EDIT: I noticed a lot of downvoting from lurkers. I just wanted to add that I’m in my early 20s :). The downvoting and upvoting, plus awards just makes my post go straight to controversial. Thanks for making this even more wide spread. Also, don’t you all have better things to do then hate on women’s success? Like exercising or submitting job applications? Or showering?

I joined FDS in January right after being assaulted. I saw it from someone calling it an incel sub. I looked into it and ended up falling in love. I joined the discord about 2-3 months later? So around April. During the time of being in FDS, I reported my assault, dealt with the police not caring. I went to school made friends, performed in concerts. I raised my standards, avoided men and low value friends. I cut off multiple male friends that only wanted me for sex and threw away all my BDSM stuff. I also learned how to make pottery on the wheel, as well as improved my singing and guitar skills. And went to therapy again, and received a Pap smear and antibiotics for my assault.

This month with the help of multiple members here, I made a huge move to another state and started an amazing job. I’m enrolled in school, make good money, have enough to rent my own place, have friends here already, have my credit card paid off, and have way better self confidence. I’ve also never missed any of my credit card payments and have a score of 745. I have been single and celibate for a year now and have never been happier.

The discord server reminded me how I started off. I had dry bleach blonde hair from attempting to hide from my assaultor. Now I have beautiful mahogany red hair with lowlights that I got done at a professional salon. My hair is soft, healthy, and shiny. I can say with certainty now, that I have recovered from my assault as much as I think is possible.

I’ve had a crush on a man for the first time since HighSchool, I’m learning to trust again. (It wasn’t just the assault that made me distrust men. It was also abuse from my father and ex). He’s a high value crush and I’m very glad to have raised my standards. I know not to chase as well too. There are better ways to catch someone’s attention!

I also no longer feel jealousy to my fellow women. When I hear about their success I am happy for them. I don’t hate one women anymore. I build them up and look up to them as inspirations. When I was a pickme I had a lot of toxic envy/jealousy.

Now I’m going to work for 8 hours everyday, getting enough sleep, drinking half a gallon of water everyday, taking better medication, have more energy, losing weight, and generally leveling up physically and mentally!! I’m also planning on teaching English in Japan to get in touch with my cultural roots!

FDS helped me help myself so much!! I am truly grateful. I look and act like a different person. I am no longer angry and bitter. I have learned and improved tremendously.