Ailments

Still-Average9690 · 2024-09-10T06:19:03+00:00

With my anxiety, I visualize everything like it's a movie. Every fear I can (uncontrollably) think of feels like a real life horror movie. I shake and hyperventilate. It usually starts and I pace until my body feels weak and I have to sit or lay down.

It's been all day every day for 5 months so far. Every thought is so vivid. Based on jealousy and circumstances (finding out my ex was sending nudes to multiple people while sleeping with me), I am tortured day in and day out by thoughts of her sleeping with other people and doing the things we've done and saying the things we've said and just being replaced in general. I'm still very much in love with her, so it's soul crushing and has been a process trying to let go.

I've been in therapy as well as started antidepressants. Was prescribed some anxiety medication today as well. Also got a gym membership to try working out to blow off steam and deal with it that way. I miss her a lot and it's been a battle coming to terms with not being her person anymore.

Character_Pop_6628 · 2024-09-10T05:53:11+00:00

Anxiety is a pretty big part of my life and has been rocketing sky-high during divorce. Any major life-change can cause clinical greif. This is to be expected with birth, death, divorce etc. The stress of the life-change and the loss of the relationship has a different effect on everyone and some simply feel sad, some develop depression, some anxiety and some have even worse issues. Divorce is a big reason people develop an anxiety disorder. It's not a straw that breaks the camel's back. Divorce is a 1-ton weight that breaks the camel's back.

Hour-Opposite8321 · 2024-09-09T23:04:50+00:00

Go to a different church my dude

brightongulls · 2024-09-09T22:02:33+00:00

The worst for me was all the days leading up to court. My anxiety was so bad I couldnt sleep at night and eventually passed out due to exhaustion. I never want to go through that process again. (kids involved)

fixingmedaybyday · 2024-09-09T20:56:52+00:00

See your doc and get a therapist. You’re probably going through withdrawals from her as well as dealing with trauma. It’s your body’s way of keeping you safe. The stress of the breakup can bring out health issues as well. It’s well documented that men often come down with serious health issues post divorce. Now is the Take care of yourself, and be open to help.

Reflog1791 · 2024-09-09T19:39:11+00:00

Go see a doctor and a counselor.

If you clean up your diet, clean up your sleep schedule, and get on a fitness regimen, you’ll get better.

Final piece is learning to be happy, count your blessings, and wake up with a smile on your face.

None of it is easy but it works.

Title	Ailments
Author	Scary_Board_8766
Upvotes	8
Comments	7
Date	September 9, 2024 7:27 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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