What was your worst experience in cold approach

GodsGunman · 2020-10-24T14:57:54+00:00

Not a cold approach, but once when I tried talking to a girl at a club that was with her friend, she started half laughing half saying "no no no no no", using the cut signal where you put your hand up to your throat. I may have walked straight out of that club lol

kjpowers · 2020-10-24T16:48:14+00:00

it's never THAT bad here in the UK. 90% of the time (I approach in bars), the girl will just look at you with a slight look of disdain, and will do everything in her power to not really engage you. Just nod her head to your cold reads or give one-word -answers to your questions at best whilst looking away, no matter your 'game' (assuming she's not into you sexually of course). You can apply every pushpull line and all PUA stuff but it cuts zero ice if she's not into you

From memory, my 'worst' rejections that stick in my head:

1/A girl on the dancefloor was dancing super close to me despite there being lots of room on the dancefloor. I took this as an IOI and stepped up to her to talk/dance, and she went 'Ewwww!' adn pushed me as hard as she could. Like really hard! All my mates saw. Was mortifying lol

2/ Couple of young girls outside of a bar just flat out told me I was way too ugly for them lol. I laugh now about that but I remember feeling like killing myself in the cab ride home (particularly because my really handsome friend had had stunners throwing themselves at him all night)

TheDevilPutD · 2020-10-24T14:38:23+00:00

A heavily tattooed but really hot red head basically let out a laugh when I said hi to her, as in "no way buddy". That's probably it.

jigs_after_a_hug · 2020-10-24T17:58:49+00:00

Drink poured over my head. I teased her but I think it touched a past nerve

pua_max · 2020-10-24T22:00:28+00:00

Approaches where a girl goes off of her path to avoid me. Like if she goes into a shop or turns at a crosswalk. Those feel bad.

Not a "worst" experience, but kind of a funny one. I had cold approached a girl earlier and she was super receptive. Grabbed her number and texted her. I later approached another girl nearby and the first girl walked past. The first girl sent me a really sarcastic text that said "the blonde you were talking to was really pretty! you have such good taste!" I later saw her again on the street and said hi but she said "huh? I don't think I know you" when she clearly knew me. Then later she passed me in her car and yelled out of her window "wait, I think I do know you!" and drove off.

Least1ngenuity · 2020-10-24T21:45:09+00:00

Ive had the usual ones. Recently was out with some friends. one was talking to this good looking girl for a bit. he goes to the bathroom and she immediatly turns to me and starts talking shit about how weird that dude was and how lame he is and shit. im like, yea hes my friend and one of the best people here. she ignores and we talk for a bit. And out of nowhere asked me if im white. I tell her no and she grabbed her purse and said fuck this and walked out the bar.

oh also me and my friend got roofied, and from hearing stories from others there she likely did too

MoreConcentrate · 2020-10-25T03:58:53+00:00

I was once trying to get a waitress to chat with me. I asked her like 4 questions in a row, and she answered them all bluntly. She walked away, back to the shop(we were at the outside patio). I followed her(BAD idea!!). She went behind the bar area and started crying and her boss asked me to leave.

I was walking back to my car and her boss jogged to catch up to me, to ask me if I would not ever come back because I creeped her out so badly.

I felt like a leper. I was so horrifying to her that she broke into tears of fear and disgust. I felt like absolute shit, drove home crying my eyes out. It was worse than feeling ugly, or boring--it was feeling like a monster.

eyesopen1111 · 2020-10-25T15:22:29+00:00

I’ve had openers that have gotten me laughed at by girls (and not in a good way). It was one of my first openers ever and I had way more anxious energy than I needed. But I gutted up and walked over to the two girls. "Nice shirt," I nervously complimented. They looked at each other, then pointed at me and laughed their ass off. I walked away faster than I had approached!

Neil1398 · 2020-10-24T23:19:47+00:00

It’s never that bad as people say but I approached a chick and she started running away but she came back and eventually calmed down and just rejected me lol once she knew what I was there for.

I haven’t had a chick seriously yell but there are some chicks that just sound hella aggressive when they say I don’t give my names to strangers.

Just remembered I did have a chick yell at me when I approached and she was on the phone. I still went out the next day and continued approaching lol.

Literally it’s a game. Be married to the game and not the individuals.

revente · 2020-10-24T14:51:19+00:00

Made out with a girl with a smelly breath which resulted in me getting a smelly breath as well :<.

Icy_History_4728 · 2020-10-24T16:47:20+00:00

Once upon a direct approach in a semi quiet street, the girl was okey with it first, but at one point she took out her phone pointed it straight at me like a virtual gun sort of, asking if she can take a picture of me. I turned away and felt akward AF. Then i fricked out she is going to post it somehwere so i asked her why she takes a picture, she started shouting at me in the street, some guy joined her to "comfort" her and they went off together lol.

kmanju5683 · 2020-10-24T15:20:12+00:00

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astr0mania · 2020-10-26T08:42:20+00:00

Don‘t really have one, but, the worst case outcome is that she ends up saying no. Show she communicate the rejection may be harsh or non harsh, but when you think about it, there really are only 2 outcomes. Doesn’t get much worse than that, unless you count situations where their boyfriend appear and looks for trouble or she calls the police on you

Impossible_Cap_9871 · 2020-10-29T00:58:17+00:00

The only bad approaches are the ones you don't do.

I find that I get poor reaction in only 10% of the approaches, and even out of that 10%, I can turn around 9%.

For example. I sat down next to two cute girls in a bar. I opened one of them, she gave a one word answer and turned back around. I opened her again few minutes later. Again, one word answer and then she ignores me. I try again ten minutes later and same thing. I try again five minutes later, and then she hooks, she turns around and it went great after that.

As another example, I approached a girl at a club and even before I opened my mouth, she says, "sorry, I have a BF." And I just smirk and say, "it's your loss, girl." Then she does 180 and smiles, and it's on.

In the first case, she just wasn't finished talking with her friend she hadn't seen for a while. In the second, it was a bitch shield because she was a really good looking, tall girl who gets hit on all the time.

mrpthrowa · 2020-10-26T09:05:39+00:00

The worst to me are when there was clearly something up and I failed to take action, particularly early in my transformation. Those are the most painful. The straight rejections are actually freeing and good for your self-esteem. Examples of the former:

1) Out travelling I meet this girl, she had boyshorts and was hot as fuck. I see her fumbling on her phone so I invite her to come eat with me. We split a pizza, and eat it at the top of the hostel we're staying in. There was a lot of chemistry and escalation. At some point she said she's tired and wants to go sleep, I take that as a rejection and say I need to go sleep too (hint, when a girl says this, it typically means she wants you to come over). She says "no, no, we can stay a bit". I stay a bit and she hints at going to bed again. So i called out. I texted her the next day, she didn't reply, I don't blame her lol.

2) Walking in the park, this girl keeps eye contact with me as she walks the stairs. I look back and she's still giving me eye contact, and lets out this big smile. I chicken out and carry on walking. Fucking idiot.

3) This girl I cold approached with some observation bullshit, 10 minutes into the conversation she says "so you don't have a girl to go to do you?", idiot me thinks she's shit testing me. She just invited herself to mine and I didn't spot it. Got defensive, and it died down. Fucking idiot lol.

Things like this are really the most painful, there are countless examples. Really doing myself (and the girl!) a disservice. (Also highlights that women sub communicate differently and there is nothing you can do about it, you just have to learn their language, that's how they are).

I still get rejected quite a lot. I don't dwell on it a lot but it's typically because of some circumstance with the girl. Examples:

1) At a red light, I see this girl who's been walking 2 steps behind me. I look at her and wave hi. She has this dead panic look on her face and just completely ignores me. I say it's ok or some such. But she won't even look me in the eye. It's ok, she's just really shy and unfamiliar. Can't do much about that.

2) In a bar I walk past a girl, we make eye contact and before I even say a word she gives me this fake smile that says "don't even try". I just ignore her and talk to other girls.

3) A lot of girls, when feeling intimidated and shy, will act mean and standoffish as a cover. Some of them also do this because they can't handle attention from a seemingly hot guy. They just don't know any better. They have also been conditioned to think they can't reject outright. 10% it's because they don't want to "hurt you", and the other 90% is the vain hope to collect you as an orbiter - to keep you chasing them, doing them favours, have you as a "friend", and brandish you to their girlfriends, until they get desperate enough to give you some attention. The strategy is always the same - polarize, don't waste your time, and get a decision either way, make sure she understands that saying no is ok, and you won't accept anything but an enthusiastic yes. Then either bag her or move on with your life.

TheWheelOne · 2020-10-25T00:12:12+00:00

Was talking to a girl for a few minutes one time at an event. Asked for her number and she flat out said no. I was like 👍🏼, see ya around.

kmanju5683 · 2020-10-25T03:42:42+00:00

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GreatWork123 · 2020-10-26T21:05:27+00:00

Look at it this way. If you're involved In this sort of thing, you're venturing into uncharted territory. And as with any adventure, there will be danger

Title	What was your worst experience in cold approach
Author	kmanju5683
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Date	October 24, 2020 2:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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