I have now had 3 different women tell me I gave off a "friend vibe" after a date. I just got out of a 6 yr relationship and this never happened to me before so clearly something in my approach is off. One of the three women was a phone date where we didn't even meet in person and she was in Boston and I am in CA (I accidentally had the wrong location settings on my app for that one but usually I do not match with ppl that far), one was a date for drinks and one was a date for dinner. I think the phone date getting the same feedback might indicate that its its not something about the conversation and the personality that I am showing and not my looks or dress style. I'm tall, thin, and above average looking and I dress pretty well. During dates, I tend to joke around, make fun of the woman in a light hearted way, and can be a bit goofy but I do not believe I overdo this or anything.

I think it is clear that something in my approach is off. In 10 years of dating before my relationship, I never was told this about "friend vibe" and I had a lot of girlfriends and I am not socially awkward or anything. I also don't talk about my ex in the dates and I don't think I am doing anything blatantly to create friend vibes.