What did I do wrong?

pearlofwine · 2021-09-04T09:38:33+00:00

How should any of us know ? We're just as confused as you - there was very little detail to go on in your post you certainly didn't do anything awful maybe she is into you but for whatever her personal reasons she can't be in a relationship rn.

If you're confused ask her why and respect her decision, tell her how you feel, ask how she feels and respect her decision in the end. Goodluck

axe122 · 2021-09-04T11:32:28+00:00

You acted like a friend and only a friend so that’s what she sees you as. Maybe she woulda rejected a kiss when she was in bed with you but chances are she wanted you to make a move on her. At the 16 you may have not got passed making out with her but it’s more about the direction things are moving than wether you went all the way or not. Also to nice

Mog_Melm · 2021-09-04T15:17:06+00:00

If you're really not looking for a relationship because you don't want to deal with all that right now, and an attractive woman crawls into bed with you and wants to bone... would you tell her that you're not ready for a relationship right now and to go home?

Shoulda' put the moves on her. It sounds like you got every IOI. What are you waiting for, a signed invitation?

Don't worry about it. You're young yet. When I was 19, I slept over at my first girlfriend's house... twice... before kissing her. After a certain point, she decided I wasn't getting the message and SHE kissed ME. Then a light bulb went off and I realized, "oh, I can escalate physically." It happens.

Yourslimtwink · 2021-09-04T10:43:08+00:00

Maybe she was nervous or something, but I’d encourage you not to message her. You don’t want to come across as needy. If she doesn’t message, let it end. If she does, you need to set your boundaries and be honest with her that you won’t tolerate stuff like that anymore. If she takes it badly, she’s not the one for you.

Pure_Bicycle5145 · 2021-09-04T09:44:10+00:00

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michelle961 · 2021-09-04T12:03:29+00:00

You acted like a friend, so you're friend zoned. The next time you see her, touch her arms, or hold her hands. If the response is good, then escalate. I think you stand a good chance. Just respect her wishes if she specifically asks you not to do something.

axe122 · 2021-09-04T13:07:48+00:00

You were also probably over complimenting her, being to nice and showing to much interest to fast

Little_wait-2 · 2021-09-04T13:41:28+00:00

2 Possibilities:*

She see you as a friend from a very long time and you did not realised
She expect you to make a move, and so she now thinks you are not interested

vinylpush · 2021-09-04T14:25:29+00:00

Here’s my best guess: either she thinks you’re a pussy because you didn’t escalate it further, so her attraction dropped, or she felt rejected and now she’s the one rejecting you to save her ego.

xavierthepotato · 2021-09-05T01:15:39+00:00

Sounds like you acted like a friend and didn't really make your intentions known. Tension is key 🗝️

jiva_maya · 2021-09-05T09:51:13+00:00

just hang out with her dude and try to get a better sense of the moment to go for it. If the moment doesn't come it doesn't come

Pure_Bicycle5145 · 2021-09-04T11:05:44+00:00

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Imreallytired2301 · 2021-09-05T01:16:56+00:00

You did nothing wrong Accept it, she's confused but let her know within 3 days that you actually had feelings for her that way you still become an option if she decides to go in a relationship

2021-09-05T02:21:18+00:00

Am I the only one who thinks 16 is too early to have sex??? I think you did nothing wrong. Either she WANTED to have sex, or she purely sees you as a friend, OR for whatever reason, she can't date anyone right now - which is weird, cause why have a guy over in your room like that if you CAN'T date? Whatever the reason, I think she made it clear that she does NOT want to go further with you. So yes, you're in the friendzone. But in saying that, there are also other girls who are probably more suited for you too.

Prestigious_Pause_45 · 2021-09-05T06:16:23+00:00

Just be supportive man. Ask her about what she feels or what she's thinking and just listen to her. Like you said, you have nothing to lose, so show her you are a decent human being and just be supportive. You'll benefit from that experience far more.

Title	What did I do wrong?
Author	Pure_Bicycle5145
Upvotes	5
Comments	37
Date	September 4, 2021 9:31 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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