Becoming a sexual guy

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-02-19T12:39:09+00:00

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aaronob · 2015-02-20T01:31:30+00:00

I've had success with women for a while, but up until a few months ago I was seen as a nice guy who gave off non-sexual vibes and sometimes seemed like great friendzone material. I practice pick up, but I wouldn't call myself an "artist" quite yet. However, I have been succeeding in giving off a more sexual vibe, and for the first time in my life women are using words like "hot" and "sexy" to describe me and more women are wanting me than ever.

As others said, be a man. Dress well. Take care of your self. Have manly hobbies and passions. Be an interesting person. Body language is huge- practice good posture, move slow and cool, and take up space when you sit or stand. Dominant body language is a good way to communicate that you are confident in your skin, which is very sexy. Show women you're not afraid to touch them. Speak less. Speak in a lower tone. When you are having a conversation with a woman, get close to them and hold eye contact. Don't be too quick to speak if there is a pause in the conversation. MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT. If they like you, they will become nervous and flustered and stammer out something to break the pause. Communicate that you noticed this by letting out a little self-satisfied smirk.

Overall, just practice dominant and confident behavior. Don't try to impress women, be a man that a woman wants to impress.

Good luck.

bl1y · 2015-02-19T13:01:39+00:00

Good question, and you're right that it's not exactly clear what that advice is telling you to do.

I don't have a great explanation for what it means to be seen as a sexual guy, but I can give you some tips on how to go about achieving it.

The first step is to start thinking of yourself as a man. You're not a boy, you're not even a "guy," you're a man. Then, start acting like one. Get a decent haircut, take care of your grooming, get some clothes that fit and look good.

Next, since we tend to think of better looking people in a sexual way, you've gotta get in shape. Hit the gym, cut the crap out of your diet, and lift a bunch of heavy things. Not only do we fantasize more about people who look good, sex is an athletic activity (well, good sex is). If you look like you'd pass out after 10 seconds, you're less likely to be seen as sexual as someone who could go for hours without getting tired.

Finally, and this may be the most important, you need to regularly pursue your sexual desires. To put it simply, you need to go out to the bars or whereever, and try to get laid. You can't keep your sexuality in a little box in the back of your closet. You need to get it out on a regular basis and try to get someone to use it with you.

zomgitsduke · 2015-02-19T23:24:14+00:00

In addition to the posted tips, I recommend being just slightly more open about sexual topics. Don't push the topic, but casual jokes and not really caring what you say can make you seem much more sexual and chill about it.

King_Awkward_IV · 2015-02-19T16:35:56+00:00

Yeah, this is one of the annoying "remember to do the thing!" advices that never specifies what "the thing" is. If you ask, people mostly raise their voices and emphasize that the thing is very important!

My guess is that it can mean casually talking about sex and sexual things with women. Many guys think this will embarrass and offend them, but (done right) it only shows that you're relaxed and comfortable with sex and women, and frees her up to also talk about it.

2015-02-19T22:54:56+00:00

start with eye contact, kino and escalate, look at her boobs sometimes, dont hide it. You can laugh a bit when she notice you, touch touch touch, and be yourself. Trust your guts man

Really the best advice I can give you is to trust your guts. You want to touch her? do it. start by the shoulder and see how she react, touch her arm and her hands, look at her and ask her subtle question about her. Look at how beautiful she is and your body language will react according to it. Have fun and always stay focused on what you want. Sex. it will get naturally after a while. It's hard to explain, once you know how to flirt, you will always be flirty with women. They will instantly get it, and play the game.

TheLongLady · 2015-02-20T01:57:21+00:00

Lets say you're on a date .

Looking: Not too creepy (don't just stare at her boobs) but notice how she's dressed, how she holds her drinks/eats her food, if she plays with her hair, and let your face express that you like looking at her (smiles, biting lip, smirks etc). (^If looking is reacted to positively proceed to speech)

Speech: Begin to express how you like the above, her aesthetic (the color of your dress bring out your eyes, that necklace looks good against your skin) and most of all her as a person. If you only complement and react to her physical attributes for most girls that's a red flag. No girl just wants to be a body even if they do just want to have sex.

philosarapter · 2015-02-19T20:21:06+00:00

Its the understanding that everyone enjoys sexual pleasure, and you are capable of providing that. Its getting over this mentality that only men pursue sex, women are just as horny, believe me.

dreamoftheiris · 2015-02-19T20:36:58+00:00

I recommend David Deangelo's talk on "Being a man that naturally attracts women" and Dr. Paul's material on Masculinity.

ifastboy · 2015-02-20T05:48:40+00:00

A guy who knows what he wants and goes after it

joshsway · 2015-02-19T13:33:08+00:00

I think by far the two best and easiest ways to appear more sexual is to make good eye contact and kino.

grate314 · 2015-02-19T22:28:30+00:00

Just get married, then you never have to have sex again. Unless, of course, she wants a baby. Then you have lots of sex, then nothing.

locotx · 2015-02-19T14:38:55+00:00

Well to be sexual you have to have lots of sex, good sex, bad sex, lots of experience. Not going to lie to you. The reason is you cannot bullshit though this. You can watch porn, or read up on everything, but its' not until you experience it will you know what to do. That sexual confidence many douchebags have, that's because they have had lots of sex and know they have made a woman cum and have the confidence in knowing what to do. Now, you do have to present yourself in an attractive manner so a woman wants you to be sexual with her, that's the visual element you can control and that opens the door to showtime! Once you get there, you better know what you are doing.

Rareturd · 2015-02-19T15:51:12+00:00

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n0ss3 · 2015-02-19T13:40:27+00:00

you just need to make tons of money man

Title	Becoming a sexual guy
Author	Polar1zing
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Date	February 19, 2015 11:51 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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