Was talking to a chick online then she ghosted when I told her my height, how do y’all deal with being ghosted especially when you’re having a very bad month?

DaygameCode · 2024-03-02T23:44:48+00:00

Don’t attach your sense of self-worth to your results in dating. Learn to detach yourself from the outcome of the interaction. Stop trying to get women to validate you, and instead validate yourself for trying and getting experience. and use the experiences of your interactions to self-reflect and learn from them.

Mysterious_Pickle_78 · 2024-03-03T00:15:24+00:00

Just move on. How can you let a superficial dumbass chick ruin your whole day? Did you just hand your happiness to that girl?

ROBYoutube · 2024-03-02T23:19:57+00:00

Yeah I don't know man usually I'm happy when I find out someone is extremely superficial so I can stop wasting my time with them. If you're sad that you are no longer wasting your time with one of the most superficial people on earth, I don't know how I can help.

CheJunSev · 2024-03-02T23:24:59+00:00

Just keep going. You're advancing a skill. When I was learning day game cold approach, I distinctly recall I had an entire month where I was performing poorly.

As with any skill, you regress to a prior level before increasing to a new baseline and the process repeats itself. It was no different with pickup artistry. If I had to list the #1 thing I hated about learning pickup, it’s regression. It’s the feeling of advancing so far, watching your skillset skyrocket and thinking it will go on forever. Before all of a sudden, you feel like a retard, you lost the golden mouthpiece, and you’re making rookie mistakes you inherently KNOW to avoid.

And then… a few weeks later, you’re back at your old self, but slightly better; however, you don’t see major breakthroughs compared to when you first started and may overlook your small – but stacking – improvements.

atomant88 · 2024-03-03T02:08:26+00:00

she just saved you from wasting additional time on someone it was never gonna work out with. thats a blessing. your time is valuable. seduction is all about efficiency, playing the numbers game. how do you 'deal'? move on, keep making approaches. rejection is part of the process. if your height is an issue make sure you mention it ASAP to keep people from wasting your time.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-03-03T02:31:10+00:00

I got ghosted or stood up by 4 women during February and I haven't fumbled like that in years. And Not much else went well. I got over it by using prior leads to generate more options for myself, not just for women but for money. Screw healing, I'm using my pain as fuel. Time to heal or deal is time that you are thinking and not doing.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-03T00:15:52+00:00

Well, you need to change your approach and perspective. If you talk to women because you are desperate for sex and you are trying to get them to like you, you will be crushed every time some chick decides to ghost because of your height, race, the way you dress, the team you support, or whatever other arbitrary reason they come up with.

However, if your primary goal is your enjoyment and your happiness, anyone who is a bad fit, rude, has unreasonable expectations, they won't be a good fit for you, so in a way you are lucky they showed their cards soon. See, right now you are making women the choosers. Trying to bend yourself over to meet their standards and requirements. Why don't you try the other way? Why don't you decide what you want, what you will accept and won't accept and filter women for that? Make them bend themselves over to meet your standards?

_ALUCARD_- · 2024-03-03T02:08:58+00:00

Easy just go and talk to other girls If she didn't listen to you and left, then it's her loss. You are the most important person in the relationship, write that in your head.What women are looking for is attention, don't be another millionaire and leave She expects to see you there like a dog after its meal That's what wants you to be mortified just keep going If she writes to you, don't respond. That's what she wants to be available when she needs you, but why wasn't she available when you needed her?Understand what I say?

rjones416 · 2024-03-03T06:19:41+00:00

You already know the answer. Forget her and find another chick.

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-03-03T15:12:37+00:00

You get over getting ghosted by developing abundance. An abundance mindset is developed by internalizing the idea that no matter what happens with any woman you are dating, that you will be able to attract one of equal or higher quality. This can be ensured by your continuous self improvement and development.

So, continue developing yourself as a man and you will without a doubt have more access to more women. Increase your income, looks, physique, social skills, and game. Do this and you will not care about getting ghosted because you will know that you are capable of dating other women;

This article details how to develop yourself as a man so you have more dating options: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-attract-high-quality-women?r=31tj3q&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

This article details how to develop an abundance mindset: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/why-men-should-date-multiple-women?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

yourcousinrafa · 2024-03-03T04:43:07+00:00

First, you don't really know if that's the reason. She could be dead for all you know or she was actually a dude in Nigeria. If you start reacting to the internet where nothing is real and everything is fake then you're in deep trouble.

If you're short or really short you're gonna have need to compensate that with other things and that's just a fact. That's why lots of comedians are not good looking (they grew up compensating into something positive (humor).

Also, the heigh issue seems to matter to you a lot more than anyone else.

The only problem you face being too short or too tall or too skinny or too whatever, is the initial interaction. After that nothing matters except the person you are on the inside.

My advice: find ways to address the height issue before anything else...a clever and witty way to address your shorter height in a funny, witty, maybe self deprecating way. I am sure there's a ton of things you can think of to spin that into something positive, funny and different. This can set you apart from others quickly.

So once that's addressed and done with, the rest is all about who you are. Sure you can try platform shoes or gadget or surgery if that exists but that won't force you to be the best person you can be from the inside.

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