How do you efficiently communicate your standards and let a guy know that you prefer to be called instead of just texting?

redbirdflies · 2020-04-26T01:53:26+00:00

You need to establish your needs early on. Everything that you do in the beginning sets the tone for the remainder of the relationship. Simply say, “I prefer calls to texts” and leave it at that. If he can’t accommodate a simple request, he’s not worth your time. Block and move on.

level_up_always · 2020-04-26T02:08:41+00:00

When you give him your number is when you say "I like men who call" and go from the start that way obviously it's past that now so it's harder but you just need to let him know literally just say I like men who call and leave it at that. You've stated what you like and what you want if he doesn't behave accordingly you know the answer men are simple! Actions over words

k20_4 · 2020-04-26T01:31:14+00:00

Talk to him about it. I prefer talking on the phone, especially if I want to ask him a specific/pressing question or make plans. I've mentioned to a couple different guys that I prefer a quick 5-10 minute phone call over 1-2 hours of texting to get the same info. One guy continued to text me and the other calls me out of the blue just to talk.

SailorVampire · 2020-04-26T06:33:26+00:00

I always respond to men’s texts with phone calls. It sets the standard of communication. I also tell them upfront that I prefer calls, as texting has caused problems in every single relationship I have had. Doing that first phone call yourself after they initiate contact will take the fear out of a voice call for them

throwaway23004345 · 2020-04-26T02:01:19+00:00

I think it is a bit of a red flag tbh when a guy never calls... even before I go on a first date I call to “screen” them to make sure they can atleast hold a convo. This one guy was giggling way too much so I saved a lot of time by not going out with him.

Maybe you can mention it once but if he doesn’t change just move on

Cobmobster21 · 2020-04-26T01:58:33+00:00

Call every time he texts he’ll get the picture lol

2020-04-26T16:18:58+00:00

Ignore text messages. When he calls say "I prefer phone calls over text"

potatodreamspablo · 2020-04-26T11:27:01+00:00

When he texts you e.g. about making plans, a discussion, don't directly respond to what he says and in you reply say that he can call you to discuss (and whe youre free). If you want to be less direct you can set this precident at a time when you could reasonably be too busy to text e.g. just say "call me after work x". In person, i tend to say to men that i prefer when men call me, or explain that I a man obviously isn't suitable if he always texts and never calls

Title	How do you efficiently communicate your standards and let a guy know that you prefer to be called instead of just texting?
Author	mightbethrowawayyy
Upvotes	46
Comments	18
Date	April 26, 2020 1:06 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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