Well, duh.

But we need to widen out what that means.

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It means you love yourself. In all your nervousness and awkwardness, in your goofy smile and your dumb jokes. You love yourself and you know that everyone is lucky to meet someone like you.

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It means you love HER. Yep. No guarding your heart, here. Let her see that you love her, by focusing on the most beautiful and lovable parts of her while you're talking, exchanging glances, and even while you're approaching. Fall in love early and often, and show it with your actions, don't talk about it with your words.

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It means you love the play of flirting, the juicy possibility, you love every second of her sizing you up and making decisions about you. When you love the play, it naturally slows down, and women. love. slow. Women's desire is usually reciprocal, as in, she desires you after she experiences your desire for her. How your desire *for her* feels *to her* is what she's responding to. When you love the play, you don't come off hungry.

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It means you love the outcome. ANY outcome, you love it. You already love the play, so if it stops right there, all you did was something you loved. When you stay loving yourself and what's happening, you're only having a fun and loving experience, no matter how it ends. When you love the outcome, no matter what it is, you can be fearless. You got this.

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Love yourself. Love her. Love the play. Love the outcome. And all you'll do your whole life is love.