Tinder help

nobody2000 · 2017-02-27T19:26:57+00:00

Better photos is #1. Colors. You having fun. You travelling. You doing something funny. No selfies. Nothing unflattering.

Fuck - stage a picture if you have to. Seriously - just make your pictures awesome - you WILL get matches. I am overweight, balding, and probably a solid 5/10 in overall looks, but I was getting 10 matches a day when I was tindering. Out of those, 2 were spam, and 3 were people that upon further investigation, I wasn't interested, and 5 were viable.

Next - and this might not work for you, but it always worked for me when I was sarging, texting, all that - get yourself a bit horny, and start messaging. I would get very bold and sexual without being overtly gross or annoying about it. I'm an introvert and I'm socially awkward. It's why I'm on /r/seduction. However, I've learned to cope and one thing that works for me is to be horny during interactions.

Frequently I'd be asked "What brings you to Tinder?" and I would answer "I hope this doesn't scare you away, but I started a new medication that makes me hypersexual and was bored." This wasn't a lie because I did start taking a medication that did just this. Who cares, though...just lie. I personally really fell in love with this line. It's honest, direct, communicates intent, and isn't the type of thing that is going to get you in trouble.

It worked. Really well. I mean sure, I was unmatched a few times, but definitely less than half the time. Usually we'd meet at a bar, or bowl or something like that, but probably 15-20% of the time, I would flat out be invited over to "cuddle." It was always cuddle.

I would like to emphasize another fact - I swiped left a lot. I wasn't indiscriminately swiping right. I'm sure I would have gotten more matches for girls I didn't want to be with if I just swiped right all the time.

Now "cuddle" is a safe proposition that means "sex if I feel comfortable enough" to a woman, so I understand that it's not a guarantee, but everytime I was invited to cuddle, it ended in more than cuddling.

Now, someone is going to point out the usual things that doubters and keyboard jockeys like to point out here "they were sluts" "they were problematic girls - I don't want that" etc. To that I say "I don't give a fuck. This is Tinder, and I'm using it for its most common use."

saxoriko · 2017-02-27T19:07:41+00:00

"Don't do what everybody else does." Dont start the messaging with hi how are you what do you do. Start with some joke or something that stands out on her profile. Personally i think tinder is a waste of time and just do daygame.

EarthquakeBass · 2017-02-27T18:59:31+00:00

Best way to get more/better matches is better photos, no way around it, Tinder is 95% photos based.

As for messaging, I suggest a few flirty messages followed up by an invitation to a specific activity and time ("Drinks at Paddy's Pub this Thursday?"). Get their number if they're interested. Otherwise they're likely just seeking Internet validation and you should move on.

canadianal12 · 2017-02-27T22:24:34+00:00

One thing that I found that worked for me when it came to messaging, is that I would try to talk to them off of the tinder app ASAP. I would ask for their number, snapchat or IG and just start communicating through there. Once we started snapchatting and liking each others pictures I found it was a lot easier to keep the interest and meet up.

banaszlo · 2017-02-27T22:05:19+00:00

After you read all the above^{^{^{^}}} Test, test and once again test. Use http://strongerpicture.com or any other tools like this.. you'd be surprised how badly people rate their own photos

Jaereth · 2017-02-27T22:45:27+00:00

Tinder is a way for people who already know how to pick up girls and fuck them to "streamline" the process. If you can't hook up easily on your own Tinder isn't going to be like an app that gives pussy to unfuckables.

jwils007 · 2017-02-27T17:55:18+00:00

There's a lot to that topic. Here's my favorite guide to online dating in general:

http://www.christiangreypua.com/basics-of-online-game-part-one/

WerkinAndDerpin · 2017-02-28T01:16:53+00:00

I'm no tinder god but imo it's better to have 1 good picture than 4 mediocre ones. Obviously the more good ones you can make the better though. If you have a dog or kitty I hope to god you are using a picture of you and said furry friend. If not find a cute pup and take a pic with it. It is the ultimate icebreaker in terms of getting women to message you.

Iknowyourusernames · 2017-02-28T04:31:14+00:00

Would guys ever pay for a life coach or dating coach? I don't mean on the scale of these game gurus—similar to a counselor, but a little different.

NoBSSeduce · 2017-02-28T17:30:59+00:00

Dude, Rob Judge, the author of Magnetic Messaging just destroyed this other Dating Coach's Tinder profile 😂

"Dating Coach Critiques Another Dating Coach's Tinder": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WoPzutzcYOM

Aeon199 · 2017-02-28T06:00:59+00:00

I struggle with social anxiety, and so I have stared to use tinder,

Jesus Christ, man. Ironically, you have made the worst decision possible. Social anxiety is ALWAYS tied to low self-esteem, which you may not necessarily be aware of.

Unless you're a 6'2" male model, be prepared to have your self-image obliterated, especially if it was formerly a good one..

Not wise.

Title	Tinder help
Author	thewastelander52
Upvotes	62
Comments	31
Date	February 27, 2017 5:34 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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