“Are you mad?” “Is something wrong?”

youscum · 2018-09-14T14:16:29+00:00

Why would I be mad? What makes you think something is wrong?

Pressure flip. This worked well for me when my wife assumed I was butthurt after rejection. If you are mad, let her own hamster figure it out.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-09-14T14:00:59+00:00

Normally I would say who gives a fuck what she thinks. But in this case, take it as constructive criticism. Right now, you’re owning your shit, learning, studying, and implementing, etc... but probably coming across too serious and zoned out.

But let’s not forgot about the frame you must be in: I call it “walking through the world with ease”. You don’t react to the world. You are the cause, not the affect. Don’t let the bastards see you sweat. Make it all look easy and no effort -law 38.

Yes, work hard, be a leader, etc. but a red pill man is happy. You have the tools and mindset now to see the matrix and it’s affect on betas. Are you having fun? Teasing her like a girl on the playground. Walk around the house as a King would - with your dick out.

The king is happy and brings the party. Invite her into your world.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2018-09-14T14:08:01+00:00

I don’t want her to think I’m mad at her. I’m just trying to do the STFU thing.

If you aren't mad at her, you can say so. Sometimes I'm irritated by something, nothing I can do about it, and yet, there's no smile on my face. I'll just say "Yes, I'm mad, nothing to do with you and I don't want to talk about it. I'm trying to let it go."

If you are angry about something, it's a mistake to think you can hide it fully from a woman. They are plugged into this shit. So acknowledge and diffuse.

On the plus side, it's generally a good sign that she gives a shit that you are angry.

tempered_man · 2018-09-14T13:53:47+00:00

Yes, when I am done doing x, I want to go to x place. Grab me a drink, Ill be in the x room.

Why? You want angry sex? I’m down. Let’s do this.

Your frame. Not hers.

Edit: spelling.

2ndal · 2018-09-14T13:50:31+00:00

"What's wrong?" is a classic shit test. My wife does this constantly, because I get lost in my thoughts and do a shit job projecting positive body language.

Here's the thing. Your body says more than your words do. The simple answer is you're letting your body language take control of the message you're putting out every day. So you need to work on projecting a different message with both your body and what you say. The latter is pretty easy, the former not so much.

I suggest reading What Everybody is Saying to better understand "nonverbal intelligence," how to read people, and how to project with your body language differently. Until you're putting out a different story with your body language, your wife is going to continue to latch on to your stoic/resting bitch face and use it as a shit test to prove that you're butthurt just because you don't have a quick response to her demands for an answer as to what's wrong.

But you still need to pass those shit tests. The worst thing you can do is say nothin' and get upset that she is asking you the question, which is how I used to handle it.

My most common way of passing them are the classic AM or AA. If she catches me off guard, I will usually make up a humorously over-the-top thing to be upset about. What's wrong? Well, I didn't want to ruin the surprise but I bought you a pet hamster for your birthday [in six months] and figured it would survive in the closet until the big day but turns out it didn't. Have you noticed the smell? You have an imagination of your own, so use it in these scenarios to draw attention away from the interrogation and into some fanciful, distracting anecdote. And when she responds with Come on, seriously! like you know she will, just keep building on the story to make it even more ridiculous as you inch yourself closer to her to plant a kiss and grab her ass before exiting.

Edit: also the "what's wrong?" situation is so common there's a popular meme surrounding it. The joke is that women's hamsters run wild thinking something is wrong when you're off in your own head thinking about god knows what.

hystericalbonding · 2018-09-14T14:27:39+00:00

The anger phase is pushing you toward the wrong meaning of the word, "dread." She shouldn't dread interacting with you - she should dread the thought of losing you to other women, death, or your other interests. This undoubtedly applies to your interactions with other people as well.

Mayor game is one way to avoid becoming enervating.

/u/2ndal alluded to body language. Facial expression and body language influence your attitude, and your attitude influences body language. You can attack it from either angle. Pick one strategy each week. For example, for the next week, focus on open posture when you're interacting with your wife and kids.

Code-Master13 · 2018-09-14T15:28:58+00:00

Just say "nope, just focusing", "Nope, just thinking about...(insert whatever here)", or for the lunch comment, just act like she didn't just give you a slight backhand and answer with "I'd love to go to lunch, smile, and (kiss her, smack her ass, or whatever you like). She'll adjust, she's just uncertain of your new habits, she just needs reassurance that you're ok, which means her & the kids are ok.

Taipanshimshon · 2018-09-14T18:46:31+00:00

Thats her problem. She senses something, doesnt know what, and wants you to be the bad guy.

Start being fun.

friendandadvisor · 2018-09-15T01:47:47+00:00

"OOOOOOHHH! I'm so angry I could spit blood!" Then, immediately, follow up with a "No, just joking!"

That usually breaks the tension, and confuses them enough to get back to whatever dumb thought they were thinking.

470_2_700_nm · 2018-09-15T12:39:16+00:00

What are your lift numbers? 5x5

Next: when she asks what is wrong, it means she sees something different in you and exploring that. You’re non verbal cues are yelling.

Try pulling your dick out and saying I’m not sad but my dick is. Here... look. I need you to fix my dicks feelings. Start by (instruct her on what you want in that moment).

effyouasshole · 2018-09-14T13:38:43+00:00

Regardless of whether you're actually mad about something, reply with "No, why?" and continue doing what you're doing. If she keeps asking, assure her that everything is fine.

RedPillCoach · 2018-09-15T03:26:22+00:00

I’m just trying to do the STFU thing. Maybe I’m approaching it wrong.

Somebody should do a series of youtube videos on this problem. I would put it on the sidebar!

capn_barnacles · 2018-09-19T17:19:46+00:00

I get the "You're awfully quiet, is everything okay?" way too often.

Internally: Thank you for pointing out that I'm an autistic f*ck that gets stuck in my head way too often, and not being as fun as I could be.

Externally: I'm mentally preparing for the zombie apocalypse. How big of a bunker do you think we'd need?

Title	“Are you mad?” “Is something wrong?”
Author	BramStroker47
Upvotes	14
Comments	36
Date	September 14, 2018 1:29 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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