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You neither know me nor do I know you. I am not here to be met with negativity when I share my positive experiences. I am not here to be called "dumb, naive and blind" for being in a happy marriage with my husband. You're talking about privilege, but you dont know shit about what I've been through. Its a fact that this is a dating subreddit exclusively for women and that putting other women down for their positive experiences shouldnt be a part of it. I am not going to discuss this further with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:36 PM
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I also dont want to be attacked for my opinion or my experience. I dont want to hear stuff like "Just wait, you will be cheated on" or shit like this. Like I said, this is a dating sub. If you are negative about dating, maybe posting somewhere else would be a better place. Also venting shouldnt exclude other womens experiences. My experience is different maybe, but not worth less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:59 PM
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Opening your mind shouldnt be the thing to do. Being prepared to stay single and being happy by yourself should be. If a man isnt good enough for you, dont compromise if you cant be happ with that. After all our time is valuable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:25 PM
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I have my PMs off. I really think its either someone trolling or someone being offended that some people dont share their opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:50 PM
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This is because someone is trolling today. I was reported as a male today. I just would love to know how I, as an apparent male, was able to give birth to a Baby then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:40 PM
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Even if I am 99% sure that my husband is as flawless as a man could be, the 1% of doubt is enough to have an exit plan. Every woman should have one. Good for you, that you found out rather early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 09:16 AM
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"A small loan of 1 Million dollars"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:24 AM
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It's like.. you get tools and material to build a house, but in the end its your hard work that built the house. It didnt built itself in the end. Thank you alot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:22 AM
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My husband doesnt feel any sexual arousal if he doesnt have a strong mental connection to a person. This is why looking at other women or porn doesnt do anything for him. There are HVM out there, but they are rare. Honestly said tho, if it wasnt for my husband, I would probably stay single and enjoy my life alone. A vibrator is a better lover than 99% of the males on this planet. And I can make money by myself. Just as everything else a man could offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:13 AM
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I know the struggle. I was diagnosed with PCOS and thyroid issues after gaining alot of weight in a really short time. My clothes didnt fit anymore, my whole body felt swollen and the heavy acne didnt help my self esteem. My husband met me when I was rather skinny with occassional breakouts. I tried my absolute best to lose weight. My depression got worse when I didnt get the results that I hoped for. If I imagine what it wouldve been like if my husband was the way this POS was, I probably would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 08:06 AM
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Goddamn I hate this! So I built a successful business with a little financial help (2k € for equipment etc + 9k€ for makeup school) from my father and my husband. Alot of people were talking shit about how everything was basically handed to me. It wasnt. I had an easier start, but having success is not only about that, its about the work you put in. If my work was bad, my business wouldve flopped. I do understand that some people do get everything handed to them, but if its your Partner there is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:43 PM
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There are alot of HVW on here. Just because some dont post what YOU want to see, doesnt mean everyone on here "needs work" or isnt HV. Dont participate in this subreddit anymore, if you dont want to. I doubt that anyone cares tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:34 AM
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Honestly tho, my country is not in lockdown anymore and there are barely any restrictions. I hate how america-centric this site gets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:31 AM
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Aaaah he sounds absolutely lovely! All the best to you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:58 PM
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I hope this isnt real. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:35 AM
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She knew what he was even earlier. She probably thinks having someone at all is better than being alone. Absolutely no selfrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:01 AM
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Being well groomed and trying to look nice isn't a red flag. Getting angry when you touch his hair, because he "spent 2 hours on doing it" tho... I think men who are HIGHLY concerned with their looks are problematic. I knew some men who were model-tier pretty and they were absolutely narcissists. Also they were always looking at every mirror they could, to check how they look like. If it was windy, one of them would go absolutely crazy. He would hide himself until he "fixed his hair".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:23 AM
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If you have absolutely nobody to count on, you will have to do it by yourself. Your problem is probably being in a vicious circle right now. You have no job, because you're depressed. You're depressed because you have no income due to not having a job. So either you're working on your job situation or your depression. I know people who have tried free online therapy. It wasn't groundbreaking, but definitely helped them out of a rough time. Maybe that's something that could help you to get at lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:17 AM
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Way to go! We are powerful and they hate that. I totally prefer to be threatening to LVM than to be seen as sexy by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 08:07 PM
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I am 6'0 and I've been through hell because of it. When I was a teenager, people tried to bully me for my height. I was called "giant" and "female Hulk" and stuff like that, simply because I was taller than the rest. Boys rejected me because I was tall, even if they were taller. My friends were all petite and I couldn't help but feel jealous. ​ I get your feelings. I've been there. My ex told me that he actually prefered smaller women and it hurt. People were telling me that I should be glad to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 08:04 PM
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Raising a child only works if BOTH parents are doing it as a team. My husband and I have daily "me-time", where we can either sleep or do hobbies. Our son is ALWAYS cared for and it's a no-brainer that a child needs to be fed and having his diaper changed. It's definitely child neglect if one parent doesn't do that. My husband actually threw up the first few times he had to handle a poopy diaper. Did it stop him from doing it? Fuck no, the child needs a clean diaper and as a responsible parent y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:16 AM
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WHY DO WOMEN HAVE CHILDREN WITH NVM?! Honestly, he can't wait 1 week, try waiting 3 months?! Don't give them offspring, don't put your life on the line for those pieces of pure shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:56 AM
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It takes alot of time to be 100% behind your boundaries. Especially because we women are socialized to have no boundaries at all. Men want to have absolute freedom most of the time, so they brainwash us into thinking that its "controlling" when we disagree with something, while its totally normal for men to do that. You do know where your problems are and thats one step in the right direction. Working on your weak points takes time and doesnt happen overnight. To me personally there are things t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 11:18 PM
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You're totally right, I love seeing couples that stay together, because they WANT each other, not NEED! I definitely forgave him, but I never forget. Because if he does something like that again, I will keep in mind how he messed up once and how I am definitely not going to take someone back, who does the same mistake twice. I think forgiving a person you love, after they did everything possible to make it up to you, is a sign of strength! Thank you so much!! I hope that I can give other women h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:17 PM
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I am telling my husband everything what I get done. Not because I think it's "fair" or anything, I just want him to know how much I am putting into my appearance (and he pays for all that, so I guess he is allowed to know lol). I got lip fillers once and eventhough he isn't a fan of that, he paid for it as a birthday present. I didn't have to have a whole discussion about it or anything, he accepted my need to do it and supported me. If a man tries to talk me out of things I want to do to feel b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:10 PM
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I would probably get him doxxed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:32 PM
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The update would be that my husband drove 6 hours to where my parents live, because he knew I was there and basically tried to clear things up. We decided that I would get back to our apartment and continue living there, while he spent some time at his sisters house until he got an apartment for himself (one of those that are rented for short times like 1-3 months). After being there for me and actually proving that he is sorry, I let him back into my life. We are still happy and he enjoys his n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:47 PM
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My husband knows about me being on FDS and he doesnt mind either. Also he doesnt check on what I post in general because we talk about anything either way. There are barely any topics that we have different opinions on tbh. HVM arent scared of women having standards and helping each other out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 09:06 AM
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I had something similar happening years ago. I was out drinking with my friends and noticed a really drunk girl being talked to by a guy who was way older than her. She didnt seem to be into it, so I went up to her and said she should come with me. The guy told me he was just going to bring her home safely, but when I didnt believe him, he got really angry. Then I decided to bring her home since she lived near me and we would share the same train. Disgusting POS follows us to the train Station. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:48 AM
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Joe Goldberg irl. She should leave before she ends up in a glassbox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:29 AM
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This is something I was saying since ever. The Y chromosome is a broken X chromosome. This is why men have alot more genetical disorders than women. Also I think that the way they can gain and maintain muscles so easily is because the Y chromosome lacks certain things that inhibits the muscle growth. Also a woman is supposed to have energy savings for pregnancy or after giving birth and muscle mass is eating up too much energy. Overall I just think that men are incomplete creatures and they feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:23 AM
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You dont rant about your partner. You either solve the shit or leave him. And in this case: leave him. Whoever you are, sis, make an exit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:13 AM
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To be fair my friends also were disgusted by older men. But men were always trying to guilt me into "giving them a chance" also quiet some Pickmeishas who tried to tell me about the "benefits" dating older men has for me. Since I wasnt into saggy balls and crusty skin even back then, it didnt bother me. Once a guy even told me that I was "already 20 and shouldnt be too picky". Well, younger men are still into me, guess I can be picky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:21 PM
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Honestly, tho. I always said "I don't want some old grandpa who's 30" when I was just starting my 20's and people were so offended about it? Like, I don't care? I think it's gross? Now that I am older, I still don't want them. I rather want someone younger than me, because somehow most males hit the wall when they turn 30?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:48 PM
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I totally get where you're coming from, obviously you didn't mean any offense, I just wanted to share why it can be problematic for some of us to see those things. Males are extremely weak, obviously they feel threatened when they see some tall goddess. I am 6'0 without heels btw, nice to know that there are really tall girls on here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:01 PM
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Being called "giant", "titan" and "manly" and all that shit, I am not really happy about how tall women are depicted here. I am not some giant monster. I absolutely love when tall women are compared to Amazons or Godesses and the likes tho. Because it doesnt take away from our femininity. We are not manly or less feminine just because we are tall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 11:26 AM
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I dont worry about being tall, I am relieved to be tall actually. My husband is my height and doesnt have a problem with me wearing heels or something. Other men are less likely to try shit with me and I feel less threatened because my height is actually a nice way of self defense. Teenage me was devastated tho. Up until I was 16/17 I was dreaming about cutting some inches off of my legs to be a "normal" height. Then I realised that it doesnt matter if anyone finds me hot or desireable, its wort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:42 AM
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Men are hideous when its about height. They bitch about women not wanting their short asses, but they despise taller women. As a tall woman I absolutely hate their double standards and couldnt care less about their "feelings".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:48 AM
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My husband pays for everything, die mad scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:03 AM
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I don't understand either. I find penises (or genitals in general) ugly, so why would I put something I find ugly into my mouth?! I understand how it's possibly a dealbreaker for some, but I am disgusted how normalized (and even forced) it is that men "need" blowjobs. If anyone "needs" oral, it's women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:03 AM
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Even if a bj was the only way to cute his depression, he would be out of luck here. Not gonna put a weird sausage looking thing in my mouth. Not even if I love him to death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:23 AM
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She would be impressed by a simple "Wow"? This is sad. She obviously already has self esteem issues, so this shit wont be nearly enough to make her leave. I just hope she gets out of this relationship and takes time to heal and Level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:33 AM
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The male lurkers have nothing else to do I guess. I also just block them and continue my life with a wonderful husband who adores me. The entitlement is real tho. Just imagine telling a man that you settled for him. Just imagine telling him something along the line of "I actually like big dicks but settled for you because you have money" or something like that. They fucking murder women for less, dont wanna know what a man would do if a woman said something about his Penis being too small.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 09:45 PM
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If I am not his 10/10 then I dont want him. I am not being the dumbass who will accept it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:19 PM
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If they would commit suicide over that, maybe thats natural selection at its finest?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:12 PM
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"What if she is not who she claimed to be, would you give her a chance?" - "I am not sure" then when shes not "pretty" enough he cant get over the betrayal all of a sudden. Bet if she was beautiful, he would magically forgive her. Also most of those males look like shit, but really think an absolutely beautiful woman would fall in love with them like that. Fucking stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:35 AM
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Everyone starts out with recipes. Even his grandmother. So its absurd to want someone who magically cooks without recipes. The audacity..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:23 AM
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I think leaving a cheater has alot to do with self respect and self love. This is why FDS is so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:34 PM
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"No one will ever love you like me" SHE BETTER HOPES SO BECAUSE THIS SHIT AINT LOVE ITS TORTURE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:46 PM
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If youre not happy in your marriage, you either try to resolve the issues or you get out. Thats what adults should do. Sometimes it isnt safe for one Partner to speak up, but then they should Plan their exit immediately and not cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:28 AM
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So here where I live, people treat me worse when I wear makeup. I am not talking about alot of flashy makeup, everything that doesnt look absolutely natural is looked down on. It goes that far that I just dont wear any makeup when I dont want to have a shitty day while out shopping. I absolutely love makeup and doing creative looks, so its a shame I have to decide between being treated well or looking like I want to. Mind you, I am not talking about extreme looks here, just a bit of colorful gla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:02 AM
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So basically.. social media without men? Sounds lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:32 PM
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Men who want six children are willing to put your life on the line 6 times. Would be a huge red flag for me. Good that you got out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:47 PM
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I think the most important thing is that you don't marry men who watch porn. Don't even give them a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:56 AM
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First off its not only dangerous but way too early to let a 4 month old Baby sleep in their own room. Also its not only the husband who has to work, a mother has no time off and does work the whole day too. Having a Baby is a fulltime job for both parents. When my son Starts crying in the night my husband gets up to take care of the bottle and I do the diapers in that time. The Teamwork saves us alot of time and we can have more sleep in the end. I also get to sleep at daytime, so does my husban…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:03 PM
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They are rare, but they do exist. My husbands brothers have children and they are amazing fathers and husbands who take care of their family. I guess that is why my husband is just as invested in his little family. He has good role models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:02 PM
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When a man actually takes care of the Baby and the housework after the wife gives birth, he will be too tired to even think about sex for the first few weeks. My husband and I didnt have any thoughts about sex in the first 2 months. Even when I was completely healed we didnt have penetrative sex the first two times because he was worried about me. The poor women who are forced into having sex too early because their scrote "needs" it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:48 PM
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I got proposed to with a "cheap" ring because the actual ring wasnt finished yet but the proposal plans were already paid for. In our country the Engagement ring is usually the wedding ring so it better be high quality. So I had this Pandora ring for 120€ for a couple of days before my ring was finally finished and that cheap shit lost several stones already. We brought it into a store and they told us that we can have the money back since its a Problem many have. I dont even want to think about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:11 AM
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The point is that strippers also pay a high price for their lux lifestyle. Its definitely not as easy as they try to make it seem. Just from my viewpoint being a Stripper is a high risk job and I would choose to work in retail or as a waitress over stripping (I worked in retail and in several restaurants btw I know how it is). I think its a huge cope rather than an accomplishment to show your Designer stuff etc around like this. In the end those Girls do high risk work for stuff that isnt worth …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 08:13 PM
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By other disgusting men maybe. Normal people see him as the piece of shit that he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:56 PM
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Nope. Smart business women dont sell their bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:57 PM
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I also just Screenshot my finished pictures before I post them on Instagram or Facebook! The quality isnt as good in the end but I am not a photographer who advertises their photos, so its ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:19 PM
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You can exploit men without losing your dignity and risking your mental health tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:18 PM
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Especially as a woman you have to be extra careful online. I was lucky enough to be taught about Internet safety very early on, so I never ever used my legal name and my own adress online. Also pictures usually have a Geo Tag, which shows where exactly you were when the picture was taken. There is a program to delete the data from your pictures tho. In general its better to Avoid using any real life info anywhere online. Even if its on a private account on Instagram or Facebook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 11:47 AM
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My accomplishment was getting all this and even more with hard work where I didn't have to sell my body like this. I know alot of rich ladies who got their money from doing smart businesses and working hard. Selling your body should NEVER be glamorized like this, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:35 AM
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Thats how it was in Russia, too, when I was born. My mother wasnt able to breastfeed so I got formula on the second day after birth. I also noticed that shaming mothers into breastfeeding got extreme over the last couple of years. I bet it stems from males trying to make mothers less independent and more vulnerable. Lets face it, a mother who is tired all the time and has to breastfeed her Baby is less likely to put up a fight. Also pumping breastmilk is not possible for all women (especially th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:52 PM
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"I was doing other things" jerking off to porn after playing videogames with "tHe BoYsSs" probably. Got ya.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:08 PM
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I was supposed to stay for 4 days and the baby was ALWAYS by my side, there was no help from the nurses (except of one who changed the diaper every 2 hours when she had her shift, really lovely lady) My tearing was complicated and I wasn't supposed to sit for too long, it hurt like shit when I sat up actually. My baby didn't latch when I was lying down, tho, so I had to sit for HOURS and they didn't even think about helping me with anything. I once asked a nurse if she could watch my baby while …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:02 PM
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There was only one nurse under the age of 40 and she was lovely. The other five nurses I met were telling me about how they "suffered through it" with their children. I guess they really just wanted to make the new moms suffer as much as they did back in the day. Quiet fucked up if you ask me. The 58 year old head nurse with 4 children was the worst one actually. Because of her yelling and straight up refusing to organize a checkup for me and my baby I had to call my midwife in so she could take…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 02:24 PM
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I am from Central Europe, but it seems America isn't too different. In Russia my mother also got formula right away, without any weird comments. My obgyn judged me harshly after I openly said that my child also gets formula. This is why I am looking for another obgyn now. The pediatrician told me that my child is growing perfectly and that he is absolutely healthy and that formula nowadays is really good, so I don't have to feel guilty or worry about my child. Something my obgyn and the nurses s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 10:53 AM
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They literally told me that I was ruining my child's life because the milk I produce is enough and he screams because he wants to be with his mother. I was absolutely dead and my husband was only allowed to visit me for 2 hours daily, so I had neither support nor any energy to fight them. I kind of think they got a kick out of bullying me and other mothers. Just vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 10:47 AM
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I was shamed when I asked for formula in the hospital. The nurses were absolutely vile and didnt give a fuck about my wellbeing at all. My son was basically starving since my milk didnt come for some days after birth, he screamed every minute when he wasnt on my boob, trying to get food. I didnt sleep at all for at least 48hours after giving birth before I asked for the formula. They simply blamed me and called me weak. When I told my husband, he immediately took me and our son home, buying form…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:23 AM
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I especially didn't mention Studio Ghibli since Hayao Miyazaki is pretty vocal about what he thinks about the anime and manga industry (not much in this case).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:06 PM
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Oh I am an adult who knows how to do critical thinking, don't worry. I am not going to let males ruin something I enjoy for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:53 PM
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Of course it doesn't matter to you, you're close-minded and probably been hurt from someone who inappropriately uses anime and the likes. I am sorry for you, but anime in itself isn't bad. There are some bad animes but out of experience as someone who is sensitive to male pandering I can say that there are also quiet some enjoyable animes that dont cater to the male fantasy at all. Your need to demonize a whole art style just shows that you have some issues to work on. Try that maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:41 PM
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Yes obviously all anime is the same. Gonna cancel Sailor Moon for being a male fantasy now. Same to Shingeki no Kyojin, Inuyasha, Katekyo Hitman Reborn, Psycho Pass, Death Note and all the other anime that are either written by women or simply neither infatilising or sexualising female characters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:27 PM
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Anime is something I really enjoy and I wouldnt be able to be happy with someone who doesnt like anime at all. My husband and I watch anime together and he was never weird about it or anything. I think that watching or liking anime is one thing but it gets weird once a guy starts collecting anime stuff or seems to be completely obsessed with it. I still own a couple of cosplays that I made when I was a teenager and there was never any inappropriate reaction or request from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:55 AM
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The lack of a good male rolemodel will likely damage the mental wellbeing of the son, especially after something like this happened. While SIDS is less likely to happen after the baby turns 6 months, it's still possible, so you're right, she could've died and he wouldn't have noticed. I couldn't even look at the man who literally tortured my little baby with not changing the diapers for too long. I just hope this woman leaves him asap, since he is a real danger to his own children in every singl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 08:33 AM
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I am getting angry just reading this. Imagine changing your 6 month old's diaper only every 7 hours because of video games. Diaper rash isn't the only thing that could happen! Don't have a baby with a LVM, ever. They will fuck up your life, that of the baby and everyone involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 07:22 AM
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It wasnt further funded, I think we all know why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:24 PM
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Actually males are holding scientific research back so women wont be able to have children without sperm. They can fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 12:35 PM
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He should be thankful that she gave birth to his offspring ffs. My husband made a cute little photobook for Mothers Day with pictures of him with our son and the first thing he wrote in there was "Thank you for having our son" and how brave and amazing I am for going through pregnancy and birth. If he doesnt appreciate that he is trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 08:14 AM
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My husband rarely plays competitive games (LoL, CSGO, Overwatch and the likes) but if he does I love watching him because those are Games I also play sometimes and he is extremely good at them without trying. Its like watching your partner play football or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:36 AM
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Do you really want to waste your time on someone who doesn't think that you're the absolute prize in his life? I NEVER heard my husband say that he could do better than me. I am absolutely sure that he would be able to find a prettier, skinnier and smarter girl than me that doesn't have the problems that I have. Also I am absolutely sure that I am the absolute best in his opinion. Honestly, if you're not his one and only 10/10, he's just wasting your precious time and you should move on. You're …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 09:46 AM
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Oh that's the type of man we need. I remember how I had my first job as a MUA on a photoset for a magazine and my husband carried the magazine with him when it came out and showed our friends and some of his colleagues how "talented his wife is". If he and my father weren't that supportive I probably would've never had the guts to do makeup as a job! A supportive partner is absolutely the most important thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:14 PM
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I do exactly that! I often react overly aggressive towards males because they don't know how to handle that. A guy says something insulting? I confront him aggressively. He apologizes and/or leaves the situation immediately. A man talks loudly at me? I fucking scream in his face. Obviously just in situations where I feel 100% secure doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:18 AM
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I noticed that especially when I share my opinion on weight and the pressure of weight loss on here I get alot of angry messages from scrotes who have nothing better to say than "Fat women are disgusting hurr durr". Also alot of women on here are fatphobic under the cloak of being "concearned for someones health". I am not surprised that I am downvoted to hell, being actually supportive of every kind of woman is still not as acceptable as it may seem, even in female-exclusive spaces like FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:52 AM
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I especially hate how ED is only seen as dangerous or bad if it's openly visible. I look normal so my ED is perceived as something good. People don't really care about health at this point. It's exactly as you said about control. Women who don't want to be thin will be shamed and shunned. If someone "gives in" (no matter if they want to or not, for example if they get sick and lose weight) it's seen as "goals" and "level up"?! Individual stories are ignored, because nobody wants to think outside…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 08:30 AM
0

Oh I dont mind. They can downvote me all they want, my view doesnt change. I think alot of the women here didnt do the inner work yet and still think that they have to look a certain way to be loved. Not my Problem at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:05 AM
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I dont consider weight loss or getting better looks a Level up tbh. You can look better but stay toxic inside and Adele always seemed like a Pickmeisha to me. Now getting rid of her husband would be a Level up to me, but losing weight? Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:06 AM
7

I honestly wasnt scared of what he wouldve tried to do to me but rather what he wouldve done to my car. My car is rather expensive and was new back then. If he tried to attack me, I probably wouldve been able to teach him a lesson, but having a constant fear of having my car trashed was just too much for me to risk any confrontation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:28 PM
56

Like I give a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:52 PM
20

I will always remember how I "dared" to pass a man who was driving under the speed limit. He was angry af and tried to pass me right after. I am driving a really good car so he couldnt make it and instead he started literally honking and flashing his lights. He followed me, so I called my BIL (a really buff guy) and went to his house. He was waiting outside. Once the guy saw, he honked and showed us his middle finger just to drive off. Fucking psycho. Actually this is not the only time males had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:02 AM
63

My husband is 3 years younger than me. The last few guys who were extremely into me were 5-6 years older (I am 28, turning 29) Why would I ever settle for an old man?! I look 15 without makeup, while men over 30 look 10 years older than they actually are. No thank you, Grandpa, I dont want to fuck you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:45 AM
161

Why do so many LVM insist on pissing while standing?! Sit the fuck down and do your thing like a proper human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:23 PM
267

Just for some perspective: I asked my husband to do something similar and he not only portionized it without me telling him to, he also cleaned the pot and put it away to where it belongs. I cant stand lazy men, especially after being with a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:20 PM
11

I am styling wigs for future photo shoots right now. It takes a lot of time to learn how to style them properly. Once I am in better shape I will have those Photo shoots and I cant wait to wear special clothes and makeup again! I absolutely love doing fantasy makeup with lots of special effects!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:39 PM
98

I would honestly stop dating him. To me its pure disrespect to say something like this out loud. Especially when he would probably freak out if I did the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:17 AM
32

My SIL's husband took her last name because it was the smarter option. He didnt care about giving up his last name at all and was happy to have hers. Also my uncle took his wifes last name. In both marriages it shows how the men treat their wives with respect. If a man is so against taking his wifes last name or her not taking his, he is most likely toxic af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 03:37 PM
44

I experience it since I met my husband. Besides my parents, he is the only person I 100% believe to love me. Also our love is based on respect, which I think is the most important thing in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:34 PM
16

Basically he wanted you to get the proper skills to be his maid one day. I think its amazing to live by yourself before moving in with someone, especially for males. But its weird how your ex wanted you to live alone before moving in with him especially since you seem to be independent already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:22 AM
16

If youre married to a man that you didnt live with for at least a year, youre up for some disappointment. Alot of males act like completely different people after you move in with them. Out of experience it's better to see how he handles a shared home with you BEFORE tying yourself legally to a possible abuser or asshole. I dont see any positive aspects of marriage before living together with a man. Engagement is not a legal tie to someone so thats okay for me, but marriage? Way too dangerous. M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:18 AM
5

So what? I am also a psychology major and my husband has spent a shitton of money on me, but if he behaved like this I would still get the hell out of the relationship immediately. I built my own business while doing my Bachelors degree and saved up alot of money to be financially independent if something happens. You basically gave this man alot of Power over you and now you are having a hard time because of that. He is a LVM and no matter how much he spent on you, he will always be LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 08:38 AM
3

This would only work if he is too lazy to go to court. I think its better to severe all ties first, that includes her paying for the laptop. Leaving any room for contact is not going to do her any favors. Also it puts her to risk to pay for court etc if he is out for revenge. Obviously she should leave, but a good exit Plan is a priority right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 08:22 AM
11

Yeah no, if you break someone elses things, you have to own it and pay up. It's NEVER okay to break someone elses things, just imagine if someone did this to you?! I would probably take their ass to the court, no matter how small the damage is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 08:04 AM
11

So basically you are still in a relationship with a manchild, because he pays all the bills and you can stay home? And then instead of getting some financial independence you put your energy into destroying someone elses possession, doing nothing more than more harm to yourself? I'm sorry if it sounds harsh, but either you get out of this relationship and level up or you take it as it is and continue a horrible life with a LVM, full of resentment and loneliness. Either way, destroying someone el…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 08:02 AM
283

Males have the level of shallowness that they say women have. I have a hard time imagining a woman being this heartless and disgusting tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:37 AM
1

You should take a look at the FDS Handbook. But to make it short: LVM: Low Value Man HVM: High Value Man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 06:28 PM
35

I don't think about them at all, because they are mostly hypocrites and I don't want that type of energy in my life. I am wearing alot of makeup usually, it has the nice extra effect that males like this don't approach me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:23 PM
43

Childbirth is absolutely horrifying. I remember going into labor and I dont understand how this dude here didnt leave the second his wife got into labor. I had my husband stay for the whole 13 hours because even the contractions are so scary that him being present was simply needed. Not everyone has the same experience, obviously, but she was already traumatized and chances are always there that she could literally die. I have a absolutely no sympathy for this male. She shouldve divorced him rig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:39 AM
53

Dont tell him that there are quiet some korean Christians. I even know two Christian families from Korea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:23 PM
56

Not even trying to be spiteful, but even with a Body like this I wouldnt touch him. His face and hair alone would be too much of a turn off. Also having sex with a Body pillow doesnt mean he is not a Virgin anymore. Just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:59 PM
1

The server doesn't exist anymore, sorry. So far I haven't found another female-only gaming community sadly. I wish we had alot more of that..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:12 PM
56

She immediately left him. He tried to get her back, but she just ignored his ass until he gave up. She is single and happy right now, making a shitton of money with her business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:49 PM
99

Honestly, my husband got to hear some depraved shit after I got severe acne and gained a shitton of weight due to an illness. At one point even I couldnt believe how he was still attracted to me. "Why didnt you leave her?" was one of the nicer things he heard tbh. Its insane, yes, but males are mostly disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:15 PM
264

A friend of mine was dating a seemingly HVM for years before she opened up to him that her ex beat her. She was sure that her Partner would never use that against her. A couple of months later he told her: "Maybe your ex shouldve beaten you harder" when they were arguing over something. Good for her that this LVM who roleplayed as HVM outed himself, tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:48 AM
87

HVM wouldnt do that, but since you cant ever be sure 100% that a man is HV, it's simply not worth the risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:43 AM
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Idk girl what if you gain a ton of weight and dress badly, anybody would be less attracted and want to have sex less If I am reading this right, there is no room for a reason why someone gained weight or stopped taking care of themselves. So why make a difference now? ​ And if they get help that’s fantastic, but what if they become an alcoholic and refuse to get help? You do realize that this happens mostly to people who have no support system in their lives? It's rather rare that (especially) w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:21 AM
12

I gained a shitton of weight and got really heavy acne due to hormonal issues that couldn't be resolved easily. My husband still found me attractive and didn't even think about treating me badly or leaving me. It's insanely toxic to reduce your own value to how you look like. After all there is ALWAYS a reason when a person suddenly gains alot of weight or starts to take less care of themselves and being judgemental about it is not helping. You can do whatever you want with your life, but like I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:24 AM
26

If my husband doesnt treat me well when I am not pretty, I dont want him. And honestly said he isnt a HVM then. Also looking your best isnt related to having your hair and nails done. I look my best when I am happy, just like many other women. My happiness isnt related to my hair or nails or clothes. And I am saying that as someone who is super into looking good. As long as a Person doesnt look unkempt, nobody gives a serious fuck. Also childhood trauma isnt exclusively related to divorce or pov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:12 AM
41

Being pretty isnt my lifegoal. Also my husbands parents are divorced and he comes from nothing while I am rather well off and it works out perfectly. My parents are also divorced, but were married for 32 years prior. I dont think being married for a certain amount of years is indicating a happy or functioning marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:56 AM
26

If your Partner behaved like an asshole and you dont want him near you, you get the whole bed. ESPECIALLY when youre pregnant. He is obviously not telling the whole Story here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 09:27 PM
43

I bet he "really really" wanted to have a Baby, too until it was time to take care of it. These men make me sick. My father worked 12hour shifts and took care of me when he got home from work. My husband absolutely adores his son and even when he plays something on his Playstation (since quarantine he does it more often than usual but still not irresponsibly) he takes our son on his lap or lies with him on his chest and talks to him all the time. When our son needs a diaper change or food, my hu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 06:55 AM
12

Well if they REALLY REALLY wanted, they could get surgery, but apparently they don't want to put in any work, so they cry. There is always a way, even surgery to increase your height. It just needs a shitton of money AND work to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:41 PM
56

This is why they can call me whatever they want and I wont care a tiny bit. Oh I am shallow and oh so ugly? Great, it wont kill me so I dont give a fuck. I have preferences while not being perfect myself? Guess I am doing what every single male is doing, so once again idgaf. They can get all butthurt, secretly its just amusing to me how worked up they get, especially about Penis size and height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:33 PM
7

Even as a 13-year-old I wasn't impressed, but rather creeped out by his autobiography. It read like fiction most of the time and I noticed immediately that this dude wasn't anything special, but rather the type of male that women should stay away from. His music was amazing, but he as a person was never someone I really idolized. I am quiet proud that even back then I could see right through his little act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:14 AM
45

Brian is just a spoiled little boy who didn't grow up. He was simply smart enough to go the "edgier than thou" way back then. Marilyn Manson is just a persona he created to hit the nerve of a rather prudish society back then and get rid of his middle-class-normal-boy-boredom. His parents are rather well off, he didn't have a horrible, tragic back story (he may have said something along the way in his book, but according to people in his life it was never bad, just the typical average childhood "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:03 PM
1

I disagree. I am 6'0 tall and people mostly compliment and notice my height. I asked my husband if he would prefer me being shorter but he simply said that he literally doesnt care how tall I am. I could be 6'5 and he would adore me. He simply doesnt care about it because he fell in love with my personality and my looks are just a nice extra to him. I am 100% sure that he is absolutely crazy about me and it isnt even about how I look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:45 AM
6

This is what not getting therapy will do to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:49 PM
68

The worst thing was that this girl was basically "selling" us off to those Boys because they had especially good equipment in this game. She literally told them that we are a guild with alot of hot girls so they will "help" us with stuff. I felt like she tried to pimp me out. It was disgusting as hell. Me and some other girls left immediately, while some Pickmeishas were trying to do exactly what you described. In the end the guild died because the pickmeishas were arguing over the Boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:16 PM
220

I've played a MMORPG and joined a girls only guild where we would Talk on discord and have fun. It was amazing while it lasted. Sadly some girls want to ruin everything just for male validation. One girl invited some scrotes to our discord and it basically ruined everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:05 AM
6

I dont think that its natural at all. Its a sign that you arent comfortable with yourself. If you get comfortable with what you have, you will not have negative thoughts about someone else having better things or circumstances. I was jealous about a girl being successful on YouTube when I started out doing makeup more seriously. She was doing a mediocre job and got praised while I worked my ass off to get a couple of likes while doing a way better job. Once I realized that my worth and my skills…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:15 AM
19

But when I say that men who had sex are worth less they go crazy. They cant take a taste of their own medicine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:37 AM
49

Male validation in any way is worth nothing. Improve yourself mentally first. Accept that your worth doesnt depend on how you look. If you accepted that you can improve physical aspects to YOUR liking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:58 AM
24

Yeah one time I gave him a chance and he abused me. Not going to happen ever again. I'd rather die alone than lower my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:46 AM
2

Women are actually losing weight way harder than men. Also hormonal issues occur more likely in women, making it nearly impossible to lose weight with a normal diet and workout plan. So basically the weight thing CAN be just as much out of a woman's control as height/penis size etc in men. Also there is surgery for everything. If he's so insecure about his height, he can get surgery and learn to walk again for 6 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:00 PM
29

Totally reasonable to be honest. I have an account to promote my makeup on Instagram, but the amount of men following me and liking my stuff silently while being in relationships is huge. I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner doing this, at all. Doubt they follow my content because they like makeup so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 11:54 AM
96

Ew no, goblin-looking ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:06 AM
2

95% isn't 100% tho. Just saying. Obviously the majority of males is LV, but we have to recognize that saying that every single man watches porn (is LV in vice versa) is like saying that we are dumbasses who still try to date and meet a HVM (who doesn't exist, since every man watches porn). It normalizes LV behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:25 AM
12

This would mean that dating is useless and hence this subreddit shouldnt exist? There are men out there who arent interested in other women due to several reasons. Obviously there is no 100% safe way to know, but saying all men watch porn is setting the wrong tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:46 AM
19

Whew, thank god I didnt say anything bad during labour! Glad that my son will not be afraid of commitment when hes grown due to that. Ladies, youre welcome! /s This is by far the weirdest shit I've ever heard to excuse bad male behavior. Somehow it's either the mothers fault or women in general are to blame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:15 PM
194

They really should do it and live with their sex dolls so we dont have to handle those disgusting scrotes. I just wish that women in general would be anti porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:07 PM
8

LVW need validation from people online. Why post on there? Why engage with them? Work on your self esteem and take a break from anything online. You definitely need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:26 PM
11

Why do I know what type of deodorant he uses, but he is praised for looking at a box by chance and not forgetting what type of tampons his wife is buying every 2 months? For me thats the bare minimum. I expect my Partner to be AT LEAST this level of thoughtfulness. All I did was share my views and experience. As far as I know we are about high standards for men here and I am surprised about the Bar being so low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:55 AM
161

Honestly said.. this is basic stuff a man should do for you. My husband always got me tampons when he went grocery shopping without me and noticed that my tampon basket is nearly empty. It's like when I see the toilet paper running low. I just buy it, since it's a necessity. Also after giving birth he went to several stores to get me different kinds of adult diapers because I wasn't happy with wearing pads with my normal underwear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:31 PM
28

I hear it every single time when someone sees how my husband is taking care of the baby. "Awww, he is SO helpful, he even changes the diapers?!?! WOW" Like.. that's his baby, too? He even wanted this little human being to exist???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:14 PM
113

Before I met my husband, I was single for 3 years. This is the only reason why I could get into the relationship I really wanted. I made sure to commit to a man who fits MY needs. So obviously LVM will try to make any woman lower her standards. Being single for years will make many women realize that they don't need a man that badly to put up with LV bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:03 PM
96

Dont have children with manbabies. Dont even talk to manbabies. They never grow up and will literally get crazy if they dont get the attention they want, like little toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:12 AM
3

That dude isnt a HVM. HVM dont disrespect women like this, even if its a Pickmeisha. He is probably just a LVM who hides his negative sides better. That male is garbage and your friend(?) needs support now. I hope she will eventually see her own worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:49 AM
3

Obviously this relationship isn't a good one and most likely the reaction her husband had was just out of spite. But generally speaking I am tired of people trying to normalize unwanted sexual attention. Even when a woman is doing it. I am bisexual and I have experience with unwanted nudity with sexual attention coming from women. I was reacting absolutely the same way like I was, when I got a unsolicited dick pic from a guy I actually found quiet attractive. I felt violated. I do recognize that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:45 PM
21

Like a simple "I have a sweet surprise for you in the living room ;)" or something would've probably been alot better than just.. masturbating on the couch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 09:50 PM
15

Well the Problem here is.. its always about consent. When I dont consent to seeing someone Naked, no matter how hot they are, its not ok. For me, personally, its like receiving dick pics that I never asked for. Even when youre in a relationship with someone, consent is important. We have to acknowledge that everyone has a different approach to sexuality and as much as I dont care about them, men also have a right to be weirded out by non-consensual sexual attention, even from their partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 09:39 PM
6

I mean, I get what she wanted to do. But I would probably react the same way like her husband. Especially since it's just like.. on the couch? When I imagine walking into the living room and find my husband with his dick in his hand.. god, no. Even if I had a wife, I would probably just not be turned on by that. It just seems weird, but maybe that's just my personal preference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:40 PM
5

Sure, because most guys are soooo trustworthy lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 07:55 PM
6

We probably spend so much time on cleaning, because I am allergic to cats and.. we have a cat (he was a stray when we found him and I couldn't let him go so I am taking pills against the allergy). Also our apartment is really big and I have a "showcase" for my handbags, which has to be cared for daily and it's alot of work actually. I like how you share your housework. We don't have preferences here, tho. I don't especially hate doing something, same goes for my husband. We are both not real fan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 06:09 AM
9

Why do you think that we couldnt cover it? We live in Central Europe where our health care and social system helps families in situations like this. Also we have solid savings and he even makes enough money to hire a nanny, cook and maid if needed. I have individual savings that could pay a whole house off if needed. We arent blind when it comes to finances and hard situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:32 AM
15

I am actually happy that more and more women are waking up. I am not sure, but I think I read somewhere that millenial males are doing more housework than the generations before them. If thats true, that would be a really good trend! We should simply not give males the time of our day if they cant share the work evenly. Living together should be something beautiful, not extra work for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:23 AM
5

He is not into kinky stuff. Doesnt support porn or oversexualized shit. My pleasure is the most important part in our sex life. Basically a man with a brain that wasnt ruined by porn or the likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:46 PM
18

I met my husband more than 8 years ago online. We were "talking" on a forum for a shared hobby, not knowing how the other person looks like. After a couple of weeks after "flirting" there we started talking in DMs and after getting to know him a bit more, we started talking on Skype. I was extremely unsure about him, since he was 18 and I was 21. I really loved his humour, tho and he kinda looked cute, so I agreed to meet him. He lived a 6h drive away (back then it was rather 8h by bus) and just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:40 PM
10

Not caring about male opinions and problems isnt "hate". It's a way to survive in this world. I think you are either really young or you need to learn ALOT about not taking things literally. In FDS we are allowed to focus on women. Obviously we dont use "nice words" when it comes to male misbehavior. Obviously we are enraged. Obviously we dont sympathize with males. And we are allowed to. Many women here have different views on certain things and thats also okay. As long as the core principles o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:02 PM
4

I am sure that there are good HVM out there. My husbands brother was Single for some months, being over 30. He is dating a really nice woman right now, who has her shit together. So I definitely know that there just have to be men out there who could be HV and in a similar situation. They are just gone really fast and its pure luck to meet one of those and hit it off well. I was lucky enough to meet my husband when he was still very young. I often think that I didnt deserve to be THAT lucky, esp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:51 PM
50

Dude even said "male species". Double standards much since male humans tend to be the one disappointing women sexually. If anything at all, women should be the ones who have multiple sexual partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:33 PM
10

Normal males dont desire little girls. Also it wasnt normal for a grown man to marry a girl under 16 back in the day (it was actually seen as weird) . Its just manosphere bullshit to explain their pornsick pedo mind. Stop trying to normalize this bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:08 PM
9

This Person posts in "RPW" so I guess we shouldnt take them seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:02 PM
21

For me it's simple: Doesn't watch or support porn in any way, respectful towards me, hygienic, not balding, max 3 years older than me, isn't stingy about money, supports me and my hobbies fully, wants children/a family, support a healthy sex life, no female friends or too much female contact, absolutely no drugs, does his FAIR share of work and sticks to it, doesn't prioritize "the boys" or anyone over me I also think it's important that he talks to me about things he plans to do, before doing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:42 PM
37

Nothing sounds good here; am I missing something? Yes, reading the FDS Handbook and obviously some self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:29 PM
128

This is why I dont give a single fuck about males. They are worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:36 AM
19

Besides getting my Bachelor in Psychology, it's probably having built a really successful business as a MUA. Back when I was in high school, I was a "problem child" and my teachers thought that I would end up in a low paying job because they thought I was lazy. I wasn't lazy, I just had a problem with authorities. Now I can say that I accomplished something that alot of people never would've thought of. Also being good enough to make money out of something I actually like is so empowering! It wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:14 PM
6

"Fat girls are disqualified from LTR and Marriage"?? While the fat girls I know have a nice life, mostly with nice partners, this loser is posting sad bullshit on a sad subreddit. Also obviously he wants to know how old we are. Probably to talk about some "Wall" bullshit. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:00 PM
9

It's totally normal to feel this way. I used to be scared shitless about what could happen since literally nobody is safe from bad, horrible things. At one point the fear was so strong that I didnt live my life normally anymore. The thing is... if you have to die, you will die. One way or another. If you stay at home, paralyzed by fear, you still will die when your time comes, just without making at least SOMETHING. Dont let it make you crazy. We all die one day and until then you should try to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 11:16 PM
17

Eh look at r/FDSSuperFans most of the time males will harass and judge us for absolutely no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:54 PM
37

Having children with LVM.. there is only harm from it. I dont want to think about what I wouldve done if I had to go through something like this. Probably wouldve packed my things and left with my child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:25 PM
9

Not doing anything about it IS a choice, tho. I also had low self esteem. I pitied myself and dreamt about "my revenge". I was miserable while doing this and once I thought about it, I saw that I am the only person who can do something about my problems. I started doing things I liked more frequently, found new things I like, worked on how I see other people and ACTIVELY talked myself out of pitying myself and thinking I am not worth it. I've been there, like many other women. Now I am happy wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:22 AM
12

Obviously, but there is literally no gain in that? Having low self esteem will give you absolutely nothing. Learning to love yourself and improving yourself is what FDS is about and why you should definitely forget the harmful ideas that you have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:35 AM
14

You're offering yourself. If it isn't enough for a man, he isn't the right one. Everyone has qualities that are special. A charming smile, the way someone looks at you, maybe even the words they use or what they like to do as a hobby. My husband loves my eyes and my wit. It was more than enough for him to do absolutely everything for me. As the years went by and we passed heavy hardships, he still adores me. Without me "offering" something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:03 AM
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When I was still dating around, I noticed how ALOT of males tried to negotiate my standards and boundaries with me. Up to the point where I simply didn't really explain anymore and just left and moved on. Especially porn was such a huge issue. At one point I didn't even care if he would be willing to "give it up" because either he watches it or he doesn't and that's all that counts. I've had guys call me "psycho" for wanting a porn-free relationship. I've had guys tell me that I was a gold digge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:21 PM
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He works shifts in a really big company, where they handle chemicals. He oversees workers and makes the plans for their shifts. Basically making sure everyone does his job and doesn't mess up. If everything goes right, he will start working even higher up sometime this year. Our sex life is focused on my pleasure. My husband doesn't think the male orgasm is "all that special" so he concentrates on what I want. So most of the time it's rather vanilla and I don't mind at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:40 AM
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My husband basically doesnt have the time to hide something like this from me. I have unlimited access to all his electronic devices and when he isnt at work (no phones allowed), he spends his time with me or doing something in the household. He rarely goes out by himself either because his friends are all married or in a relationship and we meet up as a group most of the time. There are no bathroom visits where he needs an hour or something and most of the time he doesnt take his phone with him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:21 AM
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One word replies and emojis are a total no-go. I don't reply to that. Also when he says shit like "Oh I guess it's like that" or "That sounds cool" I pick it up as desinterest and leave him on read. When I started dating my husband he NEVER let our conversation fade. He either told me when he got busy and texted me when he was free again or he called me. It was never boring and he always put an effort into writing me. Even now after 8 years relationship he doesn't give me emojis or one word repl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:41 PM
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I am 100% sure that my husband doesn't watch porn. My father is over 60 and I highly doubt that he would be interested in that, but I obviously won't ask. My husbands brothers made enough comments about porn/sex work that make me believe that they don't use it, I am obviously not able to confirm that 100% tho (talking to their wives about sex sometimes just makes me assume even more they aren't watching porn) . In general their views are rather open and feminist (they also never talk badly about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:18 PM
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My father, my husband and my husband's brothers. Those are the ones I am quiet sure about being HVM, otherwise my husband has really good friends who seem to be HV aswell, but I don't spend enough time with them to judge that properly. All in all I can say that HV people tend to stick together. My husband doesn't hang out with LVM. Having respect for women is an important thing in his family, because his mother is a total HVW, which turned all her sons into functioning adults who treat everyone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:38 PM
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Well then I've never had sex before it seems. I don't suck dick. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 11:23 PM
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They will date a woman that reeks internalized misogyny I am confused how you can see how a woman is internalized misogynistic? Ignoring the poor wording of your rant, I think I know what you mean. The answer is simple: LVM don't want a strong woman, who respects herself. They want Pickmeisha, who will make their life easier. But how would it look like if a male told you he preys on weak women? Sometimes they just want to tear down HVW, that's why they can't openly say what they REALLY need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:46 PM
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To me a HVW has alot of self-respect (the foundation of having strong boundaries and high standards imo) and supports other women. She doesn't judge other women by their physical appearance but rather by their personality. She doesn't let people treat her like shit, but does it in a way that ensures her and her loved one's safety. She is hygienic and also takes care of her mental health. And what's most important to me personally: She knows that life isn't perfect and that everyone fails somethi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:22 PM
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Please dont give them any platform. Block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:25 AM
64

She needs therapy immediately. 32 years are a long time and I doubt she will listen to strangers at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:55 PM
123

When I was in 1st grade there was a boy in my class who tried to kiss every girl. The teachers laughed about it, since the girls all just ran away screaming. When this boy tried to kiss me, I punched him right in the face. Luckily my parents were on my side when SEVERAL teachers tried to shame me. They literally said that I could've just ran away from him. As if saying "No" several times didnt count. This boy never tried this shit again btw. Once he got punched, he understood immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:51 PM
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I am married and with my husband for 8 years. We have a newborn here. My "friend" from before I met my husband contacted me again (after 8 years not talking), asking if I want to hang out. Literally not even living in his city anymore. Males are desperate and dumb as hell. Convid-19 is making them super needy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:58 AM
61

Lol at the guy to the right being rated an 8. Honestly a 5/10 but only because he works out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:12 AM
108

If the husband said something hurtful and she slapped him they would cry about how males are victims to DV just as much as women and how thats abuse and all that shit. This is why I dont care about male problems at all. They twist everything to be the victim all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:46 PM
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As if we owe them a reply. One dude's been trying to message me 3 times before I blocked his ass. Covid-19 or not, I dont reply anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:58 PM
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I don't even want to think about all the times people assumed that I was "selling myself" because I have nice things. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with YOU. Those people try to cope with the fact that you have/experienced some things that they will never have. Putting the "sex worker"/"sugar baby" label on you is a way to degrade you to soothe their own insecurities. I had this happen quiet often actually. When I went out grocery shopping alone, there was a couple in their 40s who loudly disc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:01 PM
5

Girl why???? Honestly, whyyyyyyyy?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 03:50 AM
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I am speechless. Letting a cat shit into the same litter for 6 days straight is Animal abuse imo. I remember when I once had to leave immediately to care for my mother as she had an emergency. When I left the house I didnt have time to do anything that I planned, it was a bit of a mess since I had to hurry up while packing. I came back a couple of days later and my house was tidy. Everything was taken care of. Thats the type of man that deserves to be married. Not some disgusting POS who will la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 12:00 AM
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My husband absolutely LOVES to get self-made birthday presents. I buy him something for christmas (a belt, shirt, book etc) and he gets something self-made for his birthday and on our anniversary. I bought something rather expensive once and my husband told me he prefers that I safe my money for myself and that he likes self-made things more either way. Meanwhile I get spoiled rotten by him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:20 AM
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I am in love with the smile of the girl in the middle. All three girls look like solid 9/10's for me, honestly. I wish they didn't need to listen to this bullshit those incels say. They are literally beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:26 PM
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Jacy here doesn't understand that makeup is just as much of a hobby as collecting things or doing sports. I just have enough money to do and have nice things that I like. Do I have anything to hide? Well, if I do, it's not my natural face, since I can and do go out without anything on quiet often. Maybe she should invest in a nice face mask once in a while and take a bubble bath to relax. Her wrinkles tell me that she makes an angry face quiet often! (Couldn't help, looked her up on FB and nothi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:14 PM
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This dude has to be mentally challenged, I dont see any other explanation for his bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:38 PM
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I have an Instagram for my business and while there are some creeps, they usually only compliment me and my models. The only times I've been told negative things were when I commented something "controversial" on FB or IG. And even then, they were mostly not even attacking how I look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:05 PM
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They cant hack into accounts they don't know exist. Also I don't have any connections to IT dudes anymore. I never ever used my real name anywhere online. Even when ordering stuff I used my fathers and now my husbands accounts/names. My phone is registered under my husbands name. My passwords change every 6 months and I don't log into WiFi's that I am not 100% sure to be safe. I don't open files from people that I don't trust 100% (basically only my parents and my husband). I used to use a VPN o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:24 PM
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Guns aren't legal here, this is why I am not that scared tbh. I know how to defend against a knife or other "legal" weapons. The fear that they might shoot you is totally legit, tho. Being on high alert and investing in good self defense classes (where you learn how to handle someone with a gun for example) would probably make you feel a bit more secure. Owning your own gun does help aswell, I guess. Most importantly tho: If you aren't sure you will be safe, just don't engage at all. It sucks, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:42 PM
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This is so true! It will always be a disadvantage to play his little games. Males want the best deal for themselves and in most cases it's the woman who takes the most shit from them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:28 PM
12

Height, weight, fitness level basically. I know what I can "take" and if he seems to be more than that, I don't confront him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:26 PM
22

6'0 living in central Europe here. I lived in a rather big city before I moved to a small town. The amount of harassment is so different here. It seems like males dont know how to behave most of the time? I've had men in cars catcall me, follow me around while harassing me, unneccessary comments about my body, goddamn even yesterday I nearly beat up a guy for loudly commenting about me buying a cucumber "for salad or perhaps something else". Sickening. I dont let them get away with that anymore.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:05 PM
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You did so well! Completely right decision, bet he is disappointed that his little game didnt work. Back when I met my husband, there was a girl that was into him. He didnt feel the need to tell me, because he made up his mind already and wanted me. So what does it tell you when a man speaks about how other women are after him? Dude doesnt really want you and doesnt mind to ruin it with his little competition. Either I am the priority or I am not playing at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 12:59 PM
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Never ever going to date a guy in IT again. I've had friends who worked in IT, most of them thought they deserve a hot girl while being ugly as hell. My ex was the worst POS ever, also working in IT and being extra creepy on getting into my accounts to "check" on me. Not taking any chances even talking to IT guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 12:40 PM
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Totally! When I was younger I hung out with a friend and she brought her brother with her so he goes out once in a while. Dude would fit into this picture perfectly. I was being polite since it was my friends brother. He searched me on Facebook, tried to add me, messaged me constantly for weeks and when I saw him again he tried to kiss me. Since then I dont even look at those males. If you give them a polite smile they will stalk you ffs. Scary ass people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:58 AM
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Depends on his last name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:23 AM
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Everyone name filters their dating pool whether they admit it or not Uhm no. I couldn't care less about anyones name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 11:44 PM
37

They look like their sperm swim sideways lol. I am crying lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 11:40 PM
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I finished school, while my husband already had a rather nice job in his city, this is why I moved for him. Most important thing is, that you always have a way out and that you have friends that would drive some hours to help you. In my case, my parents and friends were ready 24/7 to come and get me if anything went wrong. I was and still am heavily supported. Never forget that there are way too many males out there trying to isolate you so they can abuse you however they want. So in general, if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:54 PM
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That's exactly how I thought they would look like. There is literally not a single one of them that I would even look at. If someone like this approached me, I would call the police. Of course they cry about "misandry", they KNOW that they aren't worth our time or attention and it hurts them so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 08:31 PM
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Amazing! Also: If you want to support local restaurants or small businesses, buy gift cards! I've read today that it will give them money right away and you can go out to eat/buy there without compromising on your health or safety!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 08:08 PM
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It depends on how YOU like it. I dont do bjs and it was never a problem. If you are in a relationship with a man and he is respectful towards you, its literally just your own decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:02 AM
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I love this, I mean the format, not that these things happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:53 PM
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He would need to lose around half his body weight to look acceptable and that takes a shitton of work, which he obviously doesn't want to put in at all. I knew some males who were slightly obese (like BMI of 35 NOT 47 ffs) and they were the biggest fuckboys once they got fit, literally psychotic to "get revenge" on women. This is why especially males who lose alot of weight are dangerous as hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:50 PM
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While most of the time it feels so simple, I also worry alot. I am scared to lose this person one day, because I know that there is nobody out there who could step up to him, ever. My husband never gave up on me. I know that other males would have left, while he still showed me love and support. He is a loving husband, a great father and an amazing person overall. I am his priority and he isnt ashamed of that. We've been together for 8 years, we had barely any fights in this time. I am talking a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:52 AM
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I honestly hope that he stays obese for all his life. We all know that this entitled POS will use women once he gets fit (if that is even possible).I really wish males like him would simply disappear. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:12 AM
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Got the same one in my inbox once, blocked immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:32 PM
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My husband was 600km away from me for a little over a year and I saw him nearly every weekend, because he wanted to make this work. My former friend's boyfriend couldn't be arsed to see her once every two weeks, while living a 30min train ride away. Guess who is happily married now and who stays in a horrible relationship now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:28 PM
6

Get some therapy instead of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:19 PM
5

I think she is on another account, before that she was flaired as a "Pickmeisha" and she probably didnt like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:19 PM
35

Males are illiterate like this, honestly. Once at the gym we had a weigh-in for a challenge and one guy overheard how much I weighed and had to literally protest, because he thought it was unrealistic and the scale broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 09:10 AM
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As if he knew if a woman is over his weight restriction lol Also 140lbs and 5'9 is BARELY normal weight, a little less than 140lbs and this woman should be underweight. They have no logic at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:49 AM
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Group sex basically
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:11 PM
19

The Germans I know are mostly cheap as hell. If they don't have any other roots (Russian, Italian, Turkish etc) they are most likely not going to spend money on dates and split every little thing, even while having enough money. I have a shitton of stories about German males who wouldn't even feel comfortable with spending 5 Euro on another person but themselves, while having a lot of money. This is why I would never ever date a German guy or go on a date with one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:02 PM
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No offense, but how is this relevant here? Obviously there are women who are evil and unneccessarily cruel to other women. I've had more than enough experience with those, so did my friends more or less. I have a nice network of women and some close female friends around me that I only had the chance to meet because I cut everyone off, who seemed toxic towards me, even when it meant to be completely alone for some time. I focus on the positivity now. I simply ignore and block toxic women out of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:07 PM
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The worst thing was that most of those males were just following silently, liking but never commenting and suddenly they messaged me out of the blue about how I was a liar etc. Absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:07 AM
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Oh I totally can expect a man to not be friends with women. My husband being respectful towards women is important, but being friends? I am not in for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:20 AM
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I had something like this happening to me. I had a large male following while doing a japanese street style and as soon as I openly wrote about my relationship on my page, a shitton unfollowed. It didnt bother me, since I was doing it for myself, but what bothered me were the angry messages from scrotes who felt "betrayed"?? I was 17 back then and it was absolutely creepy how they really thought that I owe them anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:12 AM
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I was told that demisexuality basically means that you are asexual until you find someone who you emotionally bond with and feel sexual attraction for that person only. Biologically seen, it would be an abnormal sexuality, since normally you feel sexual attraction to several people, even outside of your relationship. (As in : "Woah he/she is hot, would be a potential sexual partner") My husband is probably demisexual, he explained that he normally doesn't think that someone is anything else but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 08:06 PM
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You sound like an unpleasant person to be around. Youre not dating her, just do your own thing and stop worrying about how other women decide to look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:34 PM
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I am only actively shaving my underarm pits, because it makes me feel and smell better. Usually I also trim down there, but so far my husband didnt say anything negative, even when I full on "let it grow". Our sex life was still amazing and frequent. So if you dont feel comfortable shaving, dont do it. Male opinions dont matter in that case, like at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:05 PM
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When my husband got tested for male infertility 3 years ago, the doctor said exactly what I said. I was not really interested in researching it further (and I dont really care now). It would only make sense that the estrogen levels are rising, tho. It seems the main cause is HBC that women are still frequently taking, it does make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:31 PM
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Actually there is a rising concentration of estrogen in the water, so it's not even eating unhealthy, there are just more and more males who have more estrogen in their systems due to that. It does have an effect on male fertility and how their bodies develop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 08:27 PM
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Whenever a male tells me that I am not a prize, I remind him that he isn't even allowed in the competition, so how would he know?! My husband is a real catch, still he thinks that HE is the lucky one in this relationship. If that isn't telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:02 PM
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Plastic surgery is always a risk that you take. There is nothing that speaks against having it FOR YOURSELF, but be sure to get a really good surgeon. Its also always a good thing to learn how to love yourself no matter how you look like. To be confident without fitting some physical standard. If you are able to do that, I think a plastic surgery will only improve your life. If you cant love yourself without it, it will possibly not help to get it done. I only got some minor things done, once I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:04 PM
15

I carry a knife with me. Its definitely enough to get away from dangerous situations, its just important to get self defense classes and to learn how to handle a knife properly so it cant be used against you in the end. What makes me anxious is rather that the "justice system" isnt on our side. If I had to heavily injure some scrote to save my life, I would probably end up punished for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:43 PM
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It's sadly happening all the time to alot of women. Male egos are simply out of this world. My husband was not amused that even in such an expensive restaurant we werent safe from harassment. I just wish that women could openly tell those disgusting scrotes what they really think without having to worry for their safety all the time. Its scary out there..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:07 PM
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I am also never friendly to strange men. My "resting bitch face" helps quiet alot with that, when I'm out alone, but they still find a way to feel like I showed any interest in them. Alot of delivery guys are behaving inappropriately and it's simply annoying! When I lived in another city, they would hire everyone who wanted to work as a delivery guy and I even kept a knife close when I had to talk to them. Males ruin everything, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:37 PM
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They probably think they still look like 20, when in reality everyone can see that their balls sag to their knees already and they couldn't run a mile without having a heart attack. It's absolutely tragic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:30 PM
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Please post this on r/FDSSuperFans rather than here. We don't want to give scrotes like this a platform here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:55 PM
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I've had males brag about having many female contacts quiet often. Some would literally scroll through their contact list in front of you, just to show off, how many female names they have saved in their phones ("Ah, let me send that meme to you..gotta search for your contact first"). Always a huge red flag actually and also EXTREMELY pathetic. Boy, we know that you're not that wanted by women, stop trying to impress anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:53 PM
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Weird fetishes probably. I was honestly surprised by the attention I suddenly got, when I was visibly pregnant. I looked the same as usual, just with a cute little bump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:54 AM
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Then there's the problem, that there are already way too many males harassing us irl. Also I've heard alot of bad things being said irl, too. Males won't be stopped by anything. When I was pregnant, males were going crazy about approaching me. It was not only annoying as hell, it was also absolutely absurd in every way. I had my husband next to me, when some guy tried to flirt me up. They have no shame, neither online nor irl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:40 PM
20

Yesterday a friend of my SIL's husband was surprised that I look "so amazing" for a woman who gave birth recently. He followed up by saying that I am probably "one of those expensive women, who spend a shitton of money on their vanity". My husband gave him a weird look and asked him, if he doesn't think that his wife deserves the best. Dude was dumbfounded, he didn't know what to say at all. Being "high maintenance" definitely keeps alot of LVM away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:54 PM
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When another woman compliments me, I believe it. If a man compliments me, I am either disgusted or ask myself what he is planning. That was my natural reaction since I was a little girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:04 PM
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Don't do that. Honestly. There are literally 1000 reasons to rather go to a sperm bank than have sex with a stranger, whose health history isn't really known to you. I don't even want to judge morally, that's not really my place. But the biological issues that could stem from this are not to be underestimated. I was friends with a girl who really wanted a child and had unprotected sex with a guy she knew (without being in a relationship or anything). She ended up having a disabled child, because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:15 PM
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It's shocking that there are more than enough of those out there. My husband was asked to play some videogames by a new colleague and when he said that he has no time for that because he takes care of the baby as much as possible after work, the guy was baffled and started talking about "equality". That dude didnt even think twice about the possibility of birth complications or a hard pregnancy and he is 40+ with 2 kids. Luckily my husband is his direct superior and cut him off quickly by saying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:42 AM
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Oh my. I dont even know where to start here. A HVM wont make you adjust your standards, maybe when it comes to physical appearance (f.e. "I like blonde guys, he has black hair, not quiet my type but I can work with that") but everything else would be unreasonable, especially porn use. You seem to be blinded by feelings and its not good in any way. After all, being in love will fade and you will possibly see that this guy wasnt worth it from the beginning, but then youre possibly stuck already. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:26 AM
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Having children with LVM is self-harm and results in bullshit like this. She should get out asap, he is working her to death for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:43 AM
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My husband "raised" his niece. He was 11 when she was born and since he was the youngest, he was back home earlier from school than the rest, so he "babysat" her for 3-4 hours EVERY SINGLE WEEKDAY. When he talks about her, he sounds more like a proud big brother, than an uncle. Also every single niece and nephew love to play with him. They are always happy to see him. I knew that he was going to be a great father right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:40 PM
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If a guy doesnt like how you smell down there without anything being medically wrong with you, he's not the right one. It's literally proven that humans can "smell" who they should mate with to have a healthy offspring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:23 AM
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Actually same. I get along well with some males, but nothing more than that. And most of them are my husbands friends and I am friends with their wives aswell. Last time a single dude and I were friends, he waited for my husband and me to have a conflict to ask me out basically immediately. It really was devastating. I dont trust males to be real friends anymore. I am not even that attractive or anything, they just want something they cant have and its disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:23 PM
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My ex was also a PA and had unrealistic standards regarding sex. My husband who is neither into porn nor into any "kinky" stuff is amazing in bed, because he puts my wellbeing and my orgasms before his every single time. Open communication is also really important, but only doable when you are with a HVM. LVM are not worth to have sex with, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:11 PM
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I met one guy while playing an online game, who didnt know how I looked like. I enjoyed his company while playing and we had some nice conversations about basically everything. I saw him as a potential friend and since he had a gf and I was also in a relationship, we had no romantic connection at all. At one point I found out that he actually knows a guy I knew (it was crazy because we live far away from each other) and from that point on everything was in shambles. Dude found me on the other gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:49 PM
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Why do you come here for advice, if you know exactly what we are going to tell you, but you don't like it? You have no other choice but to love yourself. There is absolutely nothing you can do but get therapy and start loving yourself and accept your loneliness. I'm sorry, but that's how it is and if you don't want to hear this or can't accept it, maybe FDS isn't the right place for you, yet. If you have a problem with your acne scarring, there are quiet some websites where you can ask dermatolo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:53 PM
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Or she could see a dermatologist and get professional help. I also had heavy acne scarring and the only thing that helped was getting a nice dermatologist and doing what she recommended. Nothing that was said in skincare groups etc. was effective like something a good professional told me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:39 PM
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My ex had a rather small penis and was basically going crazy when I wanted him to use toys in bed, so I can have at least ANY pleasure from sex. Males are insecure when it comes to toys, because they KNOW their penis can't measure up to them. Shouldn't be our problem, tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:29 PM
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The only way I am a SAHM right now is because I have nice savings and my husband is putting some money on an account for our child monthly (only the child and me have access). Also he doesnt see me as someone whose work is to do household chores, taking care of the Baby and cooking. We still share 50/50 on chores and he wants me to have some more time for myself before I start my Masters and life gets more stressful for me. Giving birth wasnt a piece of cake and he knows it. So without savings a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:11 AM
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I am very sorry to tell you that you will probably not have a happy future with this person. He knows exactly what he is doing and I doubt that talking will help. Like you already said, he will probably just use incognito. Its a waste of energy. I can also totally see him using you for extra money, since he has no problem to lie about the porn. You should prepare to get away and do it silently. Dont tell him what you saw, you will help him getting better at lying to the next woman he meets. Dont…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:36 AM
75

This is exactly why I never share where I live. Not even the country. Men are completely insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:30 AM
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Don't want to disagree, but to me Russians are either NVM or HVM. I know alot of potential HVM who are Russian, but they mostly don't live in Russia anymore. I think alot of uneducated, angry alcoholics are left in Russia, at least from what I saw myself when I was visiting family there. My husband and his family are Russian, so are our friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:07 PM
205

Short males made me feel like a monster for being tall, that's why I don't give a shit about their "problems". They can die mad, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:59 PM
46

I don't even know why this would matter? A male who gets blackout drunk has issues and isn't ready to date. I just hope she leaves his ass no matter what, but if you ask about this kind of shit on reddit, hope is probably lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 05:55 PM
26

It's not even limited to shoes and purses, basically everything a woman buys that is a bit costy is "a waste of money". I have a huge makeup collection and quiet some designer clothes and purses. Women were mostly like : "OMG your husband lets you have that????" while men were like "You could've bought a new car with all that wasted money" Not a single person ever asked why my husband has a computer setup that is worth nearly 10k (he's into electronics, does applications for fun sometimes etc) o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 05:48 PM
175

Woman who loves designer things is seen as shallow and a gold digger. Men who love designer things? They have a good taste. I always get shit for my expensive things while my husband doesnt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:37 AM
67

Nope. How attractive you aren't doesn't really matter much, because LVM will still treat you like shit. I could look like a monster from the swamp (and I definitely did at times) and my husband would still adore me. And I am probably not even "pretty" normally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:58 AM
27

I encountered ALOT of males who are "kind of" into anime. You don't notice it, because it only comes up once you talk about it ("What's your favorite show?" etc). On the other side are the LVM who obsess over anime and they IMMEDIATELY try to talk about it. Probably because they have absolutely nothing else in their lives. I avoid those guys HARD. My husband is the first partner I had that was into anime and it obviously works well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:47 PM
60

And first of all: Learn to love yourself not matter how much you weigh. Your worth isn't depending on your weight. If you can't love yourself fat, you can lose all the weight you want, but once you get fat again (and that does happen) you will suffer even more. It's really important to do the inner work BEFORE losing weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:34 PM
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Basically it's not about anime in general. It's about a LVM whose obsession is ruining a marriage. My husband and I are into anime and japanese culture, but we aren't OBSESSED with anything, because we aren't LV. Anime in general isn't a problem, it's the males who are. (I would still treat it as a mild red flag until you can be sure he isn't a total weeb)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:11 PM
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I dont care what a mans penis looks like as long as he has a proper hygiene. My son will not be circumcised, its not a decision I should make for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:56 PM
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I am more into an alternative style myself, my husband is a normal looking HVM who loves me no matter how I look like, so I guess it's definitely possible. I would simply be ALOT more careful with alt men. They tend to have issues. But honestly, the best thing you can do is to be yourself and stay true to what YOU like. If there are no men into that, who cares? We don't need males to be happy and I think your styling does make you happy enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:33 PM
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Only if they appreciate me as a person. This is also why I dont have male friends. My husband and my father are both very thoughtful and listen to me carefully, so I notice right away if someone doesnt. Most men dont, so I guess it is a HVM trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:17 AM
3

We dont post these here. Fanmail belongs in r/FDSSuperFans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:07 AM
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Reads like some incel fanfic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:44 AM
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Oh I was talking about myself,if you read the sentence you can see that I wasnt telling her to do that in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:57 PM
63

Why would you even argue about YOUR standards and expectations? If my friends would openly talk bad about what I want in my relationships, I would cut them off. Its not their place to judge me for my expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:25 PM
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I saw some guy being butthurt about a girl not wanting to fuck someone with a tiny dick. Everyone was going apeshit about it, called the girl a whore and all that. So obviously I will laugh about a tiny dick now. Because even if you're nice about it, males will go crazy. Die mad, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:02 PM
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My husband had birthday a couple of days ago. Since we have a newborn at home, I told him to go out with his friends, so he can relax a bit for his birthday (he does basically everything but breastfeed the baby so I can heal properly from giving birth) This absolutely wonderful human being went out with his friends for 2 hours to eat something, came back home with food for me and some flowers, then spent the rest of the day with me and our son. On HIS birthday. This is where his priorities are. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:14 PM
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Uhm, I have both and PCOS and a HV husband who absolutely adores me the way I am. I have bad weeks/months sometimes, but it was literally never such a big deal for our relationship. I doubt that it's an issue for anyone except for absolute fitness freaks, but doubt you would want to date someone like this either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:49 AM
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I would absolutely love to see women not giving a shit about a "rating" and stop posting on those subreddits. Like, why does it even matter what some randoms on the internet think about you? I don't see any sense in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:15 AM
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I always laugh, when some scrote assumes that I am trying to impress him (and talks badly about my choice of look). Honey, no, I don't wear this green eyeshadow to impress you, I wear this because I look in the mirror and love what I see and what I created with my choices of clothes, makeup and hair today. I look like a goddess and couldn't care less about what anyone has to say about me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:41 PM
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I am also not a fan of this subreddit, but I am not judging other women's choices regarding their own body. To be fair, I am a confident woman who learned to love herself no matter how "beautiful" I am, so I probably can't understand the purpose of those subs anyways. I just have a huge problem when this whole mindset infiltrates FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:36 PM
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Is this "leaving the toilet seat down" thing seriously seen as something special? I have never found the toilet seat up, ever. Like neither in my family, nor in the family of my husband?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:28 PM
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Women are blamed for everything, always. This is why we shouldn't even post about it on subreddits like AITA or relationship_advice and ask for opinions, but simply not let anyone disrespect us and let them take the consequences without trying to prove a point. More female-only spaces like FDS would really help, but sadly a place where women can be left alone are seen as "radical" and "extreme" by males, so it's rather hard to make them happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:24 PM
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This is why you NEVER have children with LVM. I didnt lift a finger when I got pregnant, my husband basically did everything for me. Because he isn't a lowlife POS who wants his wife to go through the painful experience of pregnancy and having to work and risking another miscarriage or stillbirth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:05 PM
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This is absolutely horrifying! This was definitely rape and I am simply so disgusted.. I had some really hard months after getting out of an abusive relationship. I was drunk nearly every day, week after week. In that time, I never got blackout drunk, I always KNEW what was going on, my body just didn't quiet listen to my mind, so some guys thought I was trashed, while I was still in my right mind. The amount of ugly, balding dudes 10+years older than me, trying to make me go with them was huge.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:13 PM
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I don't even want to think about how many times I was told to lower my standards. I never did. Now I have a wonderful HV husband, who makes me genuinely happy, while most of the women I know who lowered their standards are either single again or just not happy in their LTR. Rather end up alone with cats than with a loser that won't make you 100% content!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:56 PM
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Love this post! you're so right!! Even if our standards seem to be "unrealistic", that's literally OUR PROBLEM. It's not the problem of ANYONE ELSE, just OURS. So yeah, people who don't want to accept other people's standards can die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:46 PM
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I absolutely hate this. I am a REALLY tolerant person. If people want to live a certain way, I will not get in their way, as long as they leave me alone with it. But I absolutely HATE when someone tries to standard-shame me. And that's basically why I ditched alot of my friends. When I said things like "Oh I would divorce him, if he went to a strip club" they immediately tried to make me look weird or crazy for thinking this way. Like, no thank you, I will rather talk to like-minded people who w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:24 PM
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There are rare cases where Pickmes actually want to better themselves, but after this "friend" I just want EVERYONE to be extra cautious towards ex-friends. Also if you get bad vibes from them being around your partner and your partner seems to be uncomfortable, it's time to ditch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:17 PM
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I am sadly very oblivious to jealousy and that stuff, because I personally wouldn't be able to feel real jealous towards anyone. And since she knew my negative experiences (abusive ex, infertility, depression, health issues, etc) I thought that she wouldn't be jealous about my life, since it's not that good. Well, apparently I was wrong. I will listen to my husbands opinion on people more often now. So far he was always right and honest with me. It's really nice to have a real partner, who just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:15 PM
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We are all well off and absolutely happy that this snake isn't going to get near us ever again! I am not going to let another "friend" that I cut off like that into my life again, at least not without properly checking her intentions. It was a huge lesson!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:07 PM
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I have thought about this quiet often, since she really was someone I tried to protect with all I had. And I think you are spot on with what you said. I've had friends telling me that she reacted weirdly, when they spoke positively about me, while I wasn't there. Instead of working on herself and the reason why she was jealous, she blamed my whole existence on her problems and basically resented me for something I couldn't even control. I will definitely never ever let this person into my life a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:05 PM
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But would you shame another woman for wanting an educated man? I doubt it. Don't get me wrong, I have a bachelor's aswell, while my husband didn't even finish high school. He is intelligent and hard-working, so he climbed up quiet fast and makes a shitton of money in a very big corporation. Something I will probably never achieve. But I would NEVER feel triggered by another woman's standards, especially not regarding the educational level of a potential partner. So all I am saying is: a heavy re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:58 PM
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It's so sad to think about it, but I think this is sadly true. Looking back, she was always a bit "flirty" towards my husband, which freaked him out. I thought he was just seeing things, when we talked about it, but I think that he was absolutely right back then and I just tried to believe that this woman is really my friend. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. Women who ditch you in hard times like those shouldn't expect any compassion from you ever again! It's disgusting what your ex-frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:35 PM
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There are certain things that do make her a Pickmeisha, that I didn't want to include here, since it would turn the already long story even longer! She told me quiet often, that I shouldn't be that hard on the males who tried to date me (for watching porn or using certain words that I disliked). She also tried to get male attention by playing the "cool girl". Girl was really trying hard to get male validation and was always jealous because I had alot of guys interested in me, eventhough they wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:21 PM
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You will find, that this is very common. LVM and Pickme's will feel triggered by women who have their own higher standards. You're absolutely better off without those women in your life. They probably would LOVE to have a higher educated man, but due to their Pickmeism they settled for anyone willing and want other women to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:11 PM
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I noticed how alot of women tune in and make fatphobic remarks (towards women) on here. I don't keep silent and gladly call them out on it. Most of the times, those mean comments get deleted or other people call them out, too. This is actually why I love staying here in FDS. Most of our members are supportive of other women, no matter what they look like. It's also a completely different thing to be a fat woman and a fat man in my opinion. As a fat woman you have to endure alot more hate than a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:32 AM
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I am not a model, far from it actually. I will never get rid of my bad skin or my medical issues. I will always have a face that isn't what people deem especially attractive or even beautiful. My body has a hard time recovering from child birth, it looks saggy and weird and will probably stay that way for quiet some time. I was heavily overweight once, with really bad acne that hurt, due to PCOS and thyroid issues. It didn't matter, if people liked how I look or not. I demanded respect for mysel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:18 AM
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My height (6'0) was always something males had to tear down about me. Then I got told that I have a "flat face", I have slightly Asian features since I am 1/4 Asian, so thats literally in my genetics?? My feet were also called "way too big" quiet often. I am a tall girl, wtf am I supposed to walk on? Tiny feet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:01 AM
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There is, but its not worth it, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:54 AM
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I dont need to see his whole face to know that he would be a 5 max with basic hygiene. Males are laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:26 PM
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If you want to be aggressive about it, do it somewhere else. We have to be realistic about this whole thing and stating difficulties isnt about discouraging someone. Its giving a realistic view on problems OP could encounter. If you cant handle that people can say something that you dont like, you should look into your mental health issues and work on them instead of getting pissy at strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:24 PM
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I can only talk about what I heard from the majority of women who wanted to get their tubes tied. In my country there are literally laws that forbid a sterilization without a medical emergency before a certain age. Just because there are some women who got it in some other subreddit, doesnt mean that its going to be extremely difficult for OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:16 PM
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I would've never dated a guy like this, ugh. He looks unkempt as hell. Also M20??????? He looks extremely old already. I cringe a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:03 PM
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You will have a hard time finding someone who will tie your tubes. If you don't have at least 2 children or are I think 35+ years old (or even older), the chance to have someone do this for you is basically 0.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:02 PM
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I just want to say that this "evil glare" is something many women THINK they notice about other women, when they are in a place of insecurity. I can almost assure you that 99% of the women, who throw this "evil glare" at you don't have any evil or jealous thoughts towards you. Quiet often many women go through their lives with a "resting bitch face" which others seem to misunderstand as a negative attitude towards everyone else. There's a simple test to see if someone is REALLY glaring at you or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:33 AM
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So which one of you trolling male lurkers was that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:06 PM
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Please post this to r/FDSSuperFans Dont give them a Platform here. This Troll is already known btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:11 PM
10

Probably when I was in elementary school and my mother had to fight my headmaster that I should be able to join a "Karate club". I was always way taller than the other kids. So obviously alot of boys tried to bully me, even physically fighting me and stuff. I got into trouble for hitting them back harder than they hit me. So my "bulies" all were in this Karate club and I wanted to join, because I was always into fighting and martial arts and all that. My headmaster tho wasn't into that idea, bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:43 AM
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That sounds lowkey abusive? "I am going to treat you the way you treat me" implying that you disrespected him for spending time WITH YOUR MOTHER? I would kick his ass out of my life if I was you. There are tons of men out there who wouldn't behave like little children that don't get their favorite candy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:32 AM
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Yeah like I said, I wasnt there and I cant confirm it in any way, males always find a way to lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:32 PM
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I actually know a guy who had some type of STD without sexual contact. Apparently he shook another guys unwashed hand and went peeing, touching his dick. Also some guy whose dick touched the toilet while Peeing. Herpes from sharing lip balm. All that Kind of stuff. I wasnt there and I cant confirm their stories. I just know that women can contract all kinds of STDs from sitting on toilet seats that werent sanitized properly. I am quiet happy that our health care system makes STD Screening a free…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:18 PM
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My husband was a virgin when I met him. I wasn't. I get checked yearly for STD's as it's part of the yearly gyn checkup here in my country. My husband gets checked, too, because it's simply the right thing to do. He knew that he wouldn't have any STD's, but there are many different ways to get infected even without having sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:06 PM
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I am always in awe when males who have literally no clue about psychology talk about things like BPD. I have a Bachelor degree in Psychology and I had a special assignment about BPD, basically doing research on that topic for a whole semester. In that time I got to explore a huge part of the internet, where not only people with BPD, but also their (ex)partners talk about their experiences. Having the clear scientific facts about BPD, I noticed that alot of people self-diagnosed BPD. EVEN MORE ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:59 AM
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Your first priority should be to find a good therapist. I can tell you: it's hard. In my country we are covered by our health insurance, so we are encouraged to have at least one "trial" therapy session with a therapist before we decide to spend our therapy with them. I have been visiting 5 different therapists in my city and I didn't really like a single one out of them. I am also still on the waiting list for another 3. ​ Once you found someone you feel safe with, tell them exactly what you ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:35 AM
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My skincare yearly is worth nearly 1k€! I spend a shitton of money (min. 4-5k€) on makeup every year (even without my job), the skills I literally had to learn to apply it perfectly are worth alot more than most males make in a year. Sorry, not sorry. I have grey hair, which needs to be refreshed monthly (80€ per month=960€ yearly) My clothes are not cheap either I spend well over 3k€ a year on nice clothes (with some nice designer pieces) Since I do all my skin treatments myself (trained cosmet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:13 AM
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I honestly don't mind 6 minutes of penetration (I hope this is the average time for PIV, not the WHOLE ACT) if he does give me good forepley. My ex was pornsick and while he could keep it up for at least half an hour, it wasn't enjoyable at all. Sex with my husband who doesn't last as long (I think 10-15 min) is SO good, because it doesn't stop when he orgasms. It stops when I say that I am happy and fulfilled. Basically: if males put a little more thought into fulfilling their partners needs, e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:04 AM
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Concentrate on yourself. Find new hobbies, new things you like to do. Even when I was fat I got approached by males. Probably because I didnt care about meeting anyone or being liked or approached.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:07 PM
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I am a SAHM now. The only way this actually works is because I have savings that would give me and my baby a very comfortable life for at least 3 years and my husband buys everything I want either way. I can also start my Masters dregree after 1 year of staying home and caring for our baby, since the first semester isn't heavy on the lectures and my husband can reschedule his work for a years to fit our timetables perfectly. I wouldn't have been so enthusiastic about having children with someone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:41 AM
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Obviously! If she wasn't okay with my sexuality in any way, that's nothing I could criticize. I wouldn't force myself on anyone in any way (I am not a male lol) It still stings a bit, but I definitely know where she was coming from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:17 PM
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Oh no, she was kind of disgusted about me liking males and having had sex with males (which I definitely can understand) I ended up married to a wonderful man, so it's okay, but this experience made me stay away from trying to date women. I am also extremely hesistant to even talk about my own sexuality due to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:16 PM
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Being bi and dating women is harder than you think. I usually don't talk about being bi anywhere, because I had very bad experiences in my life with it. Males will sexualize the hell out of you, alot of lesbian women will not want you because you're also into males. I fell in love with a beautiful lesbian woman once. She directly told me that she won't date any bi-girl, because she feels unsafe about her also liking males. As far as I know that's a great concern in the lesbian dating scene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:23 PM
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I am always SO annoyed by actually nice animes, where the protagonist is beloved by literally every woman. You had a nice plot, a nice story, but every woman falling in love with this "very strong, but very short/skinny/dumb" guy makes it so annoying and cringy. Just thinking about Akame ga Kill, RE:Zero, Black Clover.. I have TONS in mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:40 AM
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My husband is really bad at giving massages. He is a really amazing man in general, but sometimes I literally dream about getting a really nice massage. He tries, but after 10 minutes his hands cramp and the "fun" is over. He gladly pays for me getting massages tho. I just usually dont go somewhere for that. Also he hates taking pictures. He does let me take pictures of us together and all that, but a picture of him alone? No way. I wont force him tho. At least he takes them with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 10:50 PM
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I think the most important thing is probably that the father is a positive role model. My husband and his siblings were raised by a strict father, who didn't let anyone be disrespectful to their mother. He was cooking, helping with housework, working and spending time with his family. All of their sons turned out HV. My husband wants to be just like his father when it comes to raising our son. I think the worst you can do is to raise a boy with a LVM. It's not only toxic, but you're mostly bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:30 PM
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I am extremely glad to hear that this community did play a role in your improvements! I wish you all the best for youtr future!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:11 PM
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I could actually hear my Russian grandmother say that right now. Bless her soul, she also made the "funniest" jokes about my ripped jeans back in the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:09 PM
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Even if you have BPD it doesn't make him any less of an asshole with all he did to you. Why don't they understand that a woman having BPD doesn't make her completely irrational? Even if she had BPD, he would still be scum. BPD is complex and you can't simply say that every woman with BPD is the same. It has MANY faces. I am especially educated on BPD, since I had to take an exam on this in my psychology degree. It felt like women with BPD are made out to be the evil of the world, while most aren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:51 AM
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If you don't see a problem with porn, you didn't even try to look into it and this is absolutely the wrong subreddit to be commenting on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:43 AM
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I would literally NEVER wear something to satisfy my partner. Either I like it or I don't, there is no inbetween. I was thinking about getting a nose ring years ago and my husband doesn't like piercings at all. When I told him about my idea, I was ready for him being completely against it and whatever. All he said was "Are you sure you want to do this? You have to take care of it so it doesn't end up infected and possibly hurting you" Not even once did he criticize my choices when it came to cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:57 PM
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Thats great! This is also important as hell! I sadly cant run alot of fast enough due to medical reasons, thats why I benefited from knowing how to get out of certain situations. The most important thing is to keep calm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:16 PM
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There are special classes for women out there. I had a special lesson when I was doing Taekwondo about how to get away from heavier and taller people. But there are literally weekly classes out there especially for women and self defense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:59 PM
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Always do a self defence class. Its so so so useful to know how to get rid of a way heavier and taller attacker without having much Power yourself. Also most importantly: dont try to fight. Run away. Dont try to finish him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:47 PM
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Meanwhile my husband gets up earlier to get me breakfast, feed our cat, pack his stuff for work, taking a shower and doing whatever he can in the house before going to work. I absolutely hate when males spend 1 hour in the bathroom. The only time my husband spent 1 hour in the bathroom was when he got sick from the food we had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:39 PM
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I understand that lol I have barely any hair on my legs. Like legit 6 hairs on every leg, not even long ones either. When I say that I dont shave my legs its always the hairiest males who get a total meltdown. Without even knowing how my legs look like. Dude I dont need to shave my 6 hairs, nobody notices them either way, but your full Body hair armour is quiet visible and disgusting, why even cry about anything regarding hair?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:28 AM
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I say this all the time. Dont engage with them. They need our attention and most of them masturbate to the replies we send. Males are depraved, never forget that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 10:56 PM
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Support? I would call it free therapy. Good that you ignore him. He should get his "support" from someone he pays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 10:54 PM
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I have always used the 3 months no sex rule, even before knowing about FDS. It really showed me who wanted to be serious with me and who didnt. Also blocking and moving on was a success. Having high standards really paid off in the end. I met my husband and we are going strong for 8 years soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 10:33 PM
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Does she have family nearby? Or a place to stay somewhere? Because even if she's pregnant, she doesn't deserve this and should get away asap. He will only treat her worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:17 PM
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As someone who isn't 9/10, I have a husband who met even higher expectations than that. Guess it's not too much to ask. They just want us to think that this is too much to ask for, because they are hairy monkeys with weird penises and no steady job and still want a hot girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:15 PM
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Oh yes, women are told to "get over it" but males can dwell in every little thing forever. Never heard my husband having any "trauma" from women, its only the LVM who need to blame anyone but themselves for their behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:26 PM
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I have PCOS and I know the struggle. It's hard to love yourself, when you don't exactly feel like yourself anymore due to that illness. But that's who you are now and you have to accept it. You seem to do great to change the situation you're in, that's a huge thing! When I got fat and my face was swollen and hurt from the sudden acne-outbreaks, I had absolutely no energy left to change something. It took me months to start doing anything to improve myself. You're already there and I am so proud!…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:56 AM
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My first boyfriend (I was 14) still can't let go. I am 28 now. He made a fake account on instagram of a female friend we both know, just to get infos on me. Before that he "talked" to female classmates of me to get infos, but they all moved, so he had to do that shit. I didn't notice that this account was fake until I talked to the girl whose pictures were used. She explicitly told me that she doesn't use social media anymore and that she has no accounts anywhere. I still don't know why he does …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:10 AM
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One of the reasons why I don't date males with a beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:42 AM
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He knew what he was doing. You acted well when you didn't cancel it. Talking to him at all was a bad move, but I guess you know that and we aren't perfect in our actions, especially when angry. But what an asshat. This provocation is simply stupid and low. Enjoy a good bath time, pamper yourself and laugh about how desperate he seems to be for your attention!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:34 PM
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I don't look him up at all. I don't want to see this person ever again and I have him blocked literally everywhere. Still, a friend of mine hears alot about him, since a good friend of hers lives in the same apartment complex as my ex. She shares the funniest stories with me sometimes and I get a good laugh out of it. While I don't care about him as a person, what he did to me was painful. So everytime I hear how messed up his life has become, I feel strangely good about it. It's like Karma does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:16 AM
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SHE feels like she isn't good enough? SHE??? I can only guess the manipulation and gaslighting she had to endure in all those years. If my husband was mad about the lack of sex, I would show him how much worse a lack of a roof over his head was and throw him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:02 AM
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I still dont understand why they get mad that we dont date them? Its just so stupid, my brain cant properly understand the reason for it? Yeah rejection is hard and all that, but I wouldnt want to force anyone to only like people who are like me? Male brains are something else, honestly. Not capable of so many things like empathy, tolerance or simple logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:46 PM
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Long distance isnt a reason to not get you something. I was long distance with my husband in our first Vday, too, and he sent me a package as a surprise. Also having a Pizza or flowers delivered is possible even outside of your country. Just saying. A man will find a way to show his love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:23 PM
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It REALLY depends on the man. There are men who don't value sex as much as you might think. For example there are also asexual males, why would they cheat? Demisexual men, who only feel sexual attraction to someone they have a deep emotional connection to. I don't think that ALL men cheat. I think that a shitton of men would be able to cheat, definitely not every single one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:14 PM
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This is basically why having casual sex only really hurts women. Those ignorant fucks will always value their tiny dick more than anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:55 PM
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He shouldnt have had sex then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:47 PM
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I ended a friendship with a really good friend over this bullshit. After going back to her ex she tried to make him look better than he was all the time. She really wanted me to like him. This guy cheated on her more than one time, while neglecting their relationship and she tried to tell me how he has changed and treats her right all of a sudden. Lol. When I didnt want her to bring him to my wedding, she was extremely mad, so I simply ended our 5 year long friendship. She can be a Pickmeisha, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:44 PM
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"Oh yes, she is absolutely gorgeous, I can definitely see what you mean" shows him that he has no power here. Because he doesnt. Women being supportive and positive towards other women no matter what make LVM angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:38 PM
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I do fully understand you. I always make 100% clear that I am not going to be touched by a male doctor. Like very clear. If they cant understand, I can and will find another way. Either driving to another city or anything like that. If its severe, I will put my health first tho. Your health is the most important thing. I understand that you are upset. I would be crying, too, honestly. But you're better off healthy and alive at this moment..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:01 PM
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"Should I be upset?" No Honey you should be single by now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:26 PM
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So women have to suck it up once again or what exactly are you trying to say? I am not trying to argue, but I won't judge any woman who does this. It's not a good thing to do, but I'd rather see a woman being financially secure than a male getting what he wants without consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:37 AM
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Males openly use women for their bodies and looks, but it's terrible if women get something out of it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:30 AM
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So he is sexually frustrated? Then he should leave and that's it. He's obviously the wrong partner for his gf. I would HATE to be pressured into doing something I don't want. Keep the dicks out of my face, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:00 AM
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Do you think this is just good skincare and working out? It's more than that. It's a personal cook, good dermatologist, personal trainer, maids and not having children they have to care for all the time. It's as simple as having no 40h/work week, not having to do basic tasks, having literally more time to take care of themselves. I have friends who lived a normal life, working out, skincare and all that. They dont look like her even when 40. Also very well done surgery will not be visible. Its e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:48 AM
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Honestly tho, an average woman with average genetics will not have the financial means to maintain looking young and fresh forever. That's just how it is! We can appreciate older women who look gorgeous and fit, but we shouldn't forget that they have the money to do that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:41 AM
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Oh so.. self-respect = playing crazy mind games? I just thank everything in my life, that I found a man who doesn't see sex as the most important thing ever. I pray for these women to find self-respect, at least enough to know that they aren't sex toys for males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:33 AM
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Either I am a 10/10 for my partner or I am not dating him. Sorry not sorry. My husband also never rates women with numbers. There are attractive women and women who aren't quiet his type, never numbers, never judgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:50 PM
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I totally agree! A relationship that is built on compromise isn't a relationship that can really make both sides happy. You have to fit somehow and if you always compromise you clearly don't fit together. The only things that I had to compromise on was literally what color the nursery would be in (we basically mixed both colors in the end), what brand of alcohol we would serve at a party and to not wear the same color as my husband at one night. That's it. We have such similiar views that we don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:34 PM
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My BIL has 2 sons, 3 and 6 years old. Both have a part in house work. Screaming at their mother has consequences. They talk about things that happened and their emotions weekly with the whole family. All in all they are extremely well-behaved, because my BIL is actively helping his wife to raise those boys. Now thinking about a cousin of my husband, she has 2 total brats. 5 and 8 years old. They "play" fighting with their mother, basically hitting and kicking her with all their power. Helping in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:35 AM
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"There are no men out there who will spoil you just for looking good" Well I am getting spoiled even when I look bad now so... "Every man uses porn, if they say they dont, they lie" Except for HVM who are into real sex with their partner rather than paid abuse in front of a camera. "Men just arent into the type of girl that you are" Sadly enough of them are. "You have compromise on alot of things if you want a good relationship" so far I had to compromise on maybe 3 things in nearly 8 years with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:02 AM
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The sheer amount of how much porn he apparently uses and that he oversteps a line as in commenting on NSFW threads and telling women what he would do to them, also PAYING FOR CAMGIRLS is simply too much work. Most likely he is in too deep and we women aren't rehabilitation centres for porn-addicts. It's unpaid therapeutic work that simply isn't worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:30 AM
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There are women who see power in being able to birth children. There are women who need to have children to stay sane. There are women who are infertile and there is nothing they want more than getting a chance to hold their own biological offspring. Having a child isnt a sacrifice for males. At least not always. We just have to be extremely careful about what man we let into our lives and the lives of our children. If they are helpful, supportive and understanding they will make this experience…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:44 AM
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My ex was fucking dirty. Skid marks in his underwear, stinky, hairy, didn't brush his teeth, rarely washed his hair. I thought this was already the worst, but when I read about how ALOT of males don't have basic hygiene, I feel sick to my stomach. My husband refuses to be around people if he didn't take a shower first. Once my mother visited and came earlier than expected right when my husband came back from work. He ran home to get a quick shower before he properly greeted my mother, because it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:05 PM
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It's honestly hard to say, because we all have different people around us. I didn't know a single HVM before I met my husband. Since I've met him, I know alot more, since his brothers and friends seem to be HV. I certainly can't confirm 100%, but from all I see they have very happy, confident wives, so that speaks volumes! I also noticed that HVM stick around other HVM more often. My husband doesn't have contact with LVM, he doesn't tolerate disrespect towards women and they make clear that they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:43 AM
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Obviously, I don't think women are to blame for the failures of their sons. But some don't even TRY to make their sons better people. I don't think this is okay either. My ex had a mother AND grandmother who thought that I had to clean up after him. It made him literally vile towards me. He would throw his clothes in front of my feet and tell me to put them in the laundry myself and stuff like this. When I talked about it with his mother, she simply said I should've put it in the laundry right a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:51 AM
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My ex lived alone, but his mother took care of everything. My husband lived with his mother and he was independent from the beginning because his mother shared housework with her kids since they were 10 years old. Sometimes its really just how well mothers teach their sons. My ex's mother thought that housework is a womans duty and went crazy over me not doing shit in her sons household, while my MIL even asked me if my husband does enough chores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:47 AM
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Fact is that 10/10 is REALLY personal and 9/10 is some Beyonce shit so realistically 7-8/10 is a really good rating. Also dont let your self esteem suffer from that. Those scales are bullshit either way. I was called a "solid 4/10" once because that guy wanted to neg me. I told him that even a 4/10 wasnt interested in him and moved on. Males opinions simply dont matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:39 AM
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How is 6-7/10 ugly tho? I consider myself 7/10 and dont think I am ugly at all lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:33 AM
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I have a variety of hobbies that I like to get better in. I also read alot of educational articles on things that interest me like medicine, psychology and art. Getting better at things that are interesting to me gives me alot of confidence back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:47 AM
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Well I am just not a Fan of people who give unneeded and unwanted advice. Maybe you have a personal Problem with the theme of this subreddit, because changing your appearance isnt a thing here. If you asked me how to do eyeliner and I told you how to cook a Steak it would be just as stupid, dont you think? I am not here to waste my time discussing this with you. I am just telling you that your advice is in the wrong thread and not relevant for this subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:18 AM
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She didnt ask (and even clearly stated that she doesnt want to) what she should change in her appearance. FDS is not a looksmaxing community. There are even clear statements why we dont talk about leveling up in appearance here. You can think whatever you want, we dont have a problem with that. But telling someone to change how they look like, eventhough they clearly said they arent interested in that, is simply not right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:51 AM
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Why should she look more feminine and all that if thats simply not who she is? Thats dumb. If males dont like her for her she is better off without males like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:07 AM
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I've never been on any of THOSE subreddits. They just dont interest me, I dont care about them. So why exactly do those scrotes lurk here if they "go their own way"? Literally no logic at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:48 AM
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So listen, my family pressured me for marriage since I was really young. I totally understand you, its hard because its your family and somehow you want to make them think that you're good enough. You make yourself vulnerable to LVM with this. You're 21 and simply havent found the right partner yet. I was 21 when I met my husband, but I looked around for 3 years until that happened. Some are just lucky, believe me I had friends who met wonderful men while I was confronted with LVM all around and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:02 PM
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I had this happen with every guy so far except for my husband. It was always "a mistake" and what else, but in nearly 8 years with my husband he somehow managed to never do such a "mistake"? Sounds suspicious tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:09 PM
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This is why I love martial arts and being tall. I am not easily overpowered by males who are at least my height or build. This is also why women of all sizes should try to have self defense classes because you get to learn alot of tricks to get away from stronger people fast enough to survive! Its definitely worth a go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:02 PM
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Girls who let their partners watch porn and call women who dont, 'insecure', probably know that they have a LVM and are scared to lose him because they themselves have insecurities. I noticed that women who judge other womens boundaries are extremely dependent on male attention. And what screams "I hate myself" more than that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:27 AM
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I got some extensions, put on makeup and suddenly I was getting attention from males. My acne never disappeared, but suddenly that it wasnt that obvious anymore I was treated differently. The first time I could go out without makeup and my bad skin showing was when I turned 19 and completely didnt give a shit about what anyone thinks of me. While I honestly dont care at all, I still notice that I get treated differently when I wear more or less or even no makeup at all. Women are nicer, like ALO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 02:56 AM
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This is exactly why males hate us so much and want our sub gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:31 PM
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Having different views of how life should be in important aspects like finances, family, believes and relationships. I absolutely dont tolerate porn, strip clubs and the like. If he doesnt support my passions, I am also out. I will try my partners hobbies and try to support him in that, so I expect the same. If he isnt accepting a "No" from me right away or pushy in general, I am not there for it. No means no when I say it, when I'm not 100% sure yet I will say something else like "Let me think …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:51 PM
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I had women tell me they are crying from joy because their partner got them some tampons from the store. Some males think they deserve a BJ for Basic shit, its absolutely sickening. Good thing my husband is not like that. He knows that taking care of your wife and your shared home isnt anything but basic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:58 PM
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While it sounds like fanfiction, I can guarantee you that similiar shit happens to fat women who try to eat outside of the safety of their home more often than you think. But thats literally the only cases I've seen where this happened. If it isnt centered around shaming someones weight, its extremely unlikely that it happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:10 PM
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This is one of the reasons why I unsubscribed to PinkpillFeminism on here. I wanted to be a mother and I am happy with my husband. I dont need to hear that I am "less of a feminist" because of it, simply because its not true. I dont need to hear that my Baby boy is a "mistake" and that "I shouldve aborted". I feel your frustration. FDS isnt against motherhood or marriage, obviously. We are women who want respect. Being with LVM doesnt give you any respect, only pain, this is why some of us are h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:23 PM
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My husband works shifts and weekends. We already planned our "shifts" out and he took a month of vacations to take care of our baby so we don't get stressed out the first few weeks. It's pretty easy actually, if you have someone who does care about you AND your baby. A way too tired mama isn't a good thing at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:53 AM
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LOL, yes, don't wear anything at all on your face. You're catering to the patriarchy when you try to keep your skin literally HEALTHY. I get the basic thought behind this. I get it. But I think it's so condescending when they tell you that you literally have no free will, if you do certain things. It just reminds me of those "not like the other girls" bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:40 AM
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I even saw how some posts about sugaring and sex work were replied to and there were RARELY any women at all who were okay with that. Most of the time the replies are negative towards sex work and that for a reason. Also this whole mindset of "Don't put effort into how you look to show patriarchy" isn't fitting here. That's why I am only active in FDS now. It feels like in many radfem subs you get literally shamed for things like wearing makeup and dressing up. FDS doesn't shame women for their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:30 AM
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My mother is a doctor. She is turning 65 soon and still gets treated like a nurse by her male colleagues. Once I had enough and threatened one of her colleagues with a lawyer, because he called her a "wannabe doctor" in front of me (they have the same rank, while my mom is more experienced tho). The constant fights drain you extremely. I could share a Ton of stories that my mother told me. I wish I could protect every single woman out there from being treated like this, but sadly I cant even pro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:46 PM
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I dont have to do all of that and still am married happily to a wonderful man who adores and respects me. A little bit self respect can change everyones life for the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:42 AM
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I think we really need to stop seeing other women as competition. There are literally no winners, because there is no prize. Male validation has absolutely no worth, alot of women should really learn this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:36 AM
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It's like they NEED to scream their worthless opinion at someone. If someone like this came up to me in real life, I would fucking laugh in his face. I wouldn't even let him finish talking, because I would laugh so hard and they know it, that's why they use the internet to scream their opinion at us. Just a hint: I am not even reading half the shit you're writing me. I stop after some words and BLOCK. You're not worth my time irl aswell as online. Now be mad about it, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:34 AM
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I've dated men who were not attractive to me because they seemed to have a nice personality. It wasnt worth it. Now, while my husband is not my type in general, I still find him appealing and attractive. If he wasnt I probably wouldnt give him a chance no matter how awesome his personality is. I dont want to feel weird when having sex with someone, I want to be comfortable looking at my partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:01 AM
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Honestly? Nope. I watch anime with my husband and couldnt be with someone who doesnt watch it. Its a big part of my interests and as long as the guy isnt obsessed with anime (as in being a total weeb/otaku) I dont think its a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:36 PM
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I am not financially dependent on any man. I have education, savings and self-esteem, I dont need any man in my life. This is literally what FDS is about, but scrotes dont want an independent woman so they while and whine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 09:09 PM
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I told you already, we are not here to "look better". This isnt the right subreddit for this Kind of content. Women here are working hard to accept their flaws and how they look like, so sharing "beauty hacks" isnt the right thing here. We dont have to look better. We are good enough no matter how we look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:52 PM
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Like I said, it isnt relevant in FDS. You can think whatever you want, but we arent here to get a man to like us no matzrer how.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:47 PM
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It is controversial. We are not here to play Barbie for some LVM. Especially because HVM are not only in for the visual aspect of a relationship. You should have a good read in the FDS handbook and maybe search up a post by the mods why FDS doesnt advise on changing your looks as a way to Level up. This Post doesnt fit here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:42 PM
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We dont do that here. FDS isnt about how someone looks like. Every woman can be a HVW if she puts effort into personal growth. Looking good isnt related to being HV. Personal hygiene is probably the biggest point in FDS that is advised, everything else doesnt belong here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:39 PM
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You only feel jealous like that if your bf is problematic. I was never jealous in 7 years of being with my husband, because he immediately shuts down other women who are getting too close. My ex tho always kind of made me feel jealous because he craved female attention and cheated in the end. This Kind of jealousy is definitely more often than not a part of a womans gut feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:16 AM
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Why the hell does he have 2 cars either way?! What does one Person need 2 cars for? I mean we have 2 cars, but we need both and in case my car couldnt be used, my husband found other ways to get to work, leaving "his" car to us. How fucked does a man have to be to not give his wife a car to get to work?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:25 AM
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And this is why I never ASKED what someone thinks about my boundaries. Even when the world told me that "all males look at it", I had enough self esteem to be 100% sure about my feelings and boundaries regarding that. If only a tad bit more women would respect themselves enough, there wouldnt be a need to ask those questions on reddit and have porn obsessed scrotes tell us how "controlling" we are. Dont like how I want my relationship to be like? Leave. There is nothing controlling about boundar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:20 AM
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What the fuck is this supposed to be?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:19 AM
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Probably masturbating while thinking about it, since he seems like a total pervert to even consider bullshit like this. Disgusting, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:03 AM
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2-step cleansing (especially after wearing makeup), toner, exfoliating at night, Serum, moisturizer, sunscreen at day and eye cream at night I do microneedling once a month normally, with hyaluronic acid (helps against wrinkles and scarring). also a full AHA/BHA exfoliation once a week and afterwards a hydrating face mask. I am 28 and I have literally no wrinkles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:21 PM
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I would've told him "Well it comes from kicking rude males asses" and moved on. How fucked up is it to say something about anyones body like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:47 AM
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I'm not sure if this is a good way to deal with that situation, but if I was in your shoes I would probably do that: Next time he approaches me, I would remain friendly. When he asks to hang out, I would reply something along the lines of "Oh, I'm not sure if I can hang out with you, don't want to make you feel weird, since I'm always making you uncomfortable by asking you out and all that..you know" Try to be as nice as possible, no hint of being mad or anything. If he tries to talk himself out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:09 AM
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Why are they so fucking creepy? I once had a guy card me at my local gas station for buying a pack of cigarettes. Next time I went in, he literally asked me why I am not on social media. Lol. This dude knew I was 18+ because I was driving a damn car for several years. He just never had the chance to card me before, because I only paid for gas. He also knew that I have a husband. Fucking creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:22 AM
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Women having height preferences are "soooooooooooo bad" but males literally humiliated me for being 6'0. In my teenager years, I was so insecure about my height, that I wanted to get surgery to literally cut a bit of my legs off. The only way I overcame this huge insecurity was, when I realized that my height is actually a weapon. I had a way safer life, because I was a tall girl. My short friends were harassed way more often, because they were an "easier target" while I rarely had to fear for m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:09 AM
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"If you want a man" Sir, you look like an ape, not a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:24 AM
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From bright, neon green to neutral nude smokey eye, I wear it all. Taking 1-2 hours to do my makeup calms me down every single time. Sometimes I don't have enough time to do a heavy makeup or I just don't feel like it will fit me at that day, so I stick with neutral nudes and mascara around the eyes and a slight bronzer and blush on my face. Other days I have a look in my mind and everything I wear is based on what I imagined myself to look like on this day. I am extremely creative when it comes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:56 AM
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I would absolutely NEVER consider going to a male therapist. As someone who was literally going to uni with male psychology students, it's SCARY out there. Once, at my roughest patch in life, I had to go to a psychiatric ward for 2 weeks. I had an Eating Disorder at that time and heavy depression due to my 2nd miscarriage. I knew some people at this psychiatric ward already, because I had to work there for a couple of months while doing my bachelor's degree. I thought it was safe for me. It wasn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:50 AM
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They really want to make themselves feel better by uplifting under-average looking males and bringing beautiful women down. This is why I would NEVER let anyone openly rate me. It doesn't matter. Everything they say is just to fit their agenda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:36 AM
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So what exactly is ugly either way? My husband is considered "ugly" by some of my female friends. Other female friends think that he isn't ugly at all. Personally, I think he looks good and I love looking at him. So when we're out together, there are either people who think that I am too good for him, he is too good for me or we fit perfectly. So are we both ugly or what exactly is happening? Just an example. Not everyone YOU consider ugly, IS ugly. I think that alot of celeb dudes are ugly, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:31 AM
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Have you lived in Russia? I did. So stop talking bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:03 AM
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Just block. That POS wrote me aswell today. Had a good laugh with my husband and then blocked without bothering to reply. He just waits for us to react, probably with his small peepee in his hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:39 PM
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Same, tho. I was mad drunk for quiet some time in my youth, smoked while having asthma and nobody cared. I even took it that far, that I TOLD people right away, that I only managed to lose so much weight because I got an Eating Disorder. They literally didn't care, but when I gained weight, they were all "soOoOoO concerned". Yeah no. Males who fatshame women are mad that they don't make their peepee hard and women who fatshame woman are simply having self-confidence issues most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:11 PM
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It's really hard to find out if someone is really into YOU or just into your looks, even if you're not mixed, but I can only guess how hard it has to be for (especially) Asian(-mixed) girls. I think if someone compliments your race more than once, he's into the "exotic mix" rather than the personality. As a 1/4 "ugly" mixed Asian, I never had those problems, luckily. I was considered an "ugly white", because my "Asian features" were vague and "not exotic enough". Males and their constant dick-ce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:48 PM
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I remember people being offended about Nike having plus size workout clothes. Because it was "promoting obesity". Workout clothes. LITERALLY SPORTS CLOTHING FOR FAT WOMEN. AND THEY WERE MAD ABOUT IT?! This is why I can't take people seriously who say they care about "ThE hEaLtH". They don't give a fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:25 PM
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I couldn't date someone whose religion and upbringing is centered around humiliating and disrespecting women. As "educated" and "developed" he might be, he probably has family that believes that a woman is lower than him, so I wouldn't be okay with having any contact with such people at all. I know that alot of Russian women are dating and marrying muslim males, tho. In their cases it seems to work out, but who knows what is going on behind closed doors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:05 PM
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And then suddenly she gets fat and suddenly it's disgusting that she eats at all. In most cases your metabolism won't stay as high as if you're in your teens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:01 PM
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I tried to do that, but I still got notifications about getting messages and it drove me crazy. I simply block every scrote who writes me, so I won't see any of his bullshit at any time again. If something is especially hilarious, I show it to my husband. They love to assume things about how I or my husband look or live like, so it can be entertaining at times. Also I am reporting some of them, if they include death/rape threats. I never reply, tho. They aren't worth it. But for entertaining pur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:34 PM
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Thank you alot!! I am already feeling a bit better, alot of love and a little vietnamese soup are helping so much haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:28 PM
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Thank you so much!! HVM do exist and I hope that every self-respecting woman will experience a thoughtful and respectful relationship in her life. Times are hopefully changing and males will have to acknowledge that putting in REAL effort will make them more happy than being a POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:27 PM
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Thank you so much <3 Ah, you got fanmail too? Apparently I am treating my husband "like a dog" and without respect. I am literally going to press out a human being out of my vagina very soon, while risking my life. I doubt, that I would do that if I really disrespected my husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:21 PM
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When I started taking the pill, my boobs grew 2 cups and it hurt alot, because my body wasn't used to the "extra weight" there. My ex told me to shut up about it, because "big boobs are a blessing and you got it for free, ugh". Just stay away from men who think your worth is how big your boobs are or how small your waist is. They are probably porn-sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:33 AM
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The good men are cooking and cleaning by themselves and don't expect sexual actions as some kind of reward for basic human tasks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:28 AM
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Don't forget that doormats literally set the tone for how males think they can treat every woman in their lives. If she lets a male get away with shit, he will try to do it with every other woman aswell, so yeah it DOES hurt the women around her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:26 AM
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Now what is a legit reason for a HVM to want to know about your sexual past? I can't see a single one. How does something like that even "come up"? I've never had this come up with my husband and we are in a relationship for over 7 years now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:50 PM
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"Dont break up, Talk to him" yeah no, not everyone deserves a talk after being such an ass to his partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:35 AM
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I totally agree. The only way I put up with a LDR was because we knew when we were going to move in together and how we would continue our relationship from that point on. I could never have a relationship that is uncertain. Also I saw my Partner nearly every weekend, because he put alot of effort into seeing me as often as he could. No effort, no plans for the Future? No chance a LDR is going to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:30 AM
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I am by far more shamed for wearing makeup than not. Women who wear (even just a little) makeup are seen as superficial and not professional in the area I live in. As you can see, I dont think this is universally a rule everywhere. I agree that alot of women in alot of different regions are treated worse when they dont wear makeup. Does it mean that all women are only into makeup because they "have to be"? Definitely not. You still try to discredit women and their interests because a certain soc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:20 AM
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Honestly tho, one nice word and they think you are flirting with them. I once told a guy that I liked a design he made and he immediately told a friend that he thinks that I like him. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:01 AM
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Honestly couldnt care less about the suicide Rates of males. Sorry not sorry. Also I would never give a compliment that I dont mean, thats why I only compliment my husband and my father of all the males I know. They really do a good job and I appreciate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:44 AM
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I disagree. Artistic or heavy makeup is frowned upon by males and pickmeishas. Still alot of women wear it, no matter who or what is into it. Also do you know every single woman out there and why she does things a certain way? Or do you do exactly the same shit that males do to women right now?! Because as far as Im concerned, there are a shitton of different women out there and while for some the manipulation by males is the reason for certain things they do, I know that a shitton of women dont…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:32 AM
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You're too nice. To me he would be a solid 1/10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:43 AM
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Then it's their loss and they can cry? If anyone enjoys wearing makeup a certain way, doesn't mean they are doing it for men. Literally most women don't give a fuck about what men think. They just want to look "nice" when they look at the mirror and that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:38 AM
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Using every type of contouring isn't working in real life. You either have really subtle contouring or you're visibly contoured. You're talking about things that aren't even realistic. Every sane person would clearly see that a woman is using makeup and doesn't look that way naturally, if she really contours "in every possible way".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:52 AM
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WTF? I am stunned by your statement. The "no makeup makeup look" OR "correctional natural makeup look" as I was taught in beauty school, is just a light makeup look, that tries to correct your facial structure with as less as possible visibility. Covering up blemishes and using nude eyeshadow, a light blush and a light highlight aren't making you "a slave to LVM" lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:44 AM
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Or wear whatever you like because men are not the centre of your life and never should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:12 AM
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My abusive ex is still single and cant get laid. 10 years after I broke up with him. A friend has another friend who lives in the same apartment complex as my ex and he hangs out with him sometimes. So when I meet my friend, she will gladly tell me the funniest stories about how much my ex suffers. His mom is coming to his apartment to clean every week. And he got really fat because he survives on fast food. I dont really care about him as a Person, but what he did to me was extremely painful an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:58 AM
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What strategy exactly? Because here we are looking for HVM who treat us right. And more attractive/rich men arent automatically HV. We dont want to be seen as objects, so why would we want someone who measures our whole worth with how we look like only? Also get outside sometimes, there are gorgeous men having loving relationships with overweight women in real life. Being overweight does make your chances slimmer with men, but mostly with LVM who just think that their dick deserves special treat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:46 AM
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Those losers would never do anything in reallife tho. But yeah, be careful with men. I only have such a loud mouth because I am physically strong and tall, with martial arts experience and actual fighting experience against males. Most women cant risk it and thats okay. If someone who is obviously alot stronger than me would provoke me, I would leave asap and let it be. My life is more important than saying certain things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:56 PM
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Its not healthy to be rude aswell but here you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:16 PM
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You make your own issues here. Yes, many males dislike fat women. Does it mean that you have to be skinny to get a good man? Definitely not. If you have self esteem issues, problems with your weight or anything else, seek therapy. Your mindset towards yourself seems to be toxic as hell, thats one thing that attracts bad men into your life. Work on yourself, mentally, before you try to date. I know alot of confident ugly and fat women who have really nice men in their lives. It's because they lov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:34 AM
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I was out shopping with my husband, when a guy approached me. I told him that I am not interested, he told me that I will end up alone because I am too picky. My husband was like 5 steps away from me and came to me, when he noticed that a guy was talking to me. After a "Is there a problem here, darling?" the other guy seemed to be embarassed and left right away. When I was single, one guy told me that he would definitely fuck me, but that I was too tall for a relationship with him. I knew him fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:07 AM
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You will NEVER be absolutely safe. There is no way to be 100% sure about something. The "don't wait too long for a ring" rule here has a reason and that is what it's about. While it has positive aswell as negative sides, it does definitely reduce the risk of being with a man who would just use you for a long period of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:10 AM
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He probably thinks he's such a gift to the world and that only model-like women should be able to sleep with such a catch like him. Those males have so much confidence, I wish they would share a part of it with the Pickmeishas of this world so they would finally wake up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:03 AM
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A true HVM! They aren't unicorns, they really exist and meeting one is just pure luck, sadly. ​ I met my husband nearly 8 years ago and somehow even without FDS in my life, I knew exactly what I wanted and how I wanted it to be. When I gave him a chance to meet me (he was only 18, I was 21, back then it was a huge deal to me), he showed me that he has a certain maturity that made it possible to have a relationship with him. ​ What impressed me (and still impresses me) is, that he also thinks abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:33 AM
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Oh my. Even when I was fat af he wouldnt be an option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:34 AM
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I would've told my younger self to not give a shit about starting a family as early as possible. There is a weird relationship to marriage and having children in my family that made me endure abuse from my ex, because he asked me to marry him when I was only 18. I felt like I had to get married and start a family as soon as possible so my family wouldn't talk badly about me. (Not my parents, rather the aunts, uncles etc) Now I am 28 and happily married to my husband, awaiting our first child. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:08 AM
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I would've told him, that not everyone has dicks on their mind, unlike him apparently. Then recommend him some art classes with nude male models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:03 AM
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As a woman you have more risks than just a Baby. You probably do alot more unpaid work than your Partner and you are more likely to be abandonned by him when you get seriously sick. Existing as a woman is already way more expensive. I think that males always have to pay more. No matter who makes more money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:11 AM
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When I started my job as a MUA, my husband got a huge promotion. He pays for everything. I worked in my own business and could put all my income aside as savings (for myself only he doesnt have any way to take any of that money). I buy him presents with my own money, but thats basically it. I have an additional card to his Bank Account that I can use freely. My husband explicitly wanted me to have savings, he acknowledges that I am at a financial disadvantage once I get pregnant and take care of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 11:50 PM
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Or on DeadBedrooms like "My wife just gave birth, we hadn't had sex in 2 weeks, my penis is already rotting off if I don't jerk it to bondage porn every 2 hours"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:07 PM
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But then they cry about women thinking of them as potential rapists and not wanting anything to do with them. Yeah, really weird. How come a woman could possibly think most males are potential rapists? Couldn't be because they literally say rape-y things online or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:06 PM
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And obviously they try to find dumb excuses for their bullshit. Because that makes them feel like they are right and not the pure assholes that they actually are. When I found out I was pregnant (after 3 miscarriages), my husband was literally SCARED to even think about sex, because he didn't want me to go through another scarring experience. My wellbeing was and always will be more important than sex to him. That's exactly why I don't sleep with males before I get to know them good enough and 3…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:04 PM
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So basically a man who does respect my sexual boundaries is either fucking with someone on the side or desperate? I know for a fact that there are men out there who just dont think that sex has such a high value. Personally, every male who thinks he cant survive without touching his peepee for 3 months shouldnt be in a relationship. What are they going to do once their wife gets pregnant or gives birth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:00 PM
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What a catch he is. I hope he ends up alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:29 AM
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Hell no, there is absolute no excuse. What he did is so low, he doesn't deserve any second wasted on him anymore. Honestly, block him out of your life, ignore the living hell out of him. You have to respect yourself at this moment and not let him treat you as a doormat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:55 PM
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you really have doubts about breaking up with this POS? I would've played nice until I was better, but would've planned to break up from the moment on, where he left me alone, suffering. But this? Your desperate reactions probably give him an ego boost. I would immediately ghost him, block him everywhere and change all my passwords for every app where you're possibly logged in in your/his phone. Absolutely NO contact. If you say any additional thing, you will always be seen as a desperate doorma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:19 PM
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I remember being 19 and having guys that were 30+ trying to talk to me. I always told them that I have a grandfather already and stuff like that and they were so pissed. Like, they tried to have a discussion why I wont fuck them? That is nearly 10 years ago now. I kind of miss roasting those old fucks, even thought about making an OLD Account for fun, but my husband doesnt like the idea of me doing this, so I wont.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:08 PM
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When they try to shame you into bad relationships. Why tf does he care at all? Why are those scrotes so entitled? My husband pays everything, I "helped" with some bills that we had before he got promoted and started to get a shitton of money. Thats it. He always paid the full rent, electricity, both our phones, gas and groceries. Get mad scrotes, you can cry all you want. Meanwhile I have nice savings, a relationship that is built on love and respect rather than financial dependency and a husban…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:41 AM
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I have quiet some friends who have a similar style and they are confident women who dont let men treat them like shit. This is why I dont judge women by how they look. Ever. I rather look out for their facial expressions and how they react to other people. Most of the most evil, problematic or simply naive girls I know look completely normal. You can only tell by the way they react to certain things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:31 AM
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It seems so hateful? Yeah, because obviously it's hateful to not agree on being used and abused by males and sharing literal survival tips to stay safe while dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 10:38 PM
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You are stating YOUR opinion. YOU think that orange or blue hair is "startling", YOU think that some makeup looks are edgy or startling. It's like YOU decide who gets to pass or who doesn't. That's not cool at all and sounds pretty condescending to me. FDS isn't the right place to discuss YOUR preferences what ANOTHER WOMAN is supposed to look like. We shouldn't judge how other women look like on here, ever. Because what looks "startling" to YOU might look normal to another person and there is n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:42 PM
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So you're telling me that women who do as they like are attention seeking? I'm sorry, but this sounds like internalized misogyny to me. It's exactly what scrotes say about women. I can tell you, that most women, who look "unusual" are fighting every single day with societal pressure to just look like the rest. Looking unusual will get you attention, obviously, but I can ensure that this isn't the attention most want. It's dehumanizing sometimes. I have grey hair, I've always loved grey hair. I c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:33 PM
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I don't understand why those LVM even try to engage us in a "discussion". We don't care at ALL. We know what we want and it's not you, so why even bother? I don't go on TRP and message scrotes to force my opinion on them. They have their mind made up, it's just a waste of time. I prefer to spend my time with things that make me happy, not arguing with people who don't share my opinion at all. It's like they are desperate to put us back in the place, where we don't know about how terrible they ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 05:24 PM
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"Weird hair color", "wild makeup" Sounds judgemental to me. I dont think there are weird hair color, just unusual ones. And how can makeup be wild?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:35 PM
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Can we not judge how she looks like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:33 PM
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We dont need to criticize how she looks like tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:27 PM
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Obviously they won't wash their pillowcases, most of them don't even wash their damn ass. Ugh. But now honestly for my acne sisters: Change your pillowcases at least every 3 days, if it's severe daily. Try to give your pillow a bit of fresh air at least every week (I do it daily). Try to wash your sheets and everything with detergent that is for allergic skin, if you break out often but it's definitely not because your pillowcases are dirty or not changed often enough, it can help alot. Just a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:39 AM
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Letting them financially "abort" is? There is never a practical or good enough solution. They are men. They get away with everything, why would they care about anything?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:36 AM
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That's a good idea in general. Especially before moving in together. I was talking to my husband about how we would handle things, if we decided to break up and he told me that he would get a place on his own, but financially support me for as long as I have to find another job/place to stay. When we were on a break, he did that, without being pissy about money or anything. That's why I can trust him a little more now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:08 PM
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That being said, in the big picture, a major part of me believes men should be aloud to opt out of financially supporting a child they really, really don’t want to you to have - because for many women the alternative is getting killed. OR we could make it completely unthinkable to kill a woman while pregnant, because the consequences would be too wild, but I guess this world would probably let males get away with everything and that's sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:03 PM
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You can literally kick a male in the balls and he will have a high risk of never being able to make children, while it takes alot more to make a woman infertile. I love being a woman with every aspect. I feel complete. Something males will never be able to do, because they are literally running around with a broken chromosome lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:58 PM
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Hey sweetie, I know you're lurking here! We sadly don't take LVM like your serious. You're not going to be bothered by women like us, because we wouldn't even talk to someone like you! Good luck and alot of fun making your incredibly degenerated videos, tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:49 PM
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I cant agree because this is literally what LVM say to manipulate women into accepting cheating as normal. There are asexual, demisexual and simply honest males out there who wouldnt cheat. I know men who decided to be honest and respectful even being drunk and without sex for weeks. Cheating is not the norm. Never trust blindlyy tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:54 PM
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They really Think they can get away with that.. Kind of sad. I used to playfully ask men what they are into. Most of them bought my act and were honest about watching and enjoying porn. When I told them that this was a total no-go to me, they were shocked and I could see that they wouldve Lied if I asked directly. They would tell you everything just to get laid. Also this guy said he would only Tag along with his buddies to not feel left out. Thats fucking weak. Desperate and weak. If my husband…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:20 PM
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I've had males tell me that it's "blackmailing" if I tell someone that I would leave them if they did something that oversteps my boundaries. Because "if he wants to stay with you, then he will obviously give in and not do it, even if he really wants to". So that's my problem now? I am always open about my boundaries, if he decides that it's not reasonable, why even waste time?! I just hope that more women realize that they DESERVE happiness in their relationship. If they can't be happy, it's re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:06 PM
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Thank you alot!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:48 PM
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Her "husband" knew she didn't want to be married to him normally, that's why he tricked her into signing marriage papers. She said that she's into it FOR THE MONEY and he didn't see anything wrong with that. In my opinion he simply wanted a service for money, which she offered him up until he couldn't pay her anymore. Yeah, "total piece of shit" lol Because he used her and she used him back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:45 PM
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When I was 14-years-old. I am never really jealous of other women. I just sometimes get pissed when someone really evil has alot of luck, but it doesn't last long, because I simply don't care enough about what evil people do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:38 PM
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As usual, alot of people don't respect other peoples boundaries. I can't even say how many times someone called me insecure or controlling because of MY boundaries. I am not forcing my husband to follow them. He does it, because he respects me and wants me to stay with him. My comfort and happiness isn't of lower value than his. Never. Also NEVER ask other people if YOUR boundaries are in any way okay or "too much". If you're not comfortable, there is a reason for that and it's your business onl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:33 PM
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I usually don't care, but I had a literal FLOOD of mails. Was alot of work to block them all since I have no clue how to turn off getting DMs and chat requests. Either way I will probably not turn then off, so they can see me ignoring them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:24 PM
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I absolutely love this type of attention and care! When I dated my husband in a LDR he would often just order me something to eat. I remember when I was at school and couldn't leave to eat in my break one day, he ordered me (and my friend) some pizza TO MY DAMN SCHOOL. I didn't expect anything and suddenly there is this pizza guy who tells me "This is for you and your friend, your boyfriend loves you". He also bought a birthday gift for my father at Amazon and let it ship to his adress. It wasn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:29 PM
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My Inbox is bombarded by angry scrotes because I posted this earlier and sympathized with her. What the hell do males expect?! She works as a hostess, lives an openly luxurious life and is honest about only wanting money. He used her for her Body, why is it that bad to use him for his money in exchange? Especially since he seemed to Trick her into this marriage. I bet she couldnt continue working her high paying job as a top Hostess and somehow had to keep her luxurious lifestyle going. So what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:29 PM
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He still ruined her with that. Her name and Photos are everywhere now and men will stay away from her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:25 PM
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She is a Hostess apparently. He "tricked" her into marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:08 PM
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That kind of sounds like my relationship to my cat. If I dare to go to the toilet without him, he goes crazy, but dare I want to cuddle or talk to him. My husband and I have a steady communication. Whenever he has alot to do, he tells me how long he is busy so I don't "wait" for a reply or anything. I do the same. And if I don't reply for a couple of hours longer, he doesn't panick. I think males who go crazy about not replying are not mature enough to understand that a woman isn't there to ente…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 03:42 PM
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It doesnt matter. If he's LV he will treat every girl like shit at one point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:32 AM
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I print everything out and send it as a letter. The E-Mail Adress I have doesnt give any Info on me. Its only for job applications and doesnt have any connection to my real name. If a job insist on online-only applications I dont apply for it. In my country they nearly always accept both ways tho. Also I only give out of business phone number. IT's basically a number that isnt connected to a real phone, all it does is forward calls on my mobile. If they search my name, email or phone number they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:26 AM
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I never ever used my real name online. Even when ordering something I used a nickname and paid with my fathers or my husbands accounts. My phone was always on my fathers or husbands name. You have to be extremely careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:30 AM
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I spit out my water when I read this. I am laughing ugly right now. How absolutely ridiculous are those males?! CAUSE YOURE A VEGETARIAN?! I can't!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 03:44 AM
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He probably feels that he has to pass his wonderful genetics on, since he is such a gift to the world. I am about to vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:53 AM
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I literally have the best response: I hand them my business card and tell them they can buy me for an hour to do their makeup, too. With a huge smile obviously. It's a power move for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:23 PM
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That's what I am preaching for YEARS. Contouring doesn't work without CONTROLLED light sources. Males look at Instagram pictures, that are filtered to hell and back and cry about women being liars, while photos literally have so little to say about how a person really looks like. Even candid photos are misleading more often than not. People really need to learn a thing or two about something they criticize that heavily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:35 PM
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Hurts to read. Just ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:15 PM
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You simply can't change your facial features with makeup. It's impossible irl. Obviously you can contour the shit out of yourself for PHOTOS, but that's basically it. Everything you can change is discoloration and a SLIGHT illusion of deepness(?) or highlight on your face, used to emphasize your NATURAL FEATURES. If males would look closely, they wouldn't even feel "betrayed" by how "different" women look like without makeup on. You can't cover up texture and you definitely can't change your who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:13 PM
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I moved here around 6 years ago. Before that I lived in a rather big city and most people just didn't care about how others look like. I was shocked, when I was approached at a gas station by an older man who told me that I should enjoy the nice weather and wear a miniskirt instead of boring jeans. It was literally my first week living here. Didn't get any better, tho..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:51 PM
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I think the smaller the town, the ruder the people. I drive a luxury car, wear designer bags and clothes and get asked how much money I make "selling myself" every now and then. Mostly it's people that are 40+ who think they can get away with being offensive towards a young woman like me. I think jealousy is really one evil disease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:56 PM
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Where are those jobs even? In my town I got called unprofessional for wearing (very decent) winged eyeliner. At a job interview a guy asked me if I even have natural eyebrows (I only groomed them well, only clear brow gel at this day). They fucking HATE makeup here and they are open about it. That's why I made my own business, doing what I love: makeup. Turned out to be a very good decision after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:17 PM
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Try to put your own needs and preferences before anyone else. I have acne scarring (and had bad acne back in the day) and if I didn't feel like wearing makeup, I didn't. Obviously there were people trying to attack me for it. I had some snarky replies ready for every single bad remark. Those people and their little opinions aren't worth shit, never forget that! I also get alot of shit for wearing makeup that isn't "natural glam at most". Colorful eyeshadow? "YOU LOOK LIKE A DRAG QUEEN" Smokey Ey…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:12 PM
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The way we dress, the way we do our makeup, the way we present ourselves, is a statement. It's a statement to others (males and females), it's a message : "this is my social class", "these are my interests", "this is the kind of person I am", "this is how much money I make". It allows us to display ourselves, we are social animals after all. I absolutely LOVE this! The way I do my makeup, the clothes I wear, the hair I wear, it's all to tell people WHO I am. It's a warning for people who I will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:01 PM
47

It's extremely common. Males think that attraction=love. They have no idea how to really love a human being for anything but their looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:40 PM
7

I've heard really really bad things about male partner counselors, too. They tend to get overly emotional (a no-go when you're a therapist) and blame the woman for all the problems. They shouldn't be allowed to do therapy work, if they don't pass a psychological profiling from a woman. Honestly. They do SO MUCH HARM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:35 PM
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I'm just happy that the shelter for abused women only employ female therapists. I don't even want to imagine what damage a scrote would make. There was literally one who said "I actually would love to help women, but they won't let me" like dude, you help them if you fucking stay away and shut your damn mouth, hypocrite. God I get so angry when I think about it. I am so happy that I can take a break from seeing those idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:13 PM
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This is basically why I don't go to a male therapist. I met some of those males who intend to be psychological therapists. Most are POS. We had to talk about feminism and equality at one point and those absolute garbage human beings had the audacity to act like they know it all and that feminism is an hoax etc etc Our prof was not in for that and literally kicked them out. Serves them right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:25 PM
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I constantly had freedom of having a relationship or sex whenever I wanted to. I chose to wait for a quality man and now I am married to a respectful, ambitious and kind HVM. They wish we were incels, because it hurts them less. Its just.. we dont want their LV asses. A fucking vibrator is worth more than sex with them. If anything happened with my husband, I would invest in a really nice vibrator and never date again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:08 PM
16

Or she is fighting depression or another invisible illness? A HVM will stay with his partner through thick and thin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:47 AM
113

So true. They stare, expect a woman to approach them, but once she does it, they don't even want her anymore. But if she doesn't, they go on the internet and cry about how sexist and unfair this world is to them. You can't win, that's why you simply don't play and ignore little shit like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:39 PM
23

I am not accepting a relationship that isn't giving me even a slight feeling of security and trust. If I have to keep my eyes closed to survive this relationship, it's not something I am willing to do. I respect myself way too much to let anyone harm me in that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:34 PM
6

It's extremely passive aggresive to "call someone out" over a post like this. I kind of think it's a male roleplaying as a woman the more I think about it. There are petty drama-queens, but a woman would probably not make a whole post like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:25 PM
12

Having a high income isnt mandatory for HVM. Many HVM start somewhere and either it works out for them financially or not. My husband started working as a simple worker, got paid minimum wage. He is now in the higher ranks of the company. It was luck, because his boss liked him and supported him. But HVM will strive for a better financial future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:25 PM
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Just caught up on it lol I just checked her post history and oh boy apparently we are facists in her opinion. She seems to think that FDS is basically saying that we all have to be Stacy and that we are objectifying males and ourselves. May she finally understand that we come from a place of love for all women and just want women to stop hurting themselves by dating LVM. Also we dont judge women by their looks. If something, we think it shouldnt matter how "pretty" someone is, every woman deserv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:06 PM
38

Chad and Stacy? She sounds hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:17 AM
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I've had guys who literally tried to bully me in middle school trying to get with me after I started to look way better than before. Even without being out of their "prime". Like dude.. I didnt forget that you told me I should just end my life like 3 years ago? They have no shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:02 AM
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I saw how many males try to post here and especially I can see how many of them are butthurt in my inbox, where they simply get blocked and ignored. I dont even read their messages most of the time, it's boring at this point. I am just thankful that the mods here are doing great work by approve comments and threads. In another female-only subreddit, there were males posting all the time and the mods had a hard time keeping up with it. It was a pure shitshow. Their egos are SO fragile, it makes m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:46 AM
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And then they go crazy about us having female-only spaces. I am all for hunting those "trolls" down and shame them openly. But sadly those creatures are protected by the government. At least in my country, I know some women who won cases over internet trolls who sent them death/rape threats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:10 AM
19

What I bring to the table? If he's good enough he gets to stare at me and maybe even touch me. Duh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:38 PM
37

This happened to me, too. A guy I knew from school wrote me some years ago like "You look gorgeous, I remember you having acne and bad makeup back in the day, how did this even happen?" I told him that not talking to idiots cleared my skin and that I dont want to risk it, so I have to stop talking to him immediately. He tried to apologize, but I simply blocked his ass. My past cant hurt me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:40 PM
6

My bet was totally on "she was just tired of it so she said she came". Somehow I wish she was honest with him, tho. Crush their egos with no remorse! If they can't make you cum, it's not on you, but on them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:34 AM
9

She honestly sounds lovely. Also if a man takes an hour to finish, I can totally relate that she would not be in for sex with him. He probably jerked the life out of his dick and now cries about his gf not wanting to waste her time on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:43 AM
8

I am insecure, because I respect myself so much that I won't let a man mistreat me? They have literally no logic behind their bullshit. If I was insecure, my boundaries wouldn't exist. That's insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:39 AM
3

It looks reasonable, kinda cant believe that a man wrote this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 10:42 PM
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In my honest opinion, I would only be sure about engagement/marriage after living together for at least a year. There are obviously downsides of this aswell, but personally I dont trust a male who proposes too early in a relationship. I want to be sure that he will not treat me like a maid before I decide to marry him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 10:29 PM
30

Block them without any hesistation. They probably masturbate while having a discussion with us. I don't even react anymore, their "opinion" isn't worth anything to me at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:12 PM
23

I am 28 and without makeup I look 15. My husband is 25 and looks 30. What wall exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:11 PM
69

Men were problematic as shit before porn. They bought slave girls and tortured those. It's most likely in their DNA, we can just blame their failure of y-Chromosome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:59 PM
29

Your guy friend is LV and wants to excuse it with "but nobody will" because he personally wont do it. HVM will pay for a dinner date as a first date. Especially if they have the means to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:08 PM
61

A couple of years ago saying "give up porn" was unthinkable. I am kind of proud, how far we've come, eventhough it's not enough yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:20 PM
5

How rude is that even? Not only do they want to put you into that misery, but they get butthurt over you declining to throw your life away for a LV manchild? Wow. That's literally delusional as hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:04 PM
8

Oh wow. That's definitely on him then. Just tell him that you think it's not attractive to gain 20lbs due to overeating and maybe tell him to work out with you or go for a walk together for some time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:02 PM
8

I know it wasn't meant hateful or anything (at least I hope so), but I want to say it either way, for the lurkers at least: Losing weight isn't an option that is available for every single person. If you have a physical illness (thyroid acting up, hormones aren't right, very low metabolism) paired with depression, it's extremely hard to lose weight. It's not about "just eat healthy and work out for a while". This works for people who have a rather healthy body, but low motivation. Nowadays more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:59 PM
40

This weird fixation on looks really has to stop. I know a ton of overweight and ugly women who dont give a fuck about male attention and live their queen life. Obviously you will have lower selfesteem if you were bullied your whole life. But even then its about character. I was bullied for my height, being insecure about it for a whole while. I didnt ever really think that I am worth less because of it tho. When I got fat, it hurt alot to be treated like shit all of a sudden. Did I let people tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:40 PM
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Talk to him about it. You don't have to force yourself to be with someone you don't find attractive. 20lbs isn't even much in my honest opinion. Maybe he has medical issues, that he isn't even aware of? Maybe it's depression? Either way, you're never obliged to stay with a person you don't find attractive. It's literally your decision what to do, we can't help you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:15 AM
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When will women learn to step up for themselves?! I would RUN away from every single person who even thinks about such a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:11 AM
6

That's a really interesting thing with the mirroring. Could explain the behavior of so many males that I got to know. Just imagine how much unpaid work that is.. and then they cry about how much they have to pay to their ex-wives after divorce. OBVIOUSLY it has to be much, since she probably worked alot more in general and didn't even get paid for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:06 AM
4

Same, I am a sucker for cringy stuff! It's in German though and it most likely doesn't have english subtitles..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:03 AM
13

That's the type of men who can't survive without their partner/mother/female family member. I remember, when I was away for a week, a former pick-me friend asked me if I prepared the food for my husband already. He is literally an adult, who can cook himself a nice meal if he wants to? She was SHOCKED that I didn't have to prepare anything for him. Why are so many women even marrying those manchildren?! I could cook myself a full meal when I was 10 years old, so they are literally psychologicall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:07 AM
4

Yeah there are many MIL's who think they can't stop babying their grown-up sons. Either way, we all should strive to be better than that. I know already, that I will not let my son get away with lazy bullshit. Luckily his father is a strict person, so he will definitely step in for me in every way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:45 AM
13

My ex's mother AND grandmother were bullying me into taking care of the housework while I was in school and he was unemployed. They didnt care about what he did or didnt do, all they wanted was for me to be his new mother. So my MIL now did one thing: she took her son shopping right the first week we moved in together. Since then she didnt take any part in telling me what to do with her son. I think its because they KNOW their sons. My MIL knows that her son is an adult that takes care of himsel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 12:16 AM
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Oh no, obviously not. If someone seems to be a real threat (E. Rodgers f.e.) they should be put into a psychiatric ward. Potential killers/rapists should be put into therapy right away. Even if the therapy doesn't really work, they should be under control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:44 PM
131

This is why you cut off pick-me friends. They feel threatened by your strength and self-confidence, because they don't think they can ever get on this level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:25 PM
20

It's not realistic either way, because we live in a world where they would rather enslave women than castrate no value males. But since chemical castration is already done in some countries (Poland for example), it's more realistic to go for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:20 PM
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Because chemical castration is more realistic nowadays. I doubt that anyone would even remotely think that a regular castration is in any way doable to such a large sum of males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:17 PM
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I think we all are aware of male entitlement and its risk for everyone. Cant wait for filthy politics to tell women that fucking disgusting incels is the only way to ensure safety. Chemically castrate anyone who makes it obvious that he is a threat rather.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:25 PM
28

Well I know a guy who murdered 4 people personally. Sometimes it's not the good kind of connection you have to "special people". But I really love this thinking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:43 AM
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And they get so mad if you dont play along. I am sick and tired of this sex positive bullshit. I am sex positive as in: I love to have sex with my husband and I love to be respected while doing it. I dont need to be confronted with sex every second of my life. I dont need to normalize fetishes and porn use. They can call me whatever they want, I will just rub my opinion in even more. They cant use me or my body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:12 AM
25

Talking on a forum for a shared Hobby actually. We immediately clicked and after some weeks he asked me for Skype to chat. We are in a relationship for 7 years now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 05:00 PM
22

My ex was furious about it. I told him that I find his dick too small and that I need toys to get off. He kind of forced me to go down on him when he went down on me, thats why receiving oral is still hard for me. Also he wanted positions that made me feel literally nothing. He never asked me if I liked what he did. I have no idea why I was so obsessed with getting married to someone like him. He is the worst POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:23 PM
70

Males want to be the prize so badly that they manipulate women into hating each other over male approval. Biggest bullshit ever, but sadly it often works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:50 AM
38

So they get to have fun for their 5 seconds and then they don't want to be responsible for it? No, fuck no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:25 AM
9

I've lost alot of friends in my life. People who I knew for several years, started passive aggressive behavior towards me, when I had really good news. At one point I wanted to share my good news so badly, but felt like I couldn't, because "friends" would react badly to it. So I started to do something, that I would never regret: I didn't give a fuck. I told them my positive news. If they reacted badly, I called them out on it. This ended many friendships, but I am not missing a single one of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 02:54 PM
15

I have to be honest, the most attractive thing about my husband is, that he remembers every little wish I have. Once I wanted a pin from my hometown, but it was sold out and I already gave up on getting it. It was a small thing, but my husband got me this pin after searching for it for MONTHS. I was impressed by how thoughtful he was. And that's just one of many many things he impressed me with. Every gift is simply perfect, because he knows exactly what I want. It's simply LISTENING to your par…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:51 AM
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You have to know what YOU can put up with. If you can't get over it, then don't force it, it never ends well. I think my husband looks good, but he isn't my type. The thing is, that I still think he is attractive and he takes care of himself, so I am totally okay with him not being like I may wanted my husband to be like physically. I've met a guy who was actually quiet nice and had alot of HV qualities, but I couldn't get over his face. His eyes and nose were pretty, but everything else just ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:04 PM
97

My ex wanted to try anal with me. I was curious, but I somehow thought that it's something to do when you're married and 100% sure he is "the one". Later, he tried to rape me anally. He was so obsessed with "being the first" in any way, that he went crazy about it everytime I declined. I am happy that I never gave in. My husband asked me what I would like to do/try sexually after a year of being in a relationship. When I asked him he simply said "I honestly love the normal, vanilla sex we have. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:57 PM
26

No sexism against males here. If sexism against males is even possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:43 AM
27

Goddamn, males can literally disrespect them like this and they still stay?! If he cant just hold it in for a couple of weeks, what does it say about him? No self control at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:39 AM
26

There is always a way to leave. Its not comfortable, obviously, but a dude pissing on the floor and expecting you to clean up is the first step of literal physical Abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:57 PM
22

Oh damn, I remember being a teenager and hoping that someone would someday think that I am not ugly and disgusting. Good to know now, that it indeed happened. That person was me. I stopped thinking of myself as ugly and did what I liked. Now I couldn't care less about what other people think. Selflove can heal you so much, especially from toxic ideas that society tries to put into your head every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:55 PM
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Why do women not leave those disgusting manbabies right away?! I just don't understand?! Like he is literally PISSING ON THE FLOOR?!?!?! I am just shocked right now. I probably would pack my things up and move to my parents or anywhere, where this disgusting POS won't see me ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:42 PM
6

Same! Block and move on, they want the attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:53 PM
17

Double standards are always enraging me. Males have no right to EXPECT anyone to go down on them. Since penetration can (and most of the time will) get a man an orgasm, wanting a BJ as a normal part of sex has no reason. A woman expecting a man to go down on her without giving a BJ is reasonable tho, because women literally need foreplay in most cases to orgasm or at least make the penetration enjoyable. So basically males who think they have a right to get their tiny peepee sucked are pure tras…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:30 PM
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I dont think its a rule. We have to acknowledge that oral is and always will be not for everyone. I absolutely hate to have genitals near my mouth and I can understand anyone feeling the same. BUT not even wanting to touch or finger a woman does seem pretty weird! Also its important to not let any man dictate your sexual life. If you like oral and your partner doesnt, just leave. Sexual compatibility is important and you shouldnt compromise, since we women have to compromise on everything else i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:38 AM
27

Nice fanfiction dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:51 PM
130

"That's actually great. Women have to stick together and support each other, I don't see the problem here? They are probably scared because they ain't shit" was my husbands opinion on FDS and what kind of backlash we get for having standards. Any man who has a problem with this subreddit has to get his shit together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:31 PM
16

I strongly believe that if you are dating a HVM, and he is opposite to even the very *idea* of experimenting with Karezza and wants to focus solely on sex with orgasms, then ladies, dump that guy because he's just revealed himself to be a LVM. Uhm no. Just no. A HVM isn't LV because he won't do something that sounds like the sexual equivalent of a pyramid scheme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:24 PM
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I had this when I was an ugly Teenager. I think that the toxic mindset comes from the huge focus on males that you have. You still Think that male validation has any worth and thats not true and needs time to be unlearned. I got over this once I got to know myself better. I started doing things that feel good to me. I started wearing stuff that looked good to me. When I found myself, I found that I have no reason to be jealous. Males arent worth it after all. I appreciated the amazing women arou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:46 PM
3

I can only Talk about my own experience. I was fresh out of high school and had an Office job After 2 months. I moved 6 hours away from home to live with my husband, so it wasnt easy to find something, but not impossible. In my country its worse to be without a job for a couple of months without a good reason than to work a shitty part time job or anything, so its reasonable here to get a job First and then move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:01 PM
72

So this dude moved without having a job first? yeah, no. This is irresponsible af. You move when you have a job. This isn't some kindergarden shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:02 PM
31

I have a whole room full of makeup. When I used to have clients over they were in awe. "My husband would never let me have that much" I always cringed. A couple of friends who are also into makeup also try to hide how much they buy FROM THEIR OWN MONEY. Couldnt be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:48 AM
12

I worked different part time jobs in my life and even had 2 jobs while doing school at one point. Its exhausting but I have absolutely nothing to regret now. I even have extra references due to my part time jobs. I know quiet some attractive but very successful women who made alot of money without sex work. Especially people who do beauty services can make nice cash. Lash extensions etc. make women rich af in my country. Its obviously harder if you dont have special talents like doing makeup or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 04:25 AM
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I think there is always another way to make money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:12 AM
9

Honestly said the Problem isnt that he wont perform oral on her. I dont do BJs at all and I wouldnt want to be forced into doing it. But he seems to not care about her needs AT ALL. there are always some ways to make your sex life fulfilling, but he seems to not give a single fuck because she continues to do whatever HE likes. She should step up and stop giving him pleasure that he doesnt want to return at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:32 AM
10

Most of the time the women who men cheat with are less attractive. Also weight is a preference and I know alot of guys who dislike tall, slim women. My husband loves me with 30kg more the same way he loves me with less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:44 AM
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"I HAVE A BOYFRIEND AND I SUCK HIS DICK EVERYDAY FOR BEING WITH ME AND HOW DARE YOU NOT DEGRADE YOURSELF LIKE I DO?!" Loved your comment tho. Like why does she feel entitled to judge you for your standards?! The women who are with HVM obviously exist and it works out well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:47 PM
14

I was at the supermarket with my husband next to me and some dumbass thought he could ask me for a date?! I was speechless. They have no shame. Especially older males. Grandpa, I'm 28 and not interested in your wrinkly, let me live in peace!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:17 PM
40

In general thats a good idea. Be prepared that it might not work out. Males can be literally braindead. I get harassed even with a Baby bump sometimes. Its dumb as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:05 PM
75

I hope he ends up alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:40 PM
47

It's a transaction. He doesn't "treat" you, he pays his part. You got ready, invested enough into looking good, took a risk to meet up with him and he just makes it even with what he does for you. It's simple, lose the mindset, that he is doing anything "extra".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 06:18 PM
97

"Hi!!!! I'm a walking red flag!!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:53 PM
25

"We could still fuck if you want" He was the worst POS ever and his "last words" were just said to hurt me even more. I didnt even say anything because he didnt deserve a reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:48 AM
39

Being a doormat or pickmeisha is a red flag for men who want an equal partner. My husband also said that women who try to get attention with being overly loud and flashy seem desperate. This would be a red flag for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:48 PM
74

I started stating statistics about rape and murder. Never got someone to continue their bs after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:55 PM
28

2 months while being in an exclusive, official relationship is my personal Minimum. And by the way: I always say it takes me at least 6 months and watch how they react. Surprisingly alot of males who I met thought it was actually good that I didnt sleep with men right away. Nobody ever dumped me for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 05:40 PM
12

Starting over at 27 is already hard, tho. And to add: If you have complications with fertility and you don't know yet, 30 is already considered (nearly too) old to get help. I am talking out of experience. So far every doctor I saw for my fertility problems told me, that I am lucky to know about it that early. If she decides to have children in the next years and it turns out that she has problems with that, it will be REALLY hard for her. Just because some POS wasted her time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:31 PM
33

Either try using sex toys OR exhaust your body doing physical activities that benefit you in any way (sports, cleaning the apartment etc)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:52 PM
34

Like literally, when we decide to stay Single and not have children they lose their shit about how the birth rates decline. At the same time, if we have children and males leave us without any reason, we are leeches and it's our own fault. Yeah, no. I doubt that they even think with anything but their tiny peepee. A brain couldnt make shit like this up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:04 PM
13

Honestly tho, I don't care what some scrote has to say. Like literally never. Thats why I block immediately, when one of them messages me their opinion. I wont change my mind just because of someones sobstory or that they think that I am soooooo mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:00 PM
9

I am the only fight he should be fighting every single day. If he doesnt make me love him every single day, I will rather stay alone and leave his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:56 PM
5

My husband has a good relationship to female family members in general. We often have nieces or nephews over and he takes care of them so well. I think this is also very important. If he is nice to children (not in a creepy way), he already has a good Chance to be a good Person. Or in general: when he treats people well who can't "repay" him with anything, it's a green flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:51 PM
18

I hope she leaves this absolute idiot soon. I will have to stay at home for at least a year after having a Baby, how would I get out if my husband decided to make my life hell all of a sudden? You have to save money as a woman and as fast as you can. If a man doesnt understand or tries to guilt you into not doing it, he already has Plans to humiliate you. Maybe he doesnt know yet, but somewhere inside of him he already Plans to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 12:34 AM
2

I've had this mindset when I was younger. Its different once you see your female friends die or suffer from males because they fought back a little bit too hard. I think being dead or imprisoned will not do shit. Males are quick to react to things that hurt their egos. Nobody cares about the women who are in prison After killing an attacker in self defence. We hear about some of them, but even then its mostly shared in small groups of women. I do my part by staying away from males as much as I c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:55 PM
9

You can stay away from males in general or just be outspoken about what they do, but thinking that you will be able to pull a whole revolution is unrealistic. You dont have to take it like a victim, but explain how you can actively fight back? You will end up dead in a ditch or in a prison and you wont be able to do shit about it. Behaving like a child will not do you any favor. Males are dangerous and you have to make sure to stay safe in Order to do At least anything to change the world. Dont …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:39 PM
35

Basically she did the right thing. HVM understand the risk of being a woman in a LTR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:32 PM
7

I wouldnt date someone with female friends. Being friendly towards your male friends female partners is a huge plus, but nothing more than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:47 PM
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I understand your Frustration and I think alot of women would love to change the situation now and here. There are alot of cases where women get jailtime for killing males who attack them (especially WoC). If you humiliate a male, chances are high that he will try to hurt you alot more than you can hurt him. Right now there is no way to fight. There are not enough women who would be ready to fight and without the masses you will have no Chance to change a whole justice System.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:30 PM
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You can only do so much as in call males out on their behavior and only reward HVM. Sadly you can only do all that while being absolutely safe. If you cant ensure your safety there is nothing you can do. I am a tall girl who can defend herself in alot of different situations. Obviously I will have more opportunities to hold men accountable than a short, skinny girl. Its actually extremely sad if you think about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:57 PM
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They will be aggressive and force violent behaviors on women. The only way to "fix" males is to actively teach them how to be from a very young age. Also to restrict their contact with "broken" males. You will notice that alot of HVM come from a background that involved a HV father Figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:08 PM
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Most males probably dont. Or at least they try their best to dehumanize us. They know that we are better than them in every possible way. They dislike it so much that they hold us to impossible standards and everyone who doesnt conform to them is treated like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:00 PM
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If he has the financial means, he should pay as much as possible. Men need to understand, that women have to save up alot of money, so they feel safe in their relationship. My husband paid for everything 100% when he got a huge job promotion (making three times the money he did before). Before that I only helped him with bills for our shared car and the insurance or like buying a dryer. He really wanted me to save up the money from my MUA work, so I don't stay because I have to. He also wanted t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 12:19 AM
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I can only assume that he did something really bad to her. I've had a hard time moving on from my first boyfriend, because what he did was not bad enough to break my love for him entirely. (He held hands with another girl and I, as a 15 year old, didnt let anyone mistreat me like that) When I finally broke up with my abusive ex, I was literally over him after 2 days. There was not a single emotion left. Only anger about what he did to me, but never something that involved him as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:52 PM
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Being OBSESSED with how you or others look like will turn you into a bitter person. Some of the ugliest women I know have amazing HVM partners. Men will obviously go for women that look good, but HVM will often rather stay with someone who has more than their beauty. When I met my husband, he didn't know how I look like. At all. We were talking about a thing online, without having pictures or something there. He told me, when we started dating, that he was actually thinking that I was unattracti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:06 PM
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I'm sorry to say this, but: Only in America. If someone would even think about shit like this in my country, everyone would lose it laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:10 PM
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But also, if you're in that situation and you didn't prepare enough, there is always a way out! It's never too late to start a better life. If it doesn't put your health at risk: Save up as much money as you can, without him knowing. Make a plan, see where you could live for a while, how much you need to save up, if any friends can help, if family can help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:54 PM
9

GRANDPA WHY?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:41 PM
19

French guys are a HUGE no-no for me. Never met one that was slightly decent enough to continue talking to him. The absolutely worst kind of man that I ever met was from Poland, though. I just turned 20 and was out with friends and there was a group of Polish guys. My friends drank with them and this one guy seemed to be pretty interested in me. He bought me drinks all night long, but when I didn't want to sleep with him, he literally pulled out his phone and started calculating how much he spent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:38 PM
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Good for her, that he left. Nobody needs this kind of trash in their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:33 PM
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I they don't want you to "google up something" at their phone they are suspicious and probably hiding something. Your safety > his comfort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:21 PM
22

I can confirm the "no fancy things" stuff. There was this restaurant in a city I shortly lived in and one guy I've met asked me where I wanted to go, so I told him, that I would love to eat in that restaurant. He noped out of talking to me further. I went to this restaurant with a Russian guy later. I was kind of happy that I didn't go there with the German one, the experience would've been way worse with him. This guy has a girlfriend (she is a former friend of mine), who is okay with his cheap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:16 PM
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Sharing chores 50/50 here. Can totally say, that a man who pulls his weight in the household does make me more sexually active. Because I am literally not as exhausted after a day of doing all the housework and more than that. It's so easy to understand, isn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:12 PM
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There is no way in hell I am going to have someone put his ugly dick in my mouth just because he does basic human tasks. Hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:44 PM
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Guys from Germany, Austria and Netherlands tend to be very cheap. Most of the Russian guys who live in Europe are throwing their money around, though. Everytime I've met a Russian guy living in Europe, he didn't mind paying alot for me, even without wanting to have sex or anything. German guys will call you a gold digger, if you don't go dutch. I've met a guy at Subway once (I was still in school and it was my lunch break) and he paid for the both of us, but when we sat down, he wanted the money…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:43 PM
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Can confirm that many German men are like that. Whenever someone is cheap we say "Oh he's full on german"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:27 PM
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My family is from Russia and there you marry quiet early. I am sure that my whole "I want to get married asap" mindset came from my family pressuring me and my female cousins into being married quickly. Also having children is like holy or something in my family. My parents are different, they wanted me to take time to find what I really want. My cousin had fertility problems and her mother(my aunt) was literally MAD because she seemed to be infertile. When I came out with my fertility issues ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:28 AM
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Tell them that they arent what you expect them to be and if they try to talk you out of it you can block them. You dont owe them your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:37 PM
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If I am not sure in my No, I will say "Maybe", for fucks sake, there are more than just 2 words that you can use. No means No and Yes means only Yes, if you're not in a situation, where a No could mean harm to you. It isn't that hard, but they still tryna discuss this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:54 PM
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Hell no, I will enjoy my gym-free time as long as I can! LEMME BE PREGNANT IN PEACE :<
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:35 PM
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I think there is no "too much". I told my husband what I like, what I dislike and where my boundaries are and he simply listened. This is the quality of a HVM. To listen and showing their appreciation in a way that means something to their partner! Sometimes, especially when I hear how other womens husbands and boyfriends are, I just want to cry about how lucky I am. I think that having standards and not budging on them made me find such a special person. But even now, I always brace myself for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 07:22 PM
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The only thing that made me stay was literally the engagement ring. I'm just happy that we are at a better place now! Honestly! Never going to let shit like this happen ever again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:57 PM
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I have tons of letters, handwritten, where my husband talks about how he feels about me. Even when he had social media, he only wrote short things about me, the long stuff came privately. He acknowledged that I am his partner openly, but his feelings were private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:25 PM
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Girl, mine had the dick of a 5-year-old lol Everyone asked my how I can look at his face, when having sex. It was simple, I had to contain the laughter while being tickled by his infant dick, that I didn't have the time to look at him properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:57 PM
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It wouldn't work for me. I NEED to have something outside of the household to do. Before I got pregnant, I was working as a MUA (freelance work) and studied psychology. I finished my Bachelor of Science just in time to get pregnant. While doing this, my husband and I split housework 50/50 with a whole plan who does what and when. Every money I made, I could put aside for myself entirely. My husband shared his income with me at all times. I could pay MY bills, buy things for myself from his money…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:40 PM
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I started doing this after getting out of an abusive relationship. I lost alot of people due to that, but now I have people around me that respect my boundaries. I dont have many friends, but I can definitely trust those that I have 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:08 PM
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I don't think that HVM would act LV anytime towards you. I can see LVM acting like HVM around a woman they really like. I am not sure if it CAN or WILL last, but I am damn sure, that LVM are able to act HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:25 PM
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I gave a guy a chance, who was ugly as hell, but seemed to be an amazing person. He was abusive and manipulated me. I was still young, so I didn't notice how he negged me all the time to break my confidence. Being with someone out of his league made him extremely confident, he even cheated on me. Would never date a guy like this again. They are twisted in their head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:56 AM
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When I moved in with my husband, we started talking about having children. I absolutely love how he told me, that if I don't want any, he's fine with it. Not having children wasn't a dealbreaker to him. When it didn't work out for a while to have them (I was absolutely crazy about having a baby, don't ask why), we talked about both getting our fertility tested. I asked him, what we would do, if he was sterile, like completely not able to have biological children with me. He was really sad, but t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:49 AM
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I remember how I got told that I am infertile and I talked to a male "friend" about it. He literally said: "And your boyfriend knows? Don't tell him, he might leave you for that" Luckily my now-husband never left. We went through this pain together and got rewarded. But this was literally an insight on the male mind. This dude wouldn't think twice about leaving his girlfriend or wife, if she wasn't able to bring him offspring. He doesn't even want kids as far as I know, but he doesn't want to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:35 AM
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I am allergic and living with a cat right for years now. It was hard first, but I took Cetirizin everytime I felt like my body reacted to the cat and over the years it got better. Definitely go see another doctor. I've been told alot of different things from different doctors regarding my allergies back in the day. (I am EXTREMELY allergic to sunflower seeds, I could die from eating like 2 or 3 of them, but some doctors said it's psychological lol, it isn't tho)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:27 AM
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Just block his ass. Dont give them a Platform.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:30 AM
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Yes absolutely. He couldnt just speak up? My husband was out with his Boss and some higherups from work. After a Business related dinner they wanted to take a few Drinks. The "bar" was a strip club. My husband didnt go in, he politely declined and left. If a man lets his friends pressure him into doing something he doesnt want, he is LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:18 AM
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I got a tablet and some new E-Books already downloaded on there. I was talking about getting these books like Half a year ago, but then life got busy and I forgot about it. Also he made a nice meal for me and surprised me with japanese treats that I like. I love how he listens and takes notes to make his presents just perfect for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:12 AM
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Did I @ you in there for this exact sentence? I know alot of people read the posts and comments here. We have alot of lurkers. You are trying to make Drama because of some Basic Information I added at the end of my comment. I am not in for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:05 AM
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I didnt insinuate that you said anything like that. It was more like something I wanted to add for other people to reflect on. I Think we have very different experiences regarding relationships. There is no need to be defensive. All I am trying to say is that there are no perfect people. Even HVM do mistakes (obviously nothing like cheating, abuse, lying, manipulating etc) and there are way too many people out there who expect a perfect, flawless Partner. That isnt possible. Thats all I wanted t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:58 AM
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I think meeting a HVM is pure luck. There arent many men who are HV, also some are only HV for certain women. We shouldnt be delusional that every HVW will get a HVM and I think most of us actually know that this isnt a childrens story book. We also have to be realistic. There wont be Prince Charming coming for us, someone who has it all. HVM arent perfect, they are human, but what makes them worth your time is how they deal with their problems. My husband messed up. I left to stay with my paren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:38 AM
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I dont understand how they are that delusional. Even minimum waged jobs are paying more per hour than a Coffee date costs. I know males who are worried about Gold diggers. Something they all have in common is working low-paying jobs. They probably cant offer more than Coffee dates and when you settle, you will have to be happy with him brewing you cheap Coffee at home and getting his free therapy session from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:52 AM
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Males who worry about gold diggers actually know that there is no way a HVW could possibly love them without money involved. They KNOW that they are LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:37 AM
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Can confirm. I know HVM that prefer FDS women without even knowing what FDS is. They dont feel threatened because they do everything right. Only LVM cry about FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:58 PM
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They told me, too. Now they are jealous because I got exactly what I wanted. I was ready to live alone forever, while they settled. Never settle for a LVM out of loneliness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:53 PM
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I show love to myself, when I speak up about things that I don't like. I used to shut up, when I wasn't comfortable, because I felt like I didn't deserve to voice my opinion. Now I won't. If someone says something that rubs me the wrong way, I will tell them. If someone does something that clearly disrespects me, I will use my voice. I don't ignore my needs anymore. When I'm hungry, I will eat. If I want to be creative, I will make time for that. I used to ignore my needs quiet often, because "o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:03 PM
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Also: If you want a pet but your partner doesn't understand and doesn't at least try to find a way for you to have a pet, he is probably not the right one for you. My BIL is allergic to animal hair, just like me, but his stepdaughter really wanted to have a cat, so he asked me how I survive living with my cat. He got therapy for his allergies (there is a way to overstimulate your body with the allergenes so you become immune to them, don't know what it's called right now). They now have a very h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:30 PM
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I don't befriend people who dislike animals. I am lucky to have a husband who absolutely adores every kind of animal. He is even kind to bugs (they land on their backs outside and can't get up, so he helps them out). I noticed that all my friends are animal people, they literally love every kind of animal, just like me. So it's a huge red flag for me, if someone doesn't share my love for animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:24 PM
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Sis needs to leave right away and get herself a man who wants children with her! She's literally wasting her fertile years on a manchild, who wants his sugar mommy to pay for his education. He won't have children with her, even when he has a job. Then, when it's too late, he will leave her because she can't have biological children with him. I can see through his plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:28 PM
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If she has PCOS and actually wants children, but can't have them, this may be causing her situation to some degree. She takes care of a manchild now, it's kind of a weird cope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:22 PM
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When I married my husband, the photographer tried to make my husband stand on something to appear taller than me. I am 6', so is my husband, but I wore heels that day (everyone told me not to, but who are they anyways?!) so I was taller. My husband literally told the photographer to not try to pull shit like this anymore, because he isn't ashamed that his wife is tall. There were so many people who were throwing shade after seeing our wedding photos, I just laughed in their face. I am not ashame…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:55 PM
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Everytime someone tells me that I shouldn't be wearing heels, I will put them on just out of spite. I am 6'0 and everyone who has a problem with that can talk to my ass, because they are probably at the same height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:48 PM
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I have social media for business related things and because I have friends all over the world, so it's hard to keep up without social media. My husband has no social media, because he sees his friends and family regularly. He had facebook, when we were in a LDR, but he only made an account for me, to write me really long messages (SMS/Whatsapp were too bothersome, kept shortening the messages back then). When we moved in together he deleted his account. Nothing shady was going on, he just doesn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:45 PM
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I bet it isnt an issue if its his dick that makes the miles. As usual. All pussy is loose except for the one HE is fucking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:14 AM
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Forever Fiance should've left his ass rather than her hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:54 PM
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It sounds like his positive behavior is an investment so he can do fucked up things. He doesnt seem to be sincere when he acts nicely. Keeping old pictures of that kind is disrespectful towards you. Being pissed off about sexual things not happening is abusive. Also forcing your head down? Wow. He manipulates you. I would've left his ass so fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:01 AM
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It's okay I think. I tried it once with my husband, he never brought it up before but I was REALLY curious. It didn't hurt or anything, but it wasn't special aswell. I asked my husband if he liked it and he said it was nothing special. We didn't do it again, because the prep cost way too much time for the average pleasure we both got from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:48 PM
7

In the end YOU have to feel comfortable with him and everything surrounding the relationship. Personally, I always told potential serious partners about my mental health issue, even risking losing them. I think it would be unfair to them, if I suddenly acted weird and they didn't know where this is coming from. I can't relate to this situation entirely, because I would expect my partner to disclose his mental health to me the moment I do it. If he doesn't it's absolutely clear for me. But if you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:38 PM
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I feel sorry for her. Honestly. I was 18 once and could've ruined my life the same way. If she's older than 25 tho, this is plain stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:31 PM
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I am just so happy that I literally dont care about males opinion on how I look. Actually never really did. My husband loves me in any form, so the only reason I had to lose weight was my own vanity. I would literally do anything to be the way I want to be. And I definitely dont want to be males eyecandy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:36 PM
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You can change your height and the color of your skin, too. Basically I think liking tall men is on the same page as men liking skinny women. Preferences dont have ranking Systems and they shouldnt have. Its not about being "equal" or anything. It really doesnt Matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:17 PM
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I had to laugh, because thats literally the truth of OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:58 PM
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And so? I am tall and was rejected because of it. I didnt throw a fit about how unfair that is? Why dies it matter in any way? Also weight can be changed to a certain degree. There are people who cant drastically lose or gain weight due to other medical reasons. I've been trying to lose weight for 1.5 years in a healthy way when I suddenly got sick. I only got back to my old weight with an Eating Disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:18 PM
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Honestly, though. I've met a guy who was mad that I didn't find him attractive, because I am just not into a certain type of males. But he was refusing to date a chubby woman, because he couldn't see himself having an erection when having sex with someone who is chubby. Like dude, do you think I would get wet, if someone like you would try to have sex with me? For sure not. But why are YOU mad?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:41 PM
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The Y-chromosome is literally a broken X-chromosome. Thats why they hate us. They feel like they are missing something and we have the whole part. My guess is, that since they cant get pregnant they dont have a regulation when it comes to muscle mass. Women cant be endlessly buff because having a baby would be complicated (you need to store fat and take as little energy as possible for your own Body while being pregnant) so men think that they are better because they dont have the regulation and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:37 AM
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Women are able to use weapons. Its not like we are forced to fight with our body alone. They always forget that I can surprise them with a knife any moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:30 AM
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I think cooking for someone is critical once they see it as something you have to do. I cook whenever I want and because I absolutely love to do it, it happens alot. My husband helps me out whenever he is able to. He learned how to do all my favorite dishes and surprises me with a nice meal quiet often. I honestly dont mind cooking most of the time, as long as nobody expects me to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:36 AM
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If you really like a person you cool down before replying to be as respectful as possible. I am pretty much angry very fast, but if a person is important to me I shut up for a second and cool down. Either way his reaction is rude and shows that he has no real respect for the woman he is texting. There is literally no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:46 PM
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Even so a "Thats interesting, but I am not really into reading studies/political things/News for the sake of my sanity. I do respect your interest in those things though" wouldve been enough to not sound rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:37 PM
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Yeah, no. You dont just waste 12 years of your life for a man who doesnt even want to marry you. Having such low selfesteem is so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:34 PM
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Yea that is rude. I would not contact him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:23 PM
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Don't try to find sense. He's one of those guys, who won't make any sense, ever. I bet you, he treates every woman he meets differently and we will never know why. It's like they are twisted in their mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:22 PM
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My husbands phone and computer broke down, back when we didn't date yet. He wrote me from a damn PSP. There are no excuses. Literally none.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:48 PM
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They are also more dangerous than a group of women who bands together. A group of men who are butthurt is down to destroy, even physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:46 PM
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"Yeah, you're not into that, but let me tell you MY point of view because I need to get it out of me now or else it will kill me inside to not have the last word in this conversation"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:44 PM
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When I say, that I don't mind a small dick, I mean it. There IS nothing wrong with wanting a guy with a huge dick, but who are you to tell me what I really want? You're just a stranger online who throws a hissy fit because someone doesn't decline a small dick. I won't shame other women for their HONEST preferences, why are you doing this then? I've been with guys who had a small penis, I've been with guy who had a huge penis and I've been with guys who were average. It didn't matter what size th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:35 PM
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That's why having children should only be done if you are 100% sure he is a HVM. Their genes SHOULD be passed on. Also they will most likely support that their children become HV, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:02 AM
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Dating males with heavy mental health problems is suicide. Women having mental health issues don't usually go around and hurt other people, but males? They will destroy you and everything you have. Sorry, not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:00 AM
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Everytime I do something stupid and feel really bad about it, I will mentally put it on a list of things I will never do again. When it comes up in my mind again, I force myself to think about the list and that I wont be doing it again now that its there. After some time I dont think about it. Maybe that helps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:50 AM
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Russian men are either hit or Miss. There are quiet alot nice, caring ones and then you have those type of idiots. I come from a Russian Background and I met quiet some russian guys and I can totally imagine how this guy looks like and how he behaves. Ugh. Imbecile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:00 AM
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To be fair, my husbands family is pretty special, even in my country. My MIL is disgusted by PickMes, I guess she raised her children to be independent and HV because of that. Every single one of my husbands siblings is what you can call HV. Except for F, every single one of them is in a dedicated marriage for years with children. The biggest drama in the 7 years I've known them was probably that F had this kind of breakup and brought PickMeisha along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:55 AM
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I can see in his face that he is trash. A male I would never even give a reply. Be careful, his stare really shows it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:19 PM
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Idc about a small Penis as long as he is willing to use toys and make me cum. Also idc about a short guy as long as he isnt insecure as hell because I am way taller. Sadly we all know how reality looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:09 PM
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Girl I paid 18k€ for beauty school on top of that. My skills aren't for free. I can't remember the last time I paid for dinner. Even before I met my husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:06 PM
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Short guys crying, but wouldn't date a tall girl either way. Their insecurities are ruining it all. I'm 6'0 and even tall guys don't want to date me because of my height. Won't catch me going crazy on reddit about it, though. Being not insecure about your height can and will bring you dating success, but those manlets need something to blame for being unhygienic or simply bad human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:26 PM
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This is a really good lesson for the next time you meet someone. See it as that : something that you will never let happen again! Your ex was a liar and a cheater. He lured you in, being someone he isn't, and then let you see the ugly truth. Now imagine this would happen 10 years later. You're married, maybe having children together, your financial situation is dependant on him because you had to take a step back from work to raise his children. I know it sounds harsh, but.. it's better it happe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:15 PM
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I knew a guy with a HUGE chin, it was just as disgusting. He looked like a cartoon character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:06 PM
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Let me tell you: It's going to get WORSE than that. ALOT worse. Are you two living together? If yes, try to organize a place to stay (your dad for example) and someone who can physically help you if your bf gets angry once you break up. Don't be too harsh on him, because they WILL get violent if they feel their ego is being hurt. I am extremely pissed off, when I get woken up. I NEVER verbally abused anyone because of it though. The only time I've had to deal with this type of verbal abuse was w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:04 PM
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I would tell him that there are no feelings involved as I first thought. "I just don't think a relationship can work if someone doesn't have any romantic feelings towards the other person!" "I'm not able to force myself to feel for you in a way that makes a relationship doable" etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:46 AM
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I live in a Country in Central Europe. Since I am getting threats I dont wanna say anything more on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:16 AM
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She is extremely manipulative, so dont feel bad for her. Using childhood trauma as a quick grab for sympathy is extremely low in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:42 AM
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I always said that I am misandrist. Its easier. They dont expect you to be submissive to them and hate you right away. Nobody really asks "Why?" because they know why. They know about males being the root of all evil. They also cant accept that someone who knows how males work can be happy with a man who isnt the steaming pile of trash that they are. They feel threatened, thats why they want to take this opportunity to exchange information with other wise women from us by portraying us as the sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:06 AM
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I've had hormonal acne since I was 10 years old. I could watch my diet and not wear any makeup plus using good skincare and the acne would even get worse without a reason. Roaccutane helped me to get rid of it for the first time in my life, but sadly I am not allowed to take it ever again due to health issues. Literally the only thing that helped was getting pregnant. I never ever went to bed without double cleansing After having a huge breakout once. Now I have clear skin and was in too much pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:38 PM
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Her skin is breathing. I had to take a Semester of basic dermatology to get my license as a cosmetologist and MUA and I can tell you, foundations nowadays let your skin breathe. The only problematic thing that occurs is clogged pores because alot of women dont double cleanse. This whole "just dont wear makeup and let your skin breath" shit is insanely disrespectful to women, especially from people who didnt suffer through hormonal acne and the likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:19 PM
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Tell him upfront that if he makes you uncomfortable again, you will Talk to his gf about it. Be sure to stay safe though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:21 PM
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When my husband had barely any money left, he planned nice activities for us that don't cost much. We had candle-light dinner at home and he cooked. A couple of times we mixed some cocktails or he got us some snacks and we had a movie night. He brought some boardgames with him once so we could have a nice evening with my parents, playing board games. It was the effort he made to find something to make me happy that doesn't need much money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 12:03 PM
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I wouldn't have been mad if he proposed with this, because my custom made ring takes longer than planned and he already has the engagement activity planned out. Every over scenario? No. I told my husband that I dislike rings with huge stones, because they would get in the way of my work. He custom made a ring that looks beautiful and fancy, while being practical for me. And that definitely didn't cost 48 bucks lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:49 AM
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You deserve no beating, so his words mean nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:26 AM
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He wrote me too just days ago. I hope he enjoys his residence on my blocklist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:17 PM
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I've known guys who do that. Its just that they are so creepy and you can feel how they dont really care about what you have to say, because all they do is stare at your tits. Once one of those guys wanted to shame me for not giving him a Chance. He said its because he is chubby. As if the blank stare at my tits isnt a valid reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:04 AM
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Getting money is always empowering, but it's what you trade in for that. To me, personally, getting naked in front of males is degrading and dehumanising. But that's a personal point of view. I don't find any aspect of sex work empowering, especially since I made alot of money myself without sex work. I built my business as a MUA and am well off even without my husband due to that job. My best friend is a personal stylist and just bought a mansion after being successful in her job for only 2 yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 10:42 PM
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The only "sex work" I could see as empowering is beating and humiliating males as a dominatrix. Everything else is not empowering no matter how you look at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 10:01 PM
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I enjoy her company and talking to her but I can’t talk to her about her relationship because she won’t like what I have to say. I actually had the same situation with a good friend. She didn't talk about her bf with me for a year or something, but then started to talk about him again and it seemed like she really needed any type of affirmation from me that he ISN'T that bad. If you have to convince another person that your bf "isn't that bad", maybe he is bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:22 PM
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I had some really bad PickMeishas as friends. It ended up with me breaking off the contact. I can't take this anymore. I don't want to surround myself with women who let their couch creatures abuse and use them. Also alot of those were jealous about my life. A friend I knew for 10 years couldn't talk to me anymore, because while I got a new car from my husband, she couldn't even get a birthday present from her boyfriend. I don't need jealous PickMeishas in my life, even if I've known them for ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:17 PM
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I'm also a sexual person and have a high sex drive. I don't verbally assault people with that bullshit, though. He can shove it up his ass, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:47 PM
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They hate women who are visibly better than them, its funny actually. Poor, poor males without any worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:43 PM
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One of them literally called me a cnt because I said "He was 18 and I let him meet me". Because that's what happened. I was 21. I felt weird meeting up with a 18-year-old boy, but gave him a chance because he was interesting. But apparently that's enough to be called a cnt. Also I'm a gold digger because I let a 18-year-old boy work to be able to pay for dates with me. As if I FORCED anyone. I just blocked those weird individuals. I think I only replied to one of them, what I usually don't do, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:03 PM
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Those guys wouldnt dare to say those things to me in reallife. I'm not a model but I'm pretty enough to know that most males arent on my level and they feel it. Nothing they say could possibly hurt me anymore. I am not 16.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 07:58 PM
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I don't really understand how it benefits them to tell me I'm a "c*nt"? I read it, block that individual and go on with my day. Nothing changes. It's like they NEED to get it out, because otherwise it slowly kills them inside. REALLY weak if you ask me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 07:47 PM
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They are most likely afraid that another man being actually HV takes away their excuses to be LV. They cant say "BUT ALL MEN ARE LIKE ME I AM NORMAL" anymore and thats scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 07:21 PM
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This is literally everday-life for me. "I don't want to be abused" and they go crazy. I had mad males in my inbox today after posting about my husband and what he does for me. They tried so hard to hurt me for having found someone who isn't an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:30 PM
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I saw a girl saying proudly that she told her date that she is using FDS etc. But this really screams Fake since alot of the subs members are actively dating or in a commited relationship. He sucked this shit out of his ass and spreads it to make people Brigade us like they did in PPF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:21 PM
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Oof. I would break up. He clearly wants to Impress other women more than you. Is this really healthy? Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:29 PM
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Apparently that makes males insanely angry since I got fanmail from some for what I wrote. But I am honestly just so happy that you know now that nothing is wrong with you. Because having Standards is never "too much".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 02:13 PM
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Queen Shit!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 10:25 AM
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It's a biological necessity for women to be properly cared for, can't see males doing that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 10:06 AM
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I think it's VERY important to remind the women who come here and still don't know their way around FDS, that there are HVM out there and how they behave. If my husband does one thing, then it's not impossible for other males to do the same. Before I met my husband, I didn't see any good relationships. My friends dated LVM who slept around, my parents are divorced, I myself felt like I wanted something that isn't realistic. I thought that wanting a partner who doesn't watch porn was too much. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 10:02 AM
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There is not a single person out there that could guilt me into sleeping with anyone I don't want to. I was fat due to medical reasons for quiet some time. It was humiliating and hurt alot. Did I think anyone should sleep with me, no matter how they feel about my weight? HELL NO! I wouldn't even let anyone touch me who doesn't find me absolutely gorgeous the way I am. This is so dumb, really. You have to think so lowly of yourself to be angry that people won't fuck you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:47 AM
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If we dont let them fuck us, they rape us and we are the Bad ones. If we let them fuck us, they throw tantrums like this and tell us to not let anyone fuck us if we dont want to get pregnant? It doesnt work like that. If we dont let men fuck, they will do anything to hurt us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 01:00 AM
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This sub has alot of people commenting and posting. The mods have to be especially careful about new people and every little thing that hints you being harmful for this sub leads to a reaction! I understand that it seems hurtful to be labeled as something you arent, but if we all get to know you better and see you being active and on our side, this Flair will be changed soon enough. We are literally under attack 24/7 because of pickmes and males who dislike that we know our worth. Dont take it p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:45 AM
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My mother always said: "If you play with shit, don't be surprised that you will get dirty" and I live by that. Let the piece of shit be shit. I don't play with shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:04 AM
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To me, personally, the negative sides are too much. Eventhough he has alot of positive sides, the negatives seem to be too much to handle, especially if you would get serious and spend years with this person. You have to decide if YOU can live with someone, who drinks alot every weekend with his friends and has alot of female friends (with unclear motives). I would be extremely cautious and not think of him as a HVM. Most LVM lure women in with HV behavior at first and then surprise them with ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:29 PM
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Basically it was the same for me. I started with 75mg L-Thyrox, but it didn't do anything, so I had to take up to 150mg until it finally did something, but my body couldn't handle it, so I was kind of screwed. I would definitely go hormone free, especially if you already start having thyroid issues! It can only get worse, as bad as it sounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:22 PM
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Nobody really knows. I stopped caring after my last miscarriage in January and started smoking and drinking again. I needed a break, because I was suicidal at this point. I didnt take any medicaction, stopped working out and limiting my food. My gynecologist said that taking HBC can mess with your body for years and then suddenly everything goes back to what it normally was. Some people arent that lucky and have to live with the side effects forever. Now that I am pregnant I instantly lost alot …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 05:58 PM
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Birth control nearly made me infertile. Besides getting extreme thyroid issues and now metabolism and depression, i got PCOS and fertility issues. I had to do different kinds of therapies to bring my body back to what it was before HBC. It took me 4 years and several miscarriages to get pregnant. I would never ever take HBC again. Vasectomies are completely doable for most males. Dont want children? Get a vasectomy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 05:19 PM
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He's ugly either way, just block his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 04:57 PM
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Low Value Man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 03:46 PM
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THIS is why nobody should lower themselves to take a useless LVM into their lives!!! HVM care about their partners comfort more than their own and it will show! There is so much more freedom being with a HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:55 AM
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If my happiness means that I'm a toxic manipulator, I'm fine with it! Hello everyone, Toxic Manipulator here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:51 AM
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Girl, I have 3 cousins who are basically the grandchildren to my Grandfather's sister. Literally 2 of them made a move on me. And THEY KNEW WHO I WAS! I think this type of cousins are dangerous lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:43 AM
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My husband wrote me some letters before moving in together. He thought it would be nice to read all his thought about our relationship when we finally live together. In the first letter (the day after meeting him for the first time), he wrote that he wants to marry me, but that he has to work harder to give me everything I deserve. And he did. He literally knew right away, that he wanted to spend his life with me. He didn't even know about ALL my good qualities (I'm an excellent cook and he alwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:31 AM
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Can confirm 100%!!! Getting a LVM to say that they arent the prize is mostly just so they can guilt you into comforting them and reassuring them that they are the best, just as they always thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:12 AM
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This is why there are female murderers at all. Because of this bullshit right here!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:04 PM
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Lucky me didn't even try to ask any male about dating advice! I kind of never trusted males. I even got to know a "gay" guy, who tried to be my "gay best friend" and turned out to be bisexual and in love with me after all. It was sickening. I will probably just get close to women in the future. Males have been a huge disappointment. ​ As far as I know, nobody told him. My SIL hosts my husband for another two weeks until he can move into his new apartment and this guy is her neighbour, so he prob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:01 PM
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I totally support this statement. The pregnancy will feel like living hell, but oh wait, the time after giving birth will be alot worse!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:48 PM
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My husband got a "That's really a nice idea" and a kiss for buying a Roomba. Because it's literally beneficial for the both of us. It's nothing that's only for me, personally. That's why he wouldn't buy anything like that as a present. That's like buying a bed as a birthday gift. Excuse me???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:46 PM
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This is actually something I didn't even think about! I am blind to people flirting with me, when I'm in a commited relationship or if I'm not interested in them at all, so I don't notice them being interested early on. I really should only talk to males who clearly aren't attracted..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:28 PM
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Getting pregnant by LVM is like self-harm. (I know that alot of women didn't know better, I feel your pain!) Being pregnant with a HVM as your partner is alot less draining and hard. My pregnancy is hard so far, but I rarely do chores, I don't need to cook if I don't want to, I didn't lift anything slightly heavy for months and whenever I feel sad, I am heard and seen. My SIL was working until the 8th month, did all the chores and had to endure seeing her ex-boyfriend going out drinking (while h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:22 PM
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I can't understand why any sane person would stay with someone who makes them feel disgusted like this? She obviously is disgusted by his porn preferences, so why does she try to find a way to stay with this obviously very sick individual?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:30 PM
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I met my husband when he was 18 and just started a new job. He paid 100€ just to visit me (8~h bus drive etc) and then for everything we consumed. I NEVER paid in 7 years of our relationship. Even when he had barely any money. He would cook for me, if we couldn't get out to eat or we would do fun activities together like cocktail shaking and snacks. He was 18!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:09 AM
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I think everyone here knows about male egos and how they react if being hurt. The kindest male you know can turn into a raging monster if you hurt his ego. It IS that fragile. I get being angry or wanting to have a little bit satisfaction or even revenge by hurting the person who hurt you, but your life and health are more important in any case. And even if he hurts you physically, he will most likely get away with it and you will be the one with wounds that will probably never heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:06 AM
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After 4 long years and several hormonal therapies, I am finally pregnant, so it's okay! Talking about infertility still hits home, though. Especially when there are ignorant women out there, who think anyone would CELEBRATE infertility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:22 AM
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There were males after me, when I was full on fat. I still dressed nicely, still took alot of care of myself and while being heavily depressed, I still put a smile on and did what had to be done every day. It absurd that males think being fat is a death sentence for every aging woman. Women gain weight easier and earlier than males and that's totally natural and okay. A male who is right in his head, will not be less attracted to a woman who gained weight due to her age. OBVIOUSLY not talking ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:18 AM
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Even fat women have men wanting them and adoring them. My cousin is 36 and heavily overweight. She just chose to marry a guy who was after her for years. She was dating several men before deciding and they all went crazy because of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 12:12 PM
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SHE BETTER BE VIRGIN AND LET ME CHOKE THE SHIT OUT OF HER SO ME PEEN WONT GET SOFT WHILE HAVING SEX!!!11
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 12:00 PM
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I wasnt ready to have children when I was just starting with having sex. Whats so bad about exploring your needs, but not wanting to go through hell?! When I found out that I was possibly infertile, while actually wanting to have children, I was about to drown in Depression. There was no Party. I didnt "celebrate" my infertility. I was angry, because the gynecologist didnt tell me about what happens when youre not compatible with the Pill. She never actually cared if I am taking the right pill f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:53 AM
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I was literally suicidal about infertility. I have no idea what this woman is talking about. Honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:46 AM
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I am 6'0 and everytime I gave a shorter guy the time of my day, he blew it with his weird insecurities. I also met alot of really tall guys (6'5+) and they were very passive, like really shy and quiet. I prefer males who are not more than 2cm shorter than me but also not more than 10cm taller. Just out of my experience. They look the best and arent weird around me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:44 AM
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Men like this exist and Pickmeisha still tries to excuse her pornsick couch creature...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:32 AM
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Now imagine if an elderly woman came in and cried about not being able to watch males getting humiliated and raped in front of a camera. Because that's basically it. This old fart came in and cried about not having anything left but watching young women getting raped. Why do those people live that long?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:47 PM
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Thank you so much! Giving up a comfortable life for the sake of self-respect is always hard, but SO worth it after all. Obviously I still have romantic feelings for my husband. But you can find love everywhere, finding self-respect is so hard and painful that it's worth alot more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:47 PM
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We usually think we know our partner, but sometimes they just go insane without a good reason. Male egos are really fragile and someone breaking up with them can hurt them enough to kill the person, even if they were seen as harmless before! Better safe than sorry!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:14 PM
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You should definitely be prepared for the worst. What if he gets violent? Better have a place, before you break-up with him. It's never a nice thing to do, but you should probably be upfront and honest. Don't try to be too soft, because males will take it as another chance. I would definitely keep someone near you, when you break up. Put them on short-dial and if he really gets physical, call them, so they can help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 07:50 PM
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Am I Bob the builder?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 07:45 PM
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I have NEVER been a fan of celebrating something SO stupid! Whenever I met a guy, who I liked, I had a talk about my boundaries as early as possible. Most were gone at the "No porn" thing, but if they weren't "No bachelor parties" were a dealbreaker for most of them. When I married, my husband had a bachelor party. His brothers took him out to eat, he even sent me pictures of the evening. No strippers, no getting drunk, just eating nice food, chatting, then going back home. When my SIL's husband…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 07:42 PM
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This is what it means to be a woman who has respect for herself and who wants the best for her family. Not those pick-me's who will lick their husbands asshole so he won't stray! I have so much respect for you and all the women, who did the right thing by leaving abusive partners even with all the hardships coming for them!! The best of luck to you and your babies!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 07:21 PM
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My husband always was a HVM. He respected my boundaries, played by my rules and treated me like a queen every single day of our relationship. I don't tolerate LVM behaviour at all. And honestly said, I don't care what he had to say about this situation. There is no reason, literally not even one, that could be enough to excuse what he did. He knows it. Instead of apologizing all the time, he took a week off of work, drove to my parents town (took a hotel room) and came to talk about how we can w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 07:18 PM
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To clear things up : The dinner was 100% work related. He does keep a good relationship with the people at work, but refrains from having them as real friends. They are colleagues, so he is only seeing them in work-related events. Either way, no matter what he tells me, he did overstep my boundary. And I won't be coming back to him, just because he is sorry. He will have to prove me, that he is worthy all over again. Being a doormat is not something I will EVER be!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 07:10 PM
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I am always extremely proud, when I hear about women having actual self-respect. It shows LVM that they aren't worth our time, but also show HVM that they won't get away with showing LVM behaviour! Either way having self-respect benefits women the most!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 06:31 PM
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It's really frustrating to go out and not be able to consume whatever you like, because it may be harmful for your child, while everyone around you is free to do whatever they like. It really hurts. Especially because my husband refrained from doing things that I am not allowed to do all this time up until this point. I can't just decide to go out drinking. I am also not free after giving birth, what pains me even more. I loved the idea of getting pregnant and having a little baby. Especially af…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 06:28 PM
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Same actually. It was always the short guys not wanting to date anyone significantly taller. Again, says alot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 05:40 AM
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Im my experience males hate women who are tall. I am talking about 6'0+ Even tall males prefer shorter girls. I was told that tall girls are able to fight back way better than short girls. I Think this says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 10:58 PM
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I met my husband the same time my friend met her boyfriend. 7 years ago. She is extremely jealous, because her bf rather moved in with his best friend instead of her. I am married, living with my husband for 6 years now. I tried to help her out of her "relationship" but she is resistant against logic. I honestly wish, that more women would start knowing their worth. I see this wasted potential quiet often. If my husband wasnt an absolute dream I wouldve dated around without being scared of stayi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 03:08 PM
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My husband absolutely hates his bday. He also absolutely loves to make my bday as special as possible. If a man values you, he could never even think about saying that he "shouldnt celebrate your bday". Thats disgusting as hell. And ordering a cake is the least complicated thing to do for someone. Literally anyone. He definitely hates his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:17 AM
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I have my hair dyed grey actually because it suits me best. There are actually a lot of women who look gorgeous with silver/grey hair!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 02:10 AM
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Where is the lie tho?! You only said the very obvious truth. Its just that males are so fragile when it comes to their little peepeesticks that they lose all reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:11 AM
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You are so right! I always thought "Hah, I am fighting back so nobody would try me!" Wrong. It was his pleasure to break me. I could physically fight him off, but it only made him think about other ways to hurt me. And to me I was never "the abused one" because I "hurt" him back. I only realized way after the breakup that he was indeed abusing me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:29 PM
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I think its a personal experience. Everytime I met a guy with female friends he needed female attention. Also I knew some guys who didnt want to be held accountable for their sexism because they "have female friends they really value as people". Basically all Ive seen were males who may had real friendships with women but still did horrible things to women they didnt "value as people".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 08:52 PM
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"You cant be loved, thats why you should be happy to have me, since I am the only one who could possibly love you!" Abused me physically and mentally. Cheated on me. "Do you really think anyone is going to spend more money on someone like you? Dont be ridiculous!" He bought groceries sometimes that he ate. Mostly things I didnt like and he knew it. He also brought me a necklace once. It was cheap. Sometimes I would just love to show him where I am now. He is still single (thank god) and lives in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:50 PM
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Having female friends is a red flag for me. Rather he has HVM as friends. I noticed that my husband doesnt keep contact if the friend is talking bad about women or objectifies women openly. His friends are respectful and have wonderful wives who seem to be really happy. Also if he has a sex drive and gets randomly hard just by looking at you wearing something sexy (talking about underwear and that stuff) he probably isnt a consumer of porn all the time. They need more than just nice underwear to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:22 PM
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I am crying, this is amazing!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 11:33 AM
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I am a sociopath apparently. When I lose my feelings for someone, I lose them completely. It's like this person existed in some distant time. I don't care at all and that's for sure! I had a hard time to get over the abuse my ex put me through, but it was because he physically and mentally tried to destroy me. Not even once did I think about the person itself in an emotional way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 11:27 AM
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All I get are rape and death threats. Thats why I always Report and Block when I see males commenting. Last time I had to delete my side acc because someone thought it was ok to tell me what he would do to my Baby once its born. How fucking sick does a person have to be?! I only mentioned that I am not going to Play mother for my Partner ever and that women should stop treating grown up males like toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:38 AM
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Going bald? There are nice wigs or hair pieces for males. Short dick? Use toys (most won't because THAT BASICALLY ANOTHER BETTER PENIS) Being short? Literally most don't care if you're a great guy (most shorties are angry "nice guys" tho). They can literally change EVERYTHING with little effort. But they don't want to. They rather get angry and compensate with vile things they say online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 03:33 PM
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Well my husband doesn't particularily like going down on me. I don't do BJs at all, so it's okay for me if he isn't that much into giving oral either. We have a great sex life nontheless. He isn't shy to use toys and my pleasure is more important to him than his orgasm. You never should be forced to do something you don't really enjoy!! That's the most important thing. If someone thinks that not giving BJs is a dealbreaker, that's okay. It's their preference and you don't fit then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 02:35 PM
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When I got fat and stopped shaving my legs, I was actually prepared to have my husband lose interest. He didnt care. Our sex life was still awesome and when I asked why he didnt comment on how my looks changed he simply said "As if hair and fat could keep me from adoring you?! Also its your right to stop shaving your legs. Its not my Body!" And I wasnt even working at that time. This is how HVM react. If he really cares about you he wouldnt even let you overwork yourself to the point of self-neg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:01 PM
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Why would you mention this sub to him? Basically you shot yourself in the leg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:12 PM
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Since the y Chromosome is most likely a broken x Chromosome, males will always be broken and deep inside they know it. They cant be as stable as women. They are literally flawed from birth on. Thats why they hate us so much. Thats why they are the weaker sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:00 PM
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" i hope you girls/women find a bit of love in your hearts one day. " I have SO MUCH LOVE in my heart. For my husband, my family, my child, my pets and all my beloved sisters, who are mistreated, raped and killed every single day by males who think they are allowed to do everything on this world. GTFOH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:57 AM
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Basically you can work for the government, judging if people who are on Benefits because of mental health issues really have those issues (they get extra money). You can work in a health insurance or for court issues. In my country going to uni is basically free, so everything that does cost money costs alot. There are quiet some jobs for forensic psychologists but the Master costs 18k€, so alot of people just go for clinical psychology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:50 AM
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Huh? No they dont. They just think that psychology=therapy and a therapist HAS to be empathic with them what I am not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:41 AM
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Just got another birthday present from my husband. So far its the 6th one and my birthday is in a week.. HVM love to spoil the woman they value!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:59 PM
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Dermacol and everything that is strong enough to cover tattoos is only good for either covering something on your Body or for people with heavy purple or dark scarring like burn victims. You can use it for theater or special kinds of photoshoots but normally it would look odd on normal peoples face. Personally I love to mix it with lightweight foundations for photoshoots. But be careful there are quiet a lot fakes going around. I bought mine from Amazon and checked it before using it. Google has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 10:18 PM
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They do this every time. I am starting my master in forensic psychology and dudes will tell me that I will be a bad therapist. Because they dont get the difference between literally judging someones mental health and helping someones mental health. They will literally start a fight over me telling them that I only learned about the bare minimum of clinical psychology, since "its psychology, you learn to do therapy, duh". I am done with fighting with idiots. I will laugh in their face and block t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:26 PM
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He looks like he's disgusted in his pic... did he look in the mirror or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:09 PM
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Personally I love the Lancome Advanced Genifique antiaging eyecream, but its expensive. The less expensive option would be probably Kiehls if you have it in your country. Dont worry I absolutely LOVE to help because makeup and skincare is something I am actually good with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:25 AM
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I really love the Urban Decay Stay Naked Concealer. My undereye area is dark and can get pretty dry and so far it's been the best one I've tried. I like the old formula Shape Tape by tarte, but since it has a new formula it's creasing like hell. And if you want really heavy covera, Nars got you, their Radian Creamy concealer does cover up everything but very smoothly. I think it really depends on HOW full your coverage has to be. If you have REALLY dark eye circles, you will want to go with Nars…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:14 PM
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If something is madly wrong, we obviously get gut feelings. That's natural and there is actual scientific proof that it works really well. But like I said, sometimes things they do that we disapprove of don't make us have the gut feeling, because to them it's "normal" and nothing to be guilty about. It's definitely a thing about YOUR boundaries. I would be pissed about my husband talking to other women, like old friends from school or anything, while others don't care about it. Most males don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:15 PM
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I absolutely love this! I actually have a plan how I would get out of a relationship if I found out my partner is cheating. And it would look really similiar to what you said. Milk him for money and presents, then ghost him when you're ready to leave. I always tell my girl friends that shouting, hurting him or his belongings are going to hurt them more than him. Males who cheat are seen as normal, but women who are justifiedly angry about it are stamped as mentally ill and all that! Take your di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:23 PM
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My husband games, but strictly declines to be called a gamer. Also no game is important enough for him to ignore my wishes and needs. He takes care of everything he has to and I am not opposed to him playing for some hours/week. I got to know ALOT of "gamer guys" through playing now and then and they tend to be children in an adult males body. Most live at home, have a shitty low paying job (if at all) and no plan what they want from life except for a "hot gamer girlfriend with big tiddies". No …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:38 PM
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He probably wanted to play the "But you fucked all of those and now you're trying to play innocent with ME?" card. He was all ways of messed up, but after going through a harsh breakup, I didn't know better and kind of gave him a chance. But literally asking my fb friends about my sexlife? What? Some of my friends still laugh about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:25 PM
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I dated a guy who I knew from the past and he literally asked my FB-friends if I have been sleeping around before I reconnected with him. We were like on 2 dates and I told him that I wouldn't sleep with him for quiet some time and he still thought it was a good idea to write people he found commenting on my FB. So yeah, I totally get that. They don't hesistate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:15 PM
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I noticed that. If males are actively using social media, they are screwed in their heads in one way or another!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:09 PM
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This exactly! I don't want to waste my precious time. That's what's most important to me. If he's doing something bad behind my back, I am probably going to be blamed either way. (Wives of pedophiles are blamed quiet often for not noticing their husbands weird behaviour for example) So I just focus on my own wellbeing instead of "doing the right thing" in the eye of the society we live in. Also, it's not snooping if you ask for his phone and "accidently" find something that upsets you. He consen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:27 AM
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If he tried to shame me for looking I would simply never talk to him again. After being with a pornaddict who was abusive and sexually violent, I am not taking any chances anymore. I wouldn't be totally upfront about looking through his phone, but mostly guys who do something bad will never let you use their phone at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:19 AM
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That's basically what I learned. Don't tell him what you're doing exactly. But don't let it be a secret that you had his phone. If he won't even let you look through his instagram feed or google something on his phone, it's pretty clear he's hiding something (and needs time to get rid of the proof). That would be a dealbreaker for me and I would break up right away. Because no matter what he's hiding, it's something he deems important enough for me not to see. Making drama will only make you uns…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:15 AM
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Don't let the "yet" turn into anything else. Either ask the police or your friends to accompany you to pick up your cat and the most important things (passport, financial papers, laptop maybe, everything you can't just buy). He got violent when he swung open the door on you. He can't control his anger, which is a huge red flag!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 09:52 AM
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To be honest, that's what I did, too, when I got out of an abusive relationship. Now that I finally know what males are able to be like, it's different. I would never praise a male that he doesn't rape me, when he feels like it. Traumatizing sexual encounters are normalized nowadays. Alot of women don't know what a quality male is, because all they see and hear are turds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 09:43 AM
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I am a trained and certified MUA and this is my rate for clients for a glam makeup. Obviously you have to take into account that I am spending 1.5h on it, using expensive brushes and materials (my go-to eyeshadow palettes are Natasha Denona and Pat McGrath...100€/palette AT LEAST, la prairie foundation which is 180€/bottle, etc) so 120€ is kind of everything I put into it. If it wasn't important I would probably go with a 50€ makeup, with Anastasia Beverly Hills eyeshadows (~50€/palette) and YSL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 09:12 AM
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Do it if youre in a safe enviroment. I told my ex that he wasnt satisfying and he got violent. Apparently a lot males think their penis is holy or something. I told my husband what I disliked about the sex we had and he immediately changed. So better be honest but only if youre safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 01:55 AM
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When I really want to look nice, my makeup alone costs around 120€ for one evening. That's what my dinner should AT LEAST cost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 01:45 AM
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Block him. He is harassing us for days now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:34 AM
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Yeah definitely alot of women will cry themselves to sleep because those bad boys dont want them. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:31 PM
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Sounds like illegal activities to be honest. I knew guys who started dealing drugs and ended up selling guns at 17/18 (guns are illegal in my country).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:16 PM
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What else was there to expect. I see women who aren't into losers shamed every single day for having standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:18 PM
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Can say the same about supporting the interests. It's actually SO important! My ex thought that makeup was useless and that spending money on it is just a waste, eventhough I loved the creative aspect of makeup and he wanted a perfect-looking me that just isn't possible without makeup. My husband literally knows what he can buy me, because he listens to what I tell him. He can give constructive criticism (and not feel "gay" about it like some other dudes) about a look I try out and he can even g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:04 PM
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I would be ESPECIALLY cautious if someone has alot of money at 18. That means that they are either spoiled or doing some illegal stuff. 18 year olds who actually got money from working hard and taking care of their finances in any way are rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:43 PM
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Knew a guy who was all that. He made fake accounts to message me after I told him that I am not interested and in a relationship. He even sent me a video of him crying.. so sad, since he really seemed like a good person..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:40 PM
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I absolutely love this! So what if things don't work out? I'd rather be happy and well off than proud and fearing that something bad happens every minute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:49 PM
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It was hard enough to finde one husband who isn't a failure, how the fuck should I find another one like that?! Also what kind of women give those little pieces of shit the time of their day and even let them have another wife/gf on the side? Leave him ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 09:36 PM
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I'm so sorry for her. But in the end she made the decision. I would never let a child put me in a situation where I stay with a male who is obviously a total POS! I bet he is still cheating on her.. I just hope that someday she will see how fucked he is and leave him for good and have a happier life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 12:45 PM
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When I got pregnant I didnt have sex with my husband for the first 3 months. He was just as scared as me to do anything to harm our child and didnt even care about sex because the whole situation was so exciting and also scary for us. When my obgyn told me that my child is alright and I dont have to be worried, we started having sex again and he was still very careful. If my husband reacted any other way I wouldve left him right away. This isnt my child, this is our child. And this is my body I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 03:36 AM
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Some of these lazy ass males would rather starve than make themselves something to eat. So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:14 AM
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They hide it well, especially in the first year. I think you really get to know someone only when you actually move in with him. The way he handles finances, how his daily routine is, what he does, when he's sick and all of that. My ex was a decent guy for 6 months, as soon as we moved in together, he changed completely. That's what alot of women go through and marriage just makes them feel trapped. If I had to remarry, I would only do so after the male passed my checklist. And that takes defini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 10:10 PM
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When my partner is in a shitty mood, he better stays away from me and handles it himself. I am not the one who is responsible for his mood. Also when I'm in a bad mood, I'd rather be left alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:44 PM
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While I basically agree, proposing early into the relationship is used by abusers to make women less prone to fight back. I've been there and it really held me back from leaving, because marriage was the goal for me since ever. My husband was 18 when we started dating (I am 2.5 years older), so he proposed only 3 years in (living together for 2 years). He wanted to be financially secure and able to take care of me completely, before marrying. We have a great marriage and relationship for 7 years…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:30 PM
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I left my abuser after he cheated on me and got mad at ME for being back home earlier. He physically fought me and nearly broke my back. I had trust issues for a long time because of this disgusting piece of shit. Nexted ALOT of males. My husband is a whole blessing. When I met him, I didn't even think men like him exist. My standards were high, since the abusive relationship I had before made me realize that I am worth so much more and ending up alone isn't that bad after all. Raising my expect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 01:08 PM
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"Oh you think I'm cute? Well, I'm not sure if I can date someone blind. Since I am gorgeous and not only cute. Bye!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:55 PM
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It's not about "one-upping" it's about something I have control of, something they can't change or forbid. Whenever I tried to ignore the existence of toxic males, it backfired. They exist and we HAVE to acknowledge it. Letting all of this happen without saying a word about it is just not doing it at this point. I don't interact with degenerate males anymore, they will never understand. But I won't let the frustration eat me away. This is why I love this subreddit among other female only spaces.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 11:47 AM
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I use "male" and "women". Because of exactly that reason. Mostly males dont have humanity in them, so why would I see and call them anything human?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 10:42 AM
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My husband jumped right into the train for 1.5h to ride 8h on the bus just to see me for a weekend every week. And then there was a friend whose bf couldn't be arsed to go 45mins with the train to see her sometimes. Guess who's married now and who is still "dating".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 05:37 PM
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I am so sorry you had to go through this. My ex was similiar. Just that I am pretty strong myself so I could deal some damage back to him. Guess whose mother came to me crying about her sons wounds after he literally tried to kill me? I am just happy to have a partner in my life now who doesnt even think about being violent towards me. It scares me to hear that more and more women go through this violent behavior..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 03:32 AM
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Oh no, I will cry myself to sleep that I just cant get over my insecurity and date winners like this guy! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:40 AM
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If he fucked more than me, I am not fucking him. And I am not a woman who had alot of different sexual Partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 09:15 PM
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Why dies he care so much...i thought he "goes his own way"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 05:37 PM
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I always ask "Is my happiness worth less than his? Are my boundaries worth less than his?" Because no matter what they say, its exactly that. I cringe everytime when i see those "I am ok with my bf watching porn" women. Just stop it. If you act like youre cool about it you dont do yourself and everyone else a favor. These pornsick males will still come for you, so just cut the crap and make them feel worthless for watching porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:36 AM
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Especially disgusting to me is that they try to put the fingers they had in you just seconds away into your mouth. Boy no. When an ex tried this I stopped right away and told him to Talk to me when he stops with that porn bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 09:40 AM
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Lowest scum, literally. Males who want anal so badly need to get it in the ass beforehand. So they know what its like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 10:42 PM
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I totally agree! Also knowing what you want and not putting up with less is everything but insecure. Listening to weak ass pornsick individuals and not protect yourself from possible hurt is insecure in my opinion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 06:05 PM
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One guy told me that he was scared to call me beautiful because then i would Think "too highly of myself". Needless to say that I blocked bis ass everywhere. I think highly of myself and always will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 03:51 PM
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One guy told me that he was scared to call me beautiful because then i would Think "too highly of myself". Needless to say that I blocked bis ass everywhere. I think highly of myself and always will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 03:51 PM
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One guy told me that he was scared to call me beautiful because then i would Think "too highly of myself". Needless to say that I blocked bis ass everywhere. I think highly of myself and always will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 03:51 PM
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I second this. Everytime someone called me "cute" they couldnt handle rejection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 01:25 PM
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I dont snoop. I ask them to let me see stuff and if they decline Im out. Husband shared his Passwords and everything within the first month with me and I can freely use his phone and Computer. Everytime something I wouldnt like happened (he messed something up, ex tried to contact him) he would tell and show me right away. He never hides things so he doesnt care about "privacy". Going with "either you show me or I will leave" did bring me a very good Partner, so these shady males can call me ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 12:07 PM
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They literally make you look crazy because they know that they are weak. They dont want to be seen as what they actually are so they try to make it look like its normal and nothing is wrong with them. Damn disgusting people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 10:57 AM
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My husband is the same. He told me that before he met me he watched porn rarely since he doesnt put that much value into his orgasms. I love how males always say that this cant be real and everyone with a Penis needs porn etc. We rather have a healthy sex life, so maybe everyone who NEEDS porn is just totally sick in the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 02:32 AM
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Yeah Porn enables sick behavior in males. Sad that they have those sick minds either way and just bury them deep down if they arent enabled. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 09:35 PM
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If I as a woman say that my Partner is forever faithful, males will literally tell me that all men cheat. When I say that all men cheat, they will cry about me being a sexist. Literally happened quiet alot of times. It doesnt matter what I say, they will disagree because I am a woman. Just something kind of related that I experienced so far. Pretty ironic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 07:19 PM
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I was once told that a relationship has no boundaries, I am the one who has them and my Partner shouldnt be forced to them. Yet, when a male talks about the same thing, its all about boundaries and how women should accept them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 04:08 AM
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I would never cheat physically. I am not enough into having sex with strangers and masturbation exists, if I have needs that cant be taken care of. Emotional cheating is something I have been through already, because I wasnt ready to leave a comfortable Situation. Basically my ex bought me everything, but didnt give me enough attention nor the feeling of being loved. I simply had nowhere to go, starting off with absolutely nothing was just too hard. I would leave my Partner for having a differen…
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