What are your best tips for getting HER to pick you up?

Weaponized_Dairy · 2010-10-21T14:04:09+00:00

Girl on girl seduction dynamics seem like such an alien concept to me. Because girls don't approach with any consistent regularity in the dating market place.

Here at seddit we know this as truth, or at the very least operate as though it is. Because we have so many guys with social issues its a good way for them to understand that waiting for a woman to pick them up is a losing proposition.

We offer insight to inner game and demonstrating value. But ultimately every guy that walks into seddit understands and eventually overcomes his fear of approaching.

If your willing to approach the girl, establish a comfortable frame of fun interaction and DHV, then at that point you should have her interested in further interaction with you. From that point its push and pull game until someone makes a sexual move (generally the man).

But there is no one trick for getting another person to jump you simply based on how you look, move or dress. All of those things help, but do not outright MAKE her pick you up.

philosarapter · 2010-10-21T14:12:07+00:00

Hi again, redditor76846 (or something like that).

Getting her to pick you up requires high status and being a legend. The few times it has happened to me it was very particular circumstances in a perfect environment.

Here's how it worked for me: I used to throw massive parties, upwards of 80+ people in a house, kegs galore, and when I get drunk I do crazy things, make girls take off their clothes, invent random games, run around naked, beat up the scummy drunks, have people carry me around like a king, and genuinely make sure everyone is having the best times of their lives.

This went on for a while and so the stories of me and my exploits became the talk of everyone. Eventually it got to the point where I would have my parties as usual and just have fun, and women would hear about me, and people would point me out, and the girls would come up and be like "omg so you're the philosorapter i've been hearing so much about!? is the story about ___________ true?"

From there I'd go on and retell the story and tell her she could help me in attending to my guests, where I'd make her show off her tits to other people, thus earning me more high fives from people and generate the legend some more. Then eventually, due to sheer status, she'd sleep with me.

Not sure how much this helps, but be responsible for awesomeness and fun, let people retell that story and eventually women will sleep with you out of pure fame. If you also have really good wingmen, they can go out and start talking about how amazing you are and how much they look up to you, etc etc. Then make your appearance a little bit later and have everyone throw up their hands in the air and yell your name.

That's my approach anyway.

2010-10-21T20:53:44+00:00

Much of what is taught in PUA is how to approach anyone and start a conversation. Next, recognize chemistry when it is there. All that's left is to escalate physically.

You don't have to try and pick up every girl you see, but do try to make friends with everyone around you. This is generally a good way to have an awesome life. Girls will be attracted to that fact...

You'll be chin-deep in muff in no time.

ArMcK · 2010-10-21T21:17:25+00:00

Be hot.

Be confident.

Be friendly and charming.

Be just enough approachable.

Think about the way conversations work, and like chess, always be a few moves ahead. Break the conversation while in an upswing, i.e. when you're all "wow, I don't want this conversation to ever end!" that is exactly when you should do it, because she's feeling the same and when you leave the convo you'll leave her wanting more. You cannot be pursued if there's no room to pursue, so you stop that convo and go say hi to a friend, or get a drink, or something like that. She'll come sniffin' around. When she's all "O god, I've had so much fun talking to you. . ." you can be all "Yeah, I know! Don't you think it'd be great to hang out? (she nods) How can we do that?" to which she'll say "Oh, let me get you my number. . ." She think's she's seducing you at this point.

Delightful_White · 2010-10-21T20:15:58+00:00

I don't get how women can have sex with each other. Unless they just... like... [locks fingers together] scissor... or something.

philoponeria · 2010-10-21T14:13:11+00:00

I've been told that Old Spice when worn by a woman is like Crack to lesbians. Can you confirm or deny?

MothershipConnection · 2010-10-21T18:00:26+00:00

My experience with this is that it's all about value. Think of anyone you don't know who you'd like to hang out with. I'm not really amazed by celebrity and I'm not a celebrity chaser, but man it would be really cool to play basketball with Michael Jordan or jam with Jon Brion. Sure, there's a lot of people I'd like to play basketball or make music with and have a great time, but they're the only ones who can do it the way they do. They offer something other people can't.

So I agree and disagree with philosarapter's post, you definitely should be your own little star, but I don't necessarily think you need to be the whole life of the party for it to work (though it doesn't hurt). I've definitely been blatantly tried to picked up before, but I also know I'm definitely not for everyone. I mean, I'm 5-8, skinny, Asian, and dress like a preppy hipster... those looking for tall All-American types or tatted up gangstas need not apply. But there's a niche. I remember one time getting blatantly picked up (I think I've told this story here before) by a girl at a goth party, when I walked in with my buddy (tall older white guy), dressed conspicuously non-gothy (not black, but scarves and sweaters!) cause we were out somewhere else before, and being almost immediately jumped on by some girl, probably because I did stood out so much but didn't seem completely out of place (cause I do like some goth music).

There's also been times when it's backfired, where a rugby looking chick has tried to make me their cute Asian boytoy and I definitely did not want... definitely hadn't to reject and escape like that in past lives!

In short, I'd probably say

1) Be the type of person people want to be with, however this applies to you. I'd say this is the real basis to any sort of romantic success, actually.

2) Be seen. No one will pick you up if they never see you around.

3) Being unique helps a lot. People like rare things. No one wants a zebra if everyone is a zebra, but if you're the only zebra in the zoo, everyone wants a part of you.

themysteriousfuture · 2010-10-22T00:42:35+00:00

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Title	What are your best tips for getting HER to pick you up?
Author	LesbianPUA
Upvotes	9
Comments	23
Date	October 21, 2010 12:13 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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