This might sound ridiculous but. Does anyone else lose confidence as soon as they see attractive women?

Going_to_hell123 · 2022-08-07T23:49:04+00:00

Honestly you gotta force yourself. When I first started, I'd just force my feet to start walking until I was in front of her before I even knew what I was going to say and doing that gives you exactly 2 options:

Start a conversation.
Just stand in front of her and look like a weirdo.

Now, the trick is to always think of them as practice. You're not trying to fuck them, just practice and in fact, what you'll find is that really hot women are actually very friendly. This is because a lot of men, like you, lose confidence, so they actually don't get approached very much. It's all a law of averages, 5/10 girls are way more defensive because they get approached the most, 9/10s are not as frequently approached in real life and so they don't have their guard up, like that. So just force yourself bro, you probably won't bang any of them for a while, but the whole point is to prove to yourself that they're really not the scary creatures you're making them out to be

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-08T01:16:53+00:00

Actually believing that women hold your confidence and self esteem in their hands is what's fucking you up. Until you understand on an emotional level that you are the o key person who can control your confidence and self esteem, you will let other people manipulate you (knowingly or unknowingly). You are abdicating your responsibility and authority to women. They don't have the authority to make you confident and therefore have no responsibility for making you confident. And vice versa (actually authority=responsibility).

So what's the solution? You are both the cause AND the solution of all your problems.

Rich-Anteater-9468 · 2022-08-07T23:38:32+00:00

You would be surprised how many girls don't care about muscle. Guaranteed those guys with jacked arms and legs don't have the confidence to approach because they need to compensate for a lack of confidence. I'm 23 and I approach usually 5-10 women a night at bars on weekends. I go out alone and I don't drink. Just focus on game. I'm a good looking guy but I'm not jacked by any means.

Competitive-Link-912 · 2022-08-08T16:04:38+00:00

Man the only thing I will say in congratulations on starting the journey to understand your value and become confident.

Amping yourself up and then having a crash is part of trial and error. Do not stop, do not be discouraged and it will happen one day. Trust the process.

This is one of the hardest journeys a man can take, but also one of the most rewarding.

kettlebell_workout · 2022-08-07T23:23:54+00:00

Interesting.

For me it is the opposite. The more attractive she is the more pumped I get to approach her.

cadetgusv · 2022-08-08T05:58:18+00:00

I can be painfully shy when not received , I also don't normally introduce myself to a group of women that's begging to get shot down without proper technique. You need to pick a way to be and accept that as your authentic self build from the foundation of your identity. When it comes to women we all want to be accepted, I was a fat kid who eventually became skinny, my confidence went up but I still had no way to know the subtle hints or even the obvious signs a female is into me. In my best shape I looked exactly as I look now I didn't know what I truly looked like in the mirror because I had always had a poor self image, now I know better, I am just out of shape, I know in shape I look the same w/o the gut this helped me to I was successful for being turned down because what I learned creates the system that develops your game.

The one thing you could not tell me about would be what it is to be a woman if a woman told me I wouldn't believe her. The closest example of God is a woman, she brings you into this world. Half of your energy is feminine, she also has masculine in her make up, together we are capable of creating life then know going into these encounters that she holds all your insecurities all of the doubt and fear that needs to be addressed before you meet your eventual connection . The physical plays a role but your mental ability to keep up with her will play a large part in her natural attraction to you.

Treat rejection as a learning process when you find something that works run the same with the next interaction if you see that this technique works again and again then your one step closer adding new information after tested in the field your proven method will soon become three, that's about when you will see the system you create is what they are waiting to hear. You could have had her had you been prepared, it had nothing to do with your looks clothes hair or bulge. You can't build a bridge without becoming an engineer mind the gap buddy b/c your everything else, other guys can not offer what your example provides.

Your specific to her and she created the experience for you not to detract from your character but to provide the resistance needed for your personal journey, you get the valuable feedback through rejection then turn the lesson into the same one on repeat, she's hot, your not, he's won her he must be better than my example. He's got his own challenges even if he's got right stuff, interacting forces growth, fail to grow into your abilities all of what you mentioned I felt the same until my perception shifted opportunities to prove you are worthy of whatever you feel your missing just takes the patience to learn who fits you best

She gave you life, she nurtured your character until you arrived. God is the all encompassing female energy, The many incarnates of her you encounter all exist in your reality simply to guide you to your eventual fulfillment. The Guys you see scoring all the time probably look and felt the same as you at some point, there are some that are gifted , but most likely they have there own set of challenges to accomplish before gaining the knowledge to connect.

A girl who is out of reach may have the most to teach, the guy who pulls her is an example of what's right for her, that does not mean you were wrong, or less than, it means you got what you needed from the encounter. Your either stronger for taking what you can from the experience and applying the intel as a step in the right direction or you can regress to your coping mechanisms, the justifying of your loss, instead look to yourself to justify your not having the experience, know your perfect for the right chick however any female would equally benefit from your connection as you would from what she provides in her example.

Hope that helps, keep practicing, treat any woman as having exactly what you need to hear, take it as constructive forward progress in your dating life. This might help take the pressure off, certainly the expectations, the feeling of defeat that is inevitable idk, we feel defeated or unwanted by default, let the feelings pass. Remember she is you on the inside Your experience regardless of results were created intentionally to guide your journey to the connection that you will make

KindredJars · 2022-08-08T10:29:17+00:00

the reason you lose confidence when you see attractive women is because you have almost no interactions with them and this causes you to place them on a pedestal.

the way to get out of this is to expose yourself to being around and interacting with attractive girls (hotties). So yes... you're going to have to force yourself to just go up to them and talk. after a while, it'll become normal and you won't be phased by their attractiveness.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-08-08T00:33:37+00:00

It’s because deep down you know you not in their league.

Keep self improving.

I mean let’s face it if you were the shit and you knew it. You wouldn’t feel this way.

You have some sort of insecurity. Also stop comparing yourself to others it’s pointless.

Only use comparables as way to see what kind of guy you need to be.

L_CHAPO7 · 2022-08-07T23:23:10+00:00

How old are you ? Focus on getting in shape and get a degree bro, that’s what I’m trying to do instead of making my sole focus on women. At the end of the day there’s so many hot and cute chicks you will find one eventually but if you keep this mind set then in a couple years you will still have nothing to show for. Focus on yourself first then progress to other things.

zapadz · 2022-08-08T02:44:30+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLgMronkOYQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJKiFisdi5g

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yi2k2nvlLwI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw

incognito3107 · 2022-08-08T07:34:24+00:00

You probably keep overestimating them, think that you are not worth of them and they will hardly reject you. Don't be harsh on yourself, you should enjoy your dating adventures, not being forced to win over every girl you gaze upon. Just keep your cool.

Title	This might sound ridiculous but. Does anyone else lose confidence as soon as they see attractive women?
Author	PenguinLegos
Upvotes	14
Comments	20
Date	August 7, 2022 11:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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