Hey. This is probably a vent post, but I'll go ahead. I am 28 and have always been an AFC.

I made several attempts with on-line hookup such as Tinder, Bandoo, etc. over the past couple of years. The problem is that no matter what kind of photos I upload, or what I write, I always get almost zero matches/replies/etc. I press like in almost 80% of girls, or even more, but the best I could do is about 1 match per week while I am heavily active every day. And that match is probably just spamm account, or is really boring, or does not talk at all. That is why I consider my success very very close to zero.

I have read several people here and there say "I made a profile on Tinder to just verify that I am not ugly, and I am not cause I get several matches". As you understand, this demolishes my self-esteem. I don't consider myself above average looking in any way, but I have taken big steps to improve myself in several ways in the past couple of years (working out, eating healthy, got a dream job, moved to my own apartment, got a car, started hobbies, etc. I know that it does not sound very spectacular, but I am not from the USA, and these things are quite rare in my country so not many people have them). Yes, I am still short and thin with a receding hairline, but I can't even convey my good (or bad) qualities if I can't get girls to talk? I have encountered this pattern on real-life encounters as well. Girls in real life might talk a bit more (cause it is not very polite to not talk to me when I am standing in front of you, right?), but they never open up or "click" emotionally.

So the question is, what can I do to boost my confidence again? What does it really mean to have zero feedback from the online dating world? How should that affect me and how do I tune my perspective to the game?