Cheating husband surprises no one by cheating again, wife wants to know how to regain sex life... Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from men!

EAT_MY_ASS_MOIDS

November 8, 2019

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Title	Cheating husband surprises no one by cheating again, wife wants to know how to regain sex life... Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from men!
Author	EAT_MY_ASS_MOIDS
Upvotes	80
Comments	22
Date	November 8, 2019 12:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dtf2m3/cheating_husband_surprises_no_one_by_cheating/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/cheating-husband-surprises-no-one-by-cheating.695386 https://theredarchive.com/post/695386

[–]ItsFreezenFDS Newbie49 points50 points51 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]EAT_MY_ASS_MOIDSFDS Newbie[S] 37 points38 points39 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

But you were already providing him sex when he cheated?

It couldn't have been me. If I were in this woman's shoes, I wouldn't even trip or get mad. I wouldn't even confront him with what I'd found. I'd document everything and prepare a fat "divorce" file, and leave it sitting in a secure location, inaccessible to my husband. Then I'd start dating other men on the side, and look for a replacement husband quietly.

When I find a suitable replacement husband, I'd tap into the divorce file, pretend like I just found out he was cheating, milk him for all the jewelry, gifts and "I am sorry" treatment, and then once that starts to fade, I'd make him break his mistress's heart, and when that bridge is burned, I'd hit him with an expensive divorce, take everything and his mother's house, and throw the book at him, too, and before the ink dries on those divorce papers, be engaged again to the other man, to be remarried less than a year later.

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[–]ponchoacademyFDS Disciple22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Not shame but a warning to women what's out there.

I was there... When I was married my husband cheated on me. We reconciled and things were good on a certain level, but my trust was damaged. Then he cheated again... Was still trying to make things work because time invested, I take my vows seriously blah blah blah. But my trust was even less and I refused to have sex without a condom anymore, but then just didn't want him to touch me at all.

Still kept trying to make things work, but I couldn't stand him touching me in any way and I couldn't even sleep in the same bed with him anymore. No surprise, he cheated yet again and we got divorced.

The shame isn't on you, it's on him treating you this way. This group is about bringing awareness to things guys can and will do and how to protect ourselves from being in these kinds of situations.

I stayed with my ex about 3 years after the first time he cheated... Not only did I not save my marriage by trying to work things out with a guy who physically repulsed me and who I couldn't trust, I lost a fair amount of my dignity in the process. During that time he treated me worse and worse knowing I was staying with him even though I wasn't getting my needs met and he wasn't being a loyal husband. My self esteem was through the floor and he knew it, otherwise I wouldn't have stayed and put up with him.

You deserve better than that, you deserve a man you can trust, who treats you well, who wouldn't put you in this situation to begin with. Your husband is the one who should be ashamed of himself.

[–]10minutemaulFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]ponchoacademyFDS Disciple18 points19 points20 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You stay because it is indeed a massive mind fuck. You are being true to the promise you made when you married him and want to be loyal to the relationship you had .. Not have... Had.

A friend once told me, forget about all the stuff that happened in the past, if this was your first date and he made you feel the way you are feeling right now, would you agree to a second date? If no, wtf are you even thinking of spending the rest of your life like this?

The good thing is you're aware it's toxic. I was knee deep in I need to save my marriage, what can I do to make him be a better husband mode that I didn't even see how bad things were and how bad things had gotten till the very end. Right up til a couple months before deciding to divorce we were talking about having a baby. We hadn't even had sex in over a year!!!!! I was officially brain dead! Lol

So yeah, seriously, don't feel bad... You're in a bad and tough situation, and indeed it is scary to end a marriage. But I promise you, living life with possibilities is far better than being stuck with someone who doesn't treat you with love and respect.

[–]_WeepingSong_FDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

I’ve been in a similar situation and I hate to say this, but the only thing that will help you move on is accepting that he doesn’t love you and isn’t attracted to you. In fact, he thinks absolutely nothing of you and that’s why he’s playing these mind games, knowing fully that he can ruin your life by doing so. Every time he tells you he loves you, that he cares for you, that he’s sorry- it’s a lie. It’s all a lie. The only reason he’s still with you right now is because you’re sticking around and he wants someone to take care of him until he feels more stable with another woman.

It’s not you, he’s just a piece of shit and a horrible person. He’d do this to literally anyone if they stayed with him long enough. As soon as he knows for certain that you love him, he’s repulsed by you.

Just want to add that by leaving him, you lose nothing but dead weight. Leave him because you’re sexually frustrated, leave him so you’ll have better opportunities, leave him to hurt his ego, fuck, you can even leave him to make him miss you. It doesn’t matter, just leave him, never look back, and think about it later while you’re having fun with some men that show you how much of a loser your ex is. Once you recover from Stockholm syndrome, you’ll feel disgusted in yourself for ever fucking with such a loser in the first place.

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