"Just don't give a fuck."

"Fake it 'till you make it."

"Just do it brah, don't be a pussy."

Confidence. It's what so many seek, so few have, and so many need. It's the number one best way to pickup women. You can look like Brad Pitt, have a gigantic penis, and be swimming in money like Scrooge McDuck

If you're not confident, however, none of this will mean anything.

Let's pull back and talk about what confidence is.

If you want the TL;DR: Confidence is you respecting yourself.

It's that simple. How can you expect anyone to respect you if you don't even respect yourself?

That's what is at the core of confidence. You need to respect yourself to a level that others pick up on this and respect you. That doesn't mean be intimidating and arrogant. It means you need to intrinsically know that you are worth something.

I'll spin this a different way.

What is a social interaction if not a presentation of yourself? How can you properly present a product that you have no confidence in? You can't. Go try to sell someone a sports car without wheels. Exactly. That's what a great person without confidence is. Almost all of the pieces are there, there's totally potential, but the essential piece to allow progress is missing.

See what I'm getting at here?

To have confidence you need to respect yourself.

So why don't do you respect yourself? Are you too skinny? Too fat? Not well-read? You're your own biggest critic and judge. Figure out what you don't like. Fix it. Whether you need to go to a gym, read books, pursue a passion, learn a musical instrument, or anything else, figure out why you don't have confidence.

Now let's talk about generating this confidence. I'll even give you a shortcut

"Just don't give a fuck," is some of the most commonly given advice in regards to getting confidence. I'd argue that that is a result of confidence, not a path to getting there, and instructing someone to do that first is going about it backward. Confident people just don't give a fuck. If you're not confident, it's really hard to just flip that switch and start giving fewer fucks. Rather than saying "just don't give a fuck," you need a reason not to give a fuck. If you're interesting, if you respect yourself, and you demand the respect of your peers through your very presence, you will have confidence.

But let's talk about a shortcut

That's right, there's a shortcut. If you can be interesting and know you're interesting, you can be confident. What makes you interesting? Nothing? Go buy a guitar. Go read a lot about a country and travel there. Go with a buddy and camp out in the woods for a weekend. Have an adventure and a story.

You'll see a lot of posts on here advocating "just have a goal of having fun for the night." More often, my goal in life is "have a great story to tell." See how that changes your life and gives you perspective.

Be interesting. Because you're so damn interesting you'll be confident. Remember how confident the most interesting man in the world is? Be that interesting, if not more.

*This last bit is the most important part. *

What is confidence? A confident person respects himself. That internal confidence is radiated outward, detected by others, who will give this confident person their respect.

How do you get confidence? By knowing you intrinsically have value. Fix your flaws. Become interesting. Have enough life-experiences that you're awesome and you know it.

Good luck. Hopefully this helps.

Guide to confident body language: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/s9y3l/the_definitive_guide_to_body_language/