Success fear

ethguardian · 2011-06-03T12:49:52+00:00

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Whisper · 2011-06-03T19:55:31+00:00

You might be afraid of leaving that initial state where you have nothing to lose.

Once things go well, you have something invested.

ethguardian · 2011-06-03T17:08:22+00:00

I think everyone suffers from this to an extent. I'm really good with AA, K-closes and #-closes, but I kinda lock up when going for the f-close. It's just something you have to plow through and ignore. Don't let the fact that you have anxiety keep you from closing!

danvasquez29 · 2011-06-03T19:26:35+00:00

are you working on women your attracted to, or just going at whoever shows interest? What I'm imagining your feeling I've felt before, when I've been practicing different things or just plain bored flirting with girls I really had no interest in.

I think it comes from a fear they may become attached and then you've gotta be an ass to a girl that would be very hurt. This happens with very low value girls that you lay it on a little too thick with. That's my side anyway.

Davidocity · 2011-06-03T20:38:18+00:00

For me, I'm sure about what I want most of the time, but sometimes I don't know what to do if or when I get it because I may not know why I wanted it in the first place. Then I focus too much on the what do I do now mentality.

Be consistent, know what you want and why.

RedShirtedAss · 2011-06-03T21:40:49+00:00

I think you're too worried about closing every girl you meet. Open the girl with the knowledge that there's a possibility that things aren't gonna go smoothly and it'll be a lot easier. Every girl is going to react differently to what you say so there's no way to get a perfect 100% response every time unless you're really good (Style/AFC Adam). Think about it this way, NBA players shoot the ball all the time and miss plenty of shots, but that doesn't stop them from taking more shots even if they're 0/10. You're gonna end up friend zoning some girls along the way, its not the end of the world. But its better than not taking any action.

ethguardian · 2011-06-03T15:19:20+00:00

Maybe you're gay. JK. Maybe you subliminally think that you wont live up to a woman's expectations of you. It's understandable really. I don't know you but if I had to hazard a guess, I'd say that you aren't scared of approaching women because they seem like easier targets, and hitting on women is a familiar routine for you.

When a women approaches you or gives YOU strong IOI's, it puts you on the spot and that can be an uncomfortable feeling. My advice is to adopt a more carefree attitude, and not give a fuck what the consequences of your actions are. Easier said than done though.

Title	Success fear
Author	ethguardian
Upvotes	12
Comments	18
Date	June 3, 2011 11:55 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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