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NAH, SISBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:36 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:48 AM
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DISCUSSIONBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:26 PM
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DISCUSSIONBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:33 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:33 PM
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#JustLVMThingsBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:19 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 07:49 PM
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NAH, SISBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:15 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:25 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:13 PM
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COCKHOLM SYNDROMEBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:15 PM
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#KickHimOut2020Bitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:24 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:32 PM
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How-To High ValueBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:27 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:08 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Bitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:17 PM
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LEVEL UPBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:43 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:34 AM
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#JustLVMThingsBitemebitch00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:16 AM
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Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:41 AM
1

Hahahahahahahahahhaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:22 PM
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A guy was making a joke about how he was gonna fuck my pussy even if it was dry.... It sounded rapey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 10:22 AM
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What's ahegao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:15 PM
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It just feels like if we make this sub private, it's like letting these gross little men get to us. I'd rather leave it public so we're able to be found easier. Yes, there's recommendations from other subs but I'm sure that's more of a minority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:44 AM
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Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:34 AM
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Exactly. I've been through this exact situation. As soon as I left, my family fell to shit cuz there was no one to beat up on. Now the boys are on drugs and I'm pretty sure one is a pimp. When before, they could keep the facade up of happy church family. It just shows what's underneath: whats really there. Do whats best for the little girl..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:05 PM
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Literally call CPS.. this is horrible. I see people telling you to be her role model and that stuff is great and all but please be a responsible adult and call CPS. Because you cant protect her all the time. 2 times a month is not enough. She is abused there ALL the time. Most of these children are, but especially this poor girl. I used to be in this situation. I was the oldest that everyone was mean to.. I have CPTSD and am a little bit of a hermit now. I have panic attacks and have been in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:33 PM
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Speaking from experience. Tearing up a family system like that isn't as bad of a thing as you think. Ignoring her in that situation is. I dreamed of someone rescuing me from where I came from. Yes, there will be fall out but 1. They dont have to know it was you who called. Do it anonymously. 2. These children can get the help they need. They'll be upset at first. They're children.. but they need you to step in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:29 PM
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Happy Cake Day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:32 AM
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Even tho they make a dollar to our 77 cents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:36 PM
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Jesus wept
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:47 PM
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Oh god no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:46 PM
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My ex would always tell me I'm "way hotter than him" and say im out of his league and that I could be a model or famous tiktok girl, but then when it came to him treating me right and taking me on dates, somehow he took me for granted and never put time or effort into the girl he thought was soo pretty. Goes to show, they even take the ones they think are out of their league, for granted. They treat people how they treat themselves, and if they're insecure, they'll treat you like trash as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:36 AM
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I laughed because same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:15 AM
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It's so pretty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:13 AM
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HAHAHAH. Please let me know when it's been made or when you join :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:33 AM
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CAN WE PLEASE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:03 AM
9

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:56 AM
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Year of the Queen. I love that! Also, congratulations on being plus a house and minus a "boy".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:04 AM
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Yeah, that's something I've found about him.. sadly.. when I slightly reject him, he rejects back even harder. And then I'm left feeling rejected and broken. I finally just said, forget it. After he finally messaged me back, I waited like 8 hours and sent him a message, saying "I'm busy right now but I'll respond later!" I'm never responding. He wanted to be friends. Friends dont do this..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:31 AM
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This makes me feel worse. Not that you shared that, but that they are all the same. I had hope for this one..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:43 AM
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I just recently broke up w my ex and instead of blocking and deleting like I should've, I left it. HE REACHED OUT TO ME A MONTH LATER ON CHRISTMAS EVENING. I thought "oh no, why on christmas. This motherfuckers lonely" but I responded back and he was like I just miss talking to you and I said I missed it too. Dont slam me too hard for this. I've learned. Anyways i responded later in the morning cuz i didn't want to text my ex late at night. He didn't open my message for 2 days. He told me he mis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:22 PM
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Its fucked up when you look at it from far away, but it's a fucking great survival skill to stop the brain psyche from shattering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:18 PM
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I'd recommend therapy honestly. Reach out to a sexual abuse hotline and they can give you resources specifically for your situation. Even if it happened a long time ago, they can still give you present resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:16 PM
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The sad thing is, before therapy, I understood where she is coming from. Sexual trauma really fucks you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:51 AM
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I'm a virgin again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:46 AM
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Trauma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:43 AM
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Sorry that happened to you. Boys get away with a lot more in out patriarchal society. I would also check out r/CPTSD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:41 AM
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So have I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:35 AM
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I'm gonna screenshot this so I can read it later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:55 AM
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I DONT KNOW HOW I KNEW THIS. As a survivor of abuse, I thought he was funny but always felt uncomfortable watching him and the way he acted with lack of boundaries with his audience and speaking about women's bodies so nonchalantly... my gut was right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:04 AM
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Sometimes I just get on FemaleDating Strategy to remind myself that no man will ever be worthy of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:55 AM
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Any guy that's letting a relationship "coast" is a piece of shit who has no balls and empathy for the human being hes in relationship with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:31 PM
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Well I was just out of a breakup. Maybe I should try it. Either way, it's hard for me to stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:16 AM
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That makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:15 AM
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Exactly. Its like I'm just reminded about the fucking audacity of men. I hate them after looking through this subreddit and dealing with my own trauma regarding them. That might sound horrible and I get it. But I hate them. I'm tired of scrolling through OLD shit (I know. Theres no HVM there, but it feels like a pretty good sample of the population), and seeing the trash there. They're all so ugly, put next to zero effort into their profiles and dont want to put any effort into a relationship. E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:14 AM
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I'll have to try those instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:09 AM
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I just sighed when I read this. I have no more words to say. Edit: I might have to delete reddit for my mental health because I see this glimpses of mens innerworld and I just feel like I'm going to explode in anger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:41 AM
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😂😂✌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:35 AM
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Exactly. I feel like I cant watch them in good conscience. I feel they're like backing up the societal brainwashing I've undone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:03 AM
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Should've asked to borrow his phone to call someone, then call his mama and tell her what happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:49 PM
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My ex used to tell me I was way out of his league and that I was definitely hotter than him when I'd try to compliment him. After like 6 months he started to pull away, and I ended it. He went from complimenting me like crazy to like never doing it. I'm thinking maybe he felt insecure. Edit: I mean like I know he felt insecure. But I mean his compliments stopped because be felt insecure and didnt want to build me up? Idk. Either it way it all hurt and I broke up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:17 PM
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"Oh I dont have any but I'm really turned on by respect" Same sis, same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:50 AM
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Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:37 AM
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QUEEN SHIT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:02 AM
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You right though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:00 AM
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HAHAH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:00 AM
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This wasnt a guy I've ever been interested in. This was a guy I THOUGHT was my friend. Little did I know..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:00 AM
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Good call tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:59 AM
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You're right. I'm learning a lot. It definitely hurts to see the truth. I'm beginning to see all of the trash men are and its hurting me so bad.. I hate seeing the world through this lens but after that last relationship, I can't trust men. They lose interest at the drop of a hat, can't empathize half the time, treat women like trash, and act so entitled. I can't fucking deal with this shit. I can't trust men. I don't want to let a man NEAR my vagina when I know the truth about them.. I just fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:59 AM
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Wdym? Sorry, it's late here and my brain isn't putting sentences together rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:55 AM
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You're right. Hadn't even met the guy and hes siding with him. Hes not a supportive, loving friend and this shows he doesnt care about me and can't empathize with me..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:55 AM
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I didnt really think of him like a man. I thought of him as a friend but my mistake for sure. Hes being so gaslighty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:54 AM
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You're right. What a piece of dog shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:01 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:58 AM
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😔you're right. I thought he was before this.. this isn't what friends do..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:57 AM
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I thought he was my friend before this. So I was explaining the situation like I would to a friend.. Now I know all men are pieces of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:56 AM
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This guy has never met my ex that I recently broke up with, but immediately sided with his gender. I confided with him about the situation, only for him to ask why I wanted a simp. FUCK YOU DUDE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:21 AM
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They're so sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:19 AM
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You're so right. They all look like scumballs on there anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:07 AM
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I'm sorry this happened to you. I straight up laughed at the audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:21 AM
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This is literally what my last LDR turned into. I want to puke thinking about what it turned into..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:18 AM
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Yeah, like the guy looks spoiled here. But nobody thinks about the women constantly emotionally burdened by "spoiling" the man baby..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:16 AM
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You're fucking right. Thanks for putting it that way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:49 AM
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Aw I love that! It definitely feels helpless with men but they won't access to me when I'm feeling content with my life :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:49 AM
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Thanks I needed this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:28 PM
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👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:22 PM
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It's so true. And there's times that even if theres a man with a few HV qualities, he's actually LV. Its hard..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:21 PM
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Honestly yeah. As a "Former and Still Recovering PickMe", I have lived my life trying to look pretty for men. Literally today I walked out of my house, no makeup, comfy clothes, hair a mess. I dont have to impress a soul. I'm living my life. I'm not going to try and impress anyone. I'm going to dress up when I want to dress up. I'm not going to fake my personality for a man ever again because if he can't handle "ALL THIS" personality and love, then he don't deserve me, and I dont NEED a man. I n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 09:30 PM
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Yeah, it's also like dude if they have no problem finding girls irl, then why would they put a lot of effort in? And why would they specifically look at me? Not trying to have low-self esteem. Just honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:59 PM
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(Warning: In this I am going to mention my ex quite a lot. I broke up with him after I broke a few FDS rules and learned my lesson. I am trying to figure out what I liked and didnt like from the relationship, but I literally broke up with him around a week ago, so it still hurts. I'm still feeling emotionally hung up on him even though I blocked and deleted. But I'm using him as a comparison to the things I want, that I found I liked a lot. I'm 20 and am still figuring out what I like and respec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 09:52 AM
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Exactly. I was dumbfounded by that last paragraph that he led up to by saying, we're not that interested in you and we basically warned you, to saying, we'll treat you aMaZiNg. Like if you're not interested, it's your responsibility to communicate that and then back off. 🙄 Leading someone on is not being a "Good Guy" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:03 AM
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The truth tho. Pickmes def have trauma..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:17 AM
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I didnt say it was bad you did that. I just thought this dude was gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:39 AM
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This "man" is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:33 AM
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Fucking love this! I started one of them and I'm already feeling confident!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:15 AM
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Reading that was shocking. It's so ingrained in my brain that seeing it from the other side is crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:13 AM
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Agh I'm gonna do it!! Do you go to like climbing gyms or like go to climbing spots outdoors?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:46 PM
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I'm down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:51 PM
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He doesnt want to enjoy you, sis. He wants to abuse you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:37 PM
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I feel desired and wanted again. Being in a monogamous relationship where his attraction to me went from 100 to 0 a little after we became exclusive, really hit my self-esteem and I thought I just wasnt pretty. He was the kind of guy to say, "you're so out of my league" and this and that. Then, his effort disappeared as soon as he thought he didnt have to try anymore. All the compliments I had grown accustomed to were gone. I dumped him. I'm trying to realize that its society telling me that men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:06 PM
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Girl, how did you get into rock climbing? I've been wanting to get into that for quite a while but just dont know where to start!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:01 PM
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They say "I'm not picky, I'll eat anything" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:07 PM
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My ex did this to me in an LDR.. I had no idea it was future faking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:36 AM
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Im on the same page. At the same time, I'm like "Why even bother? Like relationship should consist of sharing emotionally and caring about one another". If I have to be guarded all the time, it's not relationship. I feel like I'm about to give up on this whole men thing. I can't trust them and they just try to use women.. its sick.. I'm tired of the misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:34 AM
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Literally yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:32 AM
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How did it go??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:04 AM
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I am fucking crying 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:29 PM
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Yeah I think, he might've been a love bomber because it faded over time :/ but thank you so much! I know what to watch out for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:26 AM
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He didnt want me..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:09 AM
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Haha yeah we dated the same person. I'm so done with guys rn..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:03 AM
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My ex-LVM told me that too. "Physical touch is my love language" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:58 PM
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Yeah its like he only liked the rush. Then when it was time to actually get to know each other and share our struggles, and be real with each other, he was distant. Hed tell me he was having a bad day and then end it all with laughing emojis. Like bad low emotional intelligence or something with certain feelings? And like when I would validate that it sucked, he would brush it off. That was a red flag too. Another was that his last relationship had been for only 4-5 months, which is about how lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:57 PM
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No, Quinlan haha. What do you mean it was because of his own self-esteem? I just feel so used.. Edit: and what do you mean he needed my validation? He would always not take any compliments I gave him and then deflect them back to me. He would also say that I was way hotter than him and way out of his league. Actually now that I'm saying that, that does sound pretty LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:18 AM
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I've stopped believing in HVM.. the one man I loved freaking began to slowly distance himself from me. I broke up with him (following the handbook. I had followed it completely for the entire relationship), only to find out he wasnt that into it either, and didnt communicate it to me.. I feel so used. He knew this whole time and what?? He fucking used me like a used piece of trash bag. He was fine with me being oblivious. He was fine breadcrumbing me. I am fuming.. he had HV qualities like being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:45 AM
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Ohmygod thats freakin nasty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:07 AM
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It makes me think that men get into LDRs because they realize how low effort it is on their part.. they're crazy! It's not crazy for me to want the bare minimum of communication in a relationship. There was a time where it went by for a month without him calling me and when I brought it up, he couldn't "believe it"! 🙄 and would ignore my requests to call and answer some other part of my text without acknowledging that I wanted to call! LVM shit.. I honestly wish I would've been brave enough to c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:54 PM
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I'm sorry I'm really confused. Like she doesn't tell them the truth or she does??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:55 AM
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Exactly. I just broke up with my boyfriend today because I had to bring up multiple times that I wanted him to call me (WE ARE IN A LDR. THATS THE BARE MINIMUM).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:36 PM
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That's an amazing point! Thank you for bringing it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:05 AM
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I just watched that Bill Merher video and he quited literally said that we were not meant to watch other people have sex.. When porn first started up, it was the shock value of watching other people have sex. Not it's gotten to the point where the shock value is getting more and more. And the shock value is about degrading women now. Young women think they have to do those depraving things to men because men have normalized it.. I've never thought about it in simple terms like that. We were not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:16 PM
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You're so right!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:12 PM
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Hey is there a specific way to break it off with a man who's not putting in the effort a LDR takes? I know there's a lot of talk of Block and Delete, but do you ever offer any sort of explanation at all? I've heard its recommended to do it over text but what do you think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:35 AM
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By his "logic", sleeping with 10 different people and sleeping with the same person 10 times does the same thing? So why is sleeping around a bad thing? I dont think he understands the words coming out of his smelly mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:47 AM
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I honestly hadn't looked at it that way.. that makes me really sad to think about because it is possible I've built him up in my head. Having someone communicate in a more healthy way than I normally do, has felt so good. That might be what's making me feel like i should hold on. If i feel reactive, his approach is to listen and try to understand me, and why I feel the way I am feeling. If my emotions are off just a slight bit or I'm acting a little different, hes quick to ask how I'm feeling. H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:56 AM
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Thank you so much.. it's a lot of hard work. So much time spent meditating and writing out my inner thoughts just to make sure I can interact on a healthy level. Even then, it's hard. I have recommended FDS to so many women and I agree with absolutely everything it says. Its built up my self esteem even though it's still pretty low, I'm working on it. I'm just having a hard time, because with PTSD, it takes a very certain person for me to feel any sort of physical or emotional safety. So I might…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:32 AM
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Thank you. It makes my decision feel very hard because with my PTSD, it's really hard for me to feel safe with another human being.. when I'm around him, it doesn't even feel like I have a mental illness. I feel safe, and good, and alive.. I don't normally feel this way about men.. that's why I'm having such a hard time with this..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:54 PM
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You're right.. I think my loneliness might be coming into play as well. Hearing "I miss you, but..." doesn't feel very good. I'm holding onto potential. When we are together, it feels like we're the only two people and I've never felt so safe with a man, so it's really going to be hard for me to let this one go.. since I have a hard time feeling safe around men in general. He's super intune to my emotions and has been very attentive to my needs up until recently. That's why I brought it up to hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:53 PM
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No hes actually someone I feel really safe and grounded around. But I want to make sure I'm not projecting any of my pain into him. I want to make sure I'm communicating healthily and sometimes it takes me backing up so I can sort through my painful feelings before I can interact in a more healthy way. The only reason I did bring it up, was because I was backing up a LOT in the beginning and wanted to reassure him that I was interested in him, but I do tend to pull back at times. I didnt tell hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:50 PM
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I couldn't understand what she lip synched at the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:35 AM
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I just posted to the main checkin for Nov 9th. I'd love to hear what you think!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:18 AM
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Bro I need advice. I think I'm being a PickMe. I started this vetting process rigorously. But I think I failed.. I'm in a LDR, yeah, I know. I did bad. I have PTSD so I take space from the relationship when i need it. So i let him know i needed space and didnt message him for a week. Normally, he messages me in the middle of the week, to say like have a good day or something. It was complete radio silence the entire week. When I finally messaged him, he said hi and then took 7 hours to respond t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:15 AM
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It's supposed to be tea. Like gossip. Like when someone says they have piping hot tea, they have really interesting gossip. So when she put the tea emojis there, it was like saying "Oh that's interesting gossip".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:39 AM
1

The bar is in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:04 AM
8

That's the perfect response. That's my next go to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:59 AM
70

I'm a virgin again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:31 PM
1

I would've just blocked him. You weren't being a bitch. Just protecting yourself from garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:13 PM
6

Jesus. Trigger warning please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:59 PM
11

And an English class for his grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:58 PM
24

Its basically brainwashing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:54 PM
86

Yeah, what is up with this? I've had this happen to me too. Like what do you think switches in our brain? Do you think it's society's programming, saying that we have a man's attention, and since we think it's so valuable, we stop trying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:44 PM
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The fact that he brought up all these womena and how they "helped" him and he dumped them, just set up the expectation that he expected you to do the same and then eventually, because you "weren't the one", would dump you. He shouldn't have even brought up ANY exes or personal stuff. That is NOT first date material. FUCKING RED FLAG GALORE. 🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:27 PM
21

You make me feel sane, FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:17 PM
14

So she was an option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:11 PM
8

I wouldn't be here unless I read the handbook. I wouldn't be posting. I've been on FDS for a year, and been a huge fan on the surface. I'm saying that therapy has really ingrained the beliefs into my heart. Like I'm feeling what FDS really means in my soul. Therapy has helped me truly have a mindset shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:08 PM
6

YOU ARE SO RIGHT 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:26 AM
18

I just want to say I had a fucking breaKTHROUGH. Not even in FDS, but it transferred to FDS.. It was in therapy. I have had absolutely enough of letting peoples needs in front of my own and I have fucking had enough. I have had a breakthROUGH. I feel like I had an entire perspective shift tonight! Just looking through FDS, it's just affirming what I already know. My pickme behaviors are getting healed in therapy. I dont take shit from no one anymore. And I dont owe a guy anything. Even with my c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:22 AM
11

Absolutely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:18 AM
23

Hes gross, hun. Hes got a Men Are The Prize mentality. You dont want no boy. Get a man. A man will pay for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:17 AM
4

The audacity jesus christ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:14 AM
12

What's his insta handle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 03:43 AM
50

This makes me so fucking sick. The GASLIGHTING. THE DENYING BLAME. THE DENIAL. THE TWISTING OF HER IDEAS, THOUGHTS, WORDS, AND FEELINGS. I FEEL LIKE IM GOING TO EXPLODE. MEN ARE SO DISGUSTING AND REPULSIVE AND MANIPULATIVE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:53 PM
3

THEY KNOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:58 AM
1

I swear I was on instagram the past two days and seeing so many pickmes, toxic relationship examples, and toxic comments from pickmes and men. Sometimes I just need to come here to feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:47 AM
18

👆THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:18 AM
3

That is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:17 AM
6

Literally any excuse they can come up with try to figure out why Jenny doesn't want His ED DICKKKKKK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:12 AM
2

Literally 😂 so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:12 AM
57

Their cheesy ass dicks do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:46 AM
11

Block and Delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:40 AM
12

Is there any sort of communities online with it??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:32 AM
3

Eh, you could be right. I had fun while doing it though. And blocked him immediately after. Ya win some, ya lose some.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:28 PM
5

He couldn't cuz I blocked him after that😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:26 PM
8

This is from awhile back. I know I should've left him alone and normally I block immediately. I was feeling particularly grumpy that day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:20 PM
3

Wow. Thank you for this freaking kind comment. I feel like I responded way better to this than someone telling me I'm dumb for moving too quickly. You are so right.... What options are there to navigate this? I could either A) Leave him B) Tell him even though it's been a month of us being exclusive, I don't feel like we've spent enough physical time together for me to actually commit. C) Keep everything as is, and probably be miserable. You're right. Hes got me wrapped around HIS finger. Is opt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:38 PM
2

No our next one is going to be our Fourth Date. I'm going to be driving to him and then we're going together in his new car. So it would STILL be a four hour round trip for me. You're totally right. I'm just super torn cuz I rarely vibe with people the way I do with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:31 PM
5

THEY ARE LITERALLY GASLIGHTING SINGLE MOTHERS. Denying their EXPERIENCE. Denying the feelings that go along with it. And acting like it's the most glorified thing. I swear I actually felt my fight or flight kick in, just reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:21 AM
5

I have a question. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 20. We met on tinder and have been talking for 4 months and exclusive for 1 month. We're in an LDR and he's about 2 hours away. He just moved to that location 3 months ago and his car hes had for 4 years, broke down a little after he got there. Since he hasn't had a car, I've drove to him for the last three dates. (I KNOW I'm beating myself up for being a PickMe.) And he has made the dates wonderful. He cooked for me and we went on a picnic. Went to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:29 AM
1

Oh okay. I read it in a different tone than you meant it I guess! Yeah I understand how it could be strange to a lot of women on here that he doesnt have a car. I keep forgetting that the age range is a little different than where I'm at. We're both 20 and he moved out a little before I did. Like 6+ months ago, so we're both financially starting to get stable. But yeah, we were texting about the meetup when I posted this. His original plan WAS to bike 8 hours but then he was like "um a bus ticke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:53 AM
7

Oh god I'm getting flashbacks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:40 AM
1

I mean why be rude about it. Im excited
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:37 AM
1

I actually might have to delete the post. He just got a bus ticket😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:33 AM
-1

No, he just moved and when he got there his truck broke down. He's been very responsible and has saved up enough in three months to get one by the middle of October. Kind of a bummer situation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:20 AM
8

Well, we have been talking for 4 months and exclusive for a month and he has messaged me EVERY morning. Always asking how my day is and how I'm feeling. He cooks amazing food and yesterday joked that he's 100% husband material. I will definitely keep my eye out for that! But his consistency is something that I really like about him. Edit: also, thank you!!:))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:44 AM
9

I dont even know if I'm setting the standard but this boy is head over heels for me. He likes me soo much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:41 AM
7

This made me laugh. Women are getting standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:31 AM
3

I'm laughing cuz my ex's name was Dan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:41 AM
3

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:36 PM
3

YALL are SAVAGES😂🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:05 AM
2

Thank FUCKING god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:40 AM
6

EWWW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:08 AM
12

Aw what kind of dog breed??:))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:23 AM
6

Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:05 AM
33

They’re literally the desperate ones though. They jump at the slightest bit of interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:58 PM
57

It DOES feel like emotional labor.!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:35 AM
2

I noticed Becky vs. Dreamgirl isn’t in the handbook anymore. I went looking for it because I needed a reminder with the guy I’m dating. Where did it go and is it still available??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:56 PM
5

Yes I had a guy drive up next to me in the dark and slow down to ask me if I wanted a ride!!!!.. then when I looked at him and didn’t answer, he kept asking.!!! He was like, “.......so no?” And finally drive away. Fucking piggy predator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:19 AM
3

I didn’t know there was a discord!!! Do you have a link??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 07:03 AM
3

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:05 AM
3

True. That’s like the community gaslighting you. A whole community!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:43 AM
7

Ew look at his buttery teeth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:24 AM
9

Wise words of Kanye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:25 PM
11

This is GOOD ADVICE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:30 AM
5

Thanks for the clarification. I just didn’t quite understand what projection was and how it related. People downvoted me so fast😒🤨 I appreciate it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:00 AM
-7

How? I’m curious. Edit: idk why I was downvoted so much. I literally love this sub and wanted to understand what she meant. 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:37 PM
28

Me too!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:09 AM
4

Thank you so much! It went well:))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 04:24 AM
4

He was! He paid for my food, and also made us a little picnic where he made some really delicious food:))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 04:24 AM
17

So I was pleasantly surprised when I met a really respectful, nice guy off of Tinder. It’s a little long distance but he said he would be willing to drive and that he doesn’t mind driving. He has consistently texted me almost every day for two months, and calls. When we call, we talk for about an hour. We have a LOT in common and so far seem to “get” each other. He has been nothing but respectful and keep the conversation light :-). He told me that he had a crush on me and he liked me, and I tol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:25 AM
7

I’m happy because the guy I am talking to shows all of those + all the green flags in the comments section
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:20 AM
13

Yes please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:47 AM
9

Do cats not like being pet from tail to head? Sorry kind of irrelevant question and glad you trusted your judgement but.. what??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:44 AM
7

Hahahahahahhhhh Accuratee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:33 AM
6

I don’t know you but I’m so proud of you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:25 AM
5

“Shows something is wrong with you”. I understand that you don’t like dating apps and that’s completely fine, but I think that’s a pretty far leap. I have friends that have had wonderful relationships from dating apps. Women that could get anybody irl. Simply, got on there because they were bored and sifted through the bad. I agree dating apps aren’t the best but damn that’s a pretty harsh judgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:57 AM
1

Yes!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:24 AM
1

What do you mean by stoic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:23 AM
1

Thank you for this answer. I appreciate it!:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:22 AM
9

Thank you! That is exactly what I intended. I didn’t come from a bad place. It had really been in my heart for a while and I knew you ladies would be able to see that and help me 🥺☺️😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:23 PM
4

I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:21 PM
11

Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:31 PM
65

Yeah if they’re more visual, their looks would improve if they focus more on outward appearance than women do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:37 PM
3

But men will be controlling in a second
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:17 AM
1

Poor girl..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:33 AM
21

Ooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:27 AM
51

The snack that smiles back ❤️ has a whole different meaning now. I’m a Pisces. I’m the snaccc that smiles back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:39 PM
9

I love you ladies 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 08:03 PM
2

Get booted for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:37 AM
8

When he said “woman” I was out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:29 AM
30

So proud of you! My standards are changing as well. My new standards are: He has to have a body type I am attracted to. Either muscular or lean and strong. If he doesn’t have abs, he at least has to have a wiry, fit body. He has to listen to me, and be kind and caring. No more getting sarcastic jabs to hurt me. If he makes constant jabs at me, I don’t want him. My mental health is more important. He can’t be 4+ older than me. I’m 20 so I feel like this is a valid concern. He had to be at LEAST 5…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:42 AM
17

I thought the post was satire fire a second. OMG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:09 AM
29

Woman: has a height preference Man: proceeds to call insult HER appearance. Hypocritical much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:54 AM
20

I audibly said “gross” when I read that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 09:48 AM
54

It used to turn me on and get me off but I never realized how much I was fetishizing being “dominated”. I wanted to be dominated. And I’m realizing that is disgusting and horrifying in the way that the porn industry portrays that. They make girls baby talk and look at the men with Doe Eyes while they’re being brutalized and objectified. Being complacent and even LIKING the abuse. It’s horrible. It is absolutely horrifying to think that young girls and boys are watching this and thinking it’s nor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:15 AM
58

Ohmygod yes. It really is honestly pretty closely related with pedophilia, in a way, because a lot of it is having to do with stepdaughters or younger siblings. It’s just really creepy and it makes me worry for daughters that have dads into this stuff. It’s just something that shouldn’t be fetishized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 01:13 AM
27

Fuck. Being an empath isn’t as cool as I thought it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:20 AM
30

Yeah. And then he still wants to act like he’s in charge and an alpha male after saying he has the brain of a puppy. 🙄 they act like they’re the better sex, and say things like “women shouldn’t be leaders because of their periods”. Then try and act like they can’t do basic things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:55 AM
22

What books CAN they read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:51 AM
36

Hey friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 07:32 PM
17

Probably because they don’t feel like they can abuse you as much. It’s a power dynamic and they don’t want to be on the smaller end. Fuck them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:19 PM
7

Yesssss Queen. I’ll go. 1. I am very creative and determined 2. I just got my own studio apartment as my first place and I’m paying for my own rent and groceries (all my bills) 3. I’m responsible and have earned my bosses respect. Now I get full-time hours. I’m very competent. 4. I’ve kept a job for a year and a half. 5. I have stayed single for 5 months and am doing my very best to work on myself. 6. I got my Associates Degree at 16 and I love reading. I really like gaining knowledge. 7. I’m tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:20 AM
1

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:59 AM
6

He unmatched. THANK GOD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:35 AM
1

I’m wondering this too. I think I’m pretty avoidant as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 05:14 AM
6

Yeah that’s just a way to blame it on you. It’s not your fault. He just has issues getting it up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 05:08 AM
9

I am in the exact same boat! I downloaded a dating app legit this morning, and I’m already obsessed with messages I get. I’m in therapy. I have a lot of work to do! But good on you for being so introspective. I’m glad it’s not just me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:11 AM
9

Yeah like we can have some empathy for them but it doesn’t extend the other way. Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:25 PM
13

What’s mgtow?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 12:59 PM
9

Yeah I watched this recently. It really stuck with me how resentful she was when she went along with what she had to. She hated every minute of it. And when she finally broke the curse and had a free yes, she could be real with herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 06:33 AM
4

Yeah I’m curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:33 AM
19

I’m learning to treat men that aren’t close to me like acquaintances instead of waiting on them. I have my own shit to do and I have a lot I have to take care of. If I decide on somebody, it’ll be someone who treats me better than I treat me, And that bar is pretty high !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:30 AM
13

I have a guy at work who I had been “putting effort into” talking to him. I know. Shouldn’t have done that. So I’ve been being more chill and pretty much been doing my own shit until he comes up and says hi to me and when he does I’m responsive. I don’t think he wants me very much because he isn’t coming up to me very much. I have a crush on the dude, but I know he’s just one out a 3.5 billion dudes. It’s just his inconsistency that’s confusing me. I need to focus on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:23 AM
9

I went through this with my recent ex that I was with for a year. He would bring her up a lot and compare pure relationship to theirs. He texted her and she was MARRIED. I guess she would call him on his shit and get all fiery, and I think he expected that of me. He said they would get in arguments a lot that were really heated. That wasn’t really my style. Don’t stay in that relationship. I made that mistake. Don’t make my mistake. There was a night that we had a date nightplanned, and he got a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:11 AM
2

Woah truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:57 AM
9

“He’s just gonna watch it behind your back anyway” “As long as you have trust in a relationship” The cognitive dissonance is astounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:35 AM
11

Girl yesssssa!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:25 PM
14

Whoa you’re right preach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:17 PM
17

Is our femininity powerful? Real question. Like I’ve always been shamed for it all my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:14 PM
4

I feel attacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:33 AM
20

Same girl😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:51 AM
9

Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:50 AM
5

I thought the exact same. This person writes like an angry MAN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:42 AM
2

Absolutely agree. That shaming is not okay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:23 AM
7

A fireball nonetheless, not a basketball
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:09 AM
3

Yeah I replaced the word with “confident” in my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:41 AM
42

I heard Selena recently came out and told an interviewer that he was emotionally abusive to her during their relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:39 AM
7

Thank you for this song I love this I’m gonna listen to it a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:20 AM
3

“Ho-baby” 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:18 AM
1

Wow honestly, never thought of it that way. That’s gonna change. It’s gonna change with us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:58 PM
3

Yeah it was. But it was just that, a screensaver. It wasn’t a picture of me. Just my goals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:58 PM
3

Yes that was me. But the pics weren’t of me. They were inspiration pics. Like things I want to strive for and places I wanted to go. He thought the girl was me and was commenting on her body. Luckily it wasn’t me but still I was feeling really disgusted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:05 PM
1

It was a screenshot of my lock screen and home screen. I put inspo pics of things I want to be and places I want to go, and I put quotes next to it from FDS. One of the pics was of a fit girl swimming because I want to go to the Bahamas. It wasn’t even my picture and this guy was a douche. Honestly jokes on him but I still felt very attacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:04 PM
3

They weren’t my own. They were inspo pics of things I want to do and be. The dude was just a douche
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:02 PM
33

LOL WE DONT WANT YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:52 AM
10

Thrashing his little pp I’M WHEEZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:48 AM
6

My 6,979 emails?😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:48 AM
5

Yeah my church camp made a square skirts past our knees and a baggy T-shirt. It was separated and not co-ed but they didn’t want the boys to “accidentally” pass by and see us🙄🙄 I literally asked my pastor‘s wife one time, when we were having some sort of marriage education class, a question and she didn’t have an answer. She had been saying that it was a woman’s fault if a man lusted after her because she was a stumbling block to him by what she wore. They blamed the woman for being a temptation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:36 AM
3

I was actually Penecostal. It originated in the early 1900s But the woman had to wear skirts that were past their knees and never cut their hair. What kind of experience did you have with the Mormon church, out of curiosity?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:33 AM
5

Yeah it’s crazy that we were expected to do so much emotional and physical labor under the guise that we’re supposed to submit to our husbands even though they are not doing hardly anything. My pastor’s wife did is sort of marriage education thing when we were younger. Probably from the ages of 11 to 14. She kind of disguised it as a girls’ club but we basically learned that we were to submit and not have sex before marriage. That was mostly it. A lot of shaming and we weren’t really allowed to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:31 AM
2

I figured it was meant in a good way but I wanted to clarify :-) thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:30 PM
10

Seriously! Yes! My dad was a scum bag and I get that. I just wish I would’ve realized sooner so I could undo these negative beliefs about myself and men. I’m sorry you experienced that.!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:14 PM
4

I mean you didn’t have to be rude about it. I was in one. I’m learning and it affected me in a bad way .. I’m hoping you meant that in some sort of good, educational way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:13 PM
9

I agree. I was raised in a really conservative, crazy religion so that’s why I hate this sentence.I get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:08 PM
8

I feel like I need to watch this every day. I love her confidence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:07 PM
23

Oh my God I hate this sentence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:52 PM
3

Thank you for all the information. I appreciate it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:35 PM
3

Yeah I was just asking about the views on this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:34 PM
2

Oh OK. I was just confused about the connection between hair loss and porn for men, but it’s OK for them to masturbate? I’m genuinely confused and I want understand. Or if masturbation has a negative affect on women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:29 AM
22

He’s still living at home at 24 with no end in sight. No savings and he refuses to get a job that’s full-time and pays better because “he’s cOmMiTtEd tO HiS jOb”. Right. No ones that committed to a job that doesn’t pay good and lets you sit on your ass at home playing video games the rest of the week. H
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:29 AM
5

So is it bad to like masturbate in general or just watch porn? Real question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:27 AM
6

Where is that out of curiosity? Is it in the handbook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 10:20 PM
29

Why does he look like a proud little boy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 10:13 PM
10

My dad had that grin..... no wonder I’m a recovering pickmeisha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:48 AM
9

What? What do you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:15 AM
7

I don’t like it either. It’s a tense reminder of how trash LVM are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:06 AM
47

I read some. I can’t believe how hard men try for women and then act like they never really cared. I don’t get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:01 AM
3

Whoa for real! Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:13 AM
3

Girl you don’t deserve this. You are worth so much. You don’t deserve this kind of garbage in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:09 AM
9

Woah girl preach!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:30 PM
13

😂😂PREACH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:39 AM
13

What branch of the medical field did you go into? Out of curiosity? Sounds like you’re making bank
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:34 AM
15

u/milochi girl you are a queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:50 AM
13

Wait what? This is a show?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:35 AM
60

I’m surprised this doesn’t have more comments or upvotes. This is extremely spot on in my opinion. We told girls that can have and do anything and be anything they dream of. And the boys were expecting to be how their fathers were. That’s just not gonna cut it. 🙅🏼‍♀️💇🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:34 AM
8

Ahahahah I love this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:25 PM
7

Idk I didn’t ask. I just blocked and realized I need to focus more on myself so I know what I want before I get into a relationship, thanks to these amazing responses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:36 PM
6

You’re right, sis. Thanks for taking the time to respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:35 PM
2

Thank you so much for the response! I am in counseling and have been for a year! I also go to Friends and Family of Alcoholics and am slowly but surely getting rid of toxic people in my life and have gone No Contact from my family for a year. I am putting in every effort to face my traumas and am currently working on the trauma trapped in my body by going to craniosacral therapy and a chiropractor. I am also moving out of my grandmas next month into a duplex with amazing rent. It’s been hard but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:34 PM
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No I don’t think so. I made sure to read through pretty much everything in the FDS handbook to make sure I had a secure handle on what I need
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:31 PM
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It was OLD and he suggested coffee. I think I really don’t have a goal which might be more detrimental to me than I thought. Thanks for posting that from the FDS handbook. Even though I was annoyed at it at first, it really is what I needed to see. I don’t have a goal, I DONT want to get married. I just want to feel special from a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:38 PM
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Yeah like he’s saying don’t expect too much from me. He’s from OLD and works at McDonald’s. Next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:15 PM
8

😅thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:14 PM
2

Oh my God I’m just beginning to realize how low my standards for men are. I don’t expect this out of them. They’re all lazy slobs. But every girl I know has her life together like this. I wish I was a lesbian
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:07 PM
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Oooof yes I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:03 PM
3

This is wonderful advice! Thankyou!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:03 PM
6

He basically said it won’t be fancy cuz he’s a broke college student
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:02 PM
20

Yeah I sent him a text saying “I’d prefer we got dinner instead” and he said “alright. It won’t be fancy though😂 broke college student here” 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:01 PM
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What do you do if he specifically asks you what you’re looking for in a man? For real, I’m curious. I have a hard time setting boundaries. I’m working on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:06 PM
2

I just met her two weeks ago. That’s a boundary I’d not overstep. I’d say I knew this girl OUTSIDE of work for like a year or more I might consider. But WE’RE NOT friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:58 PM
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I don’t get it either and I think so too. She acts sweet but I’ve heard stuff about her. She LIKES that drama. She spreads it. I’m pretty sure she is liking to have attention.,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:56 PM
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Yeah my ex would FREAK OUT when we tried to find parking. I didn’t care as much so I always pretty much kept a level head while he was blowing his top. I’d offer to do it because it was causing him so much stress and he’d be like “NO I GOT IT!” Like I do I got to shield your little man ego? He was a lil bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:19 PM
6

I just gagged at the thought of seeing that shit again. I just had a flashback
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:59 AM
3

I did too. Been there. Ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:58 AM
4

So do I. Good on you, girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:56 AM
3

Why? Out of curiosity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:35 AM
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Or you could just explain it. Thanks for the google?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:24 AM
7

I laughed out loud reading that lmbooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:06 AM
5

What is the “no test”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:07 AM
5

He is acting wayyy too entitled to you. You don’t even OWE him your time. You don’t owe anybody anything. Not anybody
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:24 AM
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Trauma bonding?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:23 PM
5

I’m confused about the having long term relationships one? I thought him being loyal was a good thing? Could you explain please? I would like to understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:23 PM
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Does anyone know how to deal with this? When is too soon for a dude to call you a pet name and how do you tell them to knock it off if he tries to do that too early?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:20 PM
5

“Well it was fun’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:28 PM
2

Ninja?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:23 PM
5

What are dark triad traits?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:23 PM
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Yeah my dad used to grab me and hit me. He slapped me across the face. Grabbed me by my ear even as I was older, beat me with a belt, an electrical cord, a carbon arrow (that you shoot with a bow), a branch, and would scream at me inches from my face and grit his teeth like an animal. Would even stand on his tippytoes (he was 6’0” I was 5’2”) so he could then tower over me. I ditched that little bitch as soon as I turned 18. Who tries to do that to a teen girl and a young girl? Someone who’s ext…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:03 AM
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How do I tell Guy that I want him to pay for everything? Or is it like if he doesn’t, I Peace out and he SHOULD. Know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:01 PM
9

Who’s gaia?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:31 AM
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Yes girl yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:01 AM
10

“Cheesy dick” IM WHEEZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:16 AM
1

Ooh Gwen Stefani is amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:33 AM
1

I added all of those to my playlist! Thank you for taking the time to write them:))!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:33 AM
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What happened with Sandra Bullock?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:29 AM
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Same with me. I told him it didn’t seem like he appreciated me enough and he never bought me anything (SHOULDVE just left him lol) so instead of surprising me with anything and like actually taking the time, he was like “well what do you want..”? So lazy! I was a pickmeisha so I was like “omg he’s thinking about me!!” So 🙄 long story short, he ended up getting me some generic ass PLASTIC-thing, spray-painted gold PLAQUE ?¿ that said “love” in cursive. I was 19 (still am) and even I was thinking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:51 PM
5

What’s that ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 05:08 PM
2

I added all of those to my new playlist!! Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:50 AM
3

Serious yes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:50 AM
2

Oh man I just listened to champagne taste!!! This is exactly HVW!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:27 AM
1

Thanks girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:17 PM
1

Thank you! I felt crazy. It took me a while to process this after reading it. You’re totally right!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:16 PM
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No what I mean is I don’t really have many options to begin with irl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:26 PM
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Thats so great you responded. I am feeling a lot more encouraged by knowing someone else has gone through this too! I have recently had my vulnerability show up through these past couple months as well. The holiday is hell if you’re in contact with your parents or not (which is my case). I think I need to understand my own needs before I can even learn to communicate them to men or other people in general. Thank you for your response :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:32 PM
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I have a coworker irl call me trouble and I try and ignore him. He’s creepy asf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:34 PM
2

What do you say instead if they ask you what you like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:33 PM
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