the victim is a man.

I saw this joke posted on a forum I frequent.

THE DIFFERENCE IF YOU MARRY A WISCONSIN GIRL

Three friends married women from different parts of the country.

The first man married a woman from Minnesota . He told her that she was to do the dishes and house cleaning. It took a couple of days, but on the third day, he came home to see a clean house and dishes washed and put away.

The second man married a woman from Illinois . He gave his wife orders that she was to do all the cleaning, dishes and the cooking. The first day he didn't see any results, but the next day he saw it was better. By the third day, he saw his house was clean, the dishes were done, and there was a huge dinner on the table.

The third man married a girl from Wisconsin . He ordered her to keep the house cleaned, dishes washed, lawn mowed, laundry washed, and hot meals on the table for every meal. He said the first day he didn't see anything, the second day he didn't see anything but by the third day, some of the swelling had gone down and he could see a little out of his left eye, and his arm was healed enough that he could fix himself a sandwich and load the dishwasher. He still has some difficulty when he pees.

My reluctant response. (I almost just left it but I feel like we need to speak up.)

I'm sorry. I hate to seem like a party pooper, but this one's rather uncomfortable for me. It feels like it's only funny because a man is the victim of domestic violence instead of a woman and he obviously deserves it because he's a chauvinist pig and such. If the genders were reversed and a woman was demanding her husband abide by his traditional role--hold doors open for me, buy me flowers on V-Day, don't dare even look at other women, etc. and he beat her for that until her eyes sealed shut and her arm didn't work in order to set her straight, it would be appalling to most people and not funny, and rightly so.

If your spouse is sexist or otherwise an unacceptable person to be married to, just leave him or her.