Approach anxiety

KoleSekor · 2025-11-06T14:07:06+00:00

Your amygdala thinks approaching women you don't know is life or death (because evolutionary reasons it was risky).

Repeated exposure to rejection teaches your subconscious there's really nothing to fear.

hiiigherself · 2025-11-06T15:38:16+00:00

Actual practical tip: get in a good mood beforehand. Listen to music, comedy podcast, go to the gym. Being in a good mental state makes all the difference. Also get social as much as possible. Talk to anyone and everyone. Also don’t jerk off ever. Do those 3 things and approaching will be surprisingly easy.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2025-11-06T10:54:13+00:00

That's the neat part, you don't!

I wrote some posts about approaching with social anxiety. They're in my profile

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-11-06T10:51:00+00:00

Why are you afraid to do the approach? What's stopping you?

tattooedpanhead · 2025-11-06T15:41:35+00:00

just talk to as many women as you can with out expectations. any age but older is better and dont worry about how they look. you're only practicing geting to used to talking to them. and read all the books you can about womans psycolagy secduction and body language.

FateInHaze_Re-Pac · 2025-11-07T03:44:24+00:00

Look into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (A.C.T.) self help books. A.C.T. is based on mindfulness techniques which teach you to accept the feelings in your body without judgement or trying to change them. I personally believe that traditional therapy techniques have a lot to offer in the realm of inner game.

Thin_Protection5616 · 2025-11-07T03:49:27+00:00

A buddy of mine recently put out a great video on this topic.

'AA isn't real.'

Basically, 'AA' isn't a fear of talking to women. It's a fear of talking to strangers. Plus, he gives some practical tips that make your more calm and sociable generally.

Very novel but sensible take, imo.

Check it out and let me know what you think.

DRenaissanceMan · 2025-11-06T14:04:23+00:00

Three words

Just.
Do.
It.

the more you think about it (before doing it) the more you will talk yourself out of it

the more you actually do it, even if you crash and burn, the more you will get used to it and realize that even the worst crash and burn does not actually affect your life negatively

See someone you wanna approach? 3 second countdown, and start walking to that person, and then open your mouth and say the first thing that comes out. There is no other magic bullet.

Good luck :)

Calm-Dragonfruit-501 · 2025-11-07T06:58:22+00:00

I just want to say thank you for everyone that commented and gave me all this helpful and insightful advice I really appreciate it

OkUniversity5882 · 2025-11-06T11:08:05+00:00

I am 22 and have approached ZERO females in my life. The only two girls Ive ever been in bed with came from dating apps. I am 5'9" with a bad nose and indian. Id be reported for approaching them.

Title	Approach anxiety
Author	Calm-Dragonfruit-501
Upvotes	3
Comments	24
Date	November 6, 2025 10:41 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1opvmkc/approach_anxiety/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/approach-anxiety.1565905 https://theredarchive.com/post/1565905

Comments