What if it's the opposite?

Imyourdad101 · 2021-02-13T10:34:59+00:00

You let them know you have things to do, business to take care of and when you have free time, you date some of them to see what is going on.

It's really not that complicated.

iron_ee · 2021-02-13T11:53:29+00:00

Any man, as the way you described, does not think about any of the questions you asked.

It's normal for him.

LucasWesf00 · 2021-02-13T14:05:41+00:00

I just ghost them or give one word responses. No testing needed. Women do the same, it’s just men see it as a test rather than a subtle rejection (which is what it is).

FrostyChampionship95 · 2021-02-13T14:33:15+00:00

I'm in this situation.

You just ignore them and ghost them. One of the other commenters said it's better to politely reject them, and I agree, but it's just too mentally exhausting to do that to all the girls. Seriously. It's mentally exhausting to even keep track of them and keep them straight. Even the hot ones, because to tell you the truth, there are a LOT of hot girls out there.

I remember one of my first GFs after I became good at PUA, who was a Playboy model. She said "there are so many attractive men to choose from, it's exhausting deciding." I thought it was a strange thing to say, but now I understand. Good looking girls have so many guys after them that it's not just that you have to be attractive/confident. You have to have the right timing, the brief period when her window is open. And you need to be lucky. Often those types of girls want to try something new. Maybe she's had couple of BFs who are surfer dudes and you happen to be a VC. Maybe she's dated a lot of rich guys and you're an artist.

For attractive girls and guys, if you ghost one of the hot ones, it doesn't matter because another will take his/her place soon. As they say, there's another bus in 5 minutes.

The problem is that more you ignore them, more interested they become. Then you have to block them.

As to your other question, men don't shit test women.

Women shit test men to determine how attractive they are. What I mean is, they do it to test how confident the guy is, which is the primary driver for attractiveness. A guy who's hot but is mentally weak and crumples at shit tests, women have no need for guys like that.

We don't need to shit test women to see if they're attractive because appearance is the primary driver of attractiveness for women.

Golilizzy · 2021-02-13T12:43:51+00:00

I actually have the privilege of living a version of this life and frankly it’s exhausting. I hate having to come up with ways to end convos I didn’t want to start. I usually just end up ghosting them. And no I don’t test people, that’s just fucking Wierd and honeslty pretty narcissistic

Gh3tt0-Sn4k3 · 2021-02-13T11:29:06+00:00

I'm not sure what do you mean with test, what kind of test are we speaking about? :/

revente · 2021-02-13T11:50:55+00:00

What’s the point of this question? Are you in that situation?

Anonymously-Existing · 2021-02-13T14:43:42+00:00

I myself don't have a job so I don't care if the person I'm dating doesn't but let's say I do. However if our relationship gets more serious to the point where we want to financially support each other then they are going to need to get a job because I'm not gonna be the only one paying for us. So long as they show me that they are trying to get a job I'm fine with it. Getting a job is way harder them it used to be so I'm understanding, so long as you have ambition and show your efforts I'll be there to support them every step of the way.

veeeerain · 2021-02-13T15:52:44+00:00

Women play tests cause they are emotionally driven, men are not. To do such Mind games as a man is only playing into their “game”. Just be yourself, put yourself first, and quite frankly just be an adult, tell her what it is and how it is, and I’m sure she is understanding.

I think it’s crazy in today’s world that people in this world are too scared in this world to confront a person and tell them when they are not interested, what the other person is doing that is making you uncomfortable, etc. no need to play shit tests and ghost if people in this world were upfront and honest. Makes it easier for both parties.

If your being bombarded with messages, or ur doing something and u just want alone time, SAY IT.

MrINTJ22 · 2021-02-13T16:37:04+00:00

Easy no, if she doesn't have her own life, she won't last in mine anyway. I hate to babysit anybody

2021-02-13T13:57:29+00:00

Pick the ones you want to date and continue with them. Politely decline the rest, or ghost them, both works.

Basically act the same way that women do to men.

ClassikW · 2021-02-13T14:29:47+00:00

I am normally are straight up to them if I don't like them. Problem solved. Women are not used to rejection like we are.

Ierax29 · 2021-02-13T14:55:16+00:00

You basically treat them like the guys, you reply if you feel like it

Thesinglemother · 2021-02-13T15:31:06+00:00

You manage by first get to a number your comfortable with. Second you be kind and let them know if you hadnt answered back, you will as soon as you can. Then third you start to read and or ask simple questions to get a jest of who is who. When you talk to those who you feel meet your standards are comfortable relaxed people, you start to video date on your spare time. Men never need to test us. Look, men have all kinds of intentions. Lets be clear we dont think of sex and the next one the same. So we test what we can, but i dont encourage it. It makes no sense. Either a women can have her focus on what she wants and needs and sees that or doesnt. If she test anything id be concerned that maybe she doesnt know what she wants. So im very opposed to that non sense. As for the whole job thing, im a single mom full time student and I dont work. That being said I do have my own car, zero debt whats so ever and i dont burden others with my finances(but family)! So understand the difference not having a job is okay. Having a life goal and ambition and going somewhere is even better. Not asking/ needing someone else income to support my own is well... independence. The more a women can have her own the more peace of mind you get. So understand what your looking for, a needie women(which some men love) or a independent one. Youll when they start to ask for money which is which. Good luck.

SperaticTTV · 2021-02-13T19:58:08+00:00

Show interest back, get her in bed, the end, very easy when she initiates. Women will almost always initiate by telling you when they are free, when they have their next day off, etc. Take advantage of it, because she might lose interest in you unless you know how to play the long game.

BackwardsHouse78 · 2021-02-13T20:18:13+00:00

As someone who wants a serious lifelong relationship I would: sort out who initially seems interesting and attractive, talk to them, get to know them, find the ones that I actually like, ask to meet (not a date), see how interacting with them goes, keep in contact with the best potential people, repeat interactions until I’ve decided on one person, ask them on a date, if all goes well I further my investment of that person.

No, I would not accept a woman who doesn’t have a job.

Standards? Well, I need to see these five qualities.

Accountability
Responsibility
Honesty
Trustworthiness
Loyalty

adsq93 · 2021-02-13T20:30:44+00:00

Honestly I don’t mind them not having a job nor living with their parents. As long as they are still doing something for their future then its all good. Also, as long as she isn’t using me too.

mastercoach100 · 2021-02-14T03:52:32+00:00

Find out who is ready to seal the deal NOW!
Then make your choice of who to score with. Pull the trigger!
Do not waste time thinking about it before you know who is ready to go NOW!
DO NOT WASTE TIME ON C**K TEASERS. YOU CAN ALWAYS ASK THEM AGAIN LATER!

Title	What if it's the opposite?
Author	FalconVita
Upvotes	148
Comments	45
Date	February 13, 2021 9:11 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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