Thoughts on escalating sexual conversation?

osufan765 · 2011-12-23T02:46:26+00:00

You should do it. Start thinking like a pervert.

I was at a party and I saw this chick putting her cell phone into her bra. I told here that wasn't really a good place to put her phone, it'd make her boob look square. She argued with me for a bit, letting me stare at her chest to make a judgement call about how well her bra worked as a holding spot for her phone.

Then I put my phone into the crotch of my pants, she grabbed my junk, and we were off to the races from there. You just have to be bold and comfortable.

dakru · 2011-12-23T05:42:17+00:00

It's common for men to have been raised and taught to see their sexuality as threatening, and so when it comes to making conversations and situations sexual, even when appropriate, they often have a hard time. I think this is holding a lot of men back (even people in this community) more than any specifics (which other people have mentioned).

Contrary to society's warped view of sex that it involves the man winning and the woman losing, realise that you're trying for something that's mutually enjoyable. You both want it. Don't hold back. As someone else said, "start thinking like a pervert". It's not a bad thing.

PyouA · 2011-12-23T03:12:05+00:00

Basically the girl could take it two ways, threateningly or playfully.

They key is to keep it so sexuality seems to be coming to the surface peripherally, then if she identifies with the thread and applies it to herself then make a playful comment/face/smile/gesture. They key is to let her apply the sexual thread to herself, don't force it on her because that is going to make a bunch of biological alarms go off in her head.

As an example, let's take a recent conversation I had that I've drastically shortened/paraphrased because I don't feel like writing a book right now.

Me: Yeah, stuff is way different now. I feel like throughout all of recent history people have always been fighting off impulses but now everyone is so consumerized that we feel worse for not doing than doing for the first time ever.

Her: What do you mean?

Me: Take something like a one night stand. For the past however many hundred years people would see that as a horrible thing. They thought that love was scared and that sex shouldn't be used just as some product. But now, a lot of girls I know are very interested in one night stands and have them without apology or concealment. And the weird thing is, that I'm willing to bet those girls would have felt worse the next day for denying themselves sex than having the one night stand.

Her: Yeah, I guess I know a few girls like that. But I don't think that just because you would have sex with someone out of impulse it means that you commodify sexuality. People have been falling to those temptations forever.

Me: That's true. I'm just saying that those people would feel bad the next day if they had sex and feel good the next day if they held out. I don't think that happens anymore.

Her: Well I know that if I did anything like that...

Me: (Pull my eyebrows up in intrigue with a smile)

She smiled back and laughed a bit then continued.

Okay, see how I let her transition it from being about sex to being about her sexuality. Don't ever force that, let them transition and if they don't, then talk about it in the hypothetical and then switch threads when you are getting redundant or boring. If I asked her, "well if you had a one night stand then how would you feel?" she might take this threateningly. So the trick is to bring up a sexual topic and see if she is ready to bring her sexuality into the discussion. Then if you are able to show some interest while also being classy and a bit passive then you are in.

Hope that helps. It took me a while to figure this out.

ShowcasePUA · 2011-12-23T19:54:15+00:00

Start using something I call PROWORDS:

Love, Excitement, Intimate, Passion, Pleasure, Warm, Feeling.

Example: I absolutely love drinking hot chocolate on a winter day. It makes me feel so warm and bursting with passion. I could sit down and read a good book for hours.

When you are using prowords, you aren't saying anything suggestive per se, but you are starting to speak their language. Women aren't logical creatures, but they are very emotional. A women's subconscious will identify these words and her own feelings will naturally lead her in the direction that you want.

Also, dakru brought up a very valid point. You must tear off the societal casing that has been placed on your sexuality. Be proud of it, but exert self-control over it rather than let your culture control it for you.

Polemicist82 · 2011-12-23T03:03:17+00:00

Play around with inuendos that build sexual tension and get her asking, 'Is he joking,' or 'did he really just say that?' It's doen't even have to be sexual, it can be teasing. Talk about how every girl has a pair of toe socks, or about how you can't be in a relationship with a girl who likes musicals. Think tension. All tension can easily lead to sexual tension. You may have to test it out and not being afraid to almost get slapped. Eventually you'll fall into your cool. I strongly suggest David D's Sexual Communication series. You may be able to find it on youtube.

indigObstacle · 2011-12-24T23:52:25+00:00

LOL "Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day." Awesome.

This might help: http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?1699-How-to-build-sexual-tension-during-day-approaches

CaptAwesome76 · 2011-12-26T05:04:29+00:00

Usually I will throw something somewhat suggestive out there and add "you can take that however you want." and see what I get back. That's a good indicator to where she is going with the conversation then you can go from there.

Title	Thoughts on escalating sexual conversation?
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Date	December 23, 2011 2:39 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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