Turn-ons for men

sniggyfriggy · 2021-10-25T11:01:53+00:00

Being direct, knowing what you want, expressing clear interest, treat us like a king sometimes...meaning don't be afraid to meet us halfway in mutual attraction rather than just passively being chased. If we do something that turns you on, say so.

alexminne · 2021-10-25T13:29:31+00:00

Honestly, asking “How was your day?” goes a long way.

Most men are actually giant teddy bears and we appreciate when someone cares about how we feel.

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-10-25T13:58:04+00:00

Clear, direct interest. No drama, games, or shit tests. Being direct in what you want or need in a relationship, not expecting us to "take a hint" or "figure it out". Having character. Like being someone he can trust and having integrity and loyalty. And for a lot of men just being a person they could see having a future with.

Oh, and game very much matters and applies to women too. I know several that have expressed interest in me but really suck at the "game" part. A big thing I see is flaky mixed signals "interest".

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-25T11:43:06+00:00

Be charming, interesting, seductive. Be open to doing stuff and don't be difficult. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a difficult self absorbed woman.

HappinesSource · 2021-10-25T19:04:04+00:00

It all comes down to being natural, instead of this two-faced approach that is so typical from women who fear their ego being hurt. Also try to use sense of humor and show interest when I'm trying to bear the conversation to deeper topics.

In bed, make me feel desired with eye contact and let me lead. However this last part is not universal, not all men like their women submissive in bed.

ODOKADOI · 2021-10-25T20:21:51+00:00

Be attractive and don’t be unattractive, but I’ll be more specific;

Have interests, make sure you’re passionate about something yourself
Be able to hold conversations and if the guy is struggling at the start, lead for that tiny moment
Make it a little more obvious for us that you like us
Be feminine

When it comes to approaching, probably just give some form of more obvious hint, instead of just looking at us or dancing near us without interacting, thinking that’s enough for all, for me that would get both of us no where lol, but that’s probably a me thing.

About conversations - I personally struggle with ice breaking and getting to meet new people, I can’t move out of the generic ‘tense’ conversations at the start, so any advice on that would be great too

norwegiandoggo · 2021-10-25T11:01:39+00:00

The most attractive qualities for me are mental and physical health. A happy woman is hotter than a depressed woman. Being overweight or obese is the worst. As for how to be approached, I like it when a girl gives me indirect signals of interest and let's me lead the interaction. Texting: Text at the same frequency / speed as I do. As for the bedroom, I have this amazing trick that my first girlfriend used to make me fall in love with her.

Night; No sex, just making out.
Night: kick ass blow job for the guy only. Refuse to do anything else sexually.
Full on sex

I swear, the effect this had on me blew my heart to bits. Instantly in love after the third night. Stood out from any other woman by doing such a selfless, caring, sexy thing.

truthbomb999 · 2021-10-25T22:44:36+00:00

Turn-ons for men

Dont be fat, be nice to be around and have something interesting to talk about

KrabWidThaD · 2021-10-25T17:31:06+00:00

Uh, not really related to the topic, but if you really trying so hard, I might just as well add. Sometimes your efforts will not be appreciated, and there will be choices you make that you regret later on. Don't dwell on them too much and move on w life 😄

Sincerely, Chad 🤡

ooogabooogaboooga23 · 2021-10-25T21:07:37+00:00

You want game, any kind of physical touch and you’re in

ooogabooogaboooga23 · 2021-10-25T21:08:22+00:00

For date ideas anything sport related or a nice meal out, doesn’t have to be too crazy

sneakyjager · 2021-10-25T23:19:02+00:00

Stop trolling

shawnml9 · 2021-10-26T00:23:17+00:00

Following

YoDaddy1069 · 2021-10-26T01:34:18+00:00

Approach and texting etiquette- anyway works. Just you putting even an ounce of effort to show you’re interested in me goes a long way

Foreplay- I love making out and giving love bites

Date ideas- it’s Halloween and I’m taking a girl to a haunted house. Gonna try to be brave

Bedroom- snooze

Jdaddyk07 · 2021-10-26T07:42:22+00:00

We like to be approached...

Same thing goes as approaching women. You'll always have better luck if you are direct. To be frank most men can't read a woman signals and right now there is a lot of taboo surrounding men. Half of us are scared to pursue anyone because we are scared of being called a "rapist".

Here's some sexual tension advice. I wrote this from a guys perspective but just change (girl) to (guy).

I love this one. So, I'm assuming you are already seeing a girl. This IS NOT an early stage technique. It's meant to continue to escalate the relationship but will not work until a rapport is established and there is sexual interest from both people.

Take innocent things she says and repeat them to her in a very sexual way.

For example:

She says: "ugh I have to fold laundry today."

You say: "I'd fold your laundry so hard" **Look into her eyes and look her up and down**

Now all you said is "I'd fold your laundry so hard" but, by adding holding eye contact and checking her out, what she heard is "I'd f*** you so hard"

The first few times you do this, do it when you are in private. Then, once you establish this as a game you can start doing it in public. I have had more fun with this at family gatherings. You tone down the sexual ness a little bit of course, but if you've done a good job in equating the phrase to sexuality you can have a lot of fun.

Let's say your at thanksgiving with her family and she asks you to pass the turkey. You can look her in the eye and playfully say, "I'll pass you this turkey so good" and give her a little eye contact. If you have a good sexual relationship she will start to get flustered in front of her family.

Arif_Xawad · 2021-10-26T10:12:03+00:00

Communicate properly. Don't take us for telepathic creatures lol

MOProG2 · 2021-10-26T11:40:36+00:00

Treat him like a king. Cook for him. Ask him what clothes he likes to see on you and listen closely and do that. Cuddle up to him. Give him his space to do guys stuff. And generally be his secretary and not a headache. But if he's not into you it will be very obvious. As men we are kind of always thinking about sex. If your presence isn't doing it for him thats a cause for concern (as men love variety of women and the same woman will get boring after a while) and time to start looking for a new guy.

humptyone · 2021-10-26T12:44:39+00:00

Easiest way to my heart is zero drama Some cant be avoided. No games either. I'll tell you I love you and mean it.

Puzzleheaded_Tea_17 · 2021-10-27T20:34:27+00:00

How to approach: smile a lot. Be friendly. Be obvious.

Texting etiquette: don't overthink, overanalyze, or question why it took him 5 hours to respond. It's not a plot or a game or whatever the heck you're thinking. Don't be a psycho.

Foreplay: it's mostly for you. (Except for BJ's), women need a head start in order to arrive at the same time.

Date ideas: not a movie (not in the first few dates anyway). Not a loud club where you couldn't talk. Dates where you're actively performing an activity work best.

Title	Turn-ons for men
Author	bluebird-123
Upvotes	18
Comments	25
Date	October 25, 2021 10:35 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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