Your opinion please

OldPop420 · 2025-12-16T19:12:50+00:00

Probably not but if it’s time to move on then do so. You are still hurting and healing but you also need to live your life. I would go for it with your possible hook up and get on with your life.

You will think of your first at random times the rest of your life. That’s normal. True love never really dies.

TMGP19 · 2025-12-16T21:42:09+00:00

Sleep with many people, stop being needy or you will be crippled with Oneitis for the rest of your life. Ppl need to learn how to let go and realize most relationships won't last forever... It's a different generation and the only couples that last a lifetime either have huge spikes in drama or live relatively boring, sedentary, and don't have promiscuous tendencies.

Happyseducer · 2025-12-17T04:22:39+00:00

Yes it definitely helps a ton.

InvestigatorFull1364 · 2025-12-16T19:28:31+00:00

If it helps you understand this, “Love”, “dating” and “hook ups” are processed in different parts of the brain.

Love is oxytocin based, dating is dopamine based and sex is primordial lust (reptilian brain).

Literally, the girl you hook up is a entity than the girl you love. They are not incongruent, you can love one while you hook up with another.

So in short, your “hook up” has nothing to do with your ex… unless you explicitly do so by your own action.

And here is where you need to police yourself to not self-sabotage with imaginary meaning where there is non

SilentAirline6611 · 2025-12-16T22:40:43+00:00

It doesn’t matter how much people you sleep with. There are going to be some people who live rent free in your head.

The more of a connection you have with someone the more it’s etched into your brain making it harder to forget.

Also if you have any unresolved feelings, lingering anger, resentment, hurt, or confusion from this person (which you must likely do because you were the one that got dumped) it’ll be harder to move on from a person.

You can never TRULY stop thinking about someone you have unresolved feelings for, emotional attachment or any type of admiration for. Especially if the feelings are intense and you have triggers that pull you back to thoughts of that person ie, a song, a place you both went to, her perfume etc.

Even if you move on you’ll still have memories that pop into your head.

Just let the memories come and go acknowledge that it happened and move on.

Also If you've been thinking about someone for a long time, it can become a mental habit that’ll be even harder to break.

1slycoyote · 2025-12-17T02:28:45+00:00

It's going to happen, you will eventually think.of her less and less as time goes by. It messing with your mind, I understand but don't dwell on it.

IamaThrowAwway · 2025-12-17T09:26:49+00:00

No, likely not. And to be honest, I wouldn't assign too much value that you still fantasize about her when you masturbate. It's a totally natural and normal thing to remember the good parts of the relationship, or the good things that happened in life. Having sex with her is good. You don't need to feel bad about remembering when you masturbate. It's not written in stone that you should never think about her in any way again.

Relax. You're fine.

Don't rush out and find the first hookup you can to try to forget about her. You're not supposed to forget about her. That's not healing, that's avoidance. Healing is when you can accept all of it, the good and the bad and you're at peace. That's being healed.

Title	Your opinion please
Author	Thorn_Tail
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	December 16, 2025 7:07 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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