018-11-15T04:42:39+00:00

A good way to make it fun is to look at it like a game, because it literally is a game. Getting instant sex without conversation would be nice, but you were born with a penis, so you are on the team that has to do more work to make it happen. In this game, girls barter with their looks and pussy. That seems easy at first glance, but it sucks for them because these are things that they can't improve. We have so many more things to barter with like humor, confidence, wittiness, ambition, dominance, etc.

Work on those attributes and whatever else your specific strengths are, and you will start to find socializing more fun. Socializing and pick up is a way to practice and improve upon the things that make us attractive in the sexual marketplace. When you become better at it, it becomes more fun and this fuels the upward spiral into becoming an attractive man.

Lord_Augastus · 2018-11-15T11:18:13+00:00

You need to find interest in other people, or at the minimum not give a fuck in order to enjoy yourself and share that joy.

Yes its boring and tedious, but, it doesnt have to be like that. If you like playing games, go to arcade bars, movie festivals idk. The world is saturated with the things you can do, you just need to figure out how you can do what you liek socially. If you city has none of it, make it yourself. You will have a buissness to run and instantly become more attractive since now you are a man with a plan, a direction and knows what he wants. People gravitate around that, and you will be social without even trying.

kaythanna · 2018-11-15T15:15:24+00:00

Dude this is so normal, so many women are like this too.

Most people are self asorbed, they aren't interested in others. I would say 85% of anyone under 30 is completely self asorbed and only into themselves or escapism. Drugs, video games, anything to keep themselves from themselves.

I think if you want to change you have to find yourself first. I was like this when I was 23. It took me 4 years of sobering up, working out, reading psychology books, moving to 4 cities and 5 years and much more to be actually happy with myself and eager to meet someone who has actual depth and interests.

I still hate clubs and bars and approach women in book shops, restaurants, online.. where ever. I avoid clubs and bars. I just think its an inner journey, my best friend who is Male is the same way. He barely likes women. I thinking having a sexual appetite and liking women is two different things.

I'm 28 and never had a good experience with a Male until I met a man who was 42. Retired police officer, worked out, looked 32, amazing guy. He was patient, gentle, masculine, accomplished and he truly like women. It was then I realize that most men like pumping in a tight hole, they truly dont love women. I get it 85% of women and men sucks, I cant stand most peope. However I think highly of myself and know that I cant be the only person who isnt too retarded to actually create intimate intense worthwhile experiences.

However what does someone who all they do is play games and get high have to discuss. Though I have a feeling with how self asorbed you are...you make bad ass music, seriously all my favorite creatives are self asorbed and drowning in introversion and escapism, so if you ever want someone to give a listen. Lol I'm too willing....

I digress...I use to have nothing to talk about with men or women who had things going for themseleves and I didnt like losers like me because they weren't capable of intimacy. You have to raise up your frequency to find better partners. Life is way more than getting high and going to clubs or getting high and play video games.

I'm a huge nerd, love games and literally was diagnosed with argophobia at one point. I was bad, but eventually I read books, worked out, travel, got my life together and now I'm hopeful about finding a partner and actually like some other peope because I like myself.

You arent going to be able to pretend to like women to a women that actually likes herself but again 85% of women and men hate themselves so you liking them is not a prerequisite for you fucking them. So that isnt your obstacle, you need to learn to make yourself fake it like 85% of the rest of the population to the ones who have no self esteem and I cant help you with that because I'm natrually a overconfident douche to the popolous so I attract women who hate themselves effortlessly. Good luck and trust me I BEEN THERE MOST PEOPLE ARE THERE THEY JUST FAKE BETTER.

Alphalizard1990 · 2018-11-15T02:43:42+00:00

Same as you ditched all my friends they are cancer. I have to fake it alot in social situations drains the shit outta me.

Foobyx · 2018-11-15T07:01:54+00:00

there are girls who don't want to socialize neither. find one and force yourself to game, stating straight that you like to chill, play video game, is more a confy guy than a i go out to bars guy.

brickpicleo · 2018-11-15T14:25:36+00:00

I don't see how going out to a bar or club is fun.... Unless you get REALLY drunk. But some people go just to have a few beers and chat. Fucking boring, I'm sorry.

As someone who doesn't like getting shitfaced but enjoys the latter: It really depends on the people you're with, at least at first. If I'm with people who are passionate about the same things as I am and have a similar sense of humor time really flies. I guess it's important to get comfortable enough around your friends so you stop overthinking every word you say. How you get there? Idk

high as hell making some tunes

Shouldn't be too hard finding musicians who share that passion of yours.

Murfdigidy · 2018-11-15T19:10:53+00:00

I'm gonna be blunt and I don't mean to be offensive but you're self absorbed and selfish. You don't give a fuck about anyone but yourself. A couple things about self esteem, it's only exists if you love yourself and are acceptance of others.

You're so far up your own ass that you think there's no way out or that the way you perceive reality is the way it is. Yes maybe to you it is, but no one else.

Anyway get the fuck out of your own head and open yourself to a whole new world of people and experiences. There's so much to learn thru other people and experiences that being stuck in your basement playing video games will just make you the same boring miserable person you are today.

Change wont happen over night but until you take that first step it won't ever happen.

Need to read books on self esteem and confidence. Also a good book is how to make friends and influence people. Open yourself up to others, you'd be surprised how much people can open your eyes to knew things

dailymanup · 2018-11-21T02:18:20+00:00

If you're bored with life, it's because you're not pushing yourself out of your comfort zone daily. Boredom is caused by no challenges in life. If life doesn't present them, you must create them. Become a more interesting person. Or said differently, find things that you find interesting, even if that means being scared first. Here's an article to help you out.

SmoothPrimal · 2018-11-15T04:51:02+00:00

You are doing it wrong. Fake socializing is wrong because you are not taking risks.

When I talk with people I say risky shit to entertain myself. Socially retarded people can’t do this because they go full retard.

Having a fun social life is being able to ride in the line between what is socially acceptable or not.

I personally like to be very sociable and normal then ask/something that noone would dare to ask someone. I tailor it in a way that you cant determine if its inappropriate or not then I watch people freak the fuck out. People cant handle directness. Then you have to pull back a little bit to keep people from completely freaking out.

You have only scratched the surface. Its not about what you say. Its how you say it. You can say “fuck you” to someone in so many ways.

Aroundwork · 2018-11-15T04:55:54+00:00

no its not, its literally the only point of living at the end of the day

Title	Socializing is boring
Author	tgod1811
Upvotes	21
Comments	21
Date	November 15, 2018 2:13 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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