He's in his early 20s and I'm in my early 30s. I met him on a forum about loneliness and we spoke over a call the first time we met. He added me as a friend and we've been calling each other weekly ever since. Our longest call was 7 hrs because he walked around his city and live streamed it for me. He's from New Zealand and comes from an upper middle class family. His parents work in STEM/government. He's live streamed his family's home and it's very posh so I believe what he says about his personal situation. He works a low wage labor job, but he wants to become a researcher that studies endocrinology.

I'm American from an immigrant family and I'm a self-employed home owner (I've got about 170k left on my mortgage). We're both virgins and we align on almost everything in terms of politics, interests, values, and how we think people within society ought to conduct themselves. He messages me often to call and we talk about everything, even personal family matters, but we don't talk much about sex. His job requires him putting down animals and he says it's turned him off from sex and porn because the way they seize up before their final moments reminded him of how people tense up during a climax in adult films. I also have personal issues around sex (low confidence in my appearance and father issues), which is why we're both celibate. Though I'd like to "give" my virginity to someone I deeply care about someday; not sure about him though. He has lamented the idea that he may never have children though (due to his negative experiences with dating), so there's that.

I've seen him on live stream and he's seen my pictures, but I want to show him how I look on a live stream before trying to become more than "friends". I have to figure out if he'd be interested in meeting up next year if things go well and maybe consider coming to America in the future as we have more opportunities for education and work. We're both interested in living a quiet life maybe with kids in the picture (idk but I do feel a bit of fomo since women in my family are having kids while I'm still a virgin). I've only briefly brought up the idea of adoption because a lot of foster children out there need love.

I've never connected with someone this well before, and I do find him attractive. He's a foot taller than me, blue eyes, fit, nice voice/accent. Based on how often he wants to call me (lately it's been every other day), I assume he likes me, but I can never be too sure. I feel like if we did get together, I wouldn't mind out earning him because I find him to be a really interesting person. He's a lot smarter and articulate than I am despite the age gap, he's also just physically bigger/stronger. Though I am afraid of marriage, and I do NOT want to have children out of wedlock. I make 6 figures (though the income is unstable, but I've managed to maintain it for the past 3 years) and the idea of being taken to court for alimony scares me. He's very frugal and doesn't care to spend his money on anything other than food, so I want to believe he'd never do that to me, but I've only know him for 1.5 months so I can't say for sure.

I'm also concerned about the age gap since I changed a lot upon entering my 30s. I already like him as he is in his 20s, but I wonder if I'll still like him once his brain stops developing at 25 and personality solidifies in his 30s. What you ladies think? I have zero dating experience, so I'm curious if there are any red flags either on his part or mine.