Hey brothers.
I just had a good date tonight. I met her on OKCupid. She's cute, but not beautiful. Mostly, we just really clicked. I like her. And she likes me back. I know because we made out after I walked her home.
I just wanted to weigh in and say something really important:
Don't get too caught up in reading this stuff.
There are guys on this subreddit who are insanely good. Like, I just read a post by a guy who knows how to create naked parties. That's pretty fucking cool, and I wish I could do that. I can't do that yet. I don't have the skills. When I read his post, or for that matter, ANY post by an advanced guy, part of me thinks, "Wow that's cool!" and another part of me thinks, "I'm nowhere near that level, I'm a fucking loser."
If you're at all like me, you're a perfectionist. That shit will RUIN you in dating, especially if you read seddit a lot. Every post by an advanced guy who pulls off awesome stuff will make you feel like you're less than worthy. Ignore it.
Go out, show your interest, and just try. Women are very forgiving! My date, for instance... I'm not very good at kino. I'm not slick, I'm not suave, and I'm not smooth. What I AM is willing to overcome that awkward feeling and actually do it. And you know what? Women appreciate it. You're giving them feedback, "Hey, I like you. I feel like this is going well." You can even say that! That's how honest, direct, openly communicative adults talk to each other on a date.
The whole point is this: don't compare yourself to seddit rockstars pulling stupid amounts of ass. Embrace who you are, go after what you want, and just... try.
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