Advice for working on self esteem

Nearby-Armadillo · 2020-02-22T04:27:36+00:00

Oddly enough getting older has been the best thing for my self-esteem

PoeticINFP · 2020-02-22T04:51:49+00:00

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quaintlyspoken · 2020-02-22T05:00:22+00:00

Being myself outside of romantic situations. Typically the way one behaves carries into every aspect of their lives. If I can't always be myself in that manner then I practice being myswlf when no one is around. It amazes me how much programming exists still in my mind that tells me I ahould do this or am forbidden from doing that even in solitude.

Looksmatching. Nothing extreme. I worked out my blemishes, bumps, upgraded to better makeup (lips, face, not eyes) and got into faux lashes. Now whenever I look at myself in a morror I feel positively angelic.

Expressing myself through my appearance. I'm always having fun changing my hair up and experimenting with my own version of fashion. I have ways of standing out or becoming invisible but it's always undeniably me.

Discovering my spiritual ancestry. True spirituality as we long for has been ripped away due to the enslavement of women, who are the natural and rightful manifestation of such. Try as hard as they did men could not destroy the ancestry and the divine lineage of womanhood resides in every one of us, waiting to be awakened, waiting to be discovered. Just this past weekend I learned more about my spiritual lineage and activated my DNA concerning it, so there's much reason to look forward to the future and hold my head high.

Making a loving list of my characteristics, personality traits, talents, abilities and quirks. Read them to yourself in a mirror.

Sound therapy and affirmations! If I can't be bothered to meditate then I'll put on a playlist to integrate into my conscious mind as I sleep. If I'm watching TV at all I will put the hz frequencies on, typically all 9, the vibrational frequency of the earth or other frequencies to drown out the darkness.

Big N Therapy, a.k.a Just Say No! Setting apart time to say no, creating an online dating profile to practice saying no, making a bingo chart to reward yourself for saying no! Get creative, make it fun!

Pampering myself; romancing myself. Make a candlelit herbal bath with flower petals, surprise yourself with a sweet treat, buy yourself those jewels, make space for you, make time for you, fall in love and devote yourself to unconditionally loving you.

Knowing that everything that I accomplish in this lifetime will carry over into my future lifetimes. If I can't fight for the me that I am now and for the sake of her that I will be tomorrow, and the next day, and the next lifetime I will endeavor to give her the best head start, support and gifts that I could possibly give her. Because I will be coming back to this planet; this lifetime every day the sun rises and the next lifetime maybe in a part of the world I've never been before.

Girl talk. FDS girl talk. Best balm for the heart and if you're going through the process of pickmeisha cleaning your friend group then always know that you can come to FDS because we're a family of women here.

Forbidding yourself from saying anything negative about yourself! Yes it might take a while but stick with it till there is zero negativity! Wear a bracelet or a ring. Every time you put yourself down or undermine yourself swith that jewelry over to the next hand and correct your statement by saying the positive truth about you and who you are becoming. "I am..." Statements work well.

Sticky Note, Love Notes. On your vanity (you can use a wall or room of your bedroom really) make sticky notes of every thought you think about of yourself. If you think something negative make it positive and stick it! Then every time you look at your mirror or walk into that room you see all theove that you allow and are worthy of having because of who you are; human, woman.

Those are some of my favorites. Lots more.

cactus_blossm · 2020-02-22T04:46:34+00:00

Putting my energy into something I know I’m good at, and excelling at it. Surrounding myself with people who uplift me and love me hard enough to tell me when I’m doing something self destructive. Making a conscious effort to prioritize myself and my mental health. Forgiving myself.

asoww · 2020-02-22T06:59:50+00:00

I'm working through it but there are things that have greatly helped me those past few weeks. I keep a journal in which I list tons of things such as : - the things I have to forgive myself for and accept, even the smallest little things that bother me (actions, personality traits, everything really) - The things that I should give myself (with all the details) such as love, respect, compassion, patience, joy etc Also, I had a negative emotional experience yesterday for example and while I had time, I tried to figure out why did I feel that way, what does it mean and how can I turn it into something positive as well as accept the negative.

And, yeah, therapy helped a lot figuring stuff out too.

Those helped me a lot to grow and exploring little by little myself and my potential.

PoeticINFP · 2020-02-22T06:21:29+00:00

Honestly, I’ve found that working on self-esteem is a trap. Self esteem not only fluctuates, but it can definitely be influenced by our environment. What has helped me is to focus on building a healthy relationship with myself by getting to know myself deeply. Know my values and principles, my goals, my dreams and ambitions. What also helped me big time was studying my astrological chart. It explained who I am and why I am and it helped put my being into context. Naturally, high self esteem came as a result. I still struggle but I’m learning to trust myself more and more.

And that’s what you want when you say you want to work on your self esteem. You mean you want to trust yourself and be your own best friend instead of your own worst enemy.

I would suggest to start getting to know who you are beyond this physical world. cafeastrology.com does natal charts and gives explanations for planetary placements.

Start there.

I am Capricorn Sun, Libra moon, Scorpio Venus, and Libra Ascendant, which means the planet Venus rules my chart... which explained why love, beauty, and money meant so much to me! I’m a badass boss bitch and I own that!

Who are you? Get to know her well! She’s probably quite exquisite 🌸💕

Shermaow · 2020-02-23T01:11:02+00:00

Start by complimenting and picking out the positive things in others. Challenge yourself to specifically find one nice thing about a person that day. Then make it two. And on and on. Eventually it becomes second nature enough that you can do it towards yourself too.

Title	Advice for working on self esteem
Author	PoeticINFP
Upvotes	24
Comments	17
Date	February 22, 2020 4:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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