What do you think about acting "alpha" versus just acting yourself?

puaCurveBall · 2013-06-27T23:19:03+00:00

Confidence, non-neediness, being a leader, abundance mentalist, etc are all great qualities.

If you don't have them, strive for them.

In the meantime, fake it till you make it.

I don't act alpha, I AM alpha.

You can be the same.

Kitad · 2013-06-27T23:30:36+00:00

Become the alpha, make it your natural state

coolcoolthetank · 2013-06-27T23:34:20+00:00

I agree 100% with skcin7,to me being alpha is being comfortable in your own skin and not allowing others around you to cause you to falter in your own confidence or self-beliefs. For example, if your comfortable with the man you are, and actually like yourself you wouldn't be the AFC and tell yourself that some girl is too hot for you to approach.

Honestly I'm glad this question was posted because this is something that I've recently been thinking about since I started watching links that are posted on PUA in action videos. If acting like the center of attention and being "extra" works for those guys then great. But I believe there is an alpha version of every guy out there and we just need to find it within ourselves, no two men are the same exact alpha's.

CoolLordL21 · 2013-06-28T00:22:19+00:00

They should be one and the same.

notaveryoriginalname · 2013-06-28T00:49:53+00:00

What is your self? Personality is contained within your brain. The brain has been identified as being "plastic." Easily changeable. Personality is malleable. Repeating what puaCurveBall basically said, adopt what characteristics you think would make you a happier person. Fake them until they become you.

That being said, don't change things you're happy with if you don't want to. I, for one, have no desire to go from being a light introvert/ambivert to an extrovert, but I don't think it's IMPOSSIBLE to do so.

kazagistar · 2013-06-28T01:26:08+00:00

Are you the same person you have always been? I know I am not, and thank god!

Do you like everything about yourself? No? Then change things, and become someone better. Become someone more awesome.

Here is a hint: no matter how you act, you are always acting like yourself. You can't do anything you wouldn't do. The lie of the "true self" is absurd when you look at it. Maybe my true self was a person who acted and felt weak and beta. Maybe my true self then became a person who acted alpha but felt like he was faking it. Maybe I then became a person who truly felt comfortable acting the role of the leader. At each point, I was still myself.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-06-28T02:16:30+00:00

It seems like you are pushing a point of view, rather than asking for other peoples' point of view.

Perhaps you could phrase that in a way that is just a question, not a leading question.

SexyMetalhead · 2013-06-28T19:30:52+00:00

I like a quote that I got from Sasha Daygame - "Become your best self". Being alpha and being yourself aren't mutually exclusive. You have to find the "alpha" that works best for you.

Confident_Me · 2013-06-29T16:17:43+00:00

Just be yourself. You can want to be more confident and carry certain qualities that will improve yourself. People who act "alpha" usually come off on the arrogant side of things. Be comfortable as yourself and your confidence will shine through. I also know some people though who are waaay to comfortable being themselves and its ugly.

skcin7 · 2013-06-27T23:23:05+00:00

I think that to truly be "alpha" means that you are being yourself. If you are just acting "alpha" then you're not actually alpha but you'll sure fool everyone around you if done right. To truly be "alpha" means you've worked on self-improvement enough that you don't need to think about what or how to act, you're making your own decisions and leading your social groups, or perhaps letting other people lead when the time is right, and providing fun for everyone.

Title	What do you think about acting "alpha" versus just acting yourself?
Author	Okmanl
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	June 27, 2013 11:17 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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