(Note1 : Swapping social media details is way stronger than swapping numbers. Hopefully the reasons why are common knowledge by now. The main reason is it allows you to demonstrate social proof. I used 'number-close' in the title because this still seems to be the appropriate PUA lingo. I'll use n-close through the post for brevity.)

(Note 2: Apply this exact same attitude to pulling and you'll get laid a hell of a lot more)

(Note 3: If you disagree with this post, please comment and explain why. A healthy debate would be great.)

Anyways...

Here's a scenario you're probably familiar with:

You open some woman. You put in some effort to keep the conversation going, but it doesn't seem like she's into it. There doesn't feel like much of a connection. In this situation, you may feel like walking away without attempting to swap contact details. My advice is to try and n-close anyway!

Why, what's the point???

I understand why you wouldn't want to do this.

You might be thinking:

  • What's the point if you never want to talk to her again?
  • It's important to have standards for the people you date and sleep with
  • It hurts the ego to get turned down by a girl you're not even that into.
  • Why put yourself through a potentially awkward situation when you don't even like her?

The answer to that final bullet is the exact reason why you SHOULD try and n-close EVERY SINGLE TIME.

My friend, who works as a confidence coach, does try and swap Instagram details with every single person he meets, no matter how brief the conversation is or unimportant the other person may appear to him.

Sometimes it is awkward. Often, they do it anyway.

After watching him do this a few times, I asked him WHY he does it.

He told me:

"Joe, the most important parts of any interaction are the open and the close, so I want to practice this as much as possible. That way, when it really matters, I'm not going to stumble."

This was a great point. It's common to stumble over number closes with hotties, especially if she hasn't been giving you obvious indicators of interest (IOIs). Stumble over the close and it leaves a lasting negative impression on the woman. Why not get as much practice in as possible??

'Maybe Girls' often turn into 'Yes Girls'.

Girls who 'tolerate' you during an interaction without showing any IOIs are often nicknamed 'Maybe Girls'.

Most guys assume that 'Maybe Girls' are 'No Girls', but there are tons of reasons why they're being shy.

Here are some:

  • Most girls aren't fucking used to being approached during the day.
  • Most girls aren't masters of social interaction, especially in this great new era of social media.
  • Most guys become very shy and self-conscious when they're attracted to a man.
  • Most girls throw shit tests at men they're attracted to

The bottom line is that it's often hard to tell whether these maybe girls like you. It's best to assume they do and number-close anyway. Many of these 'maybe girls' will open up through text and hopefully on the date too - but only if you give the interaction the chance to get that far.

(KEY POINT: Girls are generally more receptive to swapping social media details - and her feelings about you may change if you have a high-value Instagram profile.)

You're telling yourself you're not number-closing because she's 'boring'. Give her a chance to prove you wrong. If she's hot enough to approach, she's hot enough to try and close.

The bottom line

Game is a skill that you can improve at with practice.

The only reason you wouldn't do this is to protect your ego. Kill your ego and improve your closing.

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