ENFP problem.

Her “I don’t want to ruin our friendship.”

Me "You never asked me to be your friend"

I had this problem my whole life, people simply assume I am their friend, sometimes they assume we are best friend. And they have ridiculously low standards for deciding that.

I myself have high standards for friendship, and when somebody does fulfil them I actually ask "are we friends?", "wanna be friends?".

How am I supposed to organically grow a relationship when people just randomly decide that we are friends without asking me. If she had asked me to be her friend I'd say no. And I'd say I don't want to ruin our relationship.