How did you Level up?

StarSweeper86 · 2020-08-10T04:21:50+00:00

Going back to school to finish my degree
Losing weight (have lost 85lbs since last July)
Exercising
Eating healthy
Letting go of toxic friendships
Tailoring my social media feeds to show more positive and uplifting content. Especially my reddit subs, which are all self-care, nutrition/fitness, and FDS-oriented
Taking the time to implement more self-care into my daily life
Rewarding myself for my accomplishments (ex. I got a nose piercing to reward myself for losing weight, which has made me feel more confident about my nose, so it feels like an aesthetic upgrade as well)
Finding new hobbies (for me it was cooking)

wondertarget · 2020-08-10T04:38:34+00:00

Moved to another country.

Got my MBA.

Started pursuing my dream of becoming a published author.

Started keto, went back to the gym, and lost a ton of weight.

Blocked all my shitty "friends" and noped out of all toxic personal and familial relationships.

Quit social media and regained both my confidence and time.

Started taking better care of myself (nails, hair, clothes) for ME and not some ain't-shit loser with a chip on his shoulder (who lied about having a wife and child...for....6...months).

Met a HVM who adores me.

KetoKittenAround · 2020-08-10T04:31:16+00:00

I leveled up by not making compromises on my boundaries and wants.

I’m lucky because even with these LVM I was with I still traveled the world and got my masters degree, plus a job lucrative career. I was still a mega chump though.

The last time I was left high and dry I said NOPE. I don’t hide or try to soften my needs or wants. It doesn’t mean I don’t tune into the needs and wants of others. I just don’t bend to fit some role that was never meant for me.

Trust me. A HVM will find that irresistible.

Life2viva · 2020-08-10T04:55:47+00:00

Working on my mindset so I can take care of myself again.

Finalized my divorce.

Level one nursing student.

Learning to love myself again.

jackrusselterror1 · 2020-08-10T08:43:15+00:00

Dumped my ex 2 years ago
Stayed single
Made significant strides in recovering from abuse, therapist is happy with my progress
Told friends about what happened
Got a promotion and raise
Earned an extra certification relevant to my job
Lost 60 lbs over three years (prior to FDS)
Exercise 3 hours a day, every day
Upgraded my clothes
Grew my hair to my mid back (it’s curly so that’s really difficult to do)

bumblebeebinch · 2020-08-10T09:10:52+00:00

ended things with my ex 2 months ago - had my second best academic semester on record - reached out to lots of people I hadn’t talked to in ages and reconnected with so many people - dropped to a size 2 - started working out - got into baking and cooking again - started yoga, pilates, and stretching again - met someone new who’s everything I want in a man and so much more too :’)

heleninthealps · 2020-08-10T15:01:10+00:00

Moved to a new country

Learned the language of said country

Took courses in a Master Program to compliment my previous bachelor

Got a better job and raised my salary with 24.000 more/year and a senior title

Drinking way less beer and less alcohol in general

Took better care of my skin

Waking up early to start my day stress-free and therefore have a better mood in general at work

Started Keto, Lost 5kg (10% of my body weight) and worked at the gym more often to get a slightly visible 4-pack and nicer butt :)

Took an extra license in my sport (Paragliding) to be able to compete on an international level instead of just hobby flying

Blocking and deleting anyone, friends, family or men that tried to put me down and/or use my for their toxic purposes

Quit Netflix and such and started reading all books on my to-read list, most psycological/self-improvement books

Basically feeling like a complete new person compared to 5 years ago, and way happier!

matzo_ball · 2020-08-10T18:05:06+00:00

Only 3 weeks post-breakup so the list is short but...

Got a promotion!
Put an offer on a new flat (which was accepted!!!!). Finally going to have the garden of my dreams 😍
Reconnecting with friends. Cliche but I’ve been having a blast
Yoga at least 5 times a week

Also been working a ton so I’m going to build myself a new PC once fall rolls around.

Pasdepromesses · 2020-08-10T15:03:56+00:00

Didn't take my cheating ex fiance back;
Dumped my rebound hobosexual PT;
Blocked all the N/LVM I know, that always try to get with me when I'm vulnerable;
Made the conscious decision to stay single afterwards (still am);
Removed all OLD from my devices;
Actively working on my mental health with 2 different therapists. One is specialized in EMDR (PTSD) the other is highly specialized in anxiety;
Joined the Baggage Reclaim Membership (Natalie Lue);
Am actively working on boundaries, unlearning people pleasing and choosing me;
Started with medicine that will really help me with my quality of life when I'm in my 40's and 50's. I'm chronically ill and this medicine will improve my life-expectancy, level of pain, etc. a lot. Because I always put myself last, I didn't want to use it since I was afraid that the side affects would inconvenience my SO and my employer. Screw that. This is my health.
Changed jobs, got a huge promotion and a raise working less hours;
Earned an extra certification relevant to my job;
Strengthened old friendships and the relationship with my siblings;
Got a skincare routine;
Started a financial/savings plan.

Edit: this is the last 18 months.

christmasforoutlaws · 2020-08-10T14:06:33+00:00

Got rid of almost all social media
Lost 15 lbs
Overall fitness is improving
Only 8 classes left until I have my degree

DippedinBronze · 2020-08-11T03:52:21+00:00

I leveled up after my ex choked me on a balcony and threatened to kill me because I tried to leave him for getting his dick sucked by my friend.

So in essence, I was forced to. But I don’t regret anything til this day

Title	How did you Level up?
Author	letmeenjoymysnacks
Upvotes	30
Comments	20
Date	August 10, 2020 3:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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