Women give me headaches

KeyTheZebra · 2026-04-12T15:01:26+00:00

First off, yea this sucks, but realize you’re at least talking to attractive women. That’s literally like a big thing! That’s way beyond step one, haha! You’re on the right path.

Secondly, reframe your view on women. Try to figure out why women are even something you want? If they’re so bad, why do you want to spend time with them? (The answer is that, actually, they’re not so bad at all, and you’re just annoyed with a few girls who haven’t continued to see you despite your desire to see them. And that is okay!)

Lastly, work on flirting a bit more. Trying to to give them funny butterfly feelings, that is a good way to try to get them to stay longer than 30 seconds. Keep going. It’s like mining for gold, sometimes you hit rock, but eventually, there’s gold somewhere.

OpinionThink481 · 2026-04-12T15:38:43+00:00

Mate. listen, I get it u don't like when a woman who was showing interest in u decides to go for some other guy, you might think she is a "hoe" or whatever, but let's face it, who says people can't be a hoe if that's what they want to do? It's not their job to make sure u think well of them, and if it upsets you it's not their job to modify their behavior just to soothe ur feelings or seek ur approval.

I think u need to remember that people can do what they want, and as such when you ask "how dare you display this behavior" what you are essentially are saying is "how dare you be the person you are; you have no right!" which starts sounding a bit entitled as if she or anyone else who didn't grant u the authority to dictate what behavior they must adopt suddenly had to cater to ur preferences.

And, yes you have a right to your preferences in how you wish people would behave, but people have the freedom to refuse catering to your preferences.

- Then another girl dances with me, she gives her IG to me, the next morning, I see she blocked me. Just fucking delete me then, but why you gotta block me?

But they don't have to, remember? You might prefer something to go one particular way, you might prefer people adapt to your individual script of how people should behave, but that preference is not an obligation other people have. Even if the entire majority of the planet decided your script of how people should behave was fair, that still wouldn't be binding in how people freely choose to operate. So we just have to accept that their behavior is the way it is, because it's a waste of emotional energy to wish it was different.

Im not saying their behavior is valid or good, im saying that it doesn't matter what i think or what you think or what we as a society think about how other people behave because they have the right to do so and we don't have the right to demand they change to cater to our preferences.

Bacchus_88 · 2026-04-12T15:27:01+00:00

I feel ya bro, I had the exact same experience in the Netherlands. I know I am not super handsome but I'm definitely a 7,5. There is something seriously wrong with the current culture.

Lacunaethra · 2026-04-12T15:41:31+00:00

You complaining about women being stuck up and at the same time calling them hoes for dancing with 2 men is - priceless.

trdcr · 2026-04-12T15:16:35+00:00

Woman having abundance and short focus span mentality means you have to adjust and be quick in escalation too. There's no way around it unless you're in the environment which enables longer phases (school, work stc.).

zebekias · 2026-04-12T16:43:00+00:00

I winner is a loser, that tried one more time.

So keep at it, but since this happens consistently take it as feedback and make adjustments. Don’t blame women. We do the same. Attraction is not an option. You probably have some low value blind spots that you can’t see but are obvious to others especially women. It takes a certain kind of guy that can do an honest self assessment and introspection. It’s all fixable if you apply yourself. There is a lot of good community material that will help you.

PumpkinSpiceFreak · 2026-04-12T17:02:49+00:00

“Minutes later she seems bored and starts dancing with another guy who’s ugly af “ well I hate to break it to you my dude but yes looks obviously is what you notice on first impression but they aren’t everything unless you have the charm and personality to go with it.

And just cause you thought he was ugly apparently she did not. Maybe you came off arrogant or pushy and she sensed it and for me personally that’s an instant turn off . I say good for the other guy.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-04-12T18:38:50+00:00

Game should destroy your ego. It's part of the process. It's not for the losers who give up.

Get rid of your blame. The responsibility is on you. Do not blame others. More on that in Models by Mark Manson.

Understand the female perspective. Work on understanding it thoroughly. Remove blame. It's safer for a woman to ban you and never hear from you again because you might be pushy or write her dumb things that'll upset her. Even having to reject you again is energy she doesn't want to spend. You'd do the same if gay guys were in your DMs constantly. Since you're not interested in gays, you'd also ban them and conserve your time and energy. Get it? Besides, if you're so awesome, it's her loss, not yours.

Now, yes, it hurts to understand she wasn't interested. That's the nature of game. You have to self-validate and be sure that you're amazing simply through your own belief system. So work on building such a belief system. It will attract people to you. Be the honey pot, not the bee. Flip the script. Work on yourself, your social status, your lifestyle.

Doki_Doki_Doki · 2026-04-12T16:01:40+00:00

sounds like you're taking things too personally. people are unpredictable. focus on enjoying yourself genuinely, without expectations. the less you expect, the more naturally things might align. it's not about them, it's about your reactions.

epimpstyle · 2026-04-12T18:13:44+00:00

she seems bored and starts dancing with another guy who’s ugly af

Just another reminder that looks aren't everything.

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-04-12T19:27:48+00:00

You over react to minor/non-existent slights bc you're stunted socially and romantically/sexually.

You give off vibes of neediness while also having undeserved entitlement. These vibes are repulsive to women who interact with you for any extended period of time.

You need to reframe your entire mentality around social interaction to fix your vibes. Then you have to learn to not overreact to rejection.

Intergalactic_Slayer · 2026-04-12T19:54:53+00:00

Maybe the problem is you are going to the club to meet girls

venetsafatse · 2026-04-12T16:33:31+00:00

Look at how a toddler plays with toys: you hand the toddler a new toy and they'll pick it up and forget about the last toy in seconds. If, for whatever reason, you want to get a toddler to go back to the older toy that's lost its novelty, you're likely to get a temper tantrum because the kid wants to play with the new toy.

I'm not saying this is good behaviour. It's exhausting, but you're sadly dealing with toddlers.

Last weekend I had a girl approach me and chat me up while another dude was rubbing her leg. She kept on telling me they were not together while this was happening. She didn't respond to my Instagram DM the next day, even though she was the one who asked for my Instagram.

Toddlers.

Move fast. That girl who got bored of you within minutes disappeared with the other guy cause she came over and he seized the opportunity. You're not Mr Right. You're Mr Right Now.

They disappeared that night, they fucked, and today they don't even know each other. Rinse and repeat.

wilhelmtherealm · 2026-04-12T14:31:46+00:00

If you feel a country full of women are stuck up, your inner game must be at rock bottom 🤦‍♂️

Title	Women give me headaches
Author	heccy-b
Upvotes	14
Comments	39
Date	April 12, 2026 2:18 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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