Accidentally Poignant While Feminist

Swan_Writes · 2010-04-19T19:59:04+00:00

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cujo3017 · 2010-04-19T18:59:30+00:00

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HumanSockPuppet · 2010-04-19T21:49:18+00:00

Make your intentions and goals clear during a negotiation? Gee, I wonder why no one ever thought of that before.

2010-04-19T20:38:50+00:00

While I do agree that she has every right to just say no and that she doesn't really owe the guy anything at the end of the night(although, the OP certainly went out of his/her way to make sex with a guy sound like a pretty strenuous or traumatizing event, goodness forbid that they might actually try to see it as something positive or just fun); she really shouldn't be accepting the free limo, the free room, the free drinks, the free entrance, etc.. to begin with either, especially when she already knows about these kind of expectations ahead of time. If she is having sex simply because he paid for her night, than she is really just being an escort(not that there is anything wrong about being an escort per se, under the right circumstances it is a legitimate service for a legitimate need, but she should at least be aware and realistic about her involvement with this person).

If she did want to have sex with this guy though, she should really be covering all of her own costs. She should be having sex with this guy because she wants to and, if she wants to, then she should also have to pay her way through it just like the guys are expected to pay their way through it as well. If she doesn't think a guy or sex with a guy is worth spending an equal share for, than she shouldn't be supported in her own misandric views/behaviors either. A man's company is just as valuable as a woman's company, women shouldn't be expected to be compensated for their time spent with men.

Gareth321 · 2010-04-19T19:20:20+00:00

If women are equal and empowered, and want dates to be mutually pleasurable interactions instead of elaborate efforts to obtain sex

Says gprime.

Well then they're kidding themselves - dates are elaborate efforts specifically designed to see if the other person will make a SUITABLE MATE..which of course includes intellectual compatibility but also includes sexual compatibility.

prossii · 2010-04-19T19:15:53+00:00

It's not the same as prostitution. With prostitution, you are actually paying for the woman to go away, after intimacy.

cryptogirl · 2010-04-19T20:51:12+00:00

I'm basically fine with whatever romantic/financial arrangements people choose to make, as long as they are consensual. However, no one should feel obligated to have sex simply because their date picks up the check (unless that's an explicit condition agreed to by both parties).

boredatheist · 2010-04-20T02:58:04+00:00

News flash: Men frequently pick up the tab. Sometimes they get fucked afterward. Sometimes both parties are perfectly ok with this.

What's with all the moralizing? What kind of delusional lala-land do you live in, where you can claim sex has nothing to do with money? Why does every situation have to have a victim?

Yes, in an ideal world, my ideal mate would be delivered to me in a silver basket, and we would love only each other, forever, for the simple beauty and light in our eternal souls, and shed our material possessions and live as monks in caves. What a pretty picture.

But back here in the real world, money matters. If a bitch tells you otherwise, then she doesn't understand herself very well.

Just because a bitch pays for her half doesn't mean she isn't eyeing your wallet.

Title	Accidentally Poignant While Feminist
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	11
Comments	31
Date	April 19, 2010 6:59 PM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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