Too much kino

CrossEyedPanda · 2012-12-09T02:24:00+00:00

Don't listen to your friends, adjust on how fast you escalate based on how comfortable she is with it.

the_cucumber · 2012-12-09T03:47:54+00:00

pulling them in by the waist

Don't do that if you don't know her. I find it really aggressive and makes me want to get away, stat. Last night someone used that on me to make me dance with him and was actually kind of forceful about it and it freaked me out. If its a girl you already have a rapport with then its sweet, but for a stanger or someone you just met its too strong.

EurekaShriek · 2012-12-09T04:29:55+00:00

That's a really tough question to answer. I'm a female and I used to go out winging with LS instructors. All I can tell you is that it really comes down to what balance of power you've established with the girl. If she is still "suspicious of you", and you haven't made her qualify herself at least a little or been sure to obtain comfort or investment, that could definitely be a game killer. Basically you're gambling on how into you she is at that moment. With high power women, confident, sexy, in control types, you reeeally need to make them work for it or it is going to read as creepy. Once you're past the "attraction" phase though, you should be fine. I think the most effective early move you mentioned is putting HER arms over YOUR shoulders- if she's uncomfortable she's more likely to get out of that position, without it ruining the whole process rather than the hand holding or waist pulling.

I will caveat though that in a dancing/night club situation the boldness of pulling in by the waist can pay off. I find that kind of direct sexual attention hot, but you have to continue to be confident and dominant after that or you'll lose it.

shigerumiyamoto · 2012-12-09T02:30:55+00:00

I mean, if it works it works, but if you're having difficulty picking up women, that might be the problem.

This might sound weird, but when I meet a guy and he's initially putting his arm over my shoulders / holds my hand, I usually assume he's gay... in my experience mostly gay guys go for that kind of physical intimacy so quickly (as opposed to hand on the small of the back, touching shoulder, etc). So that may have an effect? I don't know.

budguy68 · 2012-12-09T04:48:10+00:00

I think I have the same problem sometimes. Sometimes I come of as a sexual hispanic who just wants to fuck lol. So I'd had to tone it down a little and be more humble and shit.

I've learned to make it look more natural by kinoing everyone a little. I know that sounds weird but its ok to shake everyone's hand or whatever the fuck.

Also I don't break state if I make someone uncomfortable. Like one time I grad a girls ass by accident. She said "well you can hug me as long as you don't grab my ass..." (everyone was looking at me now) Me: "ohh sorry LOL!" (I hugged her the right way this time).

Just step back laugh it off and continue doing your shit. Also don't do static kino. Example dont put your hand on her back and leave it there for 5 mins. move more and always go 1 step forward and 2 steps back. Dont try to seduce when kinoing. Do it because you want to touch her and not because you want to get her horny. Try petting too. Especially the pretty ones. You are touching them for your pleasure and not hers.

seedit · 2012-12-09T02:39:06+00:00

I kino too much after a makeout, which probably comes off as a little AFC.

Leading up to it however, I think I've got that pretty well nailed. I just stay too handsy for too long afterwards when I should break off and make her chase once my intentions are out there.

MyThrowawaySeddit · 2012-12-09T05:57:20+00:00

Warning: some kino implies "I want to be your boyfriend". You need to figure out the difference between holding hands like a needy boyfriend and holding hand like a dude with a hottie at his side. It's subtle, and it takes practice.

So in other words: keep pushing your boundaries and you'll eventually learn where they should be.

19061 · 2012-12-09T12:19:20+00:00

There are few great advices here, I think you can work with just those... I use kino to control the girl, I read what she tells me trough her response and always build it up or take a bit down and build again. As EurekaShriek said "I think the most effective early move you mentioned is putting HER arms over YOUR shoulders- if she's uncomfortable she's more likely to get out of that position, without it ruining the whole process rather than the hand holding or waist pulling." And as she said early move.. Kino is to build something, like bounce, kiss close, f-close, and you can also kino guys in bigger sets to win them over. Only way to kino too fast is not to understand what the target is saying with her body.

I think you know your kino, but what comes to speed, for me I calibrate my kino to sarge/game night like this: On your way to meeting point, like a pub at 8pm, I drop by in a bar next to it, or subway etc and open sets that I have no interest to close (HB6-8) In this set/sets I build kino as fast as I can, bold moves just to set yourself on the alfa mode. It usually gets pretty weird, but for some reason it works for me. Then I leave the set to my friends in place next to it. Clean table to start gaming and now I'm hungry...

GochuGopikachu · 2012-12-09T14:16:19+00:00

The trick is to define yourself as a touchy person

Dexter77 · 2012-12-09T09:53:13+00:00

There's a difference between kino and an intimate touch. You can't do the latter before the girl feels safe with you.

Title	Too much kino
Author	touchtoomuch12
Upvotes	30
Comments	24
Date	December 9, 2012 1:52 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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