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[–]azngirl7689At-Risk Pick Me Youth118 points119 points120 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Don’t do wife shit until he wifes you up
[–]RayneSinclair 15 points16 points17 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right? Don’t do wifey shit for any guy until you’re his ACTUAL wife. I don’t care how nice he is or if he pays for all your dinners or if he holds out the chair for you all the time or how gentlemanly he is. You have to train men how to treat you.
[–]sassykat2581FDS Newbie54 points55 points56 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I had to learn the hard way that my caring and kindness is a privilege to others. They don’t deserve it if it’s not given in return. And that goes for everyone in my life not just who I’m dating...... Even working in customer service! I will still treat people with respect, I wouldn’t lower myself to be like the asshole that I’m dealing with. They look like a spoiled brat and my employees and other customers stare in awe as I politely kick their pathetic ass out the door.
[–]RayneSinclair 12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I need to unlearn my “niceness” too. It’s been a burden for far too long.
[–]sassykat2581FDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your “niceness” is not a burden! It’s what makes you special and your strength! Imagine your niceness is your prized antique bone China that you inherited from your grandma..... grandma would be pissed if it gets any kind ding or crack too so you have a huge responsibility to take care of it. Now the person coming over for dinner, do they deserve the fine China or do they get paper plates??? You are still being polite by offering something but do they truly deserve your prize possession? If not then let them stomp all over that paper plate because what is it to you? It doesn’t mater because your prize possession is safe.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Instead of unlearning it, try protecting it and not giving it away so freely and indiscriminately.
[–]RayneSinclair 4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That’s hard to do when it’s your first reflex. When that’s how you were raised. Like saying “sorry” and “that’s okay/fine” without thinking. But I’m trying to work on it.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that's understandable. I have the same issue.
[–]CatHeroineFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Be kind but not nice is what I'm learning now
[–]ontherailstodayFDS Newbie26 points27 points28 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you want to volunteer for extra care-giving work there's charities and the like that if you do work for you can put on your resumé and also make valuable personal and professional contacts through. Nobody is going to give a damn in a decade how often you mended that guy's jeans for him when he tore them skating. Not even his mother who would probably have been mending them if not for you will remember or care.
[–]madandunabashedFDS Disciple97 points98 points99 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Don’t do wifey shit for anyone, have them do wifey shit for you
[–]tonha_da_pamonhaFDS Apprentice24 points25 points26 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Now you're talking
[–]Loiacono3137FDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Haha yes
[–]Lakersrock111Throwaway Account2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There ya go!!
[–]OsamaBenLadleFDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t do wifey shit because we are going to break down gender norms. Men and women can do both wifey and hubby shit.
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[–]kiksuya_FDS Newbie[S] 4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I honestly haven’t seen any TERFy or femcel content here, tho I have seen people accuse this sub of that. I have no idea where they got that idea lol
[–]loopback1232 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We are our own person ladies, always remember that 🙄😃💕💕
[–]thoughtsofkimlan3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wish somebody had given me this kind of advice before he had to SHOW me that he was a fuckboy.
[–]CSQUITO7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t do wifey shit for anyone until they marry you. I have friends who try to cook dinner for their boyfriend like try to look after them when they’re sick etc. Sure cuddle and talk and be loving but don’t give wifey shit away at a discount
[–]lydsl8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
PERIODT
[–]randomgirlimokFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Including moving in with him and paying half his bills
[–]HersandhersFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Preach, sister!! Even though I like girls exclusively, I had my share of fuck girls and also being the fuck girl myself on occasion, I can whole heartedly say this attitude is universal. You gotta know how to stand up for yourself and know your self worth and then only commit to a relationship. If in a casual relationship, set your boundries and don’t cross those. Like guys never can hold a platonic friendship, women do not need to wifey up their game for a good fuck boy.
I'm so guilty for this. I thought that's the standard. I'm curious how his new 18 yo gf will do that stuff 🤔
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[–]azngirl7689At-Risk Pick Me Youth118 points119 points120 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]RayneSinclair 15 points16 points17 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]sassykat2581FDS Newbie54 points55 points56 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]RayneSinclair 12 points13 points14 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]sassykat2581FDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]RayneSinclair 4 points5 points6 points (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]CatHeroineFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ontherailstodayFDS Newbie26 points27 points28 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]madandunabashedFDS Disciple97 points98 points99 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]tonha_da_pamonhaFDS Apprentice24 points25 points26 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Loiacono3137FDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Lakersrock111Throwaway Account2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]OsamaBenLadleFDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]kiksuya_FDS Newbie[S] 4 points5 points6 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]loopback1232 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]thoughtsofkimlan3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]lydsl8 points9 points10 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]randomgirlimokFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
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